Since the nature of the circle of friends of the three social classes is different, and the way they maintain interpersonal relationships is also different, let's analyze how the three social classes maintain interpersonal relationships.

Grassroots society

Hook shoulders and call brothers. ｅｔ

In fact, it seems that the social relations of the grassroots society have always been very good, they get together every day to play mahjong and spend their time in vain, chatting together every day, although the topic they talk about is gossip, but they can play mahjong for a lifetime, and they can talk about gossip for a lifetime. The reason why the grassroots society can maintain good relations for a lifetime is because none of them are motivated. And the quality of interpersonal relationships must be measured through events, for example, if a person succeeds in starting a business, will he help his former friends? Will a person take care of his former friends when he is promoted? But often this kind of thing will not happen in the grassroots society for a lifetime, because the people in the grassroots society are not motivated, and no one will start a business at all, let alone succeed in starting a business. Leaders are also less likely to promote those who do not seek advancement, and they will not be promoted. Their social status cannot be changed for a lifetime, so their relationship is harmonious for a lifetime. Moreover, as long as people in the grassroots society see that others are a little self-motivated, they treat him as an alternative, and they will desperately say bad things about that person and prevent that person's success. Because the rule of the game in grassroots society is "harming others and not benefiting themselves", they can see the success of people they don't know, but they definitely can't stand the success of the people around them, otherwise they will be jealous to death. So even if that person succeeds, they won't come to help them, so they won't get help from nobles for the rest of their lives. So too many people in the grassroots society are like a piece of mud that can't hold up the wall, they won't make a difference at all, they won't be productive for the rest of their lives, so they can maintain a good relationship for the rest of their lives.

But there are also people in the grassroots society who have very similar personalities, and the best relationship between them is to worship their brothers or godsisters. Here I want to emphasize that brothers and godsisters are still relatively reliable, although there are some unkind and unjust, but most of them are still good. People, as long as they are married, basically help each other in this life, because of the same personality, so everyone cherishes this life opportunity. Anyone who has watched "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" knows that Taoyuan worships, we will be moved by the "righteousness" of the three brothers Liu Guan and Zhang, and Guan Gong is a symbol of loyalty, so many people worship Guan Gong. But I would like to stress one point: it is not advisable to bow down. People, like-minded can be, don't be superficial relationships, Liu Bei in order to avenge Guan Gong, the result was defeated and Yiling, since then the vitality has been greatly damaged, and it has been sluggish, resulting in the failure of the great cause. It is precisely because of the great injury to the vitality that the family background is too thin, so Zhuge Liang was dragged to death, Zhuge Liang came out of Qishan six times, but it was difficult to turn the tide, and in the end he could only end up with a tragic ending of "dying before leaving the school, and making the hero cry for a long time". I don't think Guan Gong wants to see such an ending. Therefore, I do not advocate relying on sworn worship to stabilize interpersonal relationships, and the grassroots society should learn more from the high-level society.

Middle class

Take advantage of each other and entertain hypocritically.

If we pay close attention, we know that the middle class is the busiest, almost every day is busy with socializing, and the people in the middle class often have to get together, because they have no real feelings at all, and the best thing to say is to cooperate with each other, in fact, to put it bluntly, it is to use each other. But people are so strange, knowing that they are using each other, they still have to send greeting text messages from time to time, and they often get together, so we know that the more unreliable the relationship, the more they have to rely on the superficial intimacy to maintain, so the interpersonal relationships in the middle society seem to be very wide, and everyone they see is familiar, but their relationships are unreliable. Between them, once someone goes bankrupt, demoted, or seriously ill, in short, loses the value of being used, those so-called "middle-class social networks" will cut off contact with that person, even if they have been together a hundred times before, it will not work, this is the so-called "people go to tea and cool". The interpersonal relationship between the middle class society is the naked mutual use, people who see through this will not waste time and energy on hypocritical entertainment, but strive to improve themselves, so that they have more value to be used, only they have the value of being used, those social relations work, only the greater the value of being used by others, the more reliable the relationship, this is the long-term way to maintain interpersonal relations in the middle society. But many people just can't see through this, and they think that others will be sincere to you; He is a snob, and he also hopes to be a gentleman with righteousness. It's really self-deception, covering your ears and stealing the bell!

But the middle class is not all like this, there is no shortage of people with a sense of justice in the middle class, and the middle class is self-motivated, if a person has a sense of justice, plus he is self-motivated, he is a person who can be friends. But the reason why middle-class interpersonal relationships are like this is related to the way they get in touch. The way of social contact between the middle class is based on using each other, and they don't give each other sincerity, so it is difficult for them to make real friends. Therefore, the quality of the relationship between people and the way they contact them at the beginning is very important, and there are probably these kinds of very good friends: childhood children, classmates, and comrades-in-arms. Because the feelings of childhood are the most innocent, because they did not go to society when they were students, their feelings are also very innocent, and comrades-in-arms are friends who share weal and pain, which is called "friends in distress". And let's think about the relationship in general, for example, the relationship between colleagues and neighbors who grow up and friends in the business field is very general, because people have been in contact with the society after work, so there will be all kinds of utilitarianism, and there is no longer the innocence of the past, so the feelings between colleagues are very thin. When I grew up, my neighbors moved in later, and I didn't have any feelings. But the worst relationship is friends in the business field, everyone uses each other from the beginning, and they are wary of each other, and the relationship is impossible to talk about.

Of course, nothing is absolute. There is a saying that "people are divided by groups, and things are gathered by like." "People, after a long period of contact, they will find people with the same values as themselves, so the middle society can also make real friends in the business field, but it takes time and events, and because everyone is afraid of making friends carelessly, they are walking on thin ice, such as facing the abyss, so a slight misunderstanding will affect the further development of the relationship, although the surface maintains harmony, but the heart of both sides will always be closed to each other. Therefore, it is very difficult for the middle class to make real friends.

High Society

Treat each other sincerely, harmoniously and differently.

Frankly speaking, the relationship between friends in the upper society does not need to be deliberately maintained. If you look at it, you will know that friends have to get together for three days, and there is probably no real feeling, and it is precisely because there is no emotion that it needs to be maintained in form; And the same is true between husband and wife, when you see a couple holding hands as soon as they go out, you know: they are either just getting married on their honeymoon, or they are not in a good relationship. As soon as the woman went out, she desperately held the man's arm, just telling others: "This is my husband!" Don't seduce him! "So you know that her husband probably has frequent affairs, otherwise she wouldn't have to be so nervous at all. Therefore, people often do things that "there is no silver three hundred taels here", and they think they are very smart. So we know: the more desperately we show something, the more we lack something; The more emphasis is placed on something, the more nothing is attached; The more deliberately you try to maintain something, the more you are afraid of losing something. It's called "Wanting to Cover Up".

Therefore, there is no need to maintain a relationship between friends in high-level society, and if the relationship reaches the point where it can only be sustained by maintenance, it means that they are no longer friends. Therefore, friends in the upper class do not need to meet every day like the grassroots society, nor do they have to maintain their value of being used at all times like the middle society. Because friends in the upper echelons of society do not care about external wealth, but pay attention to the exchange of ideas. As the saying goes: "A cup of tea, ancient and modern, harmonious and different." Therefore, friends in the high-level society are more like imaginatives, gathering, then the wind and clouds will meet, and scattering, they will go their separate ways. It is this kind of free and easy recklessness that they can talk freely about the general trend of the world and the ups and downs of the world.

So every New Year's Day, you receive many blessing text messages from friends in your mobile phone, you know that you probably don't belong to the high-level society, so you haven't made friends in the high-level society, because your friends have to rely on text messages to maintain the relationship, if you don't reply to the text message, your friends will inevitably think that you are proud and arrogant, if you reply to the text message, you will enter the vulgar stream. So you know how those communication companies are so profitable, because most of the people in the world are not exempt from vulgarity, and they still rely on texting to maintain relationships.