The Qian family has filled the Empress Dowager Liu with the emotion of both Shengyu and He Shengliang for many years, and the Empress Dowager Liu thought that it was because of the existence of the Qian family - because she was knowledgeable, weak and sentimental, and because she worked hard for the first emperor, so that the first emperor put her in his heart, and put the Empress Dowager Liu, who raised children together, aside.

Now according to Zhang Weizhao, Queen Qian, who is highly respected by the first emperor, seems to be glorious and favored on the surface, but she is also full of loneliness and desolation inside.

Isn't it a joke that I have been jealous and unwilling for so many years?

Empress Dowager Liu only felt that her chest was so tight that she could barely breathe. "Then according to what you say, the first emperor didn't favor Queen Qian much?" Empress Dowager Liu said from between her teeth.

"Pampering and loving are not the same. Pampering is, when everyone is hungry, he has a chicken, share one wing for you to eat, and other hungry people look at it in vain, full of envy, this is pampering. Love is, when he is very hungry, he has a chicken, and he would rather share more than half of you and eat less for himself than make you hungry. As for the others, he can't see them at all, he only sees you. You do the same with him. It's love. ”

Empress Dowager Liu was silent again. Again, it was something she had never heard before. She won't be able to digest it for a while. She remembered that in Nangong, the best food and the best cloth were all eaten by Chen Huaishen first. No one ever objected. Even when she was pregnant and had a big belly, she had to spin, weave, and embroider, just to change more meat and oil for the first emperor to cook a few meals with oil and water.

For an emperor, which concubine pays more for him, which concubine can please him more, which concubine he loves a little more, this is a matter of course. The so-called favor is to share some of the great power and wealth held by the emperor so that you and your family can benefit from it. In fact, don't talk about the emperor, it is a powerful family, or an ordinary rich man, who has several wives and concubines in the family, all act like this. It's just that the amount of power and wealth is different.

Now Zhang Weizhao told her that there is actually a man, not because she flattered and pleased him, so he gave her a gift, but because he sincerely hoped that she would live well and be happy, and voluntarily share everything he had with her. How is this possible?

"So," Zhang Weizhao continued, "if what you want is his love and loyalty, rather than more favors among the many concubines, whether you have a rich queen or not, you will not get your wish." Not because there are other women, but because he can't give and doesn't want to give. And in order to cover up this fact that he can't give and won't give, he will hint to you that I can't be nicer to you because of her. Therefore, women will hate each other, but will not hate men, and will not give up their flattery and expectations for him. ”

Hearing these words, Empress Dowager Liu felt a wave of sadness and anger in her heart. She didn't know why she was so angry, and she didn't know how to deal with it. In this world, the way of kings and ministers, men are superior to women, isn't this exactly the case? He is a king, I am a minister, he is a man, I am a woman, isn't it natural to give birth to children for him and find a way to please him? If you are always not satisfied, you always want more, you are greedy, you are arrogant, and you are disobedient.

However, there is always a big hole in my heart, and I want to grab something to fill it. If you want to go to the temple and enter the emperor's mausoleum, you just want to be buried with your husband, and you want to put the tablet with him to accept the sacrifice of future generations, what's wrong with this?

Empress Dowager Liu only felt that she had all kinds of emotions in her heart, rushing left and right, but she couldn't find an exit.

A wave of anger surged up: "Who allowed you to criticize the emperor so much? Are you so open-mouthed, aren't you afraid of punishment by the palace rules? She reprimanded Zhang Weizhao. It's all because of her, if it weren't for the fact that she said these disrespectful words, she wouldn't be so miserable and angry.

It is not surprising that the Queen Mother would have such a reaction. In his previous life, when Zhang Weizhao was giving psychological counseling to others, every time he really touched the core problems of the client, he would be met with all kinds of emotional backlash, and the client would subconsciously hold his abscess bag, afraid of being touched, because it was too painful and unbearable to touch. This is called "impedance" in psychology.

When it encounters impedance, it is normal. How to deal with impedance is the key.

In the counseling room, both the psychologist and the client are expected to follow the protocols, and even if the psychologist's analysis causes the client's resistance to react and cause him to be angry, he must not hurt and retaliate against you. Of course, there are some extreme cases, such as the client using a knife or a gun against a psychiatrist, but this is not the norm.

But now Zhang Weizhao is in the Forbidden City, and the person opposite is the Queen Mother, who has the power of life and death. Whether the Queen Mother will dispose of herself in anger, Zhang Weizhao is not sure.

However, she did not intend to kneel and beg for mercy. She felt like she was just telling the truth.

The Queen Mother saw Zhang Weizhao standing there with her head down, not like other palace people who knelt down to admit their mistakes when they saw that they were angry, and begged for mercy in every possible way, and the Queen Mother felt a little unable to get off the stage.

She knew that Zhang Weizhao was using her specific method to explain herself. She now almost knows what Zhang Weizhao's path is. It's just to tell some big truths, whether you like to hear it or not.

But today's words really made her so angry. If she didn't have a seizure, she couldn't even breathe.

"You go down for me, and let Xiangyu and the others come in and serve." The Queen Mother said angrily.

Zhang Weizhao went out as he said.

Xiangyu and Narcissus came in to serve the Queen Mother, and when they saw the Queen Mother's annoyed look, they guessed that the Queen Mother was angry by what Zhang Weizhao said.

Xiangyu and Narcissus secretly complained to Zhang Weizhao in their hearts, on the night of the first day of the Lunar New Year, wouldn't it be good to say something auspicious? Do you have to block the Queen Mother? It made everyone uneasy. I thought that this person was so ignorant of lifting, and when he saw the queen mother's appreciation, he stood up with his tail and didn't know how many pounds and taels he weighed, and sooner or later he would fall big.

Only Luluo is sincerely worried about Zhang Weizhao, and has the heart to wait for tomorrow to find an opportunity to intercede for Zhang Weizhao, but he is afraid that his own words will backfire.

Who knew that the next day, the Queen Mother still called Zhang Weizhao to go in to serve. said that he asked Zhang Weizhao to go in, but he was angry when he talked to her, Zhang Weizhao didn't go to comfort the Queen Mother, or the dead virtue of saying one thing and saying two things, Xiangyu and Narcissus saw their eyelids jumping, and they felt that the Queen Mother might not be able to help beating people a few times. But the Queen Mother didn't beat anyone, and after a few days, her anger disappeared, and she resumed her trust in Zhang Weizhao, and from time to time she had to talk to Zhang Weizhao alone at night. Xiangyu and Narcissus secretly admired it in private, I don't know what kind of drug Zhang Weizhao gave the Queen Mother? How can a female Taoist doctor and the queen mother have so much to say?

This is actually the charm of psychological counseling. When it reaches a certain stage of development, it is bound to touch the hidden pain in people's hearts. But if you have the courage to face this kind of pain, your mind will become more relaxed.

It's like a room, if there are too many secrets to hide, and many rooms have locked doors, the room will be cramped and closed, and the available space will become smaller and smaller.

If someone has the courage to face these secrets, to open the door, to open the window, to tidy up the belongings, to sweep the room, the house will be airy and bright, and the available space will be much larger.

Psychologists actually do this kind of work, to help people adjust and clear those painful emotions, so that people's hearts become transparent and clear.

This work cannot be accomplished overnight, and it is a long-term project.

Therefore, Empress Dowager Liu did not give up her obsession with Emperor Xian and Empress Qian because of Zhang Weizhao's relief. It's just that the pain brought to her by these obsessions is no longer so unbearable.

Because these pains were deeply seen by Zhang Weizhao. Being seen is like being illuminated by a ray of light, and people are not so lonely. To be able to see your pain means to come and share it with you.

Chen Youcong also knew that the Queen Mother was like a child, and she was angry with Zhang Weizhao every day. While getting angry, he always has to summon Zhang Weizhao over. He didn't understand what was going on between the two women, the old and the young?

He only saw that the Queen Mother this year was not like in previous years, as soon as she arrived at the Taimiao Temple to worship the ancestors, she would be depressed and unhappy for a long time.

She was angry and angry, and she looked very energetic. So it's not entirely a bad thing to be able to find someone to fight, Chen Youcong thought.

The third day of the Lunar New Year is the New Year's Day, which means to send the gods and ancestors back to heaven. After the New Year's Day, everyone in the palace was idle. Every day, I just drink a little wine, hang out, and chat, which is not fundamentally different from the people outside the palace.

Princess Renhe and Princess Deqing went to Changle Palace to play again. Now that the weather is cold, the princesses do not go outdoors, but ride twisting cars in the Queen Mother's Palace.

Fortunately, the Queen Mother's palace was big enough and the ground was very flat, so Renhe rode a twisting car to run around very smoothly. The Queen Mother watched it from the side.

The princesses' daily toys, such as the little jade rabbit, the porcelain doll, and the nine rings, are all from the hands of clever craftsmen, delicate and beautiful, but they are all sitting and letting them play quietly. Now with the twisting car, it is possible to slide back and forth, and naturally immediately let the princesses leave the porcelain dolls aside.

Princess Renhe rode back and forth on a twisting car, and Princess Deqing was anxious and wanted to ride. Princess Renhe hadn't ridden enough and didn't want to come down, but when she saw Princess Deqing crying, she went over to coax her sister and let her ride.

Zhang Weizhao remembered again that she had used to coax the simple animation of the little daughter of the shopkeeper of the grocery store, so she made one in the same way. It is bound into a booklet with a relatively hard paper, and a flow chart of the flower bud from budding to blooming is drawn on each page in turn, painted with color, and then quickly moved the paper to see the dynamic process of the flower opening.