In addition to being sent out by the school to study and train, Kong Ling's summer vacation life is also very regular: getting up early to practice yoga, going out for a 20-minute walk in Jingyuan, buying fresh fruits and vegetables, washing clothes, eating some fruits, the children are still asleep, Li Sheng has already gone out to work, at this time, Kong Ling began to read and write, and when the children wake up, Kong Ling will have breakfast with the children. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info

Reading first, opening the mind, writing last, and the condensation of the essence after thinking and precipitation.

Daily motivational and self-hypnotic suggestion is a must. She reads all kinds of books, even the least interesting ones, and she needs to understand them, because she feels that in order to be a good writer, reading a wide range of books is a necessary quality, so that she can look at problems and analyze problems from a more comprehensive and objective perspective. She believes that God rewards hard work, and she works hard every day, if you want to say explosive power, Kong Ling may not be enough, but her biggest advantage is that she is tenacious, as long as she recognizes the right thing, she will go all out, and she will stick to the end! There is a very famous law called the law of accumulation. Many young people have dreamed of doing something big, but in fact, there is nothing big to do in the world, some are just small things. Small things add up to big things. Any great achievement or catastrophe is cumulative. A work of several million words is produced by the author by typing out word by word, and without the beating of word by word, it cannot become a work of millions of words.

There is another law that Kong Ling often uses on himself and his students. That's the law of substitution. The so-called law of substitution is that when we have an unwanted memory or a negative habit, we cannot completely get rid of it, we can only replace it with a new memory or new habit.

For example, Kong Ling has a student who is nervous when she encounters an exam, and when she is nervous, she will bite the tip of the pen, no matter what pen she holds in her hand, she will bite the nib. The student is now in pain, and his parents are at a loss. After Kong Ling's in-depth and detailed understanding, her behavior began during a final exam in the first semester of the second grade of primary school. At that time, her Chinese teacher did "ideological work" for the students before the exam, threatening the students that "this exam is very important, if anyone fails to score 90 points, let her stand in front of the classroom and make her embarrassed." Parents also pressured the student before the exam, saying that if she didn't do well in the exam, she wouldn't want a gift if she wanted it.

As a mental health teacher, Kong Ling is deeply loved by students, and the student's parents came to Kong Ling, because Kong Ling knew the cause of her situation, and also knew that her behavior could not be stopped by conscious control, because she had formed a deep-rooted reflex behavior, and had developed into a subconscious way of behavior. In this way, if Kong Ling wants to change the student's habit of biting the nib, she must implant a new behavioral habit in her subconscious to replace the nib. Kong Ling communicated with the student and asked her if she wanted to eliminate this bad habit, and the child replied that she wanted to, because this bad habit had brought too much pain to her life and study, and she was determined to cooperate with Teacher Kong to correct this bad habit. Kong Ling first started by eliminating the student's nervousness when she encountered the exam, let her view the exam correctly, and also communicated with her homeroom teacher and parents, asking them to weaken the exam results, not to use her exam results to exert any pressure on her, so that the student can maintain a normal attitude when facing the exam. Then, Kong Ling passed several simulated exam scenarios until the child felt that he no longer felt nervous when he went through the exam, and Kong Ling not only eliminated the habit of biting the tip of the pen when the child was nervous, but also let the child develop a good habit that she also preferred: that is, once she experienced the exam, instead of feeling nervous, she would feel a relaxed and happy feeling in her heart, and kiss her own test paper with this relaxed and happy feeling, and replace the bite of the pen tip with a new action of kissing the test paper. After 21 days of continuous training, new behavioral habits have been established. Everyone was happy.

Through the success of this case, Kong Ling realized that it is very important that the world may impose all kinds of rules and regulations on individuals, but without your cooperation and recognition, these rules and regulations cannot limit you. So, don't be bound and limited by other people's views and opinions, even teachers and parents at school, once you don't agree with these views and opinions, you can live a free life without restrictions.

The best example of living a life without limits is Nick Hochul. Nick Hochul's stories and videos have become a magic weapon for Kong Ling to encourage her students, and she has introduced Nick Hochul to all the students she has brought with her time and time again, touching her students and inspiring them again and again.

Nick Hochul's book "Life Without Limits", Kong Ling also read it over and over again, she indulged in the author's narration of her own unique life experience, giving people enthusiasm, courage, faith, and perseverance, and was deeply impressed by this great man who was born without hands and feet, he burst out of his infinite self-energy, lived his own value, and created a wonderful life without limitations.

Nick Hochul was born with seal limb disease, and his only tools other than his torso are his small left foot, which has only two toes. One can imagine how unfair life is to him! At birth, Nick's parents couldn't accept this harsh reality, and his mom even refused to hold her own child. This is a great blow and a wound that is difficult to heal for anyone. Thankfully, they didn't give up and slowly began to accept and face reality.

As a child, Nick was arguably carefree, and as he grew older, he began to face a myriad of challenges, which he worked hard to overcome. Growing up to school age, Nick struggled with his physical defects and despair of life. But in the end he gave up on this stupid and irresponsible idea. He thought of his parents who comforted and helped him, and his family who encouraged and supported him, and felt sorry for them. So Nick decided to live well. He began to look in himself for something to be proud of to boost his confidence. He tried to make some friends, tried to blend in. Although he was often ostracized, ridiculed, or called "alien" by his classmates, he took the initiative to talk to his classmates sincerely, and his classmates gradually got to know him and became friends with him. He also got a lot of affirmation and motivation from his friends. In the end, Nick overcame the odds and became a great person. Today, Nick Hochul visits schools, churches, slums, prisons and even garbage towns, sharing his life experiences and spreading hope and love with the people there. Tell people about his experience, remind them of the importance of faith and action, and encourage them to have faith. So far, 600 million people have learned about his courageous life through various means. His deeds have been a heartfelt inspiration to many people.

Nick Hochul's success lies in his "no limits" in life, which normal people may not have. Because they have a sound body and have no worries, people only focus on what they have lost or what they have hurt, and they have no real goal. It is precisely because of this that many normal people live an ordinary life. They are wrong in setting limits on their lives. Nick Hochul was not defeated by his disability, he saw it as a special test and plan from God, and unlike those "limited" lives, he believed: "As long as you have a dream, you can do anything." ”

What impressed Nick the most was his optimism and confidence. In the face of adversity, it is easy to be crushed and give up on the goal. Nick is the opposite. Nick has always been a boat full of happiness and optimism, moving forward against the current. Nick told people: The saddest thing in life is not the loss of limbs, but the lack of hope and purpose of survival! Yes, how can you take action without a goal? Nick himself is a lamp that illuminates people's goals. Let thousands of people regain their dreams and succeed.

When times of difficulty, think about how Nick overcame his physical disability; When you want to give up, think about how much sweat Nick has put in to achieve success; When you're pessimistic and down, think of the big smile on Nick's face and his optimism; When you find yourself complaining about the unfairness of the world again, be grateful like Nick and cherish what we have!