After the applause stopped, Sun Xiucheng looked at the little girl's father and said with a smile:

"It seems that your point of view is very popular with everyone, although there are many people who support you, but I still regret that your answer did not really satisfy everyone, please hold your daughter, and then tell me very seriously, what is the kindness in your daughter's answer just now?"

After listening to Sun Xiucheng's words, the middle-aged man hugged the little girl very cooperatively, looked at Sun Xiucheng, and the father said loudly:

"I love my daughter very much, I value her ideas, so I can remember her points very clearly. The so-called good intentions are actually malicious intentions imposed on others, this is my daughter's point of view, this view is wrong, it is one-sided, don't worry, I will change my daughter's point of view in the future. ”

The middle-aged man thought that the reason why Sun Xiucheng asked him to do this was just to get his attention to his daughter, so he replied sonorously.

However, after listening to the middle-aged man's words, Sun Xiucheng couldn't help but shake his head and said with disappointment:

"You haven't seen your daughter's expression from beginning to end, your point of view has won the hearts of most people, so the applause just now was so warm, but I don't know if you have noticed that not a single child is convinced by your point of view, including your daughter. Let me remind you once again that today, which is one of the lessons in my series of lectures on intercultural communication, is the question of subjective will and feedback from the recipients, and now, can anyone tell me? What is Good Intentions? ”

Under Sun Xiucheng's gaze, everyone couldn't help but lower their heads, obviously. The answers of those people just now were very reasonable, but they did not satisfy Sun Xiucheng, which made these people no longer willing to express their opinions.

"Good intentions, do you mean communication?" The little girl in her father's arms suddenly asked timidly.

"Very good, very good, discussed for so long a day. Finally someone shifted the topic to ours. Sun Xiucheng looked at the little girl and cast an appreciative look. "In fact, we put together everyone's answers and we can get the answer to this question in the book. Good intentions are a subjective idea. The recipient may perceive your kindness. But it is also possible to mistake your good intentions for malice; Good intentions and bad faith are not absolute opposites, but rather have considerable similarities; The subjective thinking of good intentions is to impose good intentions on the recipient, and the recipient may like the good intentions, or they may reject the good intentions as malicious ones; Communication can help us solve this contradiction, communication can make it easier for the subjective thinker of good intentions to impose good intentions on the recipient, and the recipient is affected by communication. The heart of resistance will also become much weaker, and communication is a good way to get the best of both worlds! ”

After you have spoken your own answers. Sun Xiucheng looked at the thousands of people below and suddenly smiled slightly.

"Today's discussion of the topic of kindness is not that I suddenly want to be an educational psychologist, but the reason why I want to clarify the essence of kindness is actually to explain the topic of this lecture series, cross-civilization communication! I don't think that after what we just discussed, we earthlings went to Pandora to help them build schools and teach them to learn culture out of good intentions, so they shouldn't feel or even reject our kindness, right? ”

As soon as Sun Xiucheng's words fell, the people below immediately began to shake their heads, after Sun Xiucheng said this, it would be ridiculous if those people still thought that the good intentions of the earthlings and the aborigines of the planet Pandora should accept it.

Looking at the people below, Sun Xiucheng suddenly asked a question.

"As I said earlier, well-intentioned subjective thinkers want to impose goodwill on the recipient, I wonder if you have noticed? Now, please think about it, if you are a subjective thinker of good intentions, and you want to impose your kindness on someone, who may be your relative, may be your friend, or even yourself, how do you communicate with him so that the recipient will accept your kindness? ”

As soon as Sun Xiucheng's words fell, suddenly a person sang against Sun Xiucheng, and after standing up, he shouted loudly:

"Doctor, I don't agree with you, I don't think that well-intentioned subjective thinkers want to impose good intentions on the recipient, let's say, I never impose my good intentions on others. Please don't mislead everyone, kindness itself is kindness, kindness is a manifestation of people's kindness, I don't want you to impose your ideas on us, I don't want you to use your remarks to influence everyone's perception of kindness, I don't want everyone here, especially those whose values have not yet been established, your worldview has been influenced by you and become distorted. ”

Sun Xiucheng didn't mean to be angry about someone who couldn't get along with him, if he could make Sun Xiucheng angry for this little thing, it would be too much to underestimate Sun Xiucheng's self-cultivation.

"Very good, very good rhetoric, now, I would like to ask you a question, do you mean to say this?"

Sun Xiucheng did not directly refute this person's words, but looked at this person with a smile and asked rhetorically.

"Of course, I did this out of good intentions, I did it for everyone's good, is it possible, do you still think I did it out of malice? I am a teacher, I care for and value children more than you, the reason why I remind you is not that I have any opinion of you, but that I dare not agree with your concept. ”

This self-proclaimed teacher, speaking with confidence, although there are almost no responders to his remarks, there are not many people who want to see Sun Xiucheng's jokes, and his speech still received some sparse applause.

"Very good, very good, I will not comment on your point of view, this is a clash of our two ideas, there is no need to go into depth here, this is not a classroom of educational psychology, this is a series of lectures on intercultural communication, and now we are talking about subjective will and feedback from the recipients. You just Xuancheng, you will never impose your kindness on others, so I want to ask, what you just said, you are for the good of everyone, what is the purpose? Since you are not willing to impose your good intentions on others, the purpose of your words is certainly not to make everyone feel your good intentions and obey your point of view and oppose what I say. Since your purpose is not to impose your so-called good intentions on others, why did you say what you said before? (To be continued, please search, the novel is better and faster!)