Liu Xiyao saw Bai Xue crying into tears, and didn't ask anything, so she hurriedly stepped forward to give her a shoulder to rely on.

If you can cry like this, what happened is self-evident.

Bai Xue was already in tears after she turned around, she was not as ruthless as Han Yi thought, Han Yi's heartbroken eyes, she would also be distressed, but what could she do? If things are not resolved, their relationship problems will always be there, and she pins her hopes on time, hoping that time will give them an answer.

She may blame Han Yi more because he underestimated her. She has her own pursuits, and she never needs what kind of shelter Han Yi provides her. From childhood to adulthood, she struggled to survive by herself.

She never needed Han Yi to become such a successful and rich person, if she had a choice, she was now extremely sure that she wanted to go back to the day when she first started with Han Yi. She went to Han Yi's school, Han Yi confessed to her, she accepted, and then she didn't persuade him to come to Chongqing with Keiko, she didn't encourage Han Yi to start a business with Keiko. Maybe in this way, there will be no such thing as Hao Yali. Han Yi continued to write or go to work in the company, she worked in the hospital, continued her dreams, and lived a plain and happy life with affection and love.

But no one can say for sure, is it back to that point in time, and it will really be the kind of ending she wants?

As Keiko once said, love is two souls, one body. It is to have independent souls with each other, and work together towards a common goal.

There are some things that you think you understand, but in fact, after you actually go through them, you find that you don't understand. Han Yi's love for her, she could feel it, but he ignored her independent soul.

One of Bai Xue's female tutors once said when chatting with their classmates: A woman is actually more difficult than a man on the road of struggle. It is easy to get hurt in the struggle, not to mention, and often not to be understood. A large part of people's suffering comes from a lack of understanding of their own situation, limited ability, and unquenchable desires and ambitions.

She asked the group of students a question at the time: Should a girl live so hard?

She has always said that desire is not a bad word, especially for young people who have the capital to try and make mistakes and pursue dreams, it is an excellent blood and motivation. But those who have desires are destined to suffer, because with gorgeous dreams, there is a barren reality. When desire stirs up your supposedly calm heart, it is difficult for you to lower your head and honestly accept that life is not improving at the moment, or even for a long time.

Someone asked her, "Should I go surfing in a big city, or stay in a small city to see the sea?" ”

Her answer was:

There is no standard answer to this question, it depends on what kind of person you are. The scary thing about entering a big city is not the high consumption, the tense pace and complex connections, but also the fact that after your horizons are broadened and broadened, it is difficult to suppress the ever-expanding desires and ambitions. And after you opened the WeChat circle of friends, everyone was working hard and couldn't stop the mental pressure. All this, for you

, not necessarily all of them are positive energy that can be digested. Moreover, many people who live a bright life and have a thriving career really do not necessarily have the time, health, and mood to enjoy the life they have worked hard for. Watching the relaxation while walking is more of a fantasy to some extent.

What's more, when a small car that came out to see the scenery was driven onto a highway, the pain of not being able to stop was very torturous. Its brakes aren't broken, but it just can't give itself a reason to stop. This struggle hurts a lot and isn't for everyone.

In addition, the happy ending of any road requires a lot of patience and perseverance, which seems to be known to everyone on earth, but unfortunately most people still underestimate the power of the quantifier "many, many". It's not uncommon to lose patience a second before you get something, because it's too difficult, and because there's no magical "promised day."

Many of the dozens or hundreds of private messages I receive every day ask: If I start running, will I lose weight? If I work hard, will I be able to succeed in the graduate school entrance examination? At this point, I want to ask, do you think I am God? If I were God, I wouldn't have worked so hard.

Everyone knows that it takes 10,000 hours of dedication to do one thing and have a skill, but how many people break down when they are less than 1,000 hours, telling themselves that this path is not for me, I am unlucky, and I change directions.

In this way, there are people all over the world who have never met talents, staring at the success of others, thinking over and over again, you are not lucky, you are not relying on others.......... but even this cannot change Loser's fate.

Don't always fantasize that other people's success is easy, it will make your path more difficult, because the more you fantasize, you will feel that the world is full of success, and everyone else relies on luck. Then whenever you encounter difficulties and pressures, you will be very vulnerable and vulnerable, because you don't have any understanding at all, that is: it is not easy to do anything. No one is easy. It's the truth.

I believe that if you imagine the pain of the needle to the maximum before the injection, then the actual injection will not be so painful; But if you naively and childishly hold that the injection doesn't hurt much, then you're finished, and the unprepared blow will be more than you can bear.

So sometimes, it's better to be a pessimistic optimist, tune yourself into "fool mode" and stupidly execute 10,000 hours in the field where you want to be successful, only to have a bad end and then collapse in time.

"Why do you have to live so hard?" She was asking the students, as if asking herself, and she said:

A girl, of course, has a gender dividend. According to traditional and universal Chinese values, women don't have to work, and they don't have to live so tired.

But in my dictionary, there is no such thing as "it is better to marry well than to do well". Because I'm greedy, I want to marry well and do well. "Marry well" is my desire for a happy married life and a person who loves each other to enjoy life together; "Dry

"Good work" is what I need to work and struggle to realize my personal value and win a small sense of achievement.

The sweetness of love is no substitute for the fulfillment of work. My partner's dependence and appreciation for me is just as important to me as my friends and partners. Even the latter is more important. Because the former is a hormone, maybe it's a bit exaggerated, while the latter is a real affirmation, which makes me feel like I have a glow.

It's a lot more seductive than if I wore a big brand or the most expensive cream.

I have learned my own incompetence, shortcomings and fragility in my work, and it immediately reflects my shallowness, poverty and rudeness; Work is like a mirror, letting me know where I have spots and where I have fat; Again and again, it tramples on my self-righteous self-esteem and deconstructs the old world that I deeply believe.

I use the name of work to meet different people, and in the tricks with them, I win the bonus points of resonance and the touch of friendship, of course, more often I will be thrown off the mud on my face, or I feel heartache from the bottom of my heart for the undignified tumor in human nature.

But it's all reality, it's not nice to say, it's exactly the life you want to experience, the life you want to "enjoy" every day. Whoever tells you that something that can be "enjoyed" must be a good thing that is gentle and delicate.

If you can't deal with the ugliness of life, you can't stand the beauty of life.

I admit that sometimes work makes me ugly, unelegant, unable to speak softly and calmly maintain a beautiful posture, and I also become overthinking, unable to sleep at night, nervous and anxious, full of long bags, and even bursting with negative energy, hurting the people closest to me.

But I still have to work without hesitation, and no matter how difficult it is, I can't stop pursuing, because no one knows better than myself: after losing again and again, it is a stronger me who stands up again.

To be honest, I crave this kind of power, this kind of power that can get through without relying on anyone, this kind of power that is more calm and stable in the face of things, and with this kind of power, if I encounter the same heavyweight difficulties before, I will no longer be depressed and anxious, and my head will be full of baggage, because I have gained immunity, and only greater difficulties can overwhelm me again.

Work and pursuit, the meaning of each person is different, when it is just a channel for exchanging materials, then once the material is satisfied, it is no longer needed; But when it is a way of life, you have to beg for it, for it to give you the opportunity to see the world, to bring the warmth and coldness of people, to feel new things, and even to feel hardships and hardships, then the work has to become extremely important to you.

I have always thought that for women, there are two hurdles in life, which are easy for your vitality and pursuit to overcome: one is to get married, and the other is to have children. Because these two things can give us too many legitimate or helpless reasons to focus on other things than "self-fulfillment".

Fighting spirit is sometimes forced to dissolve in the triviality and hopelessness of life, and sometimes it also disappears invisibly under the sugar-coated and gentle life, why emphasize fighting spirit? Because it is a product that does not give up

Extreme spiritual energy, it brings you a fulfilling life, the courage to overcome setbacks, and the ambition to win somewhere in the world on your own. This is an opportunity for a woman to truly achieve "eternal youth".

It's not that women who work have the fighting spirit, and women who are full-time wives don't have the fighting spirit. Fighting spirit is a person's constant pursuit of a more perfect self, and lifestyle does not measure whether there is fighting spirit. After all, there are walking corpses who work from 9 to 5 every day, and spiritual walkers who stay at home every day.

However, work and career must be an important form of spiritual struggle, and its reality and triviality make you say goodbye to cranky, pretentious, and imaginative.

So, when someone said to me, "You are a woman, you are still struggling so hard, do you need to rely on you to support your family?" When he said this, a Mariana trench was immediately drawn between me and him.

My pleasure and pride, you don't understand.

The words of this female mentor had a great impact on Bai Xue, and strengthened her belief all along, if Han Yi could understand this, then there might be a lot more common topics between them.

(End of chapter)