a)

The conversation with Lou Cuiying made Wen Yuanfang lose interest in sending off guests, he just poked his head out of the window hole upstairs and greeted: "Third sister, third brother-in-law, fourth sister and fourth brother-in-law, you go slowly!" I'm feeling a little sick, so I'm not going to come down to see you off. ”

Recently, Wen Yuanfang will occasionally reveal a feeling of boredom and disappointment with the status quo of life. Teacup in hand, he stared across the window at a row of two-story buildings of unknown age—the ancestral house that his parents had given him in front of the window, which had now become a warehouse for his eldest brother's family to stack firewood, grain, and farm tools. He thought, "I'm afraid I'll never come back to live here, right?" This room of mine is given to my eldest brother. ”

He thought that if he hadn't joined the army back then, he would have lived a life of almost isolation like a few distant cousins. But due to his personality and ambition, he could not be content with the status quo for the rest of his life in this backward and isolated mountain village.

However, what about the life that I have struggled for half my life at the cost of my physical health?

Although he has a wife and children in name and substance, he is still a divorced bachelor in law; In fact, except for a few days when he was reunited with his wife and children, he still lived a life of feeding the whole family for most of the year.

As for the career ambition that he once saw as heavier than his own life, it was not as gorgeous and magnificent as he imagined back then, and it was even very different from his original intention. He thought that he had followed a bright road, and that people would soon be able to live a happy life of "upstairs and downstairs, electric lights and telephones", but he did not admit that the social situation was still the same, or even worse.

Take Tang Feng as an example, the village is still abjectly poor: power outages are commonplace across the mountain; The villagers can only eat a little chicken, duck and fish meat during the New Year festival all year round; There are probably very few people in the village who have a bicycle......

However, there is still a shortage of materials in supply and marketing cooperatives and material companies, and people may not be able to buy them even if they have tickets and queue up early. Every year, in order to purchase agricultural materials, the leaders of the Tangfeng brigade always have to ask him for help several times; After helping the village solve the problem, the villagers always thanked him......

As for people's ideological concepts, there is no trace of being transformed: whenever the peasants encounter a hurdle in their lives that they can't get over, they will still secretly run to pray to God and worship Buddha, and secretly run to measure words and fortunes; When people want to denigrate a person, especially a woman, they will still make a big fuss about the relationship between men and women......

'Huh!' Valuing to death is a small matter, but losing a temper is a big thing', valuing a woman's chastity more than her life, as if there has never been a more worrying thing in my Langyang Chinese people in 5,000 years than the loss of virginity of a woman. Isn't Cuiying's righteous words when she reported her little aunt just now a reflection of the mentality of this old concept?

Caring so much about women's chastity and treating it as the honor of a family or even a country, from this point of view, the feudal society does not favor sons over women, but it makes sense to favor women over men! He thought mockingly.

Thinking of the fact that he was proud on the surface, but in fact he was far from his ideal life, he couldn't help but sigh: "Alas, I don't ......even have a complete home when I get forty years old."

Indeed, where is his home?

His home is obviously not in the compound of the Commercial Bureau, nor in the Paitou Supply and Marketing Cooperative, nor in Tangfeng...... If he used to have a warm little home, then it could only be in Tongxin Pavilion.

He remembered that every time he rushed from Meichi to Tongxin Pavilion in the dust, no matter how late or cold it was, his Yuliang would come downstairs to open the door for him; If his stomach is empty, Yuliang will also make him a bowl of steaming tomato egg noodles or a bowl of fragrant egg fried rice.

At that time, his battleship returned to the "Tongxin Port" to repair and refuel. The day he went home was the day when Yuliang took a vacation, bought vegetables, made dumplings, and cooked a table of sumptuous dishes, so that he could change the taste of eating in the canteen and feast on it.

At that time, as soon as he had eaten, he would need to lie down in a motor chair or bed for a while to relieve the discomfort caused by a sagging stomach.

In addition to lung atrophy, his stomach prolapsed into another chronic disease in the army - the soldier's habit of eating quickly and often working at his desk as soon as he finished eating, made his stomach lose its elasticity and power over time.

After transferring to the Meichi Supply and Marketing Cooperative, he intensified his work time, which led to an aggravation of his stomach...... His body finally gave him an order not to do anything more - if he didn't lie down for a while after eating, his stomach would be bloated all day long.

Whenever he thinks of the pleasant harbor in Tongxin Pavilion, after every delicious meal, he lies on the motor chair and sets up Erlang's legs, closes his eyes and listens to a song flowing from his wife's delicate and jade fingers...... He felt that he had lived enough in this life.

However, the good times were short-lived! He recalls that his years of spending the full moon came to an abrupt end on that day when he decided to devote himself to the great social torrent. Since then, there are no longer all good things in his life, such as guzheng, romance, purity, stability, etc., but instead of sports criticism, factional fighting, fleeing, divorce and loneliness, deceit, and taking turns to play......

"It's been seven or eight years, the family is not a family, the husband and wife are not husband and wife, the family of three gathers less and leaves more, and there is no fixed place to live...... I could neither fulfill my duties as a husband nor as a father......

I either transferred the responsibilities and obligations of being a man to Cai Fuguo or Li Fan, am I embarrassed to call myself a husband and father?

The reason why I was impatient with Cui Ying's words just now was not only because of my extreme contempt for worldly concepts, but also because I was extremely dissatisfied with my current situation! Looks like I should find a way to end this terrible day as soon as possible. ”

Wen Yuanfang was in the midst of introspection when he suddenly heard someone coming upstairs.

(b)

The person who came was Zhu Yuliang, who was carrying a hot water bottle, and she was afraid that her husband would be in a mood again after drinking the hot tea.

"What was Cui Ying talking to you about just now?"

"Oh! She had a good team and got into a fight with a neighbor, and the neighbor injured her husband...... Cui Ying asked me to say hello to the secretary of the Xikeng brigade and asked the brigade to come forward to resolve the dispute between the two families. ”

"So how are you going to say hello? Are you going to Xikeng? Zhu Yuliang asked malicefully, a smile on the corner of his mouth.

"Hmm...... You don't have to go to Xikeng...... I wrote a note to the secretary of their brigade and asked Cui Ying to take it. "Wen Yuanfang is hesitant.

"Liar!" Zhu Yu's conscience laughed and scolded, and let go of her embarrassed husband.

Wen Yuanfang stretched his waist, rubbed his wife's soft and slightly cool hand and said, "I don't care about other people's affairs!" You're just in time, can you sit down and talk about your own affairs? Oh, what is Jingjing doing? ”

"Looking up the dictionary in the living room and writing winter vacation homework! The girl is cute and learning, and she is full of talent, and she will be like you are also a reader in the future! ”

"Hehe, like her mother's reading grades are not much worse! Liang, you will go after the New Year...... Is it good to get a remarriage certificate? Wen Yuanfang asked tentatively.

"Okay! I'm always available, it's up to you to have time, you're always so busy...... But if I'm pregnant, you'll have to find time to do it, no matter how busy you are; Otherwise, the second villain will be an illegitimate child. Hee-hee! ”

"Oh, I'll try to arrange an afternoon after the New Year to do this with you. You're not taking medicine now, are you? ”

"It stopped two years ago. The second baby may feel that it is not a good time yet, so he refuses to come! Zhu Yuliang said playfully.

"Just let it be! Liang, where do you think our future home will be? Chengguan or card head? If I settle down, I would like to buy a house so that I can have a home of my own, and the family can live with a baby. ”

"You buy a house? Have your own home? That's great! Zhu Yuliang said excitedly with wide eyes. Indeed, having a house of her own is exactly one of her dreams - with her own nest, even if something unexpected happens in the future, it is a hundred times better for the family to hide and eat bran than to be blinded by people under the fence, right?

"But where did you get so much money? Now that his savings are less than 1,000 yuan, what kind of house can he buy? If you want to talk about the living environment, I think the card head is also very good, not as many as Chengguan people. Zhu Yuliang said without worrying at the same time.

Then he slowly looked for a house in a few villages near Paitou Old Street, and bought it if he found a more suitable one. If I don't have enough money, I'll borrow a little from my two sisters, Cui Ying and other relatives to make up for it! ”

……

(c)

It is true that the couple has not sat down like this for a long time to carefully plan the development of the family, and this time, while no one is disturbing and there is plenty of time, the two decided to have a good heart-to-heart exchange in order to reach a consensus on many aspects. They chatted and focused on the issue of raising their daughter Wenjing.

Wen Yuanfang asked: "Jingjing's little hands are so bad, they are all mouths, why don't you take care of her?" ”

Zhu Yuliang replied: "Why don't I give her care?" She likes skin, but she refuses to wear gloves. Gui Zhi's sister-in-law's grandson queen seagull always asked her to pick Ma Lan's head together, and in the winter, she was blowing in the wind and digging in the soil, and it was strange that her hands were not bad! But as soon as the weather is hot, her hands will immediately return to white and tender. ”

It is true that in Zhu Yuliang's mind, since it has become a luxury to train her daughter to be a pampered and well-behaved princess, and this era does not allow pampered and well-behaved princesses to have a half-inch foothold, it is better to follow her daughter's nature and let her become her own king. Moreover, her mother Xu Guiying has repeatedly told her: "Jingjing's life is very hard, you must not screw her in the future, because you can't screw her." ”

So, Zhu Yuliang understood that in Wen Jing's growth process, she, the biological mother, could never become a protagonist, and she was fortunate to be a supporting role who was not eliminated by her daughter and was favored, pitied and respected by her daughter in the future.

Therefore, when talking about the concept of parenting, Zhu Yuliang said: "I think like this: if it restricts Jingjing from going to the river to play in the water, it is better to exercise her water nature; If she restricts her from eating snacks and glutinous food, it is better to let her eat enough of this food until she gets tired of it; She didn't want to go to Tongxin Pavilion, and I must not force her to accompany her; She doesn't want to learn Guzheng to practice abacus, and I can't force her to learn and practice......

Such an aura and stubborn master, since I can't shape her according to my own wishes, I can only let her develop freely according to her nature. I don't want to be a crumbling, worrying and annoying old hen all day long! ”

Wen Yuanfang: "It's right to go with her nature and go with the flow, and I never advocate over-protecting, but you still have to limit her snacking!" If you eat too many snacks, your teeth will also be decayed, and your stomach will be messy, and you will develop a gluttony in the future. ”

Zhu Yuliang: "I don't think so. Teeth and stomach must be protected, but just because you love to snack as a child doesn't mean you'll be hungry in the future.

I heard Jingjing say that when she was in Xiaoyizhuang, she never ate an apple or a piece of moon cake in its entirety, even if the snacks need to be rationed during the New Year's Festival, it is impossible to take it yourself if you want to eat it.

I know this, because my mother's family has a large population, and snacks are always in short supply - in order to hide some canned food and pastries, my mother needs to dig out her younger siblings, especially her younger brother Zhicheng...... Ha ha!

Therefore, after Jingjing returned to me, I didn't want to restrict her from eating snacks, as long as I could do it, I would satisfy her. I think that a person who was not materially satisfied as a child is more likely to become a greedy person when he grows up, and it is easier to become a person who sells his soul for materialistic satisfaction. ”

Indeed, Zhu Yuliang did not set limits for her daughter in terms of snacking, because she knew that a happy childhood was actually equated with eating good things.

So, when Wen Jing wanted to eat meat buns instead of eating at her mother's place, her mother would try to coax her to eat first, but she couldn't stand her twisting twice, so she would obediently pay for her to buy it herself; As for melons, fruits, pastries and other snacks, they are always available at home; There are also local goods such as dried sweet potatoes, fried broad beans, popcorn, rice cakes and fat rice cakes sent by relatives in the countryside all year round...... As for her favorite glutinous rice sweets, of course, no one competed with her, because her mother tasted it and her father was not at the head of the brand.

Wen Yuanfang listened to his wife's argument, but said disapprovingly: "When I was a child, I didn't have any snacks to eat except for a full meal, according to your logic, I should be greedy for snacks now?" But I don't like to eat snacks, I don't ask too much about what I eat! ”

Zhu Yuliang: "Some people don't eat snacks but are greedy for tobacco and alcohol, and some people always want to eat meat without meat, which is also a kind of gluttony!" Don't you also have your favorite foods? For example, glutinous rice dim sum, a few dishes I cooked...... Everyone is greedy, but your greed is not obviously reflected in eating, but in other aspects! ”

Wen Yuanfang: "Hey! What other ways do I have greed? ”

Zhu Yuliang: "Isn't greed for power a greater greed?" People are always lacking and greedy. When you were a child, your family was first bullied by the landlord's uncle's family, and then socially discriminated against because of your eldest brother, so you studied hard, worked hard, and desperately wanted to be an official, just to get rid of the situation of being bullied by people without power and power. Didn't your mom always tell you to get ahead?

Later, your ambition was expanded and sublimated, and you wanted to make all the oppressed people in the world raise their eyebrows, but you still did it out of a kind of greed! Greedy for what? Covet to be a hero, a saint and a great man, and a savior...... The so-called person has great ambitions, which means that this person has a much greater greed than ordinary people in his heart.

Therefore, it is not terrible for people to have greed and it is normal, but it is terrible for some people to harm others with peace of mind in order to satisfy their own selfish desires, completely ignoring the suffering of others......"

Wen Yuanfang sat up straight and looked at his wife in a daze, although he felt a little angry in his heart, he had to admit that her words were not unreasonable. Now, the only person who can talk to him unscrupulously and unscrupulously like this is his wife Yuliang. So, he nodded frequently and pleasantly: "Hmm! Makes sense. So what is your greed? ”

"I, I'm greedy for freedom, I'm making my own decisions...... I don't want to be in charge of people or others, I just want to be myself, and no one wants to force me to do things against my will. Maybe in my past life, I was at the mercy of others, so in this life I hate bondage and longs for freedom. Here! What is lacking and what is greedy is also true in me. ”

"Haha! Again, the theory of past lives...... I didn't expect my wife to be an anarchist and a liberal. You desire to be free, but you don't base your satisfaction on the suffering of others. Right? ”

"Of course! I have a bottom line. ”

After Wen Yuanfang heard this, he picked up his beloved wife and spun around on the floor. Zhu Yuliang smiled and shouted: "I'm fainting!" Hurry up and let me down......"

The two frolicked for a while, and then listened to Zhou Jiahong urging downstairs that they could go to the secretary of the Tangfeng brigade for dinner.

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