In the consultation room, there was a small round table with a tissue box and a delicate clear glass bottle with a bouquet of lilies in it.

There are two sofas at right angles, one on a couch and one on a short sofa.

Often, clients sit on a couch so that they can lie down in a comfortable position and be hypnotized by the counselor. After all, the main feature of the Golden Wheat Field Consultation Room is hypnosis.

However, this is not a mandatory requirement, and visitors may want to sit on a short sofa. Sitting can also be hypnotized, not necessarily lying down.

"Please sit down," Ronan walked to the window, "do you want me to lower the curtains or keep them as they are?"

"So be it now. Liang Jiayi looked around and chose to sit down on the couch.

Luo Nan sat down on the short sofa, trying to make his posture as relaxed as possible without looking frivolous, leaning forward slightly, looking carefully at Liang Jiayi's entire face, and then staying near her chin with baby fat, only using the corner of his eye to notice the changes in her eyes and expression.

Both sides were silent.

Luo Nan didn't deliberately break the silence, this was time for Liang Jiayi to adjust a little.

After a while, he took out a soft tissue from the tissue box and handed it to Liang Jiayi, and said gently, "You are quite punctual." ”

Liang Jiayi barely squeezed out a smile: "I have always been a punctual person. She took the tissue, wiped it on her face and eyelids, and bowed her head in thanks.

As the curtains were drawn, the sunset shone in through the clear glass, spreading a layer of light gold on Liang Jiayi's face, and those tiny fluff looked extremely cute in the light.

After all, this was Luo Nan's first consultation, and he was so nervous that he was sweating and his feet were a little weak.

"It's your first time doing psychological counseling," Luo Nan's voice trembled a little, "Before we get started, let me take a moment to talk about the rights and obligations of both the counselor and the client. ”

Luo Nan elaborated on the principle of confidentiality of counselors, which is often the most concerned point for visitors, and other rights and obligations are brushed aside.

Liang Jiayi listened carefully and nodded "En, En".

"We know each other so well, I won't introduce ourselves, let's focus on you," Luo Nan eased up and became less nervous by introducing rights and obligations. He kept smiling, "Can you tell me what made you decide to advance the consultation?"

"It's nothing," Liang Jiayi said casually, "It's just that there is something on Saturday." ”

Ronan took a deep breath. He realized that he had made a big mistake: he originally thought that he and Liang Jiayi had several experiences of experiencing psychological salons together, and they were relatively familiar, and the consultation relationship should have been almost established.

But now it seems that there is still a long way to go.

Nowadays, various schools of counseling attach great importance to the establishment of counseling relationships, which is considered to be one of the factors that can play a decisive role in counseling.

Although Luo Nan has not yet decided which school of counseling method he should use, it is absolutely correct to establish a good counseling relationship first.

So he smiled and used the most universal sentence: "So what problems do you hope to solve when you come to consult this time?" ”

Liang Jiayi's expression looked sad, and she was silent for a long time before she spoke in a low voice: "I don't know, I'm just unhappy anyway." ”

At this point, there are two directions for Luo Nan to choose to continue to understand, one is to understand the extent and duration of the pain, and determine whether it is depression or anxiety, etc., and the other is to gain an in-depth understanding of what specific things caused Liang Jiayi's mood to be depressed.

Luo Nan thought about it for a while and decided to choose the latter first. He didn't have much consulting experience, he was completely crossing the river by feeling the stones, and he didn't know if his decision was right. The apprehension in his heart and the natural form made his voice sound unconfident: "So, what are the things that make you unhappy?" ”

Liang Jiayi's eyes were dull, but her body swayed back and forth slightly, her two hands were tightly twisted together, and even her knuckles were white, showing the agitation in her heart.

Ronan didn't rush. At this time, the client is thinking that the counselor should give the client a silent care.

After a while, Liang Jiayi opened her mouth and whispered, "I don't know, I can't tell." I am very annoyed at work, and my relationship is not smooth, and I want to hide in the quilt and cry every night, but the next day I have to greet people with a smile, so tired. ”

Sounds like a description of depressive symptoms. Luo Nan did not rush to make a judgment, and continued to say in a gentle voice: "I can feel this feeling, everything is messed up, but I have to hold on. What's going on at work that annoys you?"

The first half of the sentence is that he is trying to "empathize" with Liang Jiayi, and the second half of the sentence is "concretization". But whether this application is appropriate, Luo Nan is not sure.

Liang Jiayi hesitated for a moment, and still spoke in generalities: "All kinds of things." The boss layman guides the insider, the colleagues are intrigued, and there are some boring rich people who want to engage in unspoken rules, and what they see every day is unworrying. Sometimes I really regret getting into this line of work. ”

"You encountered a lot of difficulties at work that you didn't anticipate before, and you had doubts about your choice, right?" Luo Nan is still using "humanistic" communication methods, trying to build empathy with Liang Jiayi.

"Yes, that's right. ”

Ronan breathed a sigh of relief. It seems that the frequency has finally been found correctly.

Next, he continued to use small techniques such as "content reflection" and "emotional reflection" to continue to empathize, and gradually established a consulting relationship with Liang Jiayi. Although I made a few small mistakes and the consultation process was a little stumpy, the effect was not bad, and Liang Jiayi slowly opened the conversation.

In the process, he consciously guided the topic and learned a lot of Liang Jiayi's personal information.

For example, Liang Jiayi was born in the countryside of this province, 25 years old this year, and has a younger sister at home. At home, her sister is more favored than her, but she has a good relationship with her sister.

She has had good grades since junior high school, and later was admitted to the 985 University in other provinces, and after graduation, she returned to Shangyang, the capital city of Funan Province, and found a job that was not the right one.

She had never been in a relationship in college, and this boyfriend was her first love, and the two had a very stiff relationship for various reasons......

Luo Nan learned a lot of information, but it was like a lot of fresh ingredients in front of a person who had never cooked before, and he didn't know where to start. There are many things taught in books, and he has had many experiences as an assistant in psychological salons, but at this time he only feels weak and helpless.

Which line should we grasp and continue to ask? How should we diagnose Liang Jiayi's situation? Can we not do empathy? Is the relationship between the two members established?

His mind was full of questions, but he had no time to think, and staying attentive and listening had exhausted all his energy, leaving him with no other leisure to think about but to deal with it instinctually.