Chapter 338: Pushing Yourself and Others

"You also know that we have been living abroad for many years, so we always feel that all aspects of foreign countries are good in China, and as parents, we all hope that you will have a better development." After all, he lives abroad, of course, he hopes that his children can be by his side, and of course he wants to give him everything better.

Chen Fangru didn't feel that there was anything wrong with what she did, she had always felt like this, and felt that she was doing it for her children.

This is because she is wholeheartedly for the sake of her child, so she made such a choice in the first place, so she hurriedly took him out of the country, and then brought him to live in the United States, just because she wanted him to live a better life.

At that time, he just thought that after a long time, he would naturally forget about that girl, and then he would not have a headache, and he would have a good development in the United States, and it turned out that it was true, and his career had been quite successful when he was in the United States.

In his heart, no matter how good the career is, it is always inferior to that of China, and it is always inferior to his grandfather's status in his mind.

At first, his grandfather just casually asked him if he wanted to return to China to accept his career, and then he agreed without thinking about it, and resolutely let go of everything in the United States. At that time, I thought that he would reject his grandfather for the sake of his career here, but he never thought that he still chose to return to China and choose to return to his grandfather's side.

From the moment he made his decision, he had a bad premonition, always thinking that something would happen after he went back, and sure enough, his premonition still happened.

"But that's not the best reason, you shouldn't decide everything for me, you shouldn't disrespect my opinion." He Yuhe thought that his so-called parents didn't ask him, so he decided everything for himself.

Whenever I think of this, I feel very angry, and no matter what, I should ask myself. Besides, at that time, I was not a child, I was already an adult and had my own ideas.

But they still insist on going their own way, and they still choose to do it, which makes them feel particularly difficult to accept.

Chen Fangru heard her son say this, and said with some embarrassment, "I'm really sorry about this, I just wanted to say hello and ignored this." "I was thinking about my son wholeheartedly, and as for the rest, I didn't think about it so carefully.

He Yuhyuk really wants to say this, can a word of apology erase everything? Wouldn't all this seem too child's play?

"Xiaohe, these are all things in the past, and you can't blame your mother, she didn't do this for your good." He Shaobin, who had not been silent, suddenly spoke.

He Yuhe was silent at this time, after all, even his father said this, think about it, it's not that he can't understand, his mother is just doing this for herself, it's just that she hasn't asked her own opinions, she hasn't thought about her feelings, and she hasn't realized what kind of mood she is.

But one thing that cannot be denied is that he actually did it for his own good, if he wasn't her son, she wouldn't have done it, and she wouldn't have put so much thought into it.

Therefore, at this time, I should stand in her position and think about her. I will think about her from her point of view, but she will not think about herself from her own point of view.

"Although I can understand your thoughts when you say this, I am really angry that you decided everything for me without asking my opinion at all." After a long while, He Yuhe said lightly.

In fact, he was quite angry at this time, but in the end, he thought that the other party was his parents, and at this time he was single-minded, what he wanted was to communicate well with his family, and he didn't think about it, he thought about getting angry with them or something.

Maybe it's because the subconscious feels that if you can communicate well with each other, then there is no need to lose your temper so much, because, no matter what, everyone is a family, and there is no need to make the atmosphere so stiff.

Chen Fangru said softly to her son's eyes, "Yes, I have never denied this, I am indeed selfish, but I do this because I want my son to have a better future in the future, I don't want to ruin you because of that girl." "There's nothing bad to admit in this matter, after all, I did do such a thing, and the reason why I did it was for his good.

Although at the beginning, I did not do it right, because I really didn't think about his thoughts, and I didn't ask his opinion. decided everything for him without authorization, and he made a mistake about this, and he can face it very calmly.

But there is also an undeniable thing that the reason why I do this is only because the other party is my son, and I just want his life to be better, which mother doesn't want her children to live a better life.

He Yuhe listened to his mother admit this, and subconsciously felt that between himself and her, he really didn't know how to communicate, and he said so much, didn't she understand the meaning of her words?

"You never asked me what I wanted, and you decided for me on your own, all of this is just what you think is good, but not what I really think is good." It was just wishful thinking on her part, thinking that she should take this path, but she never asked herself if it was the path she wanted to take.

"As a mother in the world, who doesn't want her children to be good, the reason why I do this is also to worry about your future." Is it really wrong to do this yourself? If not, why would he do these things himself.

"How can you not go wrong by doing this, because these are just your wishful thinking, what you think is good for me, but you never ask me what I want, you just impose your ideas on me, not all this is what I want." I have grown up, I have my own sense of what I want, and what I want, I can rely on my own efforts to struggle, and I don't need to use such a way at all.

He Yuhe has always been unwilling to rely on his family's ability to get what he wants, he has always just wanted to rely on himself, which is the same as the idea of first love, only by himself, that is the most reliable, other people are unreliable, and he has never had such an idea.

From beginning to end, his ideas are very simple, as long as it is what he wants, he can rely on his own efforts to fight for it, instead of using this way to get it, he feels ashamed to get what he wants in this way.

I have this ability, so I can live a better life, and I don't need others to arrange what kind of life for me, those lives are just what they think is good, not what they want.

But after saying so much, my mother doesn't seem to understand her own thoughts, and always thinks that she wants to do this for her own good, for her own future, and to be able to live a better life, but she ignores her own thoughts and ignores whether this is what she wants.

Has she never stood in her own perspective and thought about herself, I don't know if she is really selfish to think like this?

"Okay, don't continue to blame your mother, she did it for your own good." He Shaobin may not be able to listen to his son's accusations against his wife, so he stood up and said at this time.

He Yuhe glanced at his father, his expression was calm, and he said softly, "If these thoughts were imposed on you, what would you think, and what would you do?" He Yuhe didn't have much temper at this time, but he told his father very calmly that if this matter was on him, what kind of thoughts and practices would he have.

Push yourself and others, stand in the perspective of others and think for others, in fact, you can figure out that those external factors, imposed on yourself, you will not feel anything, but the person concerned will feel a lot of pressure.

"I ...... Now you're talking about you, how did it get to me? What He Shaobin didn't expect was that his son would also pull the topic to himself, and he panicked all of a sudden.

Indeed, I have never thought about this, if this matter is put on my own body, what kind of thoughts will I have, and what will I do?

Regarding this issue, I have never thought about it before, but I feel wholeheartedly that as a parent, I do this for the sake of my children.

For the sake of children, you can do anything, even if you know that the other party will complain about you in the end, but you still have no hesitation and make such a choice. I believe that as parents will encounter such problems, when they need to choose, no matter what, they will be selfish, and take the lead in thinking about what is good for their children, which aspect is good, and the balance of the heart will definitely be inclined to which side.

"I just hope that Mom and Dad can empathize and think for me from my point of view, what kind of thoughts you will have when this matter is placed on you." This is what they imposed on themselves, not what they wanted, so let them, feel it themselves.

If all this were put on them, how would they feel? Don't always think that doing this is just for the good of your children, in fact, these are just selfish thoughts.

It's just that you think it's good, but it's not your children who think it's good.

Before making any decision, shouldn't you put yourself in the other person's shoes and think about the other person, is this really what the other person wants? If you don't respect the other party's opinions, you make decisions on your own, and the result is bound to be disagreement.

(End of chapter)