After everyone laughed together, Ding Yu gathered everyone to sit next to him, but there were many people standing behind, and they were all very close to Ding Yu, it was obvious that everyone had an extraordinary good impression of Ding Yu! But they all talk about the rules and don't mess up! Shows very good literacy!

"Uncle Ding, will the eldest sister leave?"

Wei Lai didn't have any greetings, and this question also attracted everyone's attention, and everyone held their breath!

Ding Yu looked around at the many children, and their expressions were a little nervous!

"After Wang An and the others came here, they set a benchmark for you, what about this benchmark? It has always been your goal, and it is also your motivation! But after I saw your situation, all of a sudden I wanted to discuss some questions with you, and then I would explain Wei Lai's problems! Who comes first? ”

Looking at the classmates sitting next to him, Ding Yu pointed!

"Uncle Ding, we have all made progress that is not what it used to be, why is this happening?"

"Originally, everyone envied the students who studied well, not only you, but even your parents were very envious of this, quite a few students showed great disdain for some students who studied well, and even some contempt, thinking that they were some nerds, who would not know anything except studying, right?"

Immediately, Ding Yu also looked at Wei Lai, "Wei Lai, it's you, you are the most typical representative!" ”

"Uncle Ding, I can testify! Wei Lai was a thorn in the coffin! Big thorn in the head! The child next to him also said coaxingly, but Wei Lai didn't have any anger or annoyance! Instead, he laughed!

"Uncle Ding, they are definitely envious and jealous, originally the family knew to tell us to study hard, or to find you a tutor, my God, they don't know what I want to learn, it's like stuffing ducks, you can't eat it, just pour it in! Who can stand this? ”

This time, many children did not laugh, but fell into a burst of thought, because the vast majority of children have encountered such problems, it is true that they have now become children in the mouths of other parents, but the past experience makes them unforgettable! After all, it has left an extraordinary impression in their minds, or it is unforgettable!

"Our parents all have a kind of hope for their son! The expectation of a daughter becoming a phoenix, not to mention your parents, I am the same, I am a father, a master, how can I not have such a mind, but why did I give birth to such a mind? I mean the vast majority of parents? As children, have you ever thought about these questions? ”

"Uncle Ding, is it because our parents are dissatisfied with themselves, or a reaction to their past regrets, they hope to be able to make up for it!"

Ding Yu stretched out his thumb, "From a parent's point of view, I'm shocked that you can say such a thing, which shows that you usually have thought about this aspect, not bad!" The vast majority of parents have such thoughts, relatively speaking, a considerable part of your classmates have not experienced too many difficulties, only a small number of classmates have more difficult family life, at least in the first few years, not to mention that there is a problem with eating, and even the tuition fees for school have so much to support! ”

"Uncle Ding, we know something about this!"

was able to get together, and everyone still had an open-minded mentality, so there really wasn't any bullying or dislike of the poor and love the rich! You don't have time to waste on this!

"You haven't experienced that era, but I have experienced, and even the parents of quite a classmate still have a considerable experience, there is no money to pay tuition, you can only owe, and you are even afraid of contacting the teacher, afraid of hearing the teacher's name, and even afraid that you will take the initiative to mention anything in this regard, because this is too much pressure on the heart! Any aspect of stimulation is enough to make a psychological breakdown, but the family does not say that there is no money, but that there is no money in the family! ”

"Think about it carefully, how much money you have spent since you were a child, and take Wei as an analogy! What about his family? Need to bear four old people, at the same time to shoulder a family, and even need to make considerable preparations for Wei Lai's future, you now have a certain feeling about money, you carefully calculate, the birthdays of the four old people can't be indifferent, right? The big and small festivals of the year can't be ignored! And what about these? The overall calculation is a huge astronomical amount, plus Wei Lai's expenses, this is still Wei Lai's parents have jobs and houses, if there is no job and no house, what should I do? ”

"At that time, we didn't get very good development here, the land was not valuable, there were not so many types of work, and even the part-time job did not have much to earn, in this case, we still need to solve quite a problem, how to deal with it, do you think that parents are frugal and too stingy, do they want to do this? No! Never, they also grew up from your age, they are also like you, they have dreams, there are enough visions, but for the sake of the family, for the sake of life, they can only let go of the ideals in their hearts, and when the living conditions change, they hope that you can continue their ideals, this is why so many parents want to implement cramming education for you! ”

"Uncle Ding, this is terrible!"

"It can't be said that it is terrible, there is no way to eliminate this obsession, your parents could not break through their own conditions and shackles under the circumstances, but through their efforts, at least you can most of your children can go to school and have enough food, so they hope that you can break more restrictions! Generation after generation! ”

After listening to this, everyone fell into a burst of thought, because they basically didn't think much about this aspect! And this time, Ding Yu's narration broke the inertia of their thinking for them!

Seeing that everyone fell into the process of contemplation, Ding Yu didn't bother them too much!

But after they were relieved, they slapped their palms twice, "Judging from the current situation, our country has developed considerably, and our city has also made considerable progress, so there will be such a school and environment with high-quality conditions, which are complementary to each other, and some of our classmates' homes are millions!" There are tens of millions, but have you ever thought about why your family still forces you to study, and even requires you to study better? ”

"Uncle Ding, it's also because the family feels that they have missed too many opportunities, for parents, if they have the conditions and environment they have now, then today will not be the situation in front of them!"

The children in the family did not have any speech, they just sat on the side, watching how their father guided these classmates and friends, and at the same time deepened their own understanding! And the performance of the classmates also made these children in the family feel very surprised, I didn't expect that these classmates and friends of theirs could also reach such heights!

"Not bad, now let's summarize in reverse, you children don't have too many problems in learning, but from beginning to end, you haven't solved one problem, that is, why study, what I'm talking about today? It's just one aspect of it, and it can only be said to be an inducement! But I hope you can summarize it well, only by constantly summarizing, can you recognize your own problems! Find your own problems and solve them! ”

"Uncle Ding, I also have a problem, when I am with everyone, I can somewhat restrain my behavior, but when I am alone, I can't control myself, I always want to play games and read comics, I think I have corrected a lot, but this correction always feels like a lot is missing!"

Looking at the other classmates, they seemed to have a lot of troubles, Ding Yu nodded, "Don't say it's you, even Wang An and they have the same troubles, don't say it's human!" Even God is the same! ”

"Hey, Dad, you seem to be the same!"

"It's not nonsense, I'm also a human being, and I'm a normal person!"

Everyone immediately burst out laughing, and Uncle Ding admitted it without hesitation! gave everyone the feeling that Uncle Ding was getting closer and closer to them, not with his own face and preaching to them, but with the most detailed analysis to them, so that they had the most profound understanding!

"As a human being? The easiest thing is to give restraints to others, and the most difficult thing is to restrain yourself, this is the so-called strict discipline of others, leniency to yourself! Everyone has such a problem, give you three minutes, think about it, have you also had such an experience and past, when you ask others, you are always very strict, but when you ask yourself, you are always relaxed, and even have some indulgence! ”

Three minutes of time, in a flash, but in the eyes of everyone, things seem to be really like this, everyone has always been strict with others, but in the treatment of their own problems, they are very relaxed, and the standard is repeatedly lowered!

"Uncle Ding, why is this happening?"

"Let me ask two people a question, you think about it, the first is why do you be strict with others, have you done it? If you do it, then do you ask others to do the same as you, or do you ask others to do better! The second question is, what is your goal while demanding others and demanding of yourself? ”

"Du Ye Shu! Tell us about your short-term goals and what are your junior high school goals? ”

The named child wanted to stand up, but when he saw Ding Yu pressing his hand, he thought about it for a while before he spoke! "Short-term goals? Let's be in the top 10! What can I achieve in junior high school? There are a few of them, first of all, I can be admitted to our high school here, and if I have time, I want to learn painting and music! It feels cool! I also have some goals for basketball in the school team, and if I can, I want to be able to participate in amateur basketball competitions in my age group after the high school entrance examination! And to achieve a certain number of good results, in general, there is this! ”

Looking at Uncle Ding's gestured eyes, Du Yeshu continued, "But judging from the current situation, there are a little more things planned, and I can guarantee it in terms of learning, but basketball!" Painting and music are trying to keep improving at the same time, which is quite difficult! This is very confusing! ”

"Yes, very good, if you can, then be able to say, what are your expectations for the future, not to say what you must do in the future, at this stage to say what you must do in the future, this is a bit of a magnifying word, but dreams? You always need to think about it! ”

"I want to be a soldier and a pilot, and it feels amazing! I also thought about being a star, but later I found out that a star is a bit out of line with my personality, or being a college teacher! ”

After Du Yeshu finished speaking, Ding Yu nodded, and even applauded in agreement! "Let's not talk about whether Du Yeshu's dream will come true, and I don't say whether he is daydreaming, the concept I want to express is that he has already had preliminary thinking, thinking about what he will do in the future, and at the same time denying some of his own concepts in the process, this is a huge progress, the sooner you understand this problem, then you will have a considerable awakening to yourself, and in this awakening situation, you will restrain yourself!"

"Uncle Ding, are you working towards your dream?"

"That's basically what it means!" Ding Yu couldn't help nodding, "I want to be a scientist, I want to be an artist, I want to be a star, I even want to be a billionaire and so on!" ”

Looking at the expressions of these children around him, Ding Yu continued, "You want to be such a person, but what about the others? They don't want to be in their environment! The conditions and so on are better than ours here, and it is not denied that our environment is getting better, but compared to the schools in those big cities, we still have a considerable gap compared to their heritage, which is a fact that cannot be denied, what should we do? ”

"Uncle Ding, we not only have to work hard, but also redouble our efforts!"

"I'll mention one more question!" Ding Yu didn't answer immediately, "Compared to other families, at least you can eat enough and dress warmly now!" Even from the current situation, you just need to maintain the current situation, get into a university in the future, and then come back to find a good job, which is not so difficult, and even the salary is not expensive, so do you still need to work hard? ”

"Wei Lai, tell me about this problem!"

"I feel the need, and the need is urgent!" When Wei Lai answered this question, his will was very identified, probably because of Ding Yu's encouragement, Wei Lai said with confidence, "Not from a big point of view, from the perspective of the farm, we participated in the activities of the farm this time, and the development of the farm does not mean that farming can be done!" It's not about how much machinery has been introduced, etc., but it needs to keep pace with the times, and even maintain an absolute advantage, so that it will not be pulled down, if the farm does not work hard at all! Just be content with the status quo, then it won't take long before it will be eliminated, even if the farm is big, it's only a matter of time! ”

"Good! Very good! I didn't expect our Wei Lai classmates to have such vision and foresight! So let me talk about why we don't work hard and how we can achieve self-discipline! There are so many people competing with each other! From your school, to the whole city, to the whole province, to the whole country, and then what? The world is so big, what about you? ”

"What's more, you may be working a little harder than your peers now, and you feel satisfied! So I think I can take a break, but will others be satisfied? They are working silently towards the goal and forging ahead, maybe not able to surpass you for the time being, but they are constantly surpassing themselves, because the next moment they are more advanced than the previous moment, one day or two days can not be seen, but a week, two weeks? What about a month and two months? Or even a year or two? What about ten or twenty years from now? ”

"Maybe you don't think you can see their changes, then I will use the children in the family to make a comparison with you, you feel that your foundation and heritage have been solidified! But what a big piece of this solid foundation! It's just the size of a tile, but what about the kids at home? Their solid contact may be the size of a square! It's all the same thickness, but in the future, when you choose to build a high-rise building, what is your heritage and foundation? Just the dirt under your feet? ”

"Looking back, you may have such a great ability, you can only do a piece of billet, but so many of you, if you add up, then how big is the land? How much energy will it emit then? Can't say that when building a high-rise building in the future, everyone else can have no problems, but you have cracks, cracks, although everyone is reluctant, but you can only be eliminated, and at that time, I regret that I didn't work hard and didn't have self-discipline at the beginning? ”

"And at that time, I left tears of regret, regret that my parents didn't restrain you well, regret that I didn't do a good job of myself, regret everything, but what's the use?"