Occasionally, I heard a joke about a girl who wanted to break up with her boyfriend and asked her boyfriend to eat in the school cafeteria.

The girl said, "Let's break up!" I want to change it! ”

Without thinking, her boyfriend said, "I don't say yes!" ”

The girl asked, "Why?" ”

The boyfriend pointed to the plate on the table and said, "I'm like this bun, you've already taken a bite and people are willing to let you change it?" ”

The girl was a little helpless: "What if you don't change it?" You're not as good as I thought! ”

The boyfriend continued: "If you originally wanted to eat the bean paste bun, but you took it wrong, and it was a vegetable bun when you bit into it, and you wanted to change it but couldn't change it, did you want to throw the bun away?" Let's make do with it! ”

I did laugh, but I laughed very helplessly, although it was just a joke, and it was a little sad to think about it. There is often such a situation between lovers, you may sympathize with the girl for having a pestering boyfriend, or you may praise the boyfriend's infatuation and not give up his love easily. No matter how we feel about that girl or her boyfriend, this relationship is basically coming to an end! Isn't this also a "joke" that we often encounter, and maybe it happens to us? Let's just end it!

There are many people who are asked if they want the other person to love them more? Or will you choose someone you love more? Many people choose the former, probably they enjoy the feeling of being loved and loved. But this feeling is very passive, and maybe one day the feeling you want will diminish or even disappear! So what do you do? Do you want to mess around like your boyfriend in a joke? You may refute me, you will say: I obviously feel that my boyfriend loves that girl more! After all, she's anti-guest! There are also many people who take the initiative of love in their own hands, but there are also people who will let their lovers get farther and farther away from themselves! The lover must be neither humble nor arrogant, and do not take it by force! Let go when appropriate, and occasionally hold tightly in your hands.

Falling in love is not a tug-of-war, you pull the marker on the other person's rope into your zone and you win! In fact, you lose, and the other party can't stand your strength anymore.

It's not that when you fly a kite, you keep loosening the line, the kite is about to disappear from your field of vision, you have also lost your lover, your love is too indulgent, the other party does not feel sincere in you, and leaves without looking back!

In this way, love also needs to stand on a parallel line, and love also needs appropriate equality, so that love will last longer. Relatively speaking, there will be at least no inverse proportion to each other's efforts and returns. No one is willing to give all the time without asking for the slightest return, will you accept it? Would you love someone like that? Maybe only a crush would be like that! But not all people are stuck in the whirlpool of crushes, are they?

Love is the self-evident expectation of each other, and each other's gifts will become like a rainbow.