(a)

Growing shiitake mushrooms at home, chopping firewood, powder sawdust, and strains in the early stage are all more tiring work, and it is relatively easy to pick when the shiitake mushrooms are ripe and picked. The work in the early stage is mainly done by the husband, after all, he is the main laborer. Picking shiitake mushrooms, cutting shiitake mushroom feet, kang shiitake mushrooms, mother-in-law did a little more, at this time she would complain loudly that the shiitake mushrooms were all made by her, and as soon as she complained, her father-in-law also shouted in a loud voice: "How old are you!" You also want me to raise your wife and children! ”

Of course, at this time, the family worked together, selling shiitake mushrooms, and the mother-in-law took the money, and they took the money to pay off their various accounts. Ya couldn't understand how her father-in-law and mother-in-law couldn't even afford a house in their lives, and they still owed so many debts. My husband said that there were many relatives, and my parents-in-law were keen to go to other people's houses, and when the two of them walked together, there would be no one to do the work at home. Other people's families have been engaged in shiitake mushrooms a few years ago, but after Ya's family got married, Ya urged her husband to engage in shiitake mushrooms. Other people's families feed more chickens and pigs, but the husband's family never wants to feed more, and the parents-in-law said that chickens and pigs eat too much and can't afford to feed them.

In the year Ya got married, he took out part of the money to make shiitake mushrooms, and part of the money to buy more than 100 chickens. The father-in-law lost his temper and said that the chickens were too dirty and the yard was small, so he asked his husband to pick the chickens to the mountains to feed. On a hot day, the chicks are timid and love to get together, picking and carrying them every day, and more than half of them soon died. The father-in-law gloated and said, "I said I can't feed it, you have to feed it!" But in those years or two, the Ya family no longer lacked chicken and eggs.

In this place, people have to entertain guests on birthdays, red and white ceremonies, birth of children, and children's education. Half of the year has all kinds of guest contacts (this mainly refers to the Ya family, other families may not have so many relatives), other people's homes are one person who leaves, and the other is working at home to watch the door, but Ya's father-in-law likes two people to go together.

Father-in-law and mother-in-law like to shout when they get to work, sometimes people in the village go to the same family, and basically everyone in a village has a family relationship, and everyone makes an appointment to go together. The mother-in-law still had to stay in the field, so that everyone waited for her, and someone said, "I'm just waiting for you, why are you so busy?" The mother-in-law said loudly: "You don't know, you can't be busy (very busy)", in fact, her family is not more engaged than other people's homes, at this time she seems to have forgotten that they left for a day or two, and cherished this small period of time.

The mother-in-law's thrift made Ya a little puzzled: they did not buy furniture all year round, and the dining table, which is said to have been made by them when they got married, is now black and shiny, and they are reluctant to change it to a new one. When the soybeans are ripe, my mother-in-law can beat them repeatedly with a shovel, and she says that she can also beat some soybeans.

When the corn is ripe, other people's families are peeled by hand, and generally each family does not plant much, but the father-in-law pays for the corn machine to beat. They seem to like to hire people, and they also ask people to repair the roof tiles when they leak rain, and they also invite people from the same village, who are older than them, and they are not professional masters. To ask someone for help, you have to buy good wine and good food to entertain, which requires a person to cook specially, and it takes a long time to prepare a large table of dishes.

There is no skill in repairing the tiles, but it is just to stack the tiles on top of each other and throw away the broken tiles, and the father-in-law can do it alone, but he prefers to invite a person, and he himself stands below and chats with others.

Many people go up the mountain to cut firewood in order to save money, but almost all of them buy it. Is it because they're older? When Ya got married, her parents-in-law were not yet 50 years old. In the first year, we worked on shiitake mushrooms together, and my husband's cousin asked my husband to work in Guangzhou, Ya supported him, but her mother-in-law was not happy: "He went, who should he call for some shiitake mushrooms?!" Ya was pregnant with her daughter at that time and said, "You and Daddy have a relationship." The mother-in-law immediately became angry: "How old are we!" It's up to us! We are old, and it is time to enjoy the blessings! Ya was speechless, thinking that his parents had never retired and enjoyed happiness, they built a building for their family and bought a commercial house, but they never felt that they had merit, and they never felt that they should enjoy Qingfu.

When Ya got married, her parents-in-law didn't buy a new piece of furniture, and their newlywed bed was the bed that her husband slept in since he was a child. ”

Ya said: "No need to buy it, save some money, we bought a set in a rented house." "The rented house is five or six hours away.

The next-door neighbor's son got married, bought a new house in the city, and bought a new set of furniture, and a new set of furniture in his home in the countryside. In order to welcome his son and daughter-in-law who came back from the Spring Festival, the next-door neighbor specially asked someone to build a bathroom and install a water heater, just for the convenience of his son and daughter-in-law to take a bath. The neighbors are older than Ya's parents-in-law, and they are mainly engaged in shiitake mushrooms, which are not more than Ya's family.

They built a red brick house for their son early, and the family was full of chickens and ducks. When guests come, they don't have to go to the street to buy chicken and duck eggs. Ya once asked her father-in-law and mother-in-law to raise more chickens and ducks, but they said: "Can't raise it, people don't have enough food to eat, so they feed chickens and ducks?" "You know, my parents-in-law have more land than my neighbors. There are not a lot of neighbors who come and go, but Ya rarely sees the old couple going to the street to buy vegetables and meat, his chicken and eggs can't be eaten, and Ya's family has to go to the street to buy as soon as people come.

Expect your parents-in-law to also build a bathroom? That's impossible. Every year when I go back during the Spring Festival, Yadu is distressed that it is inconvenient to take a bath. The house with the fire is warmer, and the bath can only be in the fire house, but the door needs to be locked from the inside. And a thick curtain should be drawn on the window, which is usually absent, and the iron pipe of the chimney must be pierced through the window pane. I boiled hot water and poured it in a basin, and after taking a shower, there was water all over the floor, and I felt very uncomfortable that I hadn't washed it yet.

The parents-in-law would never think of setting up a bathroom for their son and daughter-in-law, they just waited for their son and daughter-in-law to do these things. Last summer, Ya asked her husband to take back the tens of thousands of yuan he had saved to build a kitchen, fire room and bathroom. But his father-in-law and mother-in-law were reluctant to build it, saying that the money he took was less and not enough to build. The father-in-law bought him a three-wheeled motorcycle that could carry goods, and the rest of the money paid off their bills.

Since the new house was built, the fire house, kitchen, and bathroom could no longer get up, because the master was in a hurry to build a pig farm for others. At that time, the bricks, lime, and cement for the kitchen and bathroom were all well prepared, but now, I don't know where those things have gone.

Parents-in-law always said that the neighbor wanted to occupy his family's rice field. There is a spacious field in front of Yajia's house, where people used to dry grain and raise rice. In fact, the neighbors on both sides of the Ya family have such a large field in front of the door, but they either plant trees or cover pigsty to occupy the road in front of the door, so that the left neighbor demarcates the sphere of influence, and the right neighbor can only pass in front of the Ya house. If Ya's house had built a yard, they would have no way out.

Ya used to always think that rural people are as simple and kind as her grandmother, she has always longed to go to the countryside to live a pastoral life of "picking chrysanthemums under the east fence and leisurely seeing Nanshan", and when she arrived at her husband's house, she realized that the countryside was not as good as she thought. The neighbor to the east of Ya's house planted a tree in front of the door to separate it from Ya's house, which seems to be no contradiction. Mainly the neighbors to the west, the house built by two brothers in partnership, they always think that their place is small, and they covet the big place of Yajia. In order to expand their own place, they built a kitchen and a pigsty in front of their door, but Ya's house has not built a yard, and if it is built, the neighbors will have no way out. Ya is angry at the greed of her neighbors, but her parents-in-law are a little afraid of them and do not want to offend them, they only care about the good life of their own generation, and leave the trouble to future generations. They also don't want to think about how their sons and daughters-in-law can face their selfish and greedy neighbors if they can't even touch them at all?

In rural areas, families with many sons are bullied by the power of others. Of course, this is not absolute. The neighbor uncle at the east end of the village, with four sons, is very gentle to people, which may have something to do with their parents. Although the neighbor in the west died early, the mother was domineering and reckless, messing around, and had a very bad reputation, probably because there were many sons, and the sons and daughters-in-law were not fuel-efficient lamps. Ya's father-in-law and mother-in-law are majestic in front of their sons and daughters-in-law, but they are helpless in front of evil neighbors.

Parents-in-law are people who have no goals and can get by, they just care about their own well, and they will not think about their offspring like other parents. When I lived in an earthen house, my father-in-law was embarrassed to go to the mahjong parlor every day, after all, other people's houses were brick houses, and living in a mud house was a bit ashamed.

Since building a new house, my father-in-law has become a frequent visitor to the mahjong parlor on the street, and he goes to play mahjong drunk every day, and this state can only give money to people.

(b)

Ya doesn't want to go back during the Spring Festival this year, firstly, because she finally has a holiday to write. Second, because he asked his husband to go back to build the kitchen and bathroom during the summer vacation, his father-in-law asked his husband to buy him a motor tricycle, the house was not built, and the money ran out. Thinking that the kitchen and bathroom have not been built for so many years, Ya asked her husband not to buy a house in the city first, but to build the kitchen and bathroom first, who knew that this was the result. Ya wants to cry without tears, and she really doesn't want to see her selfish parents-in-law again.

Ya wanted her husband to work on the construction site for a while early on, and even she wanted to do it herself. In fact, in real life, there are many people in their fifties and sixties, or even in their sixties, who are still working on construction sites. Compared with the factory, the construction site salary is still okay, and the time is shorter than that of the factory, and it is more free to work in the factory.

Ya's uncle worked on the construction site for a few years after graduating from high school, as did his two brothers. Later, my aunt bought a piece of land in the city, and my sister-in-law used his off-duty time and holidays to build bricks and walls by himself. When the house was built to the top, he called the two brothers to cast it in situ, and after the top was poured in situ, the sister-in-law still used his free time to build the wall by himself, and when he built the top of the second floor, the sister-in-law still asked the two brothers to help cast the wall. Later, the courtyard wall and the construction of the bathroom and bathroom under the stairs were all done by the little uncle alone.

Building a house, in fact, the most expensive thing is wages, if you can build a house, this will save a lot of expenses. My husband's neighbor's pigsty was built by himself, because they had all worked as small workers for a while.

When my husband's family built a new house, Yari helped cook. The earthen stove of the husband's house is connected by three stoves, and the two fronts can be burned at the same time, cooking rice here and stir-frying vegetables there, and the stove with a chimney behind it is boiling hot water. The kitchen and stove are a few years old, and the roof is blackened, which doesn't matter. Smoked and roasted bacon is smoked and roasted during the wax month every year, which is completely original smoked bacon. Other families don't have such kitchens, and the bacon they smoke is not authentic to their husbands' families, so the neighbors often smoke their own bacon during the month. The ground is surrounded by firewood with a few bricks, this firewood can not be fired, can only be slightly red, the most important thing is to smoke, so smoke it for ten days and a half a month all day and night, and the authentic bacon will be smoked.

I don't know when my mother-in-law's earthen stove was built, and the age should be a long time ago.

The outside of the cooktop is made of cement, and the cooktop is black and shiny. The neighbors' kitchens are all built with new stoves and new kitchen cabinets, which is the difference between the old and new societies compared to the mother-in-law's kitchen. For quite a few years, my mother-in-law married in a beautiful way, and the new house and new furniture envied the daughters-in-law in the village, and everyone said that she had a good life. Over the course of his life, when Ya got married, her husband's family had become one of the poorest families in the village.

The daughters-in-law in the village like to compare with each other, Ya felt that cotton clothes are not easy to wash in winter, so they bought a washing machine, but on the second day and the third day, the neighbors went to buy a washing machine one after another, and it was more expensive than Ya bought. Ya was a little funny: maybe she didn't buy a washing machine, and the daughters-in-law in the village might always think that it was useless to ask for a washing machine, and would always carry the basket to the river to wash clothes. The next-door neighbor built a new cabinet and installed cabinet glass, and several other neighbors immediately installed glass. Except for Ya's mother-in-law, who seemed indifferent, and if she was told to do the same, she would say, "How can I have any money!" The head of the house is drunk and smoked all day long and doesn't know what to do, how can he compare with you! How much do you guys know how to do it! "My mother-in-law always felt that the poor family had nothing to do with her, it was the man she found who didn't know what to do.

Ya remembered an aunt she met while working in Beijing......

That aunt was about the same age as her mother-in-law, with thin cheeks and deep wrinkles, which could not hide her delicate features. She watched the elevator in a community, and her home was in a rural area in Gaobeidian, Hebei. She has a son and a daughter, and they are all married. When the child was very young, her husband died of illness. She worked hard to raise the children for the sake of not marrying again. When her son reached the age of marriage, she borrowed some money from relatives and added her own savings to build a new house for her son. After marrying her daughter and marrying her daughter-in-law, in order to repay the money she borrowed when she built a house, she went to Beijing to work alone, because her daughter-in-law did not want to marry and paid off her in-laws' debts. When Ya met the aunt, the aunt had already paid off the house payment and arranged her funeral: donating her body to the hospital for autopsy. The aunt is in a decent state of mind, wearing a decent skirt and perming her short hair. Ya admired her very much, she said: "It's nothing, relying on your own hands, as long as you work hard, life will always get better." She is used to the life of a part-time job, she said: "One of the things that is not good about being outside is that I miss my children all the time. ”

When Ya opened the store, she met a female customer. It was the Spring Festival, and she said she had quit her job at the Shandong factory and was going to come back to find something to do, because her son was old enough to find a daughter-in-law to marry. She comes back once a year during the Spring Festival and has been cleaning in a factory in Shandong for 10 years. After ten years of work, she renovated her son's house in the countryside and bought him a commercial house in the city. She said that the factory was in charge of food and housing, and all the money she earned was saved to build a house and buy a house. Ya asked her, "Why don't you let your husband go out to work?" She said, "He can't go out, he doesn't like to talk to people, and he has a stubborn temper." He just needs to take care of life at home. She said that the year she went out, her son had just gone to secondary school, and she saw the neighbors building new houses and buying new houses one by one, and she was anxious, afraid that her son would not be able to marry a daughter-in-law after he did not have a new house.

Ya admires these two aunts she met very much, and thinks they are strong women. When Ya told her mother-in-law about these two strong women, her mother-in-law smiled contemptuously and said, "Why don't you learn?" Yata was speechless. When guests came to the house, Ya often heard her mother-in-law say, "If the head of my house knows what to do like everyone else, I won't be in this situation in my house." "My mother-in-law always thinks that her family is poor and has nothing to do with her, but that her family men are not as good as other people's men.

There are people in the family who can do renovation or work on the construction site, and most of the family will not be too bad. You don't see, now there are demolitions everywhere, some people ride tricycles to pick up waste bricks on the construction site every day, and even build several floors, while some people have to spend their lives to build a house. Ya once saw an old man on the Internet, who worked on construction sites when he was young, and returned to the village when he was old and built a small villa for his wife by himself. This is the power of people who know how to work on the construction site, at least it saves a lot of wages! To build a house in the countryside, you not only have to pay the salary, but also have to manage the master's three meals, and you can't eat as usual. When her husband's family built a house, Ya had to make a table full of meat and vegetarian dishes for every meal, and there should be dozens of beers to accompany the meal.

At that time, when pasting the tiles on the exterior wall of the house, Ya used the remaining tiles mixed with cement to pave the stove top, and relatives praised it when they came. Who knew that the mother-in-law knocked it all down in a few days, and she couldn't get used to it, saying what the flowers looked like. The wall tiles are yellow, and the windows are surrounded by green tiles, so the stove is yellow and green, which is better than the dark stove, maybe the aesthetics also have psychological habits.

My husband later bought a sectional sofa, and he originally thought that the new house should be equipped with new furniture. When they returned for the Spring Festival, they saw that the sofa and coffee table were scattered in various rooms, and the living room was still the old square table and chairs. Perhaps in the consciousness of the parents-in-law, this is the home and furnishings that the countryside should have. Alas, let them go, Ya sighed helplessly, even if the house is built, the father-in-law and mother-in-law are still the real owners of the house.

Thinking about her humble appearance when she got married, Ya felt that she was not very respected in this family from the beginning, and she was dedicated to saving money for her in-laws, but she didn't save any money, and her parents-in-law were even more polite when they spoke in front of her. This is also self-inflicted, I don't want anything, my parents-in-law think she is a stupid person, and they are happy to wronged her.

When she got married, her mother-in-law really didn't buy anything, and Ya didn't think there was anything wrong. At that time, she always felt that the countryside was hard, and it was not easy for her mother-in-law. Thinking about that time now, Ya feels that she was naïve and simple and pitiful. If my mother-in-law didn't have a new house and new furniture, she would never have married, but she married the best family in the village. When her son got married, it was a dilapidated house and old furniture, and her son married a city girl, so she wronged her son and daughter-in-law without any shame. Ya thinks of her son, when her son grows up and wants to marry a daughter-in-law, she will never wronged her son and daughter-in-law, otherwise when she is old and has difficulty moving, she will be embarrassed to let her son and daughter-in-law serve.

But the father-in-law and mother-in-law not only had no shame, but felt panicked. The mother-in-law often said in front of Ya that whose son and daughter-in-law bought something for their parents, Ya was silent, thinking: If they come back from the full moon and eat a few more meals, they will not tolerate the separation of the family, and they will not be willing to share a penny with them when they divide the family......

My husband went to Guangzhou to work, and came back during the Spring Festival in the first year to repay the 10,000 yuan loan to my father-in-law, and I don't know what the 10,000 yuan loan was for, with an interest of 1,000 yuan per year, and the interest paid has exceeded the principal, but the principal has not been repaid. My husband came back and paid back the 10,000 yuan, ending the history of paying 1,000 yuan in interest every year.

My parents-in-law always said: "It is fame to have a son, and it is a blessing to have a daughter." "They always think their daughter is good, and they always say that their daughter is good and good in front of Ya. In that place, people's concept is that a daughter is a relative when she gets married, and it is a son's business to provide for her parents in old age. Ya's mother-in-law once said to Ya: "I want my son to support his old age because the property is given to my son." "Ya would rather not have that broken house. You must know that the parents-in-law raised their husbands and sisters-in-law until they were 16 years old, and then they went out to work to support themselves.

Ya's mother-in-law was hospitalized for appendicitis surgery, and she was taken care of by her sister-in-law, and the medical expenses were also paid in advance by the sister-in-law, and the husband returned the medical expenses to the sister-in-law after she came back. The father-in-law and mother-in-law borrowed 500 yuan from their daughter and wanted to pay back their daughter's 500 yuan, but they asked their son for 50,000 yuan, but they asked for it in vain. When the family was separated, he was reluctant to give a penny to his son and daughter-in-law, but he was not ashamed when he asked for money.