Feelings are a kind of enjoyment that human beings have innately, not only humans, but also primate animals will have feelings!

How to correctly recognize and interpret human feelings!

Emotional desires include affection, friendship, love... Wait a minute! It can usually bring us joyful enjoyment, and of course, when it is not obtained, it can also bring negative pain!

Usually we treat feelings with an attitude of entering the game, while looking at feelings is an attitude of exiting. Therefore, there are often some authorities who are obsessed with bystanders and clear in their feelings, and it is also the perspective of looking at all things mentioned in the [Tao Te Ching].

There is often no desire, to see its wonder, often there is desire, to see it!

Therefore, when looking at feelings, we must understand how feelings are generated and integrated with a ruthless attitude, and then perceive its boundaries with affectionate experience!

Feelings are innate, they are unilateral outputs from one person's soul, enter the soul of another person, in the hope of reciprocating, and then the two will share this wonderful feeling of mutual exchange!

If you like someone, but he doesn't like you, at this time your feelings are just one-sided output, without any reply, you can't get a response, your desires are not satisfied, you won't get this emotional enjoyment!

All the rules are mutual, balance is the real right way to operate, if it is biased to one side, it is unfair, it is not recognized, and this also includes family affection!

China is the most filial piety country in the world, and the original meaning of filial piety comes from the emotional process of mutual output, not a unilateral process!

The feudal ideology that we once opposed was a one-sided output, one-sided filial piety and one-sided loyalty. There are a lot of misinterpretations and misunderstandings in it, and modern people are stupid and don't distinguish clearly to make these particularly confusing, so that feudal ideas and new social ideas constantly collide and produce contradictions!

In ancient times, there was filial piety under the stick, children must be unconditionally filial to their parents, not filial piety is immoral, it is not right, treat the superiors, leaders, emperors, must be loyal, disloyal is wrong. These are foolish thoughts!

But the original meaning of these family filial piety and loyalty is not like this, but the ruler distorts the meaning in order to facilitate the rule, and takes the teaching out of context to confuse the people's minds!

The first sage Confucius said: The king treats the minister with courtesy, and the minister serves the king with loyalty!

As the saying goes: Father is kind and filial piety!

Idiom: Ciwu feeds back!

It's all about the same thing, emotions are mutual, not one-sided, and more importantly, who started the beginning of emotions!

Due to the stubbornness of many people's thoughts, they become indistinguishable from yin and yang, the main and secondary are reversed, and the chaotic phase and delusion begin to arise, which is easy to confuse people!

The first thing that needs to be corrected is that in which position is the active output of emotion, the king, the leader, and the superior must take the lead in paying emotion, treating the courtiers and subordinates, and treating them with respect and courtesy, so that they can ask for talents and employees to work loyally for you, for the country, and for the team to pay loyally!

But at present, there are mostly mediocre people, who only know how to unilaterally ask others to pay, and never take the initiative to pay! So if you don't pay, you don't get back! The same goes for feelings! This is also the residual poison of feudal thinking!

That's why Confucius put the courtesy of the king and his ministers in the first place, not in the back.

Parents, first of all, need to raise their children steadily and correctly, and then they can ask their children to be filial.

If parents abandon their children when they are born, or smoke, drink, gamble, fight, and brawl all day long, never ask whether their children are alive or dead, but when they are old, they ask for filial piety, and they also kidnap their children with pseudo-morality and must provide for the elderly, which is the residual poison of feudal thinking!

So it is fatherly kindness, Fang Zixiao!

Before the child was born, or even before leaving the mother's body, the child did not exist, and there was no communication, everything is just that you want the child, you want to get the family, the emotional enjoyment brought by the child, not what the child wants, so after the child is born, it is also the responsibility that parents must take the initiative to bear, if the parents do not bear this responsibility, but let the child bear the responsibility of support after 20 years, this is unfair, it is the residual poison of feudal thinking!

Ciwu feeds back, the focus is on an anti-word, it didn't come, how to reverse?

I once spent half a year observing a newborn baby in the way and perspective of a bystander, when the child was born by the father every day, and the mother was only responsible for breastfeeding, after a month the child began to favor the father, after three months, the child's crying can only stop by recognizing the father, and after six months, the child must hold the father's hand even when eating breast milk to feel at ease!

Later, the father worked during the day, came back to see the child at night, and gradually left, the child was handed over to the mother's care, accompanied by the mother every day, and after a year, the child began to tend to the mother, and no longer liked the father, from here it can be seen that the establishment of innate children's affection is not fixed, nor mutual, but unilateral output, as for who the output target is, this is all acquired.

Everyone is a separate soul, in terms of family affection, you raised a child, the initiative at the beginning is not what the child asks you to raise, but what you want to do with this feeling, so when the next generation is bred, it does not mean that the next generation can become a slave to your feelings, which is an excessive wrong approach! They have their own minds, their own souls, they will think independently, you have to respect them while you get the affection in return, imposing your own desires too much on the next generation will only backfire!

Zi said: Do not do to others what you do not want, I said: Do not force what people do not want, forcible is no different from evil!

The feelings you pay can only be limited to how much he is willing to accept and how much he is willing to reciprocate, rather than forcing him to reciprocate, this is the boundary of feelings, and anything beyond this boundary will only backfire, and will eventually produce all kinds of bad factors, and even destroy the bridge of this relationship!

You have raised a child, and when he is old, he must also be filial, which is a responsibility. But excessive demands, forcibly imposing desires on children, letting them do what you like, letting him marry or marry someone you like, and giving him what you think is good, are all practices that go beyond the boundaries and will be counterproductive.

Feelings are one-sided, your active output, as long as he accepts it, he should return it, if he doesn't want to accept it, then the forced demand is evil.

In family affection, the best boundary and the best relationship is to raise children, and respect their wishes, only to be the deputy position of help and counseling, not to be the main position of his life, to occupy and forcibly control their thoughts, which is also the same in love and friendship. So when their feelings come back and output to you, it is also with respectful and not excessive feelings!

In the future generations to treat the elders is also a lot of Juche Idea of paying, in fact, are wrong, the elders are old, many people are hoping that the child can come back, even if it is a glance, with a while is the best filial piety, but the child treats his parents in accordance with his own dominant thinking of the emotional line, spend some of his hard-earned money, buy some gifts to take home to his parents, and leave in a hurry, these are the wrong emotional returns!

Love, family affection, friendship, are a kind of unilateral departure hope to get a response to the mutual feelings, when you alone unilaterally pay, efforts can not change the other soul to you in return, you should understand, the boundary of feelings has arrived, can no longer be exceeded, should be returned, otherwise, it will hurt yourself and others!

Therefore, if you want to get a good result and enjoyment in the relationship, you must be cooperated by another person, and what you have to do is how to make this person willingly cooperate with you, willingly, willingly, and like to cooperate with you, and it is a continuous one.

And the end of the relationship is often beyond the boundary, or do not know how to respect others, forced to ask others to cooperate with themselves, once this mistake occurs, then the bridge of feelings will be broken, because everyone is selfish. The output bond of balance is unstable, and the emotion is naturally terminated by one party!

Feelings are innate desires to enjoy, and they can't be abandoned, but they need to be used correctly to control themselves!