Example 43 Brother-in-law with a difficult birth
(Thanks to Qingzeng Daoyou for providing the case)
Preface:
Let me first give a brief introduction to Qingzeng Daoyou:
Name: Wu Shaozeng, 45 years old, from Leting, Tangshan City, Hebei Province.
Good at Zhou Yi prediction, on-site feng shui survey, naming, and resolving all kinds of unhappiness.
He has been in the industry for 20 years, and in 2005, he took refuge in my Buddha, and his Dharma name was cleared.
"Qingzeng" is a fan "rabbit" a few days ago for me to introduce a fellow Taoist friend, chatting after feeling that this Taoist friend is very talkative, but also humorous, he heard the rabbit said that I have been writing to teach people to be good, but also willing to come to help, for everyone to provide a few cases for friends to learn.
Body:
I remember when I was a teenager, I was still a naughty and ignorant child, and I liked to run around after school every day to play, or move a bench to sit at the door and listen to the stories of the uncle.
At that time, I didn't live in the city, but lived in the countryside with my parents, and the living conditions were not as good as they are now.
In my impression, our whole village is almost a family name, the neighborhood is either an uncle or an aunt, the New Year is the most lively, go to relatives to visit the door, door-to-door can get candy cubes to eat, the days when I was a child are very comfortable and happy.
The next thing I want to talk about is an experience of my own uncle, which really made my uncle's legs weak and his face turned green. When I recount this now, I feel that my whole back is cold, as if there is always a yin wind pouring into my back......
My grandmother has a relative, who should be my grandfather's cousin, and he is a little related to my uncle.
Like in all the movies, on a snowy winter night, my grandfather's relative's daughter-in-law struggled on the delivery bed, hissing, and gave birth to two twin girls.
Finally the mother and daughter were safe, everyone breathed a sigh of relief, when the two little girls were held in the hands of the old man, the old man's expression stiffened, and the anxious expression just now no longer had half of joy, it seems that the old man didn't want his daughter-in-law to give birth to a granddaughter, what they wanted was a grandchild. Originally, I still had the last ray of hope in my heart, thinking that what was born might be a male baby, but I didn't expect that B ultrasound was B ultrasound, and the super image would not be wrong, and their family was destined to add two granddaughters at once.
The old man threw his granddaughter back to the child and his father, and his heart was extremely unhappy and planned to flash, even the daughter-in-law who had no merit and hard work didn't want to take another look, thinking that his son married such a woman with a bad belly, and the grandson did not give birth, but made out two daughters, how will the days go after this? If there is no way for our family to serve her in confinement, explain to her son and let her daughter-in-law take a break and go home. After that, I couldn't stop sighing.
The old man's son is actually very depressed in his heart, the idea of patriarchy in the countryside is too serious, and it is a very shameful thing for his daughter-in-law not to give birth to a son, which is equivalent to having no ability and cutting off his own incense, sorry for his ancestors. Coupled with the sighing appearance of his elders, he was speechless, and he couldn't express the bitterness in his heart. He only nodded silently and agreed with the elder's explanation.
Just as they turned to leave, they saw a red alert above the gate suddenly flash, and then a group of doctors in green coats hurried to the operation.
The old man's family panicked all of a sudden, and hurriedly grabbed a little nurse and asked what was wrong? The little nurse did not give a positive answer, but just told them to calm down and wait for the results.
The time passed like this, I don't know how long I waited, the red light went out, the door opened, and a corpse covered with a white sheet was pushed out, and the bottom half of the sheet was red and bloodstained. The doctor who carried out the rescue came out later, said some sorry words, and explained that the woman died due to massive hemorrhage, because of her own woman's physique, and she was born twins, so this kind of death is a normal phenomenon, not a medical accident, and let their family mourn.
Receiving this bad news, their family did not show much sadness, except for the man who cried for a short time and was sent to the morgue.
In our backward village, the medical conditions are also quite poor, and there are a few cases of dystocia death every year, which has long been commonplace, and people at that time had no sense of the law, nor did they think about more matters, thinking that people could not be resurrected after death, and they would be buried and buried. Besides, there is an ancient saying since ancient times: When a woman goes to the birth bed, she goes to the palace of Hades. She didn't come back from the Hades Palace, it was her own misfortune, and no one could blame her.
In fact, to tell you from the heart, it is estimated that their family does not treat this daughter-in-law very much, and the man does not love women very much, and he caught up with the birth of two female babies, and he was extremely embarrassed to cut off his own incense, and his head was too bad. It's better to die, go back and give away the girls, and then remarry a woman who can give birth, maybe you can give birth to a big fat boy.
The mother-in-law's family discussed it like this, and unanimously passed not to do any funeral, buried the woman directly, and reported a funeral to her distant mother's family, saying that she died in childbirth, and the mother and daughter died, saving the old nose.
That's what they think, and that's what they do.
At that time, there was no telephone in our countryside, so their family sent a telegram to the woman's hometown, and buried the body hastily without waiting for anyone from the family to come.
Originally, it stands to reason that when someone dies in the family, the body needs to be put on a longevity coat and parked for 7 days for worship before being buried in a coffin. And this family saw that the woman died in childbirth, and her family was 108,000 miles away, and she would not be able to come for a while.
The mother-in-law was reluctant to buy her a shroud and a coffin, wrapped a broken mat and dug a pit and buried it hastily, not to mention that the body was parked for 7 days, not even 3 days, and her maternity clothes for delivery were not changed, with blood, dirty, and buried.
After not burning a piece of paper, not a head or a piece of clothing, this poor woman disappeared from this world, and no one ever remembered it again.
A few days later, his family began to look for someone willing to receive the baby girl, and within a few days, the two babies were all gone.
This miserable woman, this pair of miserable girls, just scattered.
In the world, I have only heard of women and women, and no one has said that men are inferior to their wives, this is a society in which men are inferior to women.
After the man died of the woman, there was no sadness, and the girl gave it away, and she never missed it again. Within a few days, the neighborhood began to help him be a matchmaker again.
To say that this man's good life is really a good life, a single man with no wife and no children, but he is good at pleasing his wife, through the introduction of relatives, he quickly got along with a woman again, chose an auspicious day of the zodiac, the two of them pulled the certificate, and held a wedding.
Everyone's attention, the story happened on the wedding night.
My neighbor, my own uncle, also went to congratulate him because he was a little related.
Uncle has a good amount of alcohol, I got drunk that night, everyone congratulated me countless times, the hole room, and tossed until the second half of the night, my uncle's wine was almost sober, and the little couple was going to the cave room, everyone shouted and broke up, and each went back to his own house to find his mother.
At that time, there was no road, and my uncle rode his bicycle back, because it was a neighboring village, and it was not too far away.
Cemetery - the only way for my uncle to go back, to say that the old man is bold, without the slightest timidity, whistling and riding happily.
But at this moment, he saw in a daze a few people with disheveled hair floating towards him, he was shocked, his hands trembled, the handlebars did not hold, and his butt fell from the saddle.
The men in the cloaks were getting closer and closer to him, and he screamed in fright, and threw them with the handlebars and wheels, and most of the "things" disappeared, except for one who was still standing, unmoving.
Uncle's frightened legs were weak, and the strength in his hands was also "turning strength into paste". The handlebar could no longer be lifted, and he asked the ghost tremblingly, "You... What do you want to do? ”
She cried and said, "Don't you know me?" I'm your brother and daughter-in-law, I died very wronged, can you do me a favor? ”
My uncle is usually very bold, but he was already scared and almost paralyzed on the ground, squinting his eyes at her, but no, it was really his brother and daughter-in-law who died in childbirth, wearing a maternity gown, covered in blood.
Although it was the undead of his own family, after all, it was the first time he saw the ghost, and he still looked so terrible, and he asked in a frightened trembling voice: "Why don't you look for your man or your father-in-law?" Why are you looking for me? You... You... You're scared the hell out of me, you ......"
The woman said, "I don't dare to look for it, my father-in-law treated me badly when I was alive, always bullied me, beat and scolded me." My man doesn't love me either, and he beats me a lot, and I'm scared. Today is my man's wedding day, I am wronged, can you help me? After saying that, he began to cry.
My uncle didn't know how to reply, he stood there stupidly and didn't know what to do, and the fear in his heart made his mind go blank.
Just then, a tractor drove up, turned on its searchlight, and the woman disappeared all at once.
Only then did the uncle come to his senses, and quickly pedaled on the bicycle and rode back with the tractor, but he didn't dare to fall all the way.
When I arrived in our village, the tractor and my uncle didn't go all the way, they drove away, and my uncle turned a corner, and suddenly there was darkness in front of me (in the countryside, street lights will not be installed like in the city, and it will always be dark outside at night).
In an instant, the woman followed again, stopped her uncle from leaving, and said that she was wronged, and asked her to help burn some clothes and paper money for her, saying that she had lived a very hard life down there, and she had been entangled for a long time. My uncle couldn't walk, and he was already stupid and stood on the road.
In the middle of the night, there were few people in the village, and one of my hair was just in time to come back from visiting relatives in a neighboring village, and met my uncle, and saw that he was standing motionless at the corner of the street, so he said to him: "Why don't you go home on such a cold day, why are you standing here?" ”
When my uncle saw that someone was coming, as if he had met a savior, he dragged me violently and ran to the village chief's house, while the woman was also chasing after me. Panting to the village chief's house, I was dragged by him for so long, I was afraid and tired, thinking about a cigarette and smoking pressure to suppress the shock.
The moment he lit the lighter, the woman was gone. The uncle saw that she was gone, and the tight strings suddenly relaxed, and slowly collapsed to the ground.
Fa Xiao quickly woke up the village chief, carried my uncle to the back room and poured warm water to suppress the shock, and asked what happened, as soon as he opened his eyes and saw that all his relatives were in front of him, the tears poured out, saying that he had seen a ghost, so he told him about it, and he didn't dare to go home by himself. In the end, the village chief asked me to send him home with a few other people.
For more than ten days, my uncle was too scared to go out, I went to ask him what was going on, and when he told me, his eyes were full of horror, and then he didn't want to mention it again, and slowly everyone forgot about it.
I heard that when my uncle dared to go out, I went to the woman's man's house, talked about it, and asked the people of the family to burn some women's clothes and paper money ingots for her, hoping that her dead soul could let go of her grievances and stop pestering.
Their family was enlightened this time, and they did as my uncle reminded them, and I think they were also afraid that one day the woman's resentment would prompt her to come to their house to make trouble.
Until now, I haven't heard my uncle talk about any more incidents of my brother and daughter-in-law making trouble.
Friendly reminder: 1. Both people and ghosts must be worthy of conscience. When a woman marries into her mother-in-law's family, she must also treat her daughter as a human being, don't be cold, whose children are all meat that fell from her mother's body, you must respect it, you can't bully it, don't think that your family spends money to marry a daughter-in-law who enters the door, you can bully and trample on dignity at will, which is very immoral. A woman follows her mother-in-law's family, she will devote her whole life to taking care of a large family, a woman is not a working machine, she has worked hard for your family, and you must also have the right conscience.
My uncle's brother-in-law didn't pester her in-laws after she died, she only found a relative to help burn a piece of clothes and paper money, and she was satisfied. Others did so, and she really didn't bother again, and it can be said that this ghost really has a conscience.
2. In fact, although people and ghosts have different paths, they all live in this world, and the retribution for good and evil is not bad at all, so don't violate your conscience
3. People live in the world, do not seek to become immortals and become Buddhas, filial piety to parents, parenting, brotherhood, and do not ignore conscience.
4. Husband and wife are the fate of several lifetimes, the fate is scattered, and the fate is gathered, to cherish it!
5. The human body is rare, people with righteousness are not afraid of any evil spirit, heaven, earth, people, gods and ghosts, there is an order, when evil thoughts arrive, evil demons are with them, righteous thoughts are together, and good gods are with them.
6. When people die, they should also be respected, and they must not be hasty and disrespectful.