The proprietress of the flower and bird market did not expect that her husband would take the initiative to lose at the end of the debate, and was successfully persuaded to want to follow her to the psychological counseling office tomorrow.

Therefore, early the next morning, the proprietress of the flower and bird market chose to make an appointment with the doctor very early in order not to affect her husband's normal work.

"This one is with you, it's delicious."

"I don't eat pigeon meat."

"It's not the parrot meat you sell, you taste it, it's delicious to roast." The proprietress of the flower and bird market followed her husband on the bus, in the last row, and wanted to open the pigeon meat to taste it, but she saw that although her husband took the pigeon meat, he didn't even look inside, and kept holding it, without moving a bite.

This made the proprietress of the flower and bird market lose her appetite in an instant, and it was not until they got off the bus that they talked again.

"Why didn't you eat in the car just now? It's cold now, and it's not tasty. ”

"You can't eat in the car, you can't be civilized."

"Then you eat now."

The proprietress of the flower and bird market was forcing her husband to eat something he didn't like, when she saw a counselor.

"Hello doctor, I'm sorry, it's too early, you didn't eat breakfast, it just so happens that my husband didn't eat this, so I'll give it to you."

The proprietress of the flower and bird market snatched the pigeon meat from her husband's hand and handed it to the counselor.

"No, no, you've been waiting outside for a long time, hurry up and come into the house, it's warm inside."

After listening to the words of the psychological counselor, the proprietress of the flower and bird market felt very comfortable even if she refused, and then, she took the one in her hand to her husband next to her, "You wait for me here, after I come out, you must eat both copies, and people must break through themselves if they live." ”

After finishing speaking, the proprietress of the flower and bird market came to the room she often entered, and saw that the psychological counselor inside had already put on a white coat and was ready to see her again.

"Your husband let him come in too."

"Forget it! He's just a lump of wood, I had a big fight with him last night, for so many years, he never really cared about me, I've always been putting up with him, I really don't know, how could I be with him in the first place, now that I think about it, my bowels are blue. ”

"Don't you like your husband? So you've been suppressing your emotions for so many years? ”

After the psychiatrist finished speaking, the proprietress of the flower and bird market softened, "I know that he is the most suitable honest person to live, but I also have people who appreciate it in my heart, but time has passed, many things have changed, I thought I could stay by his side for a long time, be his assistant, take care of him, but ......"

The proprietress of the flower and bird market suddenly stopped, and stopped talking halfway through her sentence.

"You have to trust me completely, don't be afraid to tell me something, I'll tell people that it's my work ethic and I'm not going to do that."

"Doctor, you are too careful, I can't get over the hurdle in my heart by myself."

"Normal, if you had figured it out yourself, you wouldn't have come to me today, you told me in the past that you came behind your husband's back, but I just saw that your husband came with you, but you treated him

The attitude is not what we usually think of as a harmonious relationship, two people are together by attraction, not like ordering a servant to do something. ”

"If I don't order him, he will brainwash me, and he will always let me come to those crooked things, and he will not let me come today, and he will say that the psychiatrist is all beauty, maybe the psychiatrist himself has mental illness, in order to make money, they will treat the patient worse and worse, and it is not as practical as his flowers and plants."

After hearing these words, the psychiatrist was not surprised, but calmly listened to every word of the proprietress of the flower and bird market.

"Do you know why I let you accept who you are every time you come?"

"I don't know, maybe I think I'm okay in all aspects, more than the upper and lower than the bottom."

"No, because everyone has to accept themselves so that she can love herself, and the first thing you need to do is to know how to protect yourself."

"If you pay too much attention to yourself, won't it become selfish?"

"It's not the same concept, let me put it this way, is chocolate delicious? But you can't eat every day, eat every meal, eat a big bowl at every meal, but rice can do it, that is, rice is like yourself, if you don't even eat every day, you can't take care of yourself, then just take chocolate, it becomes medicine. ”

"Doctor, do you mean that I should focus on myself first, and then everyone else? But he is different, he is my husband, not after marriage, two people become one person, what two incomplete semicircles become one, then there should be no secret, but after I told him my secret yesterday, I felt unhappy with each other. ”

"Secrets and ** are two different concepts, like you yourself are studying law, you should know very well that everyone can have secrets, you can share them with people you trust, and people who are like-minded with you, maybe you will be happier, but some **, even the people closest to you can't say, that should be your bottom line."

After the psychiatrist said this, he subverted the three views of the proprietress of the flower and bird market.

She continued to ask weakly, "Doctor, are you saying that the two of them should maintain a sense of mystery?" ”

"That is the most basic distance between people, let me say this, for a fruit that does not know what taste, everyone will want to find out, but for a fruit that everyone knows, no one will have such a high enthusiasm for it, freshness is very important for people, like the new and hate the old, seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, this is a perfect person."

"I probably understand, doctor, you are asking me to accept myself and others, but it is really difficult to keep my marriage fresh, sometimes I feel that I can't go on, and I have wanted to divorce many times, but in the end, I was controlled by my reason, I thought, who I live with may be okay."

The proprietress of the flower and bird market seems to have figured out some things after listening to the psychiatrist, and enlightened her heart, maybe the real purpose of finding a psychiatrist is this, not what she can treat the patient, but to give the patient the ability to heal herself.

"You also told me last time that you have a favorite person, but you disappointed him, may I ask what happened?"

With the psychiatrist's questions

, The proprietress of the flower and bird market began to talk about her previous relationship with Feng Feng, even including when she was a school sister in the past, she liked Feng Feng, but Feng Feng was with Xiao Chunyan, so she suffered from not being able to get him.

"Since you yourself know that you are now married and need to take more care of your family, then you should understand that it is impossible for you and Feng Feng, but you feel sorry for him and owe him."

"Yes, but I really made him lose a lot of money, although my husband said that there was something, he helped me carry it, but I understand too well, the money he earns every month is really not as much as I made when I was in Bixia Law Firm, and lawyer Feng Feng can't pay back the money, how can he pay it back."

"After I heard you say this, I know that you still like your husband the most, because the first thing you think about is not Feng Feng, but the husband who lives with you now, thinking about him, so this is the reason why you have not told Feng Feng the truth. In fact, love at first sight often loses to long-term love. ”

After listening to this, the proprietress of the flower and bird market seemed to know more about what really bothered her, not others, but her own demons.

"Is there a lack of communication between you and your husband?"

"We usually don't talk, when I used to work in the law firm, I thought it was very good, at least he wouldn't be like other lawyers' families, he would call the lawyer's family for anything, which he did very well, but now, the two get along day and night when they go to work every day, and they are still together after work, but they don't talk, which is very abnormal."

"In fact, he has not changed, what has changed is you, your vision is higher, you see the person you once liked, so you slowly began to dislike him, this situation is very common in married life, such as what we usually call the 7-year itch, and there is also a saying that the passion of marriage can only last for 18 months, do you know why?"

The proprietress of the flower and bird market shook her head, and the psychiatrist began to speak.

"People know that there are tens of thousands of cells in the human body every day, but the people you and your husband come into contact with are different, and the positive and negative magnetic fields brought to you are different, so the cells that are renewed are not the same, and science shows that there are now two timelines, which are about the time when all the cells in the whole body are renewed, one is 7 years, and the other is 18 months."

"Doctor, I understand that in 7 years or 18 months, all the cells in the human body will be renewed, which causes the gap between the two to get bigger and bigger, because they don't grow together and communicate with each other what they see and hear, so slowly there is a gap between the two, I think my husband and I are like this."

"You are studying law and have strong reasoning skills, but there is also a very important point, the two of you get married to make each other's lives better, not to make a mess of each other's lives, everyone has their own hobbies and interests, in the past, you may have fallen in love with him because of some of his differences from others, so you can't despise him because of your changes."

Every time the proprietress of the flower and bird market listens to the reason of the psychiatrist, she can understand it very clearly on the surface, but in practical application, she still needs to digest and run in by herself, not only with her husband, but also with herself.

The proprietress of the flower and bird market came out of the door, walked to where her husband was sitting, and found him empty-handed.