Xia Qianye: I basically have the same love and hate for you, I don't want to speak if I have thoughts and contradictions, and I only act according to my own judgment.

I don't mind if you don't tell me a lot of things, but a lot of ideas can't be exchanged, which is terrible.

After watching the anime "Lips of Glass", Chiba couldn't help but sigh: "The future cannot be rewritten, and it is meaningless to be afraid." And use it to encourage yourself.

On March 30, 2016, Chiba wrote "The Departure Point of Love".

"The Origin of Love"

When you encounter emotional frustration or feel helpless, you can think back to these two famous books - "Jane Eyre" (J Lu Junya n Zhao Shuidan Zhao Shuidan yr Zhao Shuidan) and "Notre Dame de Paris" (Notr Zhao Shuidan - Zhao Xinxiang Lu Junya m Zhao Shuidan P Lu Junyaris), they will tell you that no one can not love each other, no one can not be together, and what is the starting point of love.

Gone with the Wind, I used to admire this one, but I don't recommend reading it now, it's too esoteric and very easy for readers to misunderstand, and make people have a wrong negative energy view, mistakenly thinking that whether the couples in it should come together, or whether they can eventually come together depends on whether they are similar to each other. The reason why Scarlett can't get together with Ashley is not that they are not similar, but that they don't love each other, Ashley doesn't love Scarlett This can be seen at a glance, Scarlett doesn't love Ashley but many people can't understand, what she likes is "the ideal + in her mind and loves her at the same time" Ashley, please note that there are two sets of qualifiers here, one is indispensable, the difference between his image and reality is not big in her heart, but he doesn't love her, and this is fatal to her, So she doesn't like him anymore, why use love instead of love here, because conditional love (the other party also loves himself) cannot be called love, because the starting point of conditional love is for herself, not for the other party. No one will love others more than themselves, this is a wrong view, most parents will love their children more than themselves, and similar people should be together, which is even more ridiculous, love can even touch all the misfortunes in the world, people's minds are broader than the sky, isn't it even a little contradiction between the two can not be accommodated. If, you say these are just empty talk, then let's talk a little practical, impersonal and bustling and hurried urbanites may not feel it, but the countrymen in the village will definitely have some experience, every time you go home for the New Year, when you and your predecessors and the older generation stay together, that feeling is not very harmonious and warm, although you have a generation gap of the times, it is normal to be not similar, but you can get along very comfortably, because your elders are full of love for you.

Continuing from the above, it was mentioned above that Scarlett and Ashley are not together because neither of them loves anyone, Ashley does not love her, this does not need to be explained, Scarlett does not love him, she loves herself. Scarlett and Rhett can't get together because they are not consensual, which is easy to understand, Rhett loves her very much, but she doesn't love him at all, and she touches him several times basically out of interest, and because she knows that he loves her and can make better use of him.

In addition, there is another pair that is also quite difficult to understand, Melanie and Ashley came together because they have similar family backgrounds, is it because they have received the same traditional education since childhood, indeed, they are similar in all aspects, they can be regarded as confidants, there is no way to prove that they are in love or not in love, because they are the same person at all, Melanie is basically full of love for all the positive characters that appear in the book, whether it is her help and praise for Scarlett, Whether it is the comfort and encouragement of Rhett, or the trust in Ashley after hearing the rumors, or the rescue of the wounded in times of war, she has gathered almost all the good qualities of all women, such as kindness, integrity, and generosity, so there is no doubt that she loves Ashley. In the whole book, there are not many psychological descriptions of Ashley, so it is not so easy to see whether he loves Melanie or not, but we can see from the following paragraph that Melanie is his only spiritual pillar in this world, I recently mentioned in a long diary of reminiscences of love, love is care, there are three such manifestations of love, trust each other, accompany each other, and be each other's strong mental backing and spiritual sustenance, the "mutual acquaintance" mentioned here is different from confidant, no similarity is required, What difficulties and troubles can be discussed and shared together, under the premise that consciousness cannot be shared and souls cannot be compatible, there is no real mutual understanding. In life, a confidant can be expected but not sought, there may only be people who are similar in a certain aspect or some aspects, but there can be no exactly the same person, but as long as people can communicate with each other, they will not feel lonely, and they can talk about their feelings and experiences when they go to a place dedicated to discussing a certain thing.

Pulling away, continuing from the above, the following passage in the floating, it can be seen that Ashley is not only in love with Melanie, but also reaches the third manifestation of love. On her deathbed, she gave Scarlett the burden of caring for Ashley. At this time, Scarlett suddenly realizes that Melanie, who has always been thin, is actually the sword and shield that protects her, and she realizes for the first time that she loves Melanie. Melanie died, and Ashley felt like she had lost her heart, and like a child, he was more scared than Scarlett. So the two of them can be together because they love each other.

What is the biggest difference between family affection and love, family affection is often unconditional, and love is often conditional, what kind of person to find as a lifelong partner, similarity is not an important indicator, the more important indicator is to find a person who is willing to love yourself and will never change, and you can let yourself love each other and never change. For those who break up or divorce without love and without use value after understanding each other's shortcomings and shortcomings only based on feelings or reality, I can't understand at all what it means to have no love, it is just people's self-will, love or not to love others, that is your freedom, whether others love you or not, is also the freedom of others.

Originally, I wanted to talk about Jane Eyre and Notre Dame Cathedral, but I found that it was written, and it became a comment written by Piao, hey......

We tend to have a vague memory of the positive side of an event, but we are impressed by the negative side of an event, just as comedy and tragedy feel like it.

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