Parents are very important ~ Nala is a failure in children's education ~-

I think Wanning Shuning is so different now, and the influence of the Nala clan and the Tong clan on them is also very important sa~~~

I have to say that in terms of children's education, the Nala clan is far inferior to the Tong clan. Wanning has not been close to the Nala clan since she was a child because she supports the mistress, and the son of the big house alone is enough to make the Nala clan depressed......

First, Qingning's homework is half-hung water. It's not high or low, it's easy to mix up a position or rely on the shade of the family, but when Duanning goes to take the imperial examination, maybe Zhang Bao will also help, after all, it's his own son... But I believe that Duanning can get a good reputation without relying on the care of his family, and even Kangxi is praised for his knowledge, but Qingning will definitely not be able to. But then again, although the son's knowledge should be more controlled by the father, Nala will definitely supervise Qingning's homework as a mother, but it may not be as strict as it is. In fact, I think Nala is very loose in disciplining children, and at the same time attaches great importance to the good name of children.

When Shuning's family was still in Mukden, the Nala clan had to send Wanning's "invented" lace skirt to fight back for a novel little cloak made by Shuning, to defend the status of their daughter's granddaughter in the Earl's Mansion as the first smart. It can be seen that she is very proud of Wanning when she was a child, and she is very protective of her shortcomings. My children won't do bad things, only we can do good things, what if you Shuning sees the cloak again, we Wanning created a formal suit~~~. Nala felt that Wanning was precocious, and at the same time, based on her "short-sighted" heart, he naturally relaxed his education for her. For example, daily expenses.

After Duanning, they came to Beijing through Shunning (???) I don't remember exactly, it seems to be him... Knowing that Wanning spends money very lavishly, every time the silver is spent in a few taels or taels, and the cost of shopping together is worth the monthly money of her peers for a month or even a few months. Although she has her own extra money, being able to earn money does not mean that she can spend money wildly, especially since there are several children of the same generation and younger generation than Wanning, and her spending so much must be a stimulus for others. It doesn't matter if Shun Ning is mature in soul, but even Shun Ning (??? in the boy I am very envious, not to mention beautiful girls who love more (especially Yuan Ning... ）。 At that time, if you want to educate Wanning to be diligent and thrifty, you may be backlashed by Wanning and the old lady, but it is still possible to let Wanning learn to control her own Dala clan. But instead of letting Wanning pay attention to her daily expenses, she also acquiesced to her ways. From this and the other, although Qingning is not as smart as Wanning, as the eldest son, the Nala clan must also love Qingning. Although his spare time life is not as chic as Wanning, he should also take advantage of his own heart, and he can't talk about it, but it will never be practicing calligraphy or reviewing homework, which child at that age doesn't like to play.

Second, the son's casual attitude towards marriage. From the communication between Duan Ning and Tongying, it can be seen that the marriage of Tong and Zhang Bao has had a great impact on him, in fact, the life of the parents has greatly affected the way their children treat marriage. Nala and Jin Bao believe that they did not get along with their children very warmly, and she gave her son the unremarkable Li family, which made Qingning rebellious for a long time. If the Li family hadn't annoyed Qingning so much, Qingning wouldn't have been so "persistent" to Qiu Ju. For his wife Li, Qingning was bored at first, and later after Qiu Ju's incident, he felt that Li was considerate and cherished a little, but just because the wife was very tolerant of her husband and didn't care about taking concubines, it can be seen that Qingning's only concept of the Li family is to keep the family, not to stay together. Look at Qingning's concubine again, the first honey official, except for being more beautiful than the Li family and being able to sing small songs, she will only be jealous every day, and treat other concubines with ruthless means, and finally she was sent out of the house after making a big fuss, and you can imagine how much smoke and miasma Qingning's backyard was before leaving. Looking at Qiu Ju again, the reason why Qing Ning had to accept her no matter what was because she looked like his dream lover, so he treated Qiu Ju just to vent his unattainable regret for the beauty, not to cherish it, otherwise he would not be inconsiderate of Qiu Ju's weak body after the miscarriage and had to go to chuang with her to make Qiu Ju die. It can be seen that Qingning treats his marriage with a very casual attitude, whether it is a wife or a concubine, and he is confused, and he can even turn his face with his mother for the sake of a concubine, and he feels that his mother is very good and loving to him for the sake of the same concubine (Qiu Ju). He never thought about the warmth of the interaction between husband and wife at home, for him, the wife was the keeper of the house, the concubine was flirtatious, and the home was used to sleep every night, and nothing else. How can a person who has no concept of family have deep feelings for his family??? Qiu Ju panicked after she died, thinking only about the aftermath and not thinking about her affection. Because the Li family and the Nala family were done properly, they felt the kindness of their wife and mother. How can such a person who has no sense of responsibility for his wife or family be responsible for his career or other things??? In modern times, finding a husband, a sense of responsibility and filial piety are the primary conditions, which shows how unsuccessful Nala's education in Qingning is.

Third, the way of running a family. It was normal for Wan Ning to not have a systematic education when she was young, but compared to the Tong family's subtle little by little handover to Shuning, the Nala family fell into the name again. At the same time, Fengtian let Shuning start a formal school girl red, and in Guangzhou, he began to let Shuning get in touch with cooking and kitchen management - you must know that the food of a large family is difficult to manage, practice makes perfect. Back in the capital, Shuning begins to learn how to treat her subordinates (Tsukihe) and cultivate refined taste (decorating rooms and dressing up). These are more obviously deliberate. Potentially, Shu Ning learned some housekeeping experience from Tong in her daily life (Nianguan chapter), communication methods (flickering Wanning), and how to maintain the heat of love in marriage (for the new home Pavilion pretended to argue with Zhang Bao)... There are a lot of them, some of them are described by the author, and there are also the excellent performances of Shubao who has not yet appeared, for example, Shuwan's confrontation ~~~ The way of running a family is a very comprehensive thing, just like what was written in the chapter of Nianguan, not only the food and decoration that Wanning is interested in, but also the balance of the relationship between the subordinates, and the interests of other portals, all of which need to be carefully observed and studied. Ming Wuli Di Xi Chen went to the south to be an official, and he had to carefully handle the relationship with the people below, for fear that he would be accidentally rectified by them. What's more, the relationship between the people of the Earl's Court is now more complicated than simpler. Wanning has become thoughtful now, but it is only limited to how to get Sisi to notice her, and how to grab Yumin's future husband. In the future, whether it is marrying into the royal family or marrying other noble children, she will focus on competing for favor (perhaps it is too described, in Wanning's view, it is to resolutely defend her own pure and noble love), but the housekeeper is barely so-so, not only can not let her husband relax in the house, but also affect her husband's career outside (Mrs. Fengtian Qin is one of the best ~~~).

Fourth, in terms of the means of managing people, the Nala clan is also one section behind. The Tong family is very strict with the family, and there is no one who is mouthy, and Fengtian's Xiao Tao is an example. And Nala's family, she and her husband talked about Fang Ning's marriage, obviously it was a private discussion, and it should have been known to a few people, but it was quickly leaked out. It can be seen that the Nala clan is not strict with the management of subordinates. Wanning's previous girls were in Baoding except for the loyal Qiaoyun, and the current girl was not a trouble-free person in the first month, Tong's saw at a glance that "there is no girl who is more like Miss than Miss", but Nala didn't see it, or she could see that she was restless but let Yuehe be a big girl for Wanning. Coupled with Chunyan, the big girl in Fangning's house, it can be seen that Nala's ability to recognize or observe people (including letting subordinates pay attention to the character of the girl in the room) is not as good as Tong's.

Furthermore, deal with the relationship with the two-bedroom, three-bedroom, and four-bedroom. Although it shows that the relationship between the Nala clan and the second room is good, but among the children, it is obvious that Yuan Ning and Wan Ning are not intimate, and the Nala clan did not ask Wan Ning to pay attention to improving the relationship between her and Yuan Ning, one is because she is proud of Wan Ning's title of "Pearl of the Capital", and the other is because she thinks that the Earl's Court will definitely be in charge of her own house in the future, and the second room is starting no matter what, and it is not a problem to maintain a harmonious relationship on the surface. Moreover, when Sanfang was in Fengtian, the Nala clan sent Wanning's "designed" skirt to promote Wan and suppress Shu, and there must have been thoughts of suppression in his heart, and there was also a reason for wooing the Tong family later, rather than taking the initiative to improve the relationship. Sifang is in the capital all the year round, but Rong Bao and Shen don't live in the Earl's Mansion all year round in order to avoid suspicion, which shows that their relationship with Dafang is not close. As the matriarch of Earl's Court, Nala was not perfect.

In the end, the number of stages of the Nala clan itself was not as good as that of the Tong clan. Let's start with the concubines of the cuizi generation who were both stuffed by the old lady, although at first the Tong family endured it but suffered a big loss (the opportunity for Shubaobao to cross), but then the Tong family successfully controlled her husband's heart. And before that Cui He gave Zhang Bao as a concubine, there were no other concubines in the third room. Zhang Bao accepted her only because of Tong's production, which shows that their relationship has always been very good. On the other hand, the Nala clan, although the Cui of the big house (embarrassment, the supporting role in the supporting role is not valued by the bird~~) is obedient to the Nala clan, but Aunt Chen's child is already very old, so it can be seen that Jin Bao accepted her very early. Moreover, there is no feeling of warmth between the Nala clan and Jin Bao~~~

In addition, Liu Da has clearly explained through Shuning that the Tong family is the best among the three concubines, therefore, it can be said that the Tong family, as the mother of the family and the mother of the child, is far more clever than the Nala family~~~~ So Shuning and Duanning will be stronger than Wanning and Qingning, on the one hand, because Shubaobao is more mature than Wanning, sees the problem comprehensively, and positively influences her brother, on the other hand, it is also because Tong is an excellent mother and housemother~~~~ The family always has a great influence on the child~~~~~