On April 15, 2016, Chiba thought: Hatsuyuki, no matter what you do to me, I feel that I am sorry for you, you should have a boyfriend or get married soon, so that I will be more painful, in order not to make myself feel guilty and remorse in the future, I don't want to have anything to do with her before confirming your happiness.

Chiba mocked himself: Is it good to be worthy of a life-saving grace with your body, look at you!

On April 16, 2016, Bai Shanrui recommended an article by Chiba "Why don't we fall in love anymore?" 》

I have a friend who has been single for several years, and recently watched a few love movies, and the girl was full of heart, crying and shouting to fall in love. I said this is simple, the world is full of men, there is always one you catch, right? Could it be that you have a crush on Wu Yanzu?

My friend said no, don't you think it's hard to fall in love?

What's the difficulty? I asked rhetorically, if you like it, you will confess, if you succeed, you will be together, if you don't succeed, it will not be difficult to find the next one.

You say it easily. My friend said that at first sight, I wanted to find a chance to talk, right? What if we can't talk together? If neither of them speaks, who will be silenced? With a common topic, it is necessary to think about living together in the future, is it another bunch of problems? At my age, most of the relationships are rushing to get married, I can't wait to get married, find that it is not suitable, and then divorce, right?

Oh, she's 27 years old, and her family has been urging her to get married for two years.

Really, I'm not going to fall in love anymore. Friend said.

At this time, I should generally go out and tell her that love is very beautiful, love is very warm, and if you like it, you should pour a bowl of chicken soup, beat a dozen chicken blood, comfort and encouragement.

But when I thought about her series of questions, I found that I could not say anything like that.

If you think about it carefully, there are a lot of single friends around, who are of similar age and similar circumstances, and their annual wish is to get rid of singles, but his mother's has never been realized. It's not that there isn't a person who "seems to be quite suitable", but none of them came together.

When did it become so hard to fall in love?

When we think about when we were in school, it seemed like everything was easy.

In elementary school, she has a good impression of a person, maybe because he is the class president and she has long braids, and in junior high school, she has a good impression of a person, maybe because he is tall and she likes to laugh, and in high school, she has a good impression of a person, maybe because he studies well and she loves to read. At that time, the world was very simple, not in a hurry to confess, not expecting to reciprocate, looking at him felt happy, every day fantasizing about whether there would be a chance encounter on the way to school, whether he would be in front of the cafeteria queue, and occasionally take a photo in the morning exercise, all red faces and hot ears, and the heartbeat could stop for two minutes.

At that time, it was easy to fall in love, secretly pass a note, talk at the corner of the stairs between classes, hide from your parents and write those careful thoughts in a locked diary, go out together to buy a head rope, and dare to hold a hand, fuck, those are heroes.

When I get to college, the matter of "falling in love" begins to be complicated, and it is increasing as I grow older. Freshman year, is he considerate enough, can he answer your phone when the whole dormitory team up to get a copy; Sophomore, what gift he gives you on Valentine's Day, don't care; junior year, will he accompany you during the summer vacation, and will he forget the good night text messages every day; In his senior year, he has no plans for the future, whether he will go abroad for graduate school or work, whether he needs to be in a different place, and how long he will be in a different place......

In the blink of an eye, the problem has changed qualitatively, how much does he pay, how much does he spend, where do we start our future life, when will we get married, can I afford to buy a house, what do his parents think of me, do I want children, how many ......

It's like learning to swim, as long as you don't drown at first, then you start to pay attention to posture, the posture is right, but also the strength, the strength is right, you have to pursue speed (to me is swimming, you don't want to be crooked), to the end, you can't go back and forth in the standard pool, you are embarrassed to say that you can swim?