Pity is a top-down feeling, and you can only be pitiful when you are in a high position, and 11 Compared with Qiao Liu, who is also a concubine, she is better than her beautiful sister and the daughter of a noble family, 11 In Xu Qian's situation, it is not too much to describe herself as too busy, so where does she have the qualifications to pity others?

I think this gap in psychological status is due to the fundamental difference between modern women and ancient women, and this fundamental difference is that modern women are self-reliant, self-confident, and equal.

One is self-reliance, a modern woman has received the same education as men since childhood, nine years of obligation, three years of secondary education, four years of higher education, in the face of the same social pressure, women and men have the same ability to stand on their own feet in the world, they can support themselves, and this self-reliance is giving women the freedom to say no power to things they don't like, unwilling, and not accepting, this right seems very common now, but in ancient times it was precious, even rare, ancient women were clans, families, and vassals of men, They can't be self-reliant, and they will never have the opportunity to taste the sweetness of freedom, a modern woman who was once self-reliant will naturally look down on the ancient women who belong to the vassals, which has nothing to do with wisdom and ability, but only related to the times.

At the same time, it is precisely because 11 is a modern woman who has enjoyed freedom that self-reliance and self-control of her own destiny have become the most basic and urgent pursuit of 11 in ancient times, and nothing else can be said until this point is achieved.

I think there can be a sign of achieving true freedom and self-reliance, that is, saying no to sex that she doesn't like, and being able to do so means that she is truly self-reliant in Xu's Mansion, and she doesn't need to be like this now, even deceitful and deceitful to avoid sex, which is difficult, maybe 11 will never be able to do it, but it doesn't prevent her from pursuing it like this, right?

The second self-confidence, which is an add-on produced by self-reliance, because of self-reliance, modern women can face anyone with their heads held high, and have the confidence to solve crises independently, while ancient women did not have such self-confidence, from the father, from the husband, from the son is not only the normative bondage of women, but also points out the three roles that ancient women must rely on in their lives, a woman who is dependent on others all her life, how to imagine that she can have the confidence to deal with things independently, so also when she first entered the Xu Mansion, Qiao Liu was eager to pursue a son and Xu Si's favor, thinks that this is the foundation of her life, but 11 is eager to make everyone accept her ability to agree with her as quickly as possible, 11 thinks that this is the foundation of her life, this different attitude determines their completely different styles of life, it is undeniable that 11's vision is wider than Qiao Liu, so she is still in a more advantageous position than Qiao Liu.

The third equality, the equality here refers to the equality of men and women, there is no equality between men and women in ancient times, but modern monogamy is derived from the equality of men and women, only by recognizing that men and women are equal, can we recognize that monogamy should be reasonable, and it is this point that draws an insurmountable gap between 11 and Xu Si, 11 regards Xu Si as a boss but does not see him as a man, not to mention a lover husband, the boss is a position, and our attitude towards male and female bosses will not be different, 11 has actually made Xu Si genderless, he is actually no different from Mrs. Tai to her, but one is the chairman and the other is the general manager, Qiao Liu will be jealous in the face of Xu Si but 11 in the face of Xu Si is only rational, calmly figure out the boss's psychology, needs, intentions, in order to gain appreciation and reuse, for 11 to be familiar with the road, because this is what she has done all her life in her last life, but these have nothing to do with men and women, love, husband and wife, this mentality makes 11 jump out of the entanglement of love, can overlook what Qiao Liu did, but it also caused her to completely isolate Xu Si from the door of her heart, if it continues like this, maybe 11 and Xu Si can know and respect each other, but it is difficult to know and love each other, how can Xu Si knock on this door, I am looking forward to it, but one thing is certain, if Xu Si does not put himself and 11 on an equal footing, then he will never be able to knock on this door, because if they are not equal, then 11 will not see him as a man, and love will be impossible to talk about and talk back, A crossing woman is really stronger than the ancient woman should be this kind of self-reliance and self-esteem engraved in the bones, not the so-called 2000 years of knowledge, at least I think I have more than 10,000 years of knowledge, I can't do Wu Zetian, now many travel texts are limited to more knowledge, that is the main theme of the male crossing text, but it should not be the main theme of the female crossing text, because modern women are not only knowledge, but also the qualitative changes after women's liberation.

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