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1. Alice's Cottage

My personal opinion:

1. Some book friends said that after marriage, the husband and wife should keep pace with the times at the same time, which is not wrong.

Then a book friend replied that it was not that Caohua didn't learn the style of the ladies and ladies in the city, but that Liu Xiaohu changed his mind at the speed of light, where did he give Caohua time to work hard to improve himself. I think this is also true, and he is not wrong Liu Xiaohu.

2. Some book friends said that in the face of a crisis in marriage, the wife should take the initiative to solve it instead of giving up easily, leaving a good husband to others. That's right, it's the truth.

But book friend wow, Liu Xiaohu has clearly sworn an oath:

I must marry my first love! If I don't marry her according to the flat wife, I can make the biggest concession!! Don't be embarrassed!!

In this case, I believe that there must still be women who have the ability to resolve this crisis and maintain their marriage. But, but, but, there are such smart and tenacious women in the world, and of course, there are also stupid women like Caohua---- she and Liu Xiaohu said "Our fate is over".

I think the reason why Caohua gave up her marriage and husband was not because of the intervention of the fish basket, but because she understood Liu Xiaohu!!

After this marriage, Caohua understood:

Liu Xiaohu is not a bad person (which is why she would rather discredit herself than save him when she heard that Yushi might impeach Liu Xiaohu), but Liu Xiaohu is not her lover!! Such a man, why is there any need to fight with other women for him?!

Caohua is stupid and doesn't know how to dress up, but Caohua understands the basic principles of life. This is why men like Li Rong and Su Jinnan, who grew up in women's piles, value grass flowers rather than fish baskets.

Whether in modern or ancient times, there are many women like the fish basket, and it is inevitable in ancient times.

However, women like Grass Flower are in the minority.

Even in a modern society that has become so relaxed and fair, women are disadvantaged in white-collar workers, gold-collar workers, and even blue-collar workers.

Look at the old and new women around Li Rong, think about the old girls in Su Jinnan's family, the number of fish baskets can't be compared with them, and her tricks and flowers all know in their hearts----- hehe~~, each of us grew up watching TV and receiving world information.

If you want to uncover the fish basket, you have to use the same brain to think about the same thing every day as the fish basket, I don't know how other female friends feel, I feel tired anyway.

Marriage is the effort of two people, when you feel that the other party can't get on the stage, it's best to lower your head first and think about whether you can get on the stage in everything, and be fair.

2. Chapter back

Men often say, my love for you is not spoken, it is shown to you by my performance. It's a question of gender, and it's also a question of how gender-induced personality tendencies manifest themselves.

Similarly, Caohua's personality is different from Song Yulou's, Caohua does things with her heart and cares about the people around her. As a modern traversal soul with "shocking" ideas, she has always been nervous about her thoughts, so she didn't dare to plant lotus roots by herself, and wanted to pretend to be Xiaohu. She has an insecurity about her thoughts and knowledge, and her low profile is to keep it from being noticed.

In an era of harsh restraint on women, do you think that no matter how much a woman loves her husband, the average person has the courage to directly say, "If you want to take a concubine, I will divorce"?

In fact, Caohua and Liu Xiaohu lack communication, and objective reasons account for the main factor - "Xiaohu and his wife are separated more and get together less for the imperial examination", you pinched your fingers and calculated how long they had been together? Before getting married, he was just a neighbor, and after he got married, he was busy surviving and farming, and he was busy providing Xiaohu with the opportunity to take the imperial examination. These hours are very tight and hectic, how many opportunities do you think she has to communicate? Not to mention that Xiaohu has always shown "I only want you" as a simple, straightforward girl took it for granted.

7L has a sentence that is right, they are not suitable, at least I don't think any character is necessarily bad, people of any kind of personality have the right to seek their own happiness and find a way to survive that suits them.

Take Caohua as an example, she hopes to live a simple life, for which she and her mother-in-law have run-in, and they can be regarded as agreeing; In terms of love life, she hopes to be a couple for a lifetime, which is really impossible in the old society, and when Xiaohu has no capital, she thinks she got it. I think she needs a husband who is mature, tolerant of her and likes her straightforwardness, and who has a common language with her in terms of love.

Because her hardware conditions are simple and not good at intrigue, her software requirements are single-minded.

I don't think she is emotionally inadequate, if you don't look at the essence of a person's feelings, only look at the appearance, then in terms of means and skills, Song Yulou's feelings are more paid, so she (temporarily) got it. If only this kind of sinister woman can maintain a relationship for a long time, it is an insult to the relationship itself.

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I've seen a lot of people say that the heroine didn't make positive changes in this marriage and won't dress herself, and I don't think that's the case.

First: In the early days, it was a problem for them to eat as a family, so how to dress up, it also costs money and takes time.

Second: After entering the city, how can their family not live in other people's homes for a long time, if they want to settle down and buy furniture, does it cost money;

Some people may say that money comes from the land, how long does it take for them to get the land, at most 1 year, this year they built a house, bought 2 servants, Xiaohu went to Beijing, do they have to spend money, oh, and the private money that Mrs. Liu secretly left. Let's ask them where they got so much money, as soon as they entered the city, they bought clothes and jewelry on a large scale, will Mrs. Liu give money, this money is in Mrs. Liu's hands, the original greenhouse matter, urgently need money, she didn't take it out.

third, she can't be a "woman" and can't take it out; can't dress up, dressing up doesn't happen overnight, didn't she also learn from Ah Yuan later? In terms of etiquette and human relations, didn't she also ask Mrs. Liu for advice? Didn't you also study with a booklet? I remember that during that time, she was busy with her studies and housework, which led to lack of sleep and almost fainted.

Fourth: Favors are outside, and it costs a lot of money to exchange favors, some people will say, if you give it to others, people will also send it to you, but this has to be sent out first, they have nothing, do you have to spend money to buy it.

Then let's take a look at Xiaohu, who became an official and had a salary, and the money was not used to support the family, but to support the Xiaosan family; The livelihood of a large family was lost to Xiaohua; And this Mrs. Liu also forced the junior who could see and couldn't use it from time to time to come in, and she didn't weigh her own family background, and she added a living person, so she didn't have to eat and dress, where did the money come from.

If you are a little flower, after you have paid so much for this family, your husband will add you a little little who is equal and put on the tip of your heart, can you bear it? If it were me, I wouldn't be able to stand it.

Opposition:

I really can't remember what to call it

But the reality is like this, whether it is ancient or modern, the heroine's attitude towards the previous marriage is indeed a bit negative, and she is also responsible for making it like that.

Besides, if you want to get the love of others without paying, how can there be such a cheap thing in the world?

If you want to live a comfortable life, you have to be more careful, and you must not think that you are high like Lin Daiyu and harm yourself for the rest of your life

I'm not saying that the heroine doesn't give, she has to give, but that's the payment as a wife, not the emotional payment as a woman who loves a man.

It can be said that she doesn't care about her relationship with Xiao Liu, she hasn't exchanged feelings with Xiao Liu, except for farming with Xiao Liu, she hasn't paid attention to what Xiao Liu is thinking, she hasn't considered what Xiao Liu will react to when she makes every decision, whether she will be uncomfortable, let alone take the initiative to comfort Xiao Liu.

Yes, she makes money and is very thrifty, she has wronged herself and accommodating her mother-in-law, but she never reveals her thoughts to them. No matter how much money a person earns and suffers, can he ignore the feelings of family members as a matter of course?

In such a state as the heroine, not to mention in ancient times, it is not enough to retain a relationship for a long time in modern times.

How can you get a satisfactory return if you don't give enough emotionally?

I don't agree with the reunion of the heroine and Xiao Liu, they are really inappropriate. But I also feel that the heroine herself is also responsible for this failed marriage.

It's normal that the heroine is not perfect, after all, no one is perfect.

Two clouds of mud

How to say it, intellectually speaking, Xiaohua really loves farming better than Xiaohu, which no one can deny, otherwise Xiaohu will go with Xiaohu when he first became an official, and then Xiaohu persuaded many times before entering the city, it can be said that the fish basket hooked up with Xiaohu at that time, compared to the soft words and warm fragrance that are close at hand, and never completely disregarding other wives, really, Xiaohu is still a child less than twenty, emotionally immature, not according to his own interests, so, from the initial point of view, Xiaohu changed his mind, Xiaohua really has to bear the responsibility of a small half, as for the various concubines, you really can't ask people who are completely biased to keep their senses, he really hasn't thought about it from Xiaohua's standpoint, but what I want to do, what to do, and then find a reason for myself to feel at ease, and finally implement it, really, Xiaohu has the ability to act, but it is really not mature enough, and Liu's mother also belongs to the one who is kept in the valley.

The author concludes by concluding

There are about four controversial aspects of this novel, one is how to not be foolish and not be a virgin in the face of parents beating and scolding.

The second is whether marriage needs to be managed, and in the face of changes in the environment, the temptation of the outside world is where to go.

Third, for the sake of love, is it okay not to have dignity, Xiaohua is Su Jinnan's concubine, because it can not be discussed, thank you for telling me at the time, dignity is greater than everything, apologize again for me rashly throwing out that argument, apologize again for my ignorance, apologize again for my deletion of posts, I lost those essence of the comments, this is the biggest punishment for me.

The fourth is the relationship between the second-married couple, which is caused by Su Jinnan's nostalgia for his ex-wife and Xiaohua's anger at Su Jinnan because of Xiao Liu's cotton.