"It's a pity." Nan Sheng said: "When people reach middle age, they find that it is not easy to divorce, and it is even more difficult to remarry. ”

"Do you want to see it?" Tang Yan took the opportunity to say: "I have a photo here, I can send it to you to see." ”

"Don't!"

"Look at it, I really think it's a good fit for you." Tang Yan didn't give up: "Don't say you're particularly handsome, it's more than enough compared to the scumbag in your family." Also, the hardware conditions are also good. ”

"Hardware conditions?" Nan Sheng almost thought crookedly: "How do you know that the hardware conditions are good." ”

"If you don't have a father-in-law, does this count?"

"Huh?" Nan Sheng was a little surprised.

"Not really!" Tang Yan said: "I have inquired repeatedly. His mother died when he divorced his ex-wife, and it has nothing to do with his ex-wife, the old man left with a sudden illness. My father was in a car accident and left last year. This second-married family does not have parents-in-law, so there can be a lot less contradictions. ”

"That's true, the second marriage is most afraid of having a bad relationship with the in-laws."

"Heartbeat, huh?" Tang Yan said: "Although it seems that we are a bit of a bit like that, but this is the real life."

Shape. You don't have to feel any burden, after all, the death of his parents has nothing to do with you. ”

"What can I do?" Nan Sheng couldn't help laughing: "I don't even know him yet." ”

"Secondly, there is no sister-in-law or sister-in-law, nor uncle or brother-in-law, he is an only child, and he is the only one in the family."

"I never think that sister-in-law and sister-in-law are problems, and I am also a sister-in-law, but I never pick trouble." Nan Sheng said: "I think this thing is related to tutoring, when you meet a good family, the eldest sister-in-law and sister-in-law will not only not become your trouble, but will become a help for your family harmony." ”

"That's not it, they're only children."

"Okay, okay, he's an only child, you have something else to say."

"Yes." Tang Yan whispered: "There are two suites at home, and the full payment is not a burden." ”

"Hmm." Nan Sheng nodded: "The conditions are good." ”

"Also, people don't necessarily have to have their own children."

"It's unlikely." Nan Sheng said: "Forty years old is indeed a somewhat embarrassing age, but I think that the more I get to this age, the more I hope to have a child of my own." It's not all discussed on the forum, saying that if it's a man, no one will willingly help someone else raise a son. ”

"Don't believe those on the forum, those on the forum are unenlightened." Tang Yan complained: "The really capable and powerful men are busy making money, who has the kung fu to talk in the forum." Just like the bride price, people who have the ability never care about the level of the bride price, and those who really want to marry their daughter-in-law home will only prepare everything in advance and will not let their daughter-in-law chase after him. Only those who have no ability and can't find a wife will be concerned about the bride price. ”

"In some places, the bride price is really expensive."

"That's only a small part, okay, compared with those sky-high bride price, the proportion of girls who marry themselves without a bride price is higher, okay." Tang Yan said: "I didn't give birth to a daughter, but my parents gave birth to me and my sister, and my father's principle of choosing a son-in-law is very simple, it depends on whether he is sincere." ”

"What do you think of sincerity?"

"What do you think? Of course, it's up to the action! Tang Yan said: "This poverty and perfunctory are two different things. To take the simplest example, the woman's family wants 50,000 yuan, and the man can't take it out, what should I do at this time? ”

"Find a way."

"You're one of those who have sincerity." Tang Yan coughed twice: "If you are sincere, you will definitely find a way, such as going out to borrow money, and then discussing with your parents-in-law, how much to take out first, and how much to make up later." As long as the man can do what he says, the woman will generally not be embarrassed, and if she continues to be embarrassed, it can only mean that the woman's parents don't like this son-in-law at all. ”

"Kind of makes sense."

"Right? This is not just one side of the story. Many people only stare at the words [sky-high bride price], and criticize and blame indiscriminately, in fact, there are many deeper meanings hidden behind these four words. For example, the man did not look at him, for example, the man's attitude was not correct enough, and for example, he did not take into account the local environment. ”

"The big picture?"

"Yes, this place where the bride price is high must be high in every household, and it is a regional problem. When some families marry their daughters, they follow local customs, and the bride price is as high as possible. When I marry a daughter-in-law, I don't want to spend a penny to marry, as if someone else's daughter is not as expensive as her own daughter. ”

"Are you talking about me?" Nan Sheng shook his head and smiled: "When Zhao Fan's aunt got married, Zhao Fan's grandmother asked for a bride price of 30,000 yuan, and other gold and silver jewelry was not bad. But five years later, when it was their turn to marry a daughter-in-law, they seemed to understand nothing, and reasoned that the family had no money, and they could save it, and they couldn't save it. As for me, a silly girl, I didn't think about it so much, so I sent myself to the Zhao family for so worthless. ”

"When your brother married his daughter-in-law, how much did your parents give?"

"30,000 relatives, 100,000 bride price, and hardware."

"Your parents gave a lot."

"Yes, according to our local bride price level, it is only a lot more. My parents said that they couldn't make my brother and daughter-in-law feel wronged, and that our family could only give more, not less, as much as other people's families gave. Nan Sheng sighed embarrassedly: "It was only when my brother got married that I understood that being poor and perfunctory are two different things, and I realized that if your in-laws attach importance to you, even if you don't ask for it, they will do their best, instead of hiding it." ”

"It's true."

"Before my brother was ready to get married, my parents renovated the house in my hometown, and the same was true in the city, and the furniture and appliances were personally selected by my brother and daughter-in-law. As for my brother, everything is according to my brother's daughter-in-law's preferences, she buys whatever she likes, and does not consider the style of home decoration, her own preferences, etc. ”

Nan Sheng shook his hand hard: "And when I married Zhao Yang, everything in the family came according to his own preferences, including this house in our city, and he never consulted or respected my opinion. ”

"Nansheng?!"

"I'm fine, I'm just enlightened." Nan Sheng said: "Before I experienced these things personally, before I saw the pattern of my brother getting along with my brother and daughter-in-law, I always thought that love and marriage were what I and Zhao Yang were. He really ...... He really never loved me, and he really ...... He really didn't put me in his heart, and the reason why he married me was only because I was suitable for marriage, just because I was a good woman. ”

"Nan Sheng, don't think so." Tang Yan comforted: "Losing someone who doesn't love you is not your loss. On the contrary, he will never find a woman who treats him as well as you do. ”

"I'm fine, I just don't think I'm fit to enter a relationship anymore." Nan Sheng sniffed: "Although I have been in love, although I have been married, although I have had two children in marriage." But Tang Yan, I don't think I understand love at all, I don't understand marriage, and I don't know married life. ”

This marriage