There are two types of people around me, one is to see through love, but want to refuse and welcome. One is to understand marriage, but walk alone.

Sorrowful,

Nian Yoyo,

Ecstasy.

Don't bother yourself,

Just wipe the sunset wall around the head.

When you were a child, you used to think that sunlight is the brightest thing in the world, it can illuminate all the dark corners, so that you are no longer afraid of the unknown. However, when you grow up, you and I both know that human nature is the darkest, even in the days when the sun dances alone, the beauty you have fantasized about is also vulnerable.

I used a long length to describe the thing of love, not that I see love as heavy, but, this way stumbling and stumbling, most of the growth of the heart comes from the so-called love around me, or the love, hatred, hatred and warmth of the world intertwined with love, it makes your life no longer ordinary, but also makes you gradually understand the two sides of people.

Although it is one-sided and unscientific to define a person's good or bad with the human nature that is penetrated in life, I hope you can understand that wearing a mask to perform a drama for strangers is just a person's reaction to social stress.

Presumably, many people are like me, thirty years old, their marriage is still immature, but their hearts are old. Although some people don't like to admit that they have said goodbye to the age of marriage fantasies, although some people pretend to be beautiful on the surface every day, there is already an ocean inside. Just like the chicken soup for the soul that we often watch, no one cares if you are good or not, and no one knows, but the light you project in this world is star-studded or dim, but it can reflect your real life.

I was also a reckless child, who had no intention of competing with others, but I couldn't get over the threshold of loss in my heart. When I was in my teens, I longed for a life like that, maybe there were no flowers and applause, but I would have a sincere heart to gallop in this world, but the reality was not satisfactory. Including love, after growing up, it was attached to too many complicated and dirty things, you stand in the corner, jump off the wall for fear of falling, and if you don't jump into the sky, it will be hazy, so too many people begin to criticize bullshit marriage and love, but that is arranged by God, a basic task that adults should complete at the right time.

In the years of ignorance, you ate a hopeless candy, and since then, you have lost your way.

This is a candy about all sweet and beautiful fantasies, sweet first and then bitter, which is the true feedback of most people's taste buds.

In a person's life, no matter how you go, the law of mutual attraction between men and women is a hormonal law that will not change.

Friend Little M is a beauty. The plot of the acquaintance with Xiao M is quite cinematic, so I won't mention it here. The reason why I dragged her out of my side as one of my judgments on love is because she represents a part of the people.

Xiao M's family is superior, coupled with his own good conditions, from childhood to adulthood, the men around him can be described as crowded. She is a casual person, with a big grinning personality, likes if she likes, dislikes if she doesn't like it, is outspoken, and falls in love and breaks up faster than young people nowadays, which makes me more disgusted. In contrast, I am like a nun who has become a monk, and when she asks what the world is like, she can only close the door and meditate by herself.

She has been in love too much, from high-ranking officials to rich sons, and then to ordinary people. Perhaps it was this rich emotional experience that made her see through the so-called love, so the most she said to me was: Don't have illusions about love, people are curious animals, and curiosity is the same once time passes.

I know what she says, but compared to her, I seem to be more like the silly Cinderella in the fairy tale book, full of longing for beautiful and perfect love. Little M later got married, and she married an ordinary person. The point that this man can capture her heart, to explain it herself, when she is old enough to get married, she is the same as anyone else, that's it.

I'm not a good girl, but I'm really a dwarf in action, especially emotionally. Compared with Little M, my love experience can be replaced with "o". In the best years of my youth, I met someone. Because there is no comparison, everything this person gives is good in his own eyes. OK, today, at the age of thirty, I can clearly see behind some unknown marriage facts, and I can pay tribute to everyone loudly, which is different.

This is not the difference between others and discovering the unhappiness of their own marriage, after all, happiness and unhappiness are also relative. Rather, after you mature and see this untouchable water moon, you will suddenly wake up, if you are a normal person with three views and can look at human nature correctly, then there is a secret behind those things you think are unsatisfactory, and there is a secret related to love.

Friend Xiao A, this girl is not easy to define, it is not ordinary to say that it is ordinary, and it is inconspicuous to say that it is not ordinary and thrown into the pile. But Xiao A has a good personality, which is something that all friends can see. Xiao A also has a shining point, that is, he is more talented. She was born into a family of educators, and according to herself, she was never in a relationship until she graduated from college. Later, I found a person, this person actually has a certain gap with Xiao A in terms of family background, knowledge and communication. It's a pity that Xiao A is a typical victim who is deceived by "all the same".

Once, Xiao A came to talk to me, and when she talked about her feelings, she didn't cry, but her eyes were empty. She told me she was getting a divorce. I wasn't surprised by this result, but asked her lightly: "Have you thought about it?" She looked at me and nodded. She said that she once thought that everyone was like her, but later found out that it was not at all, at least, that someone else's husband was not enough to point to her nose and tell his wife that he was not interested in her, and at that time, Xiao A's child was 4 years old. When I heard this, I was stunned. Not interested? Hehe, that's interesting.

Xiao A said that a sentence made her start to ponder this pillow person, and as a result, the more she pondered, the more she thought about it. If, at the time of the initial union, a person is the driving force of action by an interest, she is no different from something, an object, or something in his eyes. A said that her husband showed a keen interest in many things, even other women. So, I can only blame myself for my bad fate, among the many interests, he chose Xiao A as such a prop that can prove that he is a normal person and has the ability to love a normal person, as a result, the interest may be a match, and he didn't wait for it to burn out, for fear of burning his hands, so he abandoned it.

Xiao A told me that she had checked these women that her husband was interested in, hehe, all kinds of women, loli-type, older than herself, short hair, bangs, full of big ballast, useless, etc., and these people undoubtedly have one thing in common, that is, they all have an attractive characteristic, and it just so happens that this point, whether noble or vulgar, is in the arms of his husband. Her husband has criticized Xiao A more than once for not making money, and has loudly counted Xiao A for not contributing to this family. I'm not a full-blown feminist, and if so, then her husband is probably already beaten all over the ground by me.

In fact, Xiao A is not useless as his husband said, what his husband needs is nothing more than that I am not interested in you, you can earn your money with peace of mind, so maybe I can look at you more. You can't make money, and I'm not interested, so what's the use of you? Hehe, this idea is indeed very inhumane.

I asked her, what else does your husband do besides making money? Nothing, she said.

I asked her again, do you know how much money your husband makes? She said, I don't know.

Then, I suddenly felt that I was very much like Ye Wen who Ye Wen had something to say, and when I saw Xiao A's confused living state, I really wanted to rush over and slap her twice. That's right, self-inflicted. When your husband says you can't earn like everyone else, why don't you ask him how much he earns? How much did he pay for having children? Did all the money he earned go to his family? I saw Xiao A's cowardly appearance, and I felt a little distressed, so I swallowed it back.

Imagine, if a woman is self-reliant, supports her family, has children, and has to be counted by her husband and is not interested, then what do you want a man to do? To prove that you have a home?

Do you have a home or not, and who cares? Hehe, this is the hidden danger of resentment buried by the current social situation.

Little A said that when her husband pointed to her nose and told her that she was not interested, she was desperate at first. She is not desperate that she has lost her love and marriage, but laughs at herself, ha, it turns out that she is the cause and end point of other people's interests, and it is also a living experimental tool for others to mobilize their own interests and hobbies. Xiao A said that she had countless impulses to get rid of the person in front of her, because, without interest, she hastily ended the cup she exchanged for her youth, but finally gave up, because it was not worth it.

I want to say that such a man is really not worth it. Putting aside love and dislove, the person who can say this kind of thing has a distorted and deformed outlook, and after the other party is 30 years old, his youth is not there, his youth is not there, and he has already given birth to children, he brazenly and ignorantly tells the other party that what is called not interested in words is no different from perversion. This is the ugly and dirty side of human nature. If you don't love, why didn't you say it sooner? When a woman has the best years of her life on you, and then you push off the cliff, it is not too much for this man to pull out five horses and divide the body.

Little A said that she no longer believes in love, because, panic. She would rather die alone with her children than give the other party any chance to insult her again. I agree. Life is very short, Xiao A and her husband have known each other for ten years. Since this kind of scumbag can use "not interested" to express his endless, meticulous, and unswerving love for Xiao A when he is thirty years old, then, don't say that in the next ten years, the next day, the next second, Xiao A may be swept out of the house at any time. She was afraid to continue to live reluctantly, and maybe one day her husband would come up to her with someone she was interested in, doing something that she was interested in, and said to her, "Hey, let's take the child and leave." I'm not interested in you anymore, I'm interested in her now. She is also afraid that if one day, if she meets someone she likes again, will the other party do the same, after a certain period of interest, suddenly throw her into the trash again like garbage. And these are undoubtedly the psychological shadows of his life caused by that man's dare not be interested. But what's even more outrageous is that her husband doesn't think so, and when he kicks off the cliff, he has to make enough money to pave the way for his next interest, which is the division of property.

Xiao A once said that his husband is like a complete person with split personality, with inconsistencies in appearance and inconsistency. When she said this, I corrected her: "No. is not a split personality, but an excellent good actor, good at using some distorted three-view theories to distort human nature, of course, such a person, while not thinking that he is wrong, will definitely not understand the extent of his harm to others. That's all. ”

I'm not Xiao A, I can't empathize with Xiao A's experience, but I feel that the sentence "It's all the same" from others has hurt how many boys and girls with love dreams have been harmed.

Xiao A's husband, this kind of person with distorted views, is not uncommon in this society, too many people are high-sounding on the surface, but behind the scenes they have a dirty heart.

In fact, I always feel that people in the 80s were still more serious about love. There is no shortage of true love in this world, but unfortunately, it has not been met by the angels around me.

Too many post-80s generations are living a forbearant life in marriage, there are men and women, their original intentions may be different, but the degree of pain is the same. The post-60s and post-70s generations seem to have most of their hearts dead, and only the post-80s generations struggle between jumping and not jumping.

Love itself is a small boat, rocking and rocking.

Relax my heart,

Troubled times.

The love of the 80s, like a flat boat, wanders leisurely in the middle of the lake of youth, without a shore in all directions, jumping boat, must first be able to swim and paraglide.

You lie asleep on a lonely sail,

I rocked your boat,

Hey, wake up,

You look at the sky in the distance,

Leisurely clouds

Leisurely blue,

Leisurely love is in heaven and earth.