Chapter 142: Essay "One Hundred and Forty-Four"
I thought I met the right person at the right time, but because I didn't grow up, I didn't have a brain, which led to contradictions again and again, which made you angry, from the first time you were very angry and said that after leaving, I felt that I had to cherish you more, because only if I cared about it, I would be so angry, so excited, but I always didn't do it perfectly, every time I said, you said that our three views are different, which may have something to do with the environment in which we grew up and the environment around us, but since the first time you said my dressing problem, I started to pay attention, but I didn't pay much attention to it, and then after I came back from Wuhan, I seriously thought about it, what you said is indeed a problem, or a very real and serious problem, I decided to start slowly changing, accept your advice, and become a more perfect person.
Then when I decided that this life is none other than you, no matter how hard it is, I will not give up, I have thought more about some of the things you said, and know which I want to change, just like every time I make you angry, I always want to send a message, send a message, rarely think of calling you, and in the end I can't help but call you, and like you said, every time you come back, I don't want to have a meal together, and I will be done with it for a day, just like completing the task, I also know that you want to be with me all the time, even if it's like we say a word, It's good to just crook on the sofa together, I really know in my heart, speaking of this, it is true that sometimes it is a little bit of a hindrance to face, a lot of words are clear in my heart and not said, and a little reluctant, a few times I left you alone, really, now think about it, my EQ is really not high, provoke you again and again, but still don't say anything, let you sulk alone, quietly send you a message and wait for you to reply, stupid, stupid, I don't know where the problem is, I always think that I am not much wrong, which leads to your bad evaluation of me.
Today I saw an article called "Do You Know What Deep Love Is", there are two paragraphs in it that are well written, it is the deepest love, it is to respect the wishes of the other party, there will be no person who likes to be preached, a child, if he has to be negatively evaluated for everything, then he will be afraid to shrink when he grows up, and he will not dare to advocate for anything.
In our lives, too many times, too many people, feel that their opinions are correct, so they force their relatives and friends to accept it, and force others to do it according to their own wishes, only in this way, they think it is love and giving.
And those who want to respect their own wishes are selfish in their eyes. They don't know that deep love is to respect each other's wishes, not to hope that the other person will be what they expect.
The greatest hurt and rudeness is to go against the will of the other person and only to satisfy yourself. In fact, at the beginning, I also knew that you were a temperamental girl who liked to buy things, so I also thought about trying to change you, but some things like you said can't be changed, like innate, so some can't be changed, we can only choose to accept, and then think about you have your hobbies, why do I want to interfere, so I should change, just because I want to grasp our feelings, because I have more happiness with you, two people who have half common intersection and half complementarity.
The second paragraph is the deepest love, which is to still hold hands after a quarrel, and the deepest love is not to respect each other, not to never quarrel, not to have waves, but to be able to let go, continue to hug, and hold hands after quarrels, troubles, bankruptcy, betrayals, injuries, and dangers.
Everyone knows how to see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, but we all hope that others will experience wind and rain and we will only see rainbows.
The truth is: whoever goes through the wind and rain will see the real rainbow. So I hope that a quarrel is not to think about breaking up, but to think about some problems, which link appeared, of course my problem is not small, today the whole person is not in the state, I have been looking, looking for the voice in my heart, just like you said that you are really okay, and every time there is a problem, it is not to think about yourself, but to think about how to coax you first, I also think about coaxing you now, some problems do not want to be clear and will go to Fan again, but for you, I am true, But every time it feels like it's wrong, I always think you'll like it, but in the end it backfires.
I saw your Weibo at night, fever, back pain, really, I thought of calling you immediately after seeing it, and I also knew what to do if I called, but I just wanted to ask about your situation, I wanted to talk to you, I wanted to hear your voice, but you didn't answer, I was afraid that if I continued to call, I would block me, so even the phone. I can't even hear the beeping, I'm glad you haven't blocked me yet, I'm already thankful.
So I have to face up to myself, face my own problems calmly, and accept some of the problems you said calmly, I only hope that we can continue to make ourselves better and more satisfied.