Chapter 315: Tolerance is the only way to have happiness from the heart
"The young master is back!" Uncle Li saw Keiko driving into the yard from afar, so he quickly shot Qiu Minsheng to report.
Because Qiu Lang couldn't accept that fact, he was excited, he was furious, and he looked at him with extremely resentful eyes, and went away angrily. Qiu Minsheng had already guessed that this would be the result, but as a father who had worked hard for more than 30 years and had never remarried, he loved him, and he was even more uncomfortable at this time than when he heard the news that his life was not long.
"After all, you can't hide it, what should come will always come! Actually, after saying it to Lang'er, it is true that my heart is much more relaxed! Qiu Minsheng looked so relieved and indifferent, but in his heart, it was actually the eve of the thunderstorm, and the wind was surging.
Qiu Lang returned home with Keiko, and even when he was young and ignorant, he never felt so strange at home.
"Come with me to report to my father that he is safe, he was worried all day yesterday and cried secretly······" Keiko smiled slightly.
But before the words fell, Qiu Lang said: "I······ Go take a shower and rest for a while! ”
Keiko looked at his back as he turned away, and there was a trace of indignation in her heart! It's a good point, but why is it like this as soon as you get home?
Knowing that he couldn't see it, she still held her mouth and glared fiercely, eager to slap him on the back of the head and wake him up!
Yi Yang really didn't break his promise, and just after two o'clock in the afternoon, he came to Han Yi's office with Deng Baoyuan. His efficiency in doing this work also amazed Han Yi.
"Happy working together!"
Han Yi took the initiative to shake hands with Deng Baoyuan and make peace, this was the first time he walked into the Yihui Building, and his attitude had obviously changed.
"Happy working together!" Deng Baoyuan smiled a little embarrassedly.
Yi Yang is very happy, this can be regarded as not knowing each other. The two of them weren't very friendly to Han Yi before, but when Yi Yang really tried to get to know Han Yi, he really thought he was pretty good.
Although Deng Baoyuan didn't know him, and he didn't plan to understand him, he didn't want to have multiple "enemies". Yi Yang and Qiu Lang both attach so much importance to Han Yi and become shareholders of Yihui, they can not only make money, but also maintain this relationship, he is naturally happy.
"You're leaving tonight, aren't you?" Yi Yang asked, "If the money arrives before six o'clock this afternoon, no problem, right?" ”
Needless to say? What Han Yi said was that within three days, he only worked hard for half a day to get this large amount of money, which is really extraordinary!
After the matters related to the contract were settled, Han Yi said to Xia Bo: "Have you packed up all the things?" You can go to Shanghai now. ”
"Aren't you going?" Xia Bo expressed doubts, obviously he booked the ticket, and the two of them flew to Shanghai together in the evening.
Because of a text message from Han Yi's mother, Han Yi suddenly had an idea to go to have a homely meal with his family, an extremely strong desire.
"I changed my booking, I will go to Changsha first, and then fly to Shanghai tomorrow night."
Xia Bo thought to himself, he didn't even have a place to live over there, Lang Zhong was shy, so he couldn't stay in a hotel, right?
But I don't dare
said, and didn't dare to ask, so he could only say, "Well, okay!" ”
Now Han Yi is quite confused, not because of his career, because he still has a very long vision in his career and has his own plan, but because of love, which makes him more confused than his setbacks in his career.
Han Yi seems to feel that his youth is gone, and he has never mentioned these two words again since graduation, talking about youth is very dangerous, it is easy to flow into chicken soup for the soul, all he can talk about is some of my life in college. In fact, there is also a dangerous situation, talking about youth will cause misunderstanding, generally people who have passed away will talk about youth, but he has not, the youth in his heart has not passed away.
What he thinks of as youth does not mean being young, but having a good state. Now a lot of older entrepreneurs go to climb mountains and do some of the things that young people do, and they are very young. For another example, Haruki Murakami's books have a lot of delicate emotional descriptions, which shows that he has a sensitive heart.
Not only that, he has a dog and listens to music, which shows that his current state is too different from his college days, and in terms of mentality, he may be more like youth now.
It's easy to get lost in youth, but confusion is the beginning of self-awareness.
When Han Yi was in middle school, he basically didn't have too many ideas, and the real confusion was after he went to college, when he began to find his true own pleasure - writing. But the way to find fun is full of doubts and difficulties.
After having a career, there will be confusion, and after having love, there will also be confusion, and you always need to find a way out. He also wants to be a fun person with a lot of happy and happy people.
When he walked out of the company, Han Yi sent Ammy a WeChat apology, but a red exclamation mark suddenly appeared on the phone screen, and he was deleted as a friend.
So I called her, thinking that she would definitely not answer, but to her surprise, she answered in seconds.
"If you have anything to say, hurry up, I don't have time to talk to you!"
That being said, why can you still answer the phone in seconds?
Han Yi felt that Ammy was not so cautious, he was really bad, and he turned his sadness into anger and vented it on others, and Ammy became the victim.
"Where? I'm going to leave later, so let me treat you to afternoon tea. ”
Ammy angrily asked, "Do you know you well?" Why should I reward you with a face? ”
Looks like I'm really angry! Han Yi said in a low voice: "Don't do this! Things ······ morning."
"What's going on in the morning!? Forget, hang up if it's okay, goodbye! ”
"Don't Don't ······" Han Yi was anxious, "I'm sorry, add me back to WeChat!" Would you like to invite you to dinner? ”
"It's not in Chongqing, and there's no shortage of your meal, find someone else!" Ammy was in a better mood after hearing Han Yi's "I'm sorry", but she was still angry, "It's useless to apologize!" It's not that easy to add back! ”
Han Yi thought that she was making an excuse to lie to herself, her posture was still very low, and she asked calmly, "That······ Drop off your car
What about the document bag? Can you please give it back to me? ”
He also found a reason to meet her with the contract that she was still in her car and apologize in person.
"It's gone!"
Ammy was panting when there was the cacophony of car horns on the other end of the line.
Han Yi was not in a hurry or impatient, and said with a smile: "How can it be gone?" I'm useful, give it to me quickly. ”
He thought that he would have to be busy for a while on this trip to Shanghai, so he apologized to Ammy before leaving and asked for her forgiveness, after all, she was a very good girl and his savior, and if there was a mistake, he had to admit it.
"Torn!" Ammy exclaimed, "I'm waiting for the bus on the road, I'm not telling you, goodbye!" ”
After speaking, she hung up the phone, and Han Yi could only leave a small regret.
Talking to Ammy is that there is no trouble, it is very relaxed, there is no need to think about it a lot, and after she said goodbye, Han Yi also smiled faintly.
Whenever something goes wrong, Han Yi likes to be alone, he won't tell his parents, he won't tell Bai Xue, and he doesn't want to infect them with troubles.
How long has it been since you've smiled from the bottom of your heart? You're driving down the road, frowning at the thought of the project that hasn't been talked about yet; You're sitting in your office, preoccupied with the results you're going to accomplish this month; You are crowded in the subway, thinking that your child's English is not good and you have to make up for it, and sigh for a long time; You are running on the road, thinking of the rising housing prices and trapped stocks, and your face is full of gloom; You're always worried, you can't laugh, you feel a lot of pressure, you can't laugh, you feel like this is the time of personal anxiety.
Successful feel that they should be more successful; The rich feel that wealth is still not enough; Ordinary people are worried about housing prices and soaring prices; The anxiety of going to work has not been raised, but the body is getting fatter and fatter······
It seems that everyone will have troubles, there will be times when they complain, and everyone is crying tired.
"What the hell do I want?" He asked himself more than once.
Does he always feel that he has too little, or does he always feel that he will be happy if he succeeds, or will he smile when he is rich?
So, he desperately sought more. If he asks for it, he laughs, but if he can't ask for it, he will be distressed, and he has always felt that he is an ordinary person.
But has he forgotten the essence of life? Forget what your original intention was?
Life didn't need so much, did he give it too many external conditions?
Originally: Dressing is to keep warm and cover the body, not to be popular; Eating is for hunger, not for a luxurious meal; Housing is meant to shelter from the wind and rain, not to enjoy comparison; The car is meant to be convenient, not to show off its coolness.
Song Dandan once said in an interview: We originally only wanted a hug, but accidentally got a kiss, and then you found out that you need a bed, a suite, and a certificate. Then there's the constant demand. Finally, I remembered that you only wanted a hug.
Yes, a lot of the annoyance is "asking" too much.
The Buddha said: There are eight sufferings in life: birth, old age, sickness, death, and love
Leave, resentment for a long time, can't beg, can't let go.
Since life is "inherently bitter", and people pursue happiness from suffering all their lives, how can they be happy?
Dale Carnegie said, "What makes you happy or unhappy is not what you have, who you are, where you are, or what you are doing, but what you think about it." ”
So, happiness is a state of mind. Life is like a mirror: if you cry at it, it will cry at you; You smile at it, and it smiles at you.
When you're depressed, it's because you're living in the past. You feel worried and anxious because you live in the future.
But when you are content, happy and peaceful, you are living in the moment. Don't think about the past, don't be afraid of the future, just live today.
Eliminate the troubled mentality, don't worry about the sky, cherish the current good life, and every day should be meaningful.
At the age of 100, Mr. Yang Jiang said: We were so eager for the waves of fate, and in the end we found that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually the calmness and calmness of the heart; We have been so anxious for recognition from the outside world, only to realize in the end that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others.
The Buddha said: Life is created by oneself, the phase is born from the heart, everything in the world is the phase, the heart does not move, everything does not move, the heart does not change, everything does not change.
Happiness is a day, and unhappiness is also a day, so why not be happy every day?
He also hopes to have a smile from the heart every day, and to be truly rich is to have a happy state of mind, a smile on his face, and a satisfaction in his heart.
When he was about to arrive at the airport, Han Yi called his sister and asked her to go to her sister in Changsha as well, just as the family was reunited for a meal. You know, the last time we reunited, it was almost half a year ago.
It's not a good thing for him to think about it. It is to visit your parents, and it can also be seen as "taking refuge".
He suddenly thought of the heavy snow in the first year of his arrival in Chongqing, the ginkgo biloba was still yellow, the leaves were still green, and his eyes were warm. At that time, he was still very busy, almost a whole week after not seeing each other, and one weekend afternoon Bai Xue asked him to go to school to eat with her.
When Han Yi sat in the car with a large snowflake, the driver waiting downstairs was talking to someone else (insert a sentence, the start and development of Yihui is described as fast, it is not an exaggeration at all, it took half a year to move from a studio of more than 100 square meters to an office building of 5 or 600 square meters, and then to the entire Yihui building. So there were already drivers at that time, which was normal. It was unpleasant to listen to the tone, which made his tone stiff and angry.
Han Yi sat in the back seat and waited for him to hang up the phone, then asked him to open the rear window first, and then excitedly raised his phone to take pictures of the snow-covered streets.
When he turned around and asked the master to close the window, he found that he was looking at him from the central rearview mirror, Han Yi smiled: "Early in the morning, the WeChat circle of friends swiped all kinds of snow scenes, and I also sent a photo to my parents at home. "He was very accommodating with the people who followed him.
And then, he
Seeing that the driver also smiled, he started the car and slowly drove towards his destination. The driver on the road somehow chatted with Han Yi about the imperial capital and the Forbidden City in the snow, probably because he had been in Beijing for many years, and his narration made Han Yi grow a lot of knowledge.
The driver's tone had become calm and pleasant, just like the two of them just now.
The snowy furnace city, this mountain city, is exceptionally beautiful, even if the mood is extremely bad, the beautiful scenery and happy people can also be transmitted, so that every heart can relieve the pressure of life, and have tolerance and warmth.
What kind of person you are, what kind of person will you meet, the anxious will meet the restless, the irritable will encounter the hot, the hypocritical will encounter the pretending garlic, the unreliable will be more unreliable, and the gentle will encounter more gentle.
After arriving at the school, he and Bai Xue walked along the snow-covered streets together, passing by the bubble tea shop, and the waiter was attracted by the words of the colleague next to him when Han Yi said that he needed to "go to half sugar", and the two of them chatted happily and forgot that they had to pay with the money. I don't know what she said, anyway, the girl at the cashier smiled happily, and finally when she returned her attention to them again, Han Yi said the request for milk tea again.
After leaving with milk tea, Bai Xue said: "My temper will also get better when I am with you, the absent-minded waiter just now, if it is Keiko, he will definitely get angry, and sometimes I am also easy to be impatient with her, and you just said it again calmly." ”
Han Yi said: "First, we are in a good mood and want to drink a cup of milk tea, and no one can destroy it." Second, the waiter smiled so happily that we were not in a hurry and there were no waiting customers behind us, so we just gave her time to be happy for a while. The most important thing is that you are a chronic person, and I can be like this to some extent because of your influence. ”
Han Yi smiled happily.
People often ask, "Why do you have good things in your eyes?" ”
Even if some people have walked into some of the most difficult moments of their lives, when they can't stand it anymore, hope is also the last beauty in his eyes, and tolerance is the strength he has to get out of the dark night.
People close to them must be tolerant, strangers don't need to care at all, sometimes tolerance is affectionate, sometimes tolerance is understanding, sometimes tolerance is relief, sometimes tolerance is disdain.
We are surrounded by all kinds of unhappy people, full of complaints and negative energy, not that they can't live but that they can't live well, you have to ask the reason, and make sure that it's all someone else's business, but you are very innocent, and the whole world owes you. The most devastating thing about negative energy is that you never know how to reflect on yourself, the reason why you are unhappy is because you live intolerantly, and the reason why you can't be gentle is that you have never had true love at all.
Benjamin Franklin once said, "If virtue is to be chosen, first pick out tolerance." ”
It's just that in today's materialistic society, virtue is being ignored and abandoned by more and more people, and even if tolerance is singled out, there are many people who don't understand it or don't use it at all. As a result, money, fame and fortune are swaggering everywhere, laughing at poverty and not prostitution. Selfishness, numbness twist with your hands,
Hate is more enjoyable than love. We don't have the right to interfere and blame for some things we don't understand, but we have to learn to respect, respect people who are different from us, and be considerate of others' suffering. And respect is a tolerant character, and tolerance is a noble character in front of strangers. Tolerance is definitely not blindly bearing the burden of humiliation, but the wisdom of life, compassion in the face of cruel reality, inspiring others and motivating myself, I am tolerant because I am grateful.
He was quite sad about breaking up with Bai Xue, but this also does not involve the issue of tolerance, if you think about it, he doesn't have this right at all, because he himself is the problem. But in the matter of Ammy, he felt that Ammy could answer his call, and he would definitely not bother with him, so he felt a lot more comfortable.
It's like to Yi Yang and Deng Baoyuan, they can ignore each other's previous suspicions, so that they can not respond to each other, and only then can they have a larger pattern.
Be tolerant and be happy with yourself.
In the vast sea of people, everyone has loneliness and hardship, joy and smiles, each has its own misfortune, and each has its own happiness.
Life is a necklace worn on trivial days, hanging in the window dazzling and moving, holding it in the hand is glamorous, wearing it on the neck to add style, how are they beautiful, only people who know how to appreciate, cherish those who have, and people who are good at changing will get the favor of fate. Don't say you can't do it without trying, human nature is good, it's not that life has changed you, but that you are willing to fall. The loss of feminine charm is because of their own boredom, as well as ideological laziness, loving others is troublesome and just wants to get something for nothing, loving oneself is hypocritical and conceited, as long as others tolerate it. You don't even have a tolerant heart, you live an unhappy face numb and ugly, and you don't understand that behind gentleness is the patience and hard work that you do your best, so you can have the power to infect others and make the world brighter.
Even if the world around us is complicated and difficult, we must protect the tolerance and gentleness in your heart, may you meet the beautiful self of the unknown, before you must be tolerant of others, may you be treated gently by the world, before you must be gentle with the world.
Life will never live up to those happy and beautiful lives, if you are tolerant and gentle, you don't have to calculate and fight, and you have your own destiny to reward.
(End of chapter)