Perhaps each of us has had the bitterness of what we don't like, and the forced laughter of unreliable people. This kind of experience, to put it mildly, is to hone the will, but in fact, to put it bluntly, it is self-torture. Life is very short, so why bother to suffer yourself? It is enough to do these two things: do what you love and associate with reliable people. Life is not full of flowers, but you can live comfortably.

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What you do with love is to live for yourself and follow your heart's choices.

In real life, we rarely seem to really think about what we like to do the most and what kind of life we really want to live in our hearts. Or, you already know the answer, but in the face of the cold reality and the pressure of survival, you have been busy for most of your life, but you don't have time to listen to your inner voice.

I know Xiao Zhou, a girl born in the 90s, who worked for five years to save money, and finally saved enough money to buy a second-hand house in Beijing a while ago. Some of the classmates who graduated with her still live outside the Fifth Ring Road, squeezing into a room with their shared housing partners, and some simply return to their hometowns to develop. But she is the only one, in the past five years, she has not bought clothes, watched movies, has not fallen in love or socialized, has not exceeded ten yuan per meal, has bought the most cost-effective discounted fruits and vegetables, lived in the cheapest Tangjialing, and never took a taxi if she can walk......

This "money-saving queen" finally has her own nest and is happy for her family, but she herself suddenly collapses. Suddenly, I lost the goal of "buying a house", and I felt at a loss every day. In the past, when she was in college, she was also a young woman of literature and art, she liked to go shopping, love to eat food, buy books, grow flowers, take pictures, and learn musical instruments. But in the past few years, she has worked hard, so that her whole person has tightened her nerves, and she is in anxiety and insomnia every day, and her former temperament is gone. Coupled with never taking care of himself, he looks several years haggard than girls of the same age. She longs for love, but finds it difficult to fall in love with herself.

Sometimes, we work hard to pursue something, give up what we like for it, and do what we don't like. But he told himself that it was bitter first and then sweet, as it should be. But we seem to have forgotten an important question, that is, is this thing what you really want, or does everyone want it? In the end, is it a choice from the heart, or is it worth it to give up what you like for it?

In fact, if you do what you do with love, it's worth it, and if you live in the expectations of others, it's not worth it. We are always so accustomed to pleasing others that we often forget to please ourselves. Put yourself in the shackles of satisfying everyone, but forget that this is your own life and has nothing to do with others.

I saw a little story the other day. A poet who wrote poems that no one appreciated, so he complained to the Zen master about his troubles. The Zen master pointed to a plant outside the window and said, "Look, what kind of flower is that?" and the poet said, "Nightshade." The Zen master said, "Yes, this evening incense is only open at night, so everyone calls it evening primrose." Then you know, why doesn't the evening primrose bloom during the day?" the poet shook his head.

The Zen master smiled: "The flowers that bloom during the day are all for the sake of attracting attention and being appreciated by others. It blooms at night, and no one notices, it blooms only to please itself! No one appreciates it, it still opens itself, it smells itself, it just makes itself happy. Isn't a person as good as a plant?"

Many people always leave their life path to others to choose. All the efforts of their lives are to show others, in order to win the praise and smiles of the people around them, they abandon what they love to do, and blindfold their ears to listen to their hearts. Halfway through, I found that my true face had long been blurred and difficult to describe, leaving only a heart that no longer beating, and a road that was difficult to turn back.

Choosing to live according to your heart will of course come at a cost in life. The warmth and coldness of the heart, the joys and sorrows, the struggles and pains are tasted alone. But it's better than rubbing shoulders one after another, going with the flow, losing yourself, and never knowing what you love to do. There is also a kind of person who knows what he thinks, but he can't resist the temptation, the outside world is very exciting, the house, the car, fame and fortune are ...... All kinds of external factors bind the body and mind, turning themselves into their slaves, rather than the masters of life.

In fact, when you're finally able to do what you love, it's worth it. Li Yinhe said that if a person wants to live the life he likes, he must know what he loves to do. These require not only dedication and perseverance, but also the courage to subvert the established pattern of life, the confidence and wisdom to balance one's own life, and the luck of liking as a way of life.

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A reliable person is a high-quality social, and the circle determines life.

It is said that it is enough to have one or two confidants in life, which means that friends are more valuable than many. Life is too short, life is too busy, instead of wasting a lot of time on unreliable people, it is better to associate with reliable people at the beginning, saving time and effort.

Nowadays, there are more and more smart people, but there are fewer and fewer reliable people. I once met such a person, and I made an appointment to talk about things, but I put it off again and again. Today because of the rain, tomorrow because of something, the day after tomorrow I say it's uncomfortable...... Then according to this, spring is sleepy and autumn is lacking, summer is hot and winter is cold, don't talk about our affairs anymore, and it's actually good to break off friendship.

Intersecting with unreliable people, delaying work efficiency, and reducing the quality of social interaction. A colleague who has just left the office is known as "Mr. Unreliable". I remember that when he first came, he poured water and snacks for his colleagues, and the leader praised him for his vision. But after a long time, I found that this man was not reliable. The work assigned to him, whether he is competent or not, will be taken down first, but the result of handing it in is full of loopholes. I thought he was reliable so that he could rest assured that he would hand it over to him, but he didn't expect that he was confident on the surface, but in fact, he was strong on the outside, and he refused to humbly ask for advice, for fear that others would rob him of his credit. After almost causing a catastrophe, the leader decisively dismissed him.

As the saying goes, a virtuous companion is of high quality. The kind of person you are with will be the kind of person you will become. So in order to improve the quality of our social networking, why not take the initiative to be in the company of reliable people? When there are no more unreliable people in your circle of friends, your life will also be rejuvenated.

An old classmate of mine, like most people in the past, always liked to say, "We'll make an appointment next time!" "I will definitely invite you to dinner next time!" Because of the close relationship, I often laughed at him: "What is the next time?" But then another thing made him never say such things again, although for most Chinese, "please eat" has become a harmless polite word.

That year, he made an appointment with a group of netizens for an offline reading club, but that day due to a sudden snowstorm, the traffic jam was serious, and most of the people in the group said that they couldn't come, so he almost defaulted to the cancellation of the event. Luckily, the location was closest to his house, so he walked to the café to try his luck, but saw the only person who arrived on time, and his current best friend A-kun. After some talking, I realized that Mr. A had already guessed that there would be a traffic jam, so he got up an hour early and checked that he had changed to take the subway.

He was very moved, and chatted until the evening, and when they parted, he said: "I will definitely invite you to dinner next time, and we will continue to talk!" After a week, he was busy with work and had forgotten all about Mr. A, but Mr. A invited him to his house as a guest on the second weekend. "I've been waiting for your invitation, since you don't take the initiative, then I'll ask you out!"

When he arrived at Mr. A's house, he met a group of friends of Mr. A, and everyone chatted very happily, only to find that everyone was a group of people with similar personalities. And Mr. A's home is also simple and simple, clean and tidy, just like his person, down-to-earth, reliable, careful and thoughtful.

Since then, he has often been in and out of the activities organized by Jun A, influenced by those friends, he who used to be a little impetuous has slowly become stable; his seriousness and reliability have also won the appreciation of the unit leaders, not only has he been promoted this year, but his girlfriend's marriage has also been put on the agenda, because the other party said that although he was romantic in the past, he always felt that something was missing, and now he is relieved.

Things are gathered by like, and people are grouped. Surround yourself with reliable people, refuse to socialize the vicious circle, and improve the quality of life. Unexpected surprises may be waiting for you not far away.

Doing things with love, handing over reliable people, life is short, doing these two things well is better than anything else.

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