On June 16, 2008, Yahan sent a text message from Beichuan. She has been in Yong'an Town in Beichuan for six days, where the lack of water and electricity has increased heavy rain and mudslides, and she has not been able to eat a hot meal for several days, it is very cold, and there is still rain leaking in the tent...... After reading the news in the newspaper that there was an urgent shortage of psychological counselors, she resolutely gave up her plan to travel to Yunnan and rushed to the disaster area after giving a lecture from the Guizhou market. In all fairness, it's gratifying for me to do so, and the accumulation of so many years can be put into practice. If I hadn't broken up, I think I'd be with me.

She was my teacher in the United States, but she has always been my student in thought and life – she is not a very perceptive student! It took me five full years to get her to fully understand the meaning of life, which indirectly led to our breakup. A pair of lovers with opposite outlooks on life and values, no matter how many ups and downs they have experienced, will eventually go to a strange path in life...... Everything in the disaster area is compassionate, and I think what she saw and heard in the disaster area must have brought a great shock to her.

It's been a difficult love journey along the way, and Yahan will be an eternal pain in my life, but that is my choice, and I think I should pay for it; The same is true for Yahan. If she could know how to share the excitement of life with the most important half of her life, perhaps, it wouldn't be like this...... Actually, these have nothing to do with Meilu, but Meilu magnifies this pain...... Don't Meilu people often say that Meilu runs a marathon at the speed of a sprint, and Meilu is a condensed life? And so it was!

After a breakup, we all have to face our own lives. I had to face the harsh reality of starting from scratch and starting all over again, and she had to deal with the fear of marriage and the shadows of those childhood families in her heart, and we were no longer young. I believe that she will bring psychological comfort and warmth to the children who will live for the rest of their lives after the earthquake, and I believe that everything there will also make her think more deeply about life - no matter how good a teacher is, it is not as good as an unforgettable experience! To help, or to be helped? Who can tell?

I have been to Guilin many times, in the west street of Yangshuo, there is a narrow alley called Xianqian Street, I like to sit in the afternoon on the side of the alley called "if" bar, leaning on the railing on the second floor, while drinking tea, while condescendingly watching the flow of people on the street, silently thinking in my heart: "Who exists for whom in the vast sea of people, who stays for whom?" "If" has a lot of guest books, and almost every passer-by will leave a paragraph about "what ......ifs" on the booklet. I remember that on the title page of the 30th book, I also left a true confession to Yahan, originally hoping to see it when Yahan went after the year, but now, it has long been "the face of the person does not know where to go, and the peach blossoms are still smiling in the spring breeze". If there really is an if in life, then we will not be lonely.

True and stable love requires both sensibility and rationality, and it also needs to know when to be sensual and when to be rational. In this world, it is difficult to distinguish between truth and falsehood, and the most difficult thing to grasp is proportion, and the highest wisdom in life is between giving and taking! Therefore, the grasp of rationality and sensibility, and the right grasp of proportion, really require extraordinary wisdom and experience. First love is often young, and early marriages are often uncomfortable. People don't experience and don't grow!

Once the sea was difficult to water, except for Wushan, it is not a cloud. Once, I thought that many things had been burned in my heart forever, and I desperately wanted to forget it, revealing the scars of the past again and again. How can we forget the past? The more I want to forget, the more unforgettable it becomes. But life always has to go on, slowly, start to embark on a new journey, and find that there are different scenery on the new road. One afternoon many years later, my friend revisited the past, only to find that everything had long since faded like water, as if telling someone else's story - it turns out that time can dilute everything. True forgetting is not forgetting, but no longer feeling nostalgic!

The Buddha asked his disciples, "What is the most precious thing in this world?" The disciple replied, "In the past." Buddha shook his head. Many years later, the Buddha brought up the old things again, and the disciple replied: In the future. The Buddha sighed. After many more years, the disciple had an epiphany and replied: Now. The Buddha smiled, speechless. People in love always remember the past and think about the future, but they don't cherish the present, so love has become an eternal topic in people's minds. It turns out that love is an eternal topic, but love is not. Love is also depreciated, depreciated in the constant torment of two people! Only after loving can you know how to love, and only after you have loved can you know how to love!

Life is short, decades in a hurry, what is the love of our life? Wealth, achievement, freedom, family, health, or love? Everyone has their own choices, so the world becomes colorful, so the world has joys and sorrows. No one can accompany you through your whole life, when you finally leave this world, you must have thought of something, thought of those people or things that filled your heart with happiness or tranquility at the last moment, I think, that is the love of your life.

Everyone is climbing a mountain, but we can't stay at the top for too long, it's windy and we always have to go home. The joy of struggle is always the beautiful scenery that you can enjoy on the way to climb, and the joy of climbing to the top is only in a moment, and it is still those who have been in the hardships and dangers on the road or those who have encouraged and cared for us. A person's struggle is always lonely, because there is no one to cheer for you, no one to share with you, a person comes alone, and walks alone. No matter how great the wealth is, it will be exhausted, and no matter how great the feats will be annihilated in the dust of history. If there is only one minute left in your life, what do you think of?

Walking hand in hand with your loved one on the Parisian Champs-lined boulevards, or gazing affectionately at each other in the candlelight, or some other beautiful moment...... We always think that is the happiness we expect. Many people mistake happiness for happiness all their lives! Almost every Cinderella dreams of owning her own pair of crystal slippers and dancing with the prince in the castle. The fairy tale ends almost without exception: from then on, the prince and princess lived happily ever after! The story ends abruptly here, and I don't believe anyone else in this world can write a romantic sequel while life goes on. In fact, isn't this true of the myth of Meiluren's success?

Happiness is the waves in the sea, and happiness is the sea; Happiness is a beautiful scene in life, and happiness is life; Happiness is a period of inner joy, and happiness is a state of mind; Happiness is a beautiful note, and happiness is a chapter, the final ending! The waves never last, but the sea is always there. It's as if a sense of accomplishment is not the same as an accomplishment – living by an accomplishment, not a sense of accomplishment.

I remember when I was in college, Yahan wrote to me, she asked me the meaning of life, and I told her that I only want a wonderful life, no matter how long or short. Since I was sensible in 1987, until now, it has indeed been wonderful...... Although the review in the article is only a part of my seven years of beauty and beauty. Knowing who you are, where you've come from, and where you're going, this life is enough, so why force everything? Always have good expectations for the future, and always walk on the road of pursuing ideals, because there is only one life and only one youth. Never give up on yourself, and always live seriously in the present day. Whenever I experience a relationship trauma, I will also be suspicious and confused, but I believe that true love must not be far away. If you use one word to describe life, that word is "go", always "walk" on the road of pursuing ideals, I think this road will be wonderful!

Emotionally, maybe I've always had some kind of masochistic tendency, always thinking that I could redeem her and lead her life to the bright future, but after five years, I finally failed. When I gave up on her and gave up everything, I suddenly felt relaxed and felt that my life was finally starting to move towards the light. For Yahan, there is no resentment, everyone has to pay for their words and deeds, doesn't it? Once, just ten years before we fell in love, we were so appreciative confidants...... And now, we have finally become the most familiar strangers!

It is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes; Rather than Yuyao instead of Jiye, it is better to forget about it and turn it into a way. Today's Yahan has given up the Tianjin market to Beijing, and is still insisting on her beauty and ideals. In Beijing, she finally "had" a boyfriend who no one had ever seen, who was far away overseas, and who was not interested in Meilu at all, and was also pregnant, a boy, and the child had the surname Yan with his mother...... If you calculate the time, it should be time for the child to be born. Once she was so adamantly refusing to have a child...... I sincerely hope that she can grasp this "relationship", put aside the fear of marriage and get married early, truly understand the meaning of life, and get happiness in life as soon as possible.