"It's good to know, now that you are about to retire, you can let go of your son's affairs, I believe he has the ability to handle them, and one more thing, I want to remind you that he is not the same as he was five years ago, let you do whatever you want." In fact, I shouldn't have said these words much, but at this time, I still hope to remind him more and pay more attention to this detail.

How to say, five years ago, I didn't agree with them doing those things, but they did it anyway, and now it's not five years ago, a lot of things have changed.

I was really doing things to repeat the mistakes of the past, and I didn't want to hurt the father and son between them. Some relationships are really broken down, and it's really hard to recover.

After He Shaobin heard these words, the whole person fell silent, after all, he knew that I really did something wrong when I was young, and I shouldn't do it, if I continue to repeat the mistakes of the past at this time, it is very likely that I will really lose this son.

"I know, in fact, five years ago, I didn't agree to do this, but in the end, I still acquiesced, and I still did the wrong thing." Even if I didn't agree to do this at the beginning, I still acquiesced in the end, and I still did something wrong in the end.

In the final analysis, it is because of what I have done wrong, no matter what kind of position I took at the beginning, I should stand on my own position and should not waver.

"In the past, there was no need to blame yourself, because it was useless to blame yourself, and what you can do now is to try your best to make up for it." Everything has already happened, and it is useless to continue to qualify at this time, and there is no way to change anything.

"Well, I don't know if it's not self-blame at this time, but when I think about these topics, I still feel a little guilty." Although so many years have passed, I haven't really let go of my psychology, and I haven't talked about it with my son.

"Since he knows that he feels guilty about your son in his heart, then let him decide this matter for himself, after all, the person he is looking for is the person he wants to live his life." Only he knows what kind of person he wants to accompany him for a lifetime, and other people can't really understand it at all.

"Yes, after so many things, I think I should have learned to respect his choice, and I don't expect him to really forgive me for the past." Those things are already in the past, and he admits that he did wrong, but some things are wrong after all, which is a fact that cannot be denied, even if he does not forgive himself, he can only bear the consequences.

I can only think differently, and others can only make up for it in other ways.

"I'm sure he can understand you, there are some things he doesn't remember anymore, and you don't need to mention it in front of him." Losing part of your memory, to put it another way, isn't completely without benefits.

Since they have all chosen to forget, there is no need to mention it again, after all, if you mention it this time, it will only make each other hurt, so it is better to forget all this.

I just hope that this family can be quiet, I hope everyone is safe, the family can get along in harmony, I really don't want to have any more troubles, maybe I'm old, I don't want to see those disputes, I just want to be quiet and enjoy my old age.

"He doesn't remember what happened, but I do." He Shaobin hopes that he has also lost this part of his memory at this time, otherwise, he would not have to be so self-conscious.

Those who forget may not know anything, and their hearts can be a little better, but those who remember are always entangled and tossed.

After all, occasionally and often I can still remember and remember those things that happened before, but I can't change it, and I can't make up for it, and I always feel that I owe him in my heart, and sometimes I think that I might as well be the one who forgets everything, because then I don't have to live so painfully.

But he is the one who remembers those things, maybe this is God's punishment for himself, allowing himself to torture himself. There is no need for him to torture himself, God has already punished him.

"Sometimes I wonder if it's good or bad for him to lose this part of his memory?" I have some responsibility, not that I have no responsibility at all.

"You say, if we don't take the initiative to find him clear one day, otherwise we will always feel indebted to him if we have something in our hearts." He Shaobin feels that his son has grown up, and he is not the kind of person who holds grudges, so he still hopes to be able to make it clear with him if he has the opportunity.

"I don't deny that you did this, but have you ever thought about the consequences of doing this, and can you afford those consequences?" After all, it's not a party, I don't know what kind of reaction the party will have, if it's different, if you don't understand, what the consequences will be, have you considered whether you can bear such consequences.

"You really haven't thought about this, maybe, you will feel that he can accept all this calmly, but if he doesn't accept it, it is reasonable." As for what kind of consequences there are, to be honest, I really haven't thought about it in my heart.

But one thing really reminds me of what kind of consequences will there be if the other party doesn't accept it, and can I really bear it?

"Since I can't be sure in my heart now, let's wait until I think about it carefully before making a decision, this matter can't be said casually, otherwise there will be many consequences that you and I can't bear." This is not just a casual statement, it is as simple as that, and the key is to consider what the consequences will be.

"Well, what you said makes a lot of sense, maybe I didn't think it through enough." I just blindly think that my son can forgive himself and think from his own point of view, but he ignores another idea, what if he is not willing to forgive?

"So, I'll tell you to think carefully before making a decision, I don't want your decision to hurt him again." This is the only thing I ask of them, and I don't want my grandson to be hurt again.

Although he is his own son and the other party is his grandson, his grandson was brought up by himself, and he has always had feelings for himself.

"I know, I'll look at these things." At first, I thought about it myself, but now I think it through, and it is true that sometimes I have to think about it before I draw conclusions.

"If you don't know about this, you don't know, maybe it's better than knowing." Because I really don't know, then I won't have such a burden in my heart, so naturally I won't feel anything.

"I just thought about this on the spur of the moment, and I didn't think too clearly about what the consequences would be." If he really can't accept such a result, he will really regret telling him these things than not telling him, so that he doesn't know anything and stays as he is.

"Okay, don't think too much, let's put this matter aside for a while, if he wants to forgive you, he will definitely forgive you, why bother thinking about it at this time." It's useless to blame yourself, it's useless to have so much less, just let it be.

"I hope that's the result, after all, it's a family, and I don't want the atmosphere to be too awkward, and I don't want this relationship to continue to deteriorate." It's good to be able to maintain this level of stability at the moment, so I really don't want it to get worse.

"Okay, don't think too much, don't be tired, and if you want to take a break, you can go back and rest first." Some things are said to be useless, and since they have all happened, they can only face the results frankly, or even treat them rationally.

"But if my son remembers that part of his memory, will he blame us for not telling him these things?" He Shaobin was still a little worried, and always felt that he was at a loss.

"Let's talk about it then, don't think too much about it now, go back and rest first." Let's talk about it at that point, no one can predict the end now.

"Alright then, I'll go back and rest first." He Shaobin didn't continue.

After all, everything that needs to be said has been said almost, and there is no need to continue to talk about the next one.

Some things have happened at the beginning, and now we can only face the result, and it is really impossible to make up for it, and many people are not willing to make up for it.

For his grandson, I know too much about his character and know what kind of personality he is. If it was something he decided to do, there was no way to change his mind.

Maybe they, as parents, don't know him as well as their grandfather, or maybe it's because they brought him up.

I have to say that he is his grandson, and many times he is really biased towards him. also clearly knows that he has not had an easy time over the years, and has suffered a lot.

Seriously, many times I really feel sorry for him, in fact, he is not very old, but he has seen through a lot of things, and he has also lacked father's love and mother's love since he was a child.

Therefore, I can stand in his perspective and think about him, and even tell him that I can understand his thoughts and figure out his true thoughts.

That's because I can stand in his perspective and think about him, for example, emotional matters, I have always said the same thing from beginning to end, and I will not interfere with him.

After all, the person he is looking for is someone who will accompany him for a lifetime, and the time he can spend with him is really running out, so he naturally hopes that he can find someone he really wants to be with for a lifetime.

If the other party is not the person he really wants to be together, and he is reluctant to be together, neither of them will be happy, and there will only be more contradictions between the two of them.

In such a situation, how could he be happy, and he would really worry that doing so would ruin his life. I want to talk about "No First Love, There is a Secret Love" with more like-minded people, and pay attention to "Youyue Literature" on WeChat, talk about life, and find a confidant~