About the girl's story, these few sentences are worth thinking about,

"The two of them couldn't say a few words a day, and when they spoke, they had conflicts. She didn't understand why he didn't have time to go shopping with her even once, and he didn't understand why she wanted to watch movies that weren't funny, weren't exciting, and didn't have a few lines in the whole process. Then the author goes on to say,

"It's not that I don't understand, it's that I can't understand it." It gives people a sense of helplessness after reading in vain, what is the use of saying this, and you haven't said the solution to the problem, why can't you understand it?

Because there are neither the same genes, nor similar experiences and feelings, it is precisely because of the difference that people need to have a heart, but if you can't say a few words a day every day, and quarrel when you speak, damn it, it is estimated that no one can stand it, imagine how a few words can achieve the effect and purpose of communication and communication!

It is estimated that what the speaker wants to express is not clear to himself, how can others understand and tolerate, not to mention that if he doesn't understand something, he should ask the other party what he should ask clearly, and if he doesn't understand and don't ask the question, how can he solve it by himself, which will only make the contradiction bigger and bigger, and finally he can't bear it anymore and scatters in two.

There is also a paragraph that mentions

"But if you really want to go on together, these have become additional questions, and if you answer correctly, you will get extra points, but whether you can pass the exam or not, you will not see these." In the last half of the sentence, the author does not clearly indicate what can be seen if you can pass the exam, I think it should be the willingness mentioned later

"Toss yourself with the tediousness and run-in of two people's lives," note the addition of the word "whether you are willing".

And as mentioned in the latest top log, when asked by others if you want to choose the person you love or the person who loves you, many people in life are stupid to think that you can sit back and relax if you choose the person who loves us, in fact, this is a very one-sided view, we want to choose not the person we love, nor the person who loves us, but we like each other's advantages, and accept each other's shortcomings, and each other is willing to fall in love with each other (willing to accept each other's meaning), and willing to live with you for a lifetime, these four conditions are indispensable, Otherwise, it is also a white choice, especially the last two.

The advantages and disadvantages mentioned here are relative, it may be an advantage for you, if others are not used to it, it will become a disadvantage, the disadvantages here refer to the other party who is the most intolerant of you, I feel that these four commas are separated, the last two are basically equivalent and the most important and the most difficult to do, this should be the specific evaluation criteria and indicators mentioned by the author to pass the exam, he just vaguely brought it over, giving you a general direction of thinking, but did not tell you what to do, My recent view of the golden mean is also quite disgusted, a thick book is telling you a truth, moderate is good, moderate is good, moderate is good, moderate is good, not extreme, but it doesn't tell you how to deal with specific problems, this is not with Buddhism

"Don't say it, don't say it, it's wrong to say it." What is the use of such a high-sounding, vague and hazy saying that is equal to saying in vain, giving people the first feeling that this must be a gentleman, pretending to be high on the surface, in fact he does not know anything, physics and mathematics must use models or formulas to describe and present the hazy, vague, and uncertain laws of the universe as much as possible, even philosophy and political science are like this, they will use exact language to describe a truth and objective facts, It's not just about saying something beautiful and intriguing.

As for what the theory is for, it has been said

"Practice is the only criterion for testing truth", it has also been said

As for who of these two people is greater in front of mankind, I will not discuss it here, but I will only say that there is no doubt that practice is constrained by the productive forces of the present era.