Probably there are too many helplessness in real life, so readers hope to have more emotional sustenance in the novel. The text of the female frequency is nothing more than the law of the heroine's victory, and the bad guys will inevitably be severely punished, and the so-called bad guys are the bad guys who treat the heroine badly.

I won't say much about this, I just read a book friend's review, and I think it's very well written, and I am deeply touched. The failure of Liu and Cao's marriage is not a one-sided problem for Liu.

Of course, from the heroine's point of view, I am very sympathetic to the heroine, and even when I saw Liu's actions, I felt very chilled and vomited. Liu's mistakes were shameful both emotionally and morally, and even in the social context at the time, they were not tolerated by legal reason.

But looking at their marriage rationally, is the heroine wrong? I think the heroine's fault lies in her inaction. Presumably, many book lovers will be angry.

Let's talk about the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship handled by the heroine first. No matter what kind of era it is, in our Chinese society, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal problem. The Liu family's earlier background was, to put it bluntly, a landed phoenix, and Liu Xiaohu was a complete phoenix man.

Please note here that Liu Xiaohu is not Mrs. Liu's own child, this is separated by a layer of belly, and the heart has been separated by a layer, Mrs. Liu is good to Liu Xiaohu, in addition to family affection, there is also a deeper spiritual sustenance - to keep the blood of the Liu family and revive the family business. So for Liu Xiaohu, she has strict discipline and connivance. If Liu Xiaohu makes a mistake, she will hate iron and steel, but even if she really blames it in her heart, she will not use real means. Scolding is not a means.

So it is even more difficult for the heroine to treat such a mother-in-law. The Liu family was in trouble in Caojia Village, and the Cao family, as a neighbor, is very helpful to the Liu family, in fact, this kind of kindness is not impossible to use in the marriage between Liu and Cao (don't ask me how to use it, this is to see the wisdom and means of women). In the marriage between Liu and Cao, Cao also escaped the misfortune of marrying a fool through marriage. In the origin of this marriage, Liu and Cao have their own starting points, fait accompli, and there is no need to talk about it anymore.

It depends on how Cao gets along with Mrs. Liu after the marriage is formed. In Mrs. Liu's eyes, Cao is not worthy of Liu Xiaohu's classmates at all. For example, Cao doesn't understand women's rings, and so on.

Please note here that most modern people will think that the books of female precepts and female rules are the poison of feudal society that stifles the dignity of women, so women who travel to ancient times, who are a little arrogant or sensible, will not read these books.

But how many modern women know who Ban Jieyu is, who Empress Shangguan is, and who Wu Zetian is. Of these three incredible characters, the first two are models of good women, and the latter one subverts Li Tang Jiangshan. Of these three women, the first two can still be said to please the male society, so Wu Zetian is a female emperor, do you need to be a little low? What is the purpose for which they write the rules for female rings? This is a very thought-provoking question.

So I don't think there's anything wrong with reading a female ring. And as a crossing woman, entering such a social environment, reading such a book does not mean blindly obeying, but reading, to a certain extent, should be beneficial.

So, what is the psychology of Mrs. Liu who punishes Sister Cao for copying women's rings? I think there may be many factors here, but the warning to Cao cannot be ignored.

In this way, we have to think about what I would do if my mother-in-law was dissatisfied with me in life and used some means to hint at it? Is it blindly pandering, or fighting, or vanity and wrongdoing?

Sister Cao here, I think, caters to the void and the snake more. For her mother-in-law, the means adopted by the heroine are mostly pretending to be stupid and pretending to be stupid. There is respect in it, but this kind of respect is mostly out of respect for a hard-working woman, Liu Aiwu and Wu. In the heroine's heart, Mrs. Liu is a good person, but how to make a good law, right or not, Sister Cao's own appetite, is another statement.

We can see that in the process of getting along with Sister Cao and Mrs. Liu, there is some flattery, but more often, she is pretending to be stupid. For example, she will say: Mother-in-law, you know how I am how to D, so how to D this kind of thing. Showing weakness to avoid the edge is a means that we will also use in reality. Of course, this method is very effective when used skillfully, but if it is used too much, it is not the same thing.

Sister Cao's method, Mrs. Liu is helpless. Presumably, although Mrs. Liu doesn't look down on the heroine, she also knows that she is good, so the heroine repeatedly uses this means to escape her mother-in-law's blame, and Mrs. Liu mostly lets it go. But when the number of times increases, this method will only make people think that she is not smart, or at least not grown. From the mother-in-law's point of view, this daughter-in-law is a typical example of repeated teaching, knowing that your mother-in-law dislikes you, what is the matter with you not changing?

Some book friends may think that the heroine is simple and lovely in this way, and those who know how to appreciate it will cherish her. But marriage is never a matter of two people. In the course of a marriage, both husband and wife need to constantly change and improve. It is not cowardice to back down and change yourself. At least for the success of the marriage, it should be necessary and worth the effort.

How to make a daughter-in-law who makes Mrs. Liu like, this question, I think the heroine is a clear failure.

Of course, some book friends will definitely say that even if the heroine does it, Mrs. Liu will also let Liu Xiaohu take a concubine. But these are two different things, and I don't express this, I just hope that some friends will understand.

Let's talk about Liu Xiaohu's career, what happened after Sister Cao moved.

In reality, in many instances of abandoning bad wives, the most common sentence of men is "I have no common language with you". Why does Liu Xiaohu keep thinking about the fish basket in his heart? is because the fish basket is everyone's miss, and in Liu Xiaohu's heart, it has always been the moon in the sky, beautiful, and unattainable.

The heroine is a farmer.

The marriage of the bamboo door to the wooden door has always been difficult. Don't talk about ancient times, let's talk about modern times, if you marry a rich man, you will definitely be troubled by your in-laws, and people will look down on them from the bottom of their hearts. Don't say much, just say that the man buys a house and a car, and if the woman can't even get a little decoration money, she will be gossiped about by her in-laws.

Sister Cao's image is so bad that even Ah Yuan can't look down on a maid, for example, she doesn't even understand the basic beauty matching. In real life, not to mention that a husband is not an official, it is also very faceless to have a wife who dresses sloppily and messily.

To give a real example, in reality, the boss and the boss of the company, the boss is married for the second time, and he also abandons the chaff and remarries. Because of marrying her, the proprietress of the mother's family played a great role in promoting the boss's business. The proprietress is actually much younger than the boss, and she usually likes to wear casual clothes, and even wears shorts to work in the summer. Later, the husband and wife set up a five-star hotel, the boss became the chairman, and the proprietress became the vice chairman. Although the proprietress is beautiful and has her mother's family as the backstage, she still has to put on a serious suit in the end and go to work seriously for a meeting.

Liu Xiaohu didn't become an official, and before he was promoted, the heroine was farming at home, and it didn't matter if she didn't dress up. But when she entered the city and became the wife of an official family, how did the heroine behave? What kind of attitude does Sister Cao have towards Ah Yuan, who laughs at her for not knowing how to dress up?

At the beginning, the heroine's shameful smile on Ah Yuan was similar to the pattern she used to get along with Mrs. Liu. Later, under Ah Yuan's forcible transformation, it improved slightly. But from beginning to end, the heroine's attitude can't account for the word "initiative".

Things are constantly evolving, and so is marriage. No one will wait for you in the same place, not even couples have such obligations. Liu Xiaohu has made a fortune, learned to socialize, drank flower wine, and Sister Cao entered the city, do you still want to stay where you are? Not to mention that in ancient times, women's social status was so insecure, just now, as a woman and a wife, there should also be a sense of crisis.

The heroine used the peasant banquet to get the blue eyes of the official's wife, because these people had their hearts open and saw her advantages. But while there are advantages, can it be erased and cover up all her shortcomings? Her advantage is nothing more than a solid person. May I ask a woman, in a marriage, does she only need to rely on one merit to defend all her interests?

The answer is clear.

The crossing woman always shouts that if she doesn't take a concubine, she will take a concubine as she does, and how will she be a couple for a lifetime. But if you don't want your husband to take a concubine, how can you make him not take a concubine?

Some book friends will say, then Liu Xiaohu loves the fish basket, Sister Cao is sad, how can she live? If you can't go on, you will leave. But if in reality, my husband is obsessed with his ex-girlfriend, what should we do? My husband didn't cheat, and he didn't say what he wanted to do with his ex-girlfriend, but he still remembered in his heart, sometimes he would shout two sentences when he was drunk in his dreams, what should we do? Is it time to tear your face and ask your husband to cut out his heart and rip off the part that remembers his ex-girlfriend?

I think if I love this husband enough, what I have to do is how to make my husband worry less and less, or make my husband think more and more about me. If I love him enough and want this marriage to be successful, I will use a lot of positive means, such as making myself more beautiful, so that he can't take his eyes off. For example, let myself know more knowledge, which will help my husband's career and make my husband's colleagues like me. For example, please my mother-in-law and let her stand by me when my marriage is in crisis.

Of course, the premise of all this lies in the willingness to put in such an effort for this man. These efforts do not mean giving up or changing one's true nature.

It's a pity to say that Sister Cao is a failure in their failed marriage, as a wife, and she is not just consequential.

Some book friends believe that Liu Xiaohu's abandonment of Sister Cao is the beginning of his life. But it's a novel, and it's just a novel. Liu Xiaohu is still very young. Women are the best school for men, a failed marriage, a gray past, will young men learn from it and thus be better for their next woman? At least I know that modern men are not so easily slumped in love. I don't think any woman wants to go to the trouble of making a good man and then let other women benefit.

Liu Xiaohu gave up Sister Cao, Sister Cao may have her brilliant tomorrow, but it does not mean that Liu Xiaohu has no chance of happiness. Of course, I am not the author, and there is no way to decide the future of Liu Xiaohu.

Let's talk about Liu Xiaohu's career, what happened after Sister Cao moved.

In reality, in many instances of abandoning bad wives, the most common sentence of men is "I have no common language with you". Why does Liu Xiaohu keep thinking about the fish basket in his heart? is because the fish basket is everyone's miss, and in Liu Xiaohu's heart, it has always been the moon in the sky, beautiful, and unattainable.

The heroine is a farmer.

The marriage of the bamboo door to the wooden door has always been difficult. Don't talk about ancient times, let's talk about modern times, if you marry a rich man, you will definitely be troubled by your in-laws, and people will look down on them from the bottom of their hearts. Don't say much, just say that the man buys a house and a car, and if the woman can't even get a little decoration money, she will be gossiped about by her in-laws.

Sister Cao's image is so bad that even Ah Yuan can't look down on a maid, for example, she doesn't even understand the basic beauty matching. In real life, not to mention that a husband is not an official, it is also very faceless to have a wife who dresses sloppily and messily.

To give a real example, in reality, the boss and the boss of the company, the boss is married for the second time, and he also abandons the chaff and remarries. Because of marrying her, the proprietress of the mother's family played a great role in promoting the boss's business. The proprietress is actually much younger than the boss, and she usually likes to wear casual clothes, and even wears shorts to work in the summer. Later, the husband and wife set up a five-star hotel, the boss became the chairman, and the proprietress became the vice chairman. Although the proprietress is beautiful and has her mother's family as the backstage, she still has to put on a serious suit in the end and go to work seriously for a meeting.

Liu Xiaohu didn't become an official, and before he was promoted, the heroine was farming at home, and it didn't matter if she didn't dress up. But when she entered the city and became the wife of an official family, how did the heroine behave? What kind of attitude does Sister Cao have towards Ah Yuan, who laughs at her for not knowing how to dress up?

At the beginning, the heroine's shameful smile on Ah Yuan was similar to the pattern she used to get along with Mrs. Liu. Later, under Ah Yuan's forcible transformation, it improved slightly. But from beginning to end, the heroine's attitude can't account for the word "initiative".

Things are constantly evolving, and so is marriage. No one will wait for you in the same place, not even couples have such obligations. Liu Xiaohu has made a fortune, learned to socialize, drank flower wine, and Sister Cao entered the city, do you still want to stay where you are? Not to mention that in ancient times, women's social status was so insecure, just now, as a woman and a wife, there should also be a sense of crisis.

The heroine used the peasant banquet to get the blue eyes of the official's wife, because these people had their hearts open and saw her advantages. But while there are advantages, can it be erased and cover up all her shortcomings? Her advantage is nothing more than a solid person. May I ask a woman, in a marriage, does she only need to rely on one merit to defend all her interests?

The answer is clear.

The crossing woman always shouts that if she doesn't take a concubine, she will take a concubine as she does, and how will she be a couple for a lifetime. But if you don't want your husband to take a concubine, how can you make him not take a concubine?

Some book friends will say, then Liu Xiaohu loves the fish basket, Sister Cao is sad, how can she live? If you can't go on, you will leave. But if in reality, my husband is obsessed with his ex-girlfriend, what should we do? My husband didn't cheat, and he didn't say what he wanted to do with his ex-girlfriend, but he still remembered in his heart, sometimes he would shout two sentences when he was drunk in his dreams, what should we do? Is it time to tear your face and ask your husband to cut out his heart and rip off the part that remembers his ex-girlfriend?

I think if I love this husband enough, what I have to do is how to make my husband worry less and less, or make my husband think more and more about me. If I love him enough and want this marriage to be successful, I will use a lot of positive means, such as making myself more beautiful, so that he can't take his eyes off. For example, let myself know more knowledge, which will help my husband's career and make my husband's colleagues like me. For example, please my mother-in-law and let her stand by me when my marriage is in crisis.

Of course, the premise of all this lies in the willingness to put in such an effort for this man. These efforts do not mean giving up or changing one's true nature.

It's a pity to say that Sister Cao is a failure in their failed marriage, as a wife, and she is not just consequential.

Some book friends believe that Liu Xiaohu's abandonment of Sister Cao is the beginning of his life. But it's a novel, and it's just a novel. Liu Xiaohu is still very young. Women are the best school for men, a failed marriage, a gray past, will young men learn from it and thus be better for their next woman? At least I know that modern men are not so easily slumped in love. I don't think any woman wants to go to the trouble of making a good man and then let other women benefit.

Liu Xiaohu gave up Sister Cao, Sister Cao may have her brilliant tomorrow, but it does not mean that Liu Xiaohu has no chance of happiness. Of course, I am not the author, and there is no way to decide the future of Liu Xiaohu.

--------------------------------------------------------- from the phoebe ordinary

What LZ said seems to be reasonable, but it ignores one point: the country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to change, is it necessary for the heroine to change her personality in order to cater to her husband's family, in order to tie up her husband, and live the life she is not willing to live.

For example, you emphasized that your mother-in-law looks down on the heroine and says that the heroine is not doing well, but what do you say is good? Think that the heroine should not cater to coquettishness, but what do you think she should do? Change yourself according to what your mother-in-law said? Because she likes Liu Xiaohu, she not only has to cater to Liu Xiaohu's preferences, but even Liu's mother's ideas have to be completely copied? So when Liu Xiaohu and his mother's aesthetics are different, are you dividing yourself into two halves, half catering to your husband, and generally catering to your mother-in-law? Isn't that a monster?

Moreover, in the family life of the heroine, Liu's mother has always had a good grasp of the relationship with her son and daughter-in-law, and has not done anything out of the ordinary, and her mother-in-law has not had any key problems in the failed marriage. She tolerated this despised daughter-in-law because her son liked it, and later asked her daughter-in-law to put up with an old enemy concubine because her son liked it.

On the contrary, I think the heroine has a very good relationship with her mother-in-law. Regarding the women's ring, including the heroine's appearance, Xiaohu agreed, not only because of the heroine's hobbies, but also because their family conditions are not good, Xiaohu can't afford to raise a wife. Even if he became an official later, he didn't have the ability to farm by himself, so he could only let his wife go out. It is precisely because of this that Liu's mother also understands the situation at home, the hardships of her daughter-in-law and the goodness of her daughter-in-law, so she will always tolerate her. In the final analysis, Liu's mother can't look down on this or that, their family was just a rich "farmer" at the beginning, and her husband and father-in-law, no matter how rich they are, still like farming. Compared with those who really read books, especially those who are officials, they don't really pay attention to anything. It is impossible for a real eunuch family to let their daughter-in-law go out to farm.

As the saying goes, the economic base determines the superstructure, and the heroine actually supports a family, including her husband's career, which is supported by her, but she is not arrogant because of this, but has always taken care of her husband's face, I think this is not a bun, but a good person. Correspondingly, when a person has made enough efforts and made enough achievements, the waist pole will be relatively hard, why must people contribute money and skills to support you, and you have to be low?

Taking a step back, Mother Liu is dissatisfied with Xiaoyu's appearance, including Bu Siwen's farming, do you think that Xiaoyu just plays and perfunctory past, and can't solve the fundamental problem, but the fundamental problem is to let Xiaoyu be a person like the official's wife, not to mention Xiaoyu's character and ideals, let's just say that the Liu family is the basics of making a fortune, do you think you can do it according to Liu's mother? If the fundamental problem is really solved according to her ideas, Liu Xiaohu can't solve the silt field, and maybe the whole family will be exiled!

Besides, the dress and temperament of the bad wife, I think your accusation is very unfair at this point. There are indeed people in this world who are not talented in color matching, etc., I don't know if you have ever met people who can't compare to other people's aesthetics even if they work hard.

Xiaoyu has indeed worked very hard to improve herself, and Ah Yuan also said that she has improved. The so-called three generations learn to wear and five generations to learn to eat, this thing can't be successful in a day or two, otherwise why should the children of the family look down on the aesthetics of the nouveau riche?

Under the condition of her own ability, Xiaoyu is also constantly working hard, I can't see any difference between her and your boss lady. Even if you put on the boss lady in the suit and change your dress beautifully, won't you be suspended in the end?

When a man got married, this woman was so arrogant, and she didn't wear heavy clothes, could it be that when he got married and had a new person, the part he liked about women changed at the beginning? Become not just the environment, but the heart of a man. When he has better conditions to climb up through women, and more people flatter him because of his success in standing on top of women's hard work, he inflates himself.

From the perspective that the heroine can't wear clothes, I think Xiaoyu has made a lot of efforts and is quite effective, and it makes no sense to take this as the responsibility for the failure of her marriage.

Finally, about Xiaoyu and Yulou, I don't know if you didn't read the text carefully, or if you deliberately distorted the facts.

Xiaoyu, as a person with a big personality, supported Xiaohu wholeheartedly because of love and trust in her husband, and did not follow and monitor her husband, so it was very late for her to know the existence of Yulou. I don't know if in LZ's daily life, in order to maintain his marriage, he has already practiced the stunt of 0007, so he can know about her husband's extramarital affair for the first time.

But Xiaoyu obviously didn't, and she didn't want to live this kind of stressful housewife life all day.

When she knew about it, the news that her husband was having an affair was already well known, and at this time, Xiaohu didn't even tell her directly, if you want to say that you are an ancient man who can take concubines for grants, what can't you open your mouth? Rounding around the bush to find his wife's friend to tempt him shows that he is already weak-hearted, and he has to do it with a weak heart.

At this time, the heroine's husband is definitely not just "I didn't say what I wanted to do with my ex-girlfriend, but he still remembered it in his heart, and sometimes he would shout two sentences when he was drunk in his dreams", this paragraph you wrote is so funny, I really don't know how you read the text! At that time, the heroine did have a little luck, but when she came back, Xiaohu said honestly, "I have an affair, I not only have an affair, but also marry her back as a wife, you can rest assured, although you have the same status in front of the subordinates and outsiders, but you have a face in front of the queen mother, no one can go past you, not to mention that the junior is very kind, she takes care of your face and would rather wronged herself as a concubine and think you are the greatest."

Is there nothing this called husband and ex-girlfriend?

I think the heroine's biggest failure is that she is simple, very arrogant, and she is very naïve, selfish and self-aware when she doesn't recognize the essence of Xiaohu in details.

Of course, all growth is painful, but after pain, people do improve, and now that Xiaoyu has grown and progressed, she can see more clearly when she wants to come to the next man.

In the end, LZ In fact, men in ancient times were not so easy to fall in love, but no matter ancient and modern, if a man wants to gain a foothold in society, he must not only stand up to the sky by pleasing women, but also have his own career.

But a man who can be played around, has no political vision and political sensitivity, and relies on the contribution of others to the top position, when there is a woman lying next to him who only covets his wealth, what happiness do you think he will get in the future? When his happiness is based on his official future.

----------------------------------------------------------- from Zhanghui

(When I see such a review, I feel heavy, and I bow down again to thank you, I wrote this book with my heart, and finally realized the feeling of having friends from afar, thank you for knowing me and writing such a wonderful and profound long review.) ）