Fei'er, I see you've been posting depressed emojis, are you in a bad mood? "Sort of" because of what? "My boyfriend told me a lot of very practical problems, and I talked a lot about the fact that I didn't give much in this relationship and so on" What are the real problems he said? If it's money, I think it's a bit far away for your age, but he may have said something more realistic, maybe not something you like to hear, but the reality is still quite cruel, and you shouldn't bear it at your age. You answer me seriously, did you pay too much?" I paid but not as much as him, he did do better than me, but sometimes I don't know how to give"

I don't think the first time I have no experience, maybe sometimes you really don't get used to the identity of this girlfriend, no one comes up to do very, very good, I think it's an impossible thing, we are aware of our own problems in the problem, and then slowly do better, this is our growth path! "I know, but he'll think I'm not taking it seriously" Actually, for me, if you say goodnight to me every night, I feel very grounded. Everyone has a different understanding of caring, anyway, I think if someone says good night to me, I feel very grounded, it proves that this person cares about me. It's like every night my dad would remind me to go to bed, take calcium tablets and so on.

There are some things I really don't know how I should say, and I'm afraid that you will interpret it as ruining the relationship between the two of you, so I don't know what it feels like to say it. I just said it based on my feelings, of course this is my own feelings, I don't care how you interpret it, if you think what I said is wrong, that's my problem, I'm more direct. "Uh-huh, I understand" Usually boys may not like your performance when they say this, if you think I said something wrong, you can refute me crazily, I have no basis.

I saw that Phil didn't speak for a long time, and I realized that my words might have hurt her. I'm so sorry, but I can't do anything about it. You just treat me as nonsense, I think you're fine, you just use the most comfortable state to get along.

The best look in a relationship is evenly matched, he pays more in the relationship, that means he treats this relationship very seriously, you pay a little less than him, it doesn't mean that you don't take the relationship seriously, you are the first time to get along with him as a girlfriend, everyone has their own first, your first time is more rusty, it's not your fault, I sometimes don't know how to care about others, but I think the best way to care about people is to greet, such as: good morning, good night, what did you do all day today? Tired? Let the other party feel a trace of happiness in exhaustion, in fact, sometimes you may be nervous and forget how to get along with him, you can use the way we get along with him, we have known each other for a long time, so you will say something to me, but you want to say the truth to him, you may not be embarrassed to say, there may be a lack of communication between you, he doesn't know what you mean and will guess wildly, this is also a way for him to be insecure, you communicate with him more, share your true thoughts, Let him feel your enthusiasm too, I wish you better and better, and I apologize for my unreasonable remarks today.

I have no right to evaluate your feelings, only you are the most suitable to speak about your feelings, and you can think it is good. There are no two people who are completely suitable, only two hearts that accommodate each other, you change a little, I change a little, although everyone will lose a little self, but they can become a tacit pair. You can try to share your favorite music, interests, and videos that you find interesting, and get to know each other tacitly. "I see" you finally ignore me "I don't blame you, I just felt a little sudden, I didn't know what to do"

Are you two better?" I share my daily routine with him basically every day. He told me a lot yesterday, and I'm slowly changing it now. In the future, if you are not happy, you can say, you don't have to force "Okay"

On July 13th, Phil's troubles came again. I'll show you a screenshot of my chat with him. I'm sick" Then you remember to take some medicine and pay attention to rest" I'm sick I want you to comfort me, not for you to tell me to take some medicine, I have already taken the medicine, and I am uncomfortable now. I went to your house to take care of you when you were sick, and now that I'm sick, you're like that?" I don't know what to say, "I don't know what's going on, I'm sick and ask if you're okay?" Isn't that a normal thing?" That's right, I'm the best way to go back. "Huh? How so? "If you are sick, you should have a good rest, don't use illness as an excuse to quarrel, and if you are uncomfortable, you should be okay? What else can I say?

"Yes, but when I was sick, he did come to see me and buy me food." Also, eating cold is not good for your stomach, I am kind enough to remind you, if you don't want to listen to it, forget it, don't take other people's kindness to you as malice. Boys and girls give in different ways, you verbally do not mean that you don't care about him, if he pays just to get in return, you won't be very disadvantaged, what he does for you, and then you have to use the same way to give back to him is very tired.

He said that you are a straight woman of steel, you should go back to him, I haven't been to the cinema to watch a movie all these years, because I will faint when I go to the cinema, but for you I began to change a little bit. You've done a lot for me, and I don't say it doesn't mean I don't remember, and instead of dwelling on how much you give, think about what I've done for you. "Uh-huh, I see"

Zhou Zhou: I was not happy last night, and I cried all day yesterday. "What's wrong, Fei'er?" I had a fight with my boyfriend and then he said a lot of things about me, which was true, that is, what was wrong with me, "Why is he so old like this?" Don't listen to him, he's not entirely right," but he said it was true and right. Even my mom thought he was right. Neither of my parents would talk to me about that, but he did. But what he said was really a problem that I should change.

"What I want to say is: if you have a certain problem, then you should point out all the problems on the same day, if you think what he said is right, then you should change it little by little according to the way he said, if there are some problems that you must adhere to, you think you can't change the place, then stick to yourself, don't care what others say, I want to say: if he thinks you have a problem, then why do you want to come back and forth every once in a while? So why not make it clear on the same day? I can't stand this," he said, and every time I finished speaking, I might just be a little better for a few days, and then I went back to the original shape.

"It's very difficult to completely change a person's habits, it's a long process. It is simply impossible to make a very slow person into a lively process. What does your personality look like from your family of origin? The second is what your acquired growth environment is like, and these two points depend on what your personality is like" Uh-huh, I know. "The best state in a relationship is to be evenly matched, you don't fall too deep, you can change yourself but you can't lose yourself, you have confidence in yourself, blindly hitting will only make your self-confidence drop a little bit, if you are unhappy, you can find me at any time"

There are all sorts of problems in relationships, because some PUAs make themselves start to doubt themselves, which is not for your good, it is the so-called moral kidnapping. I know I'm bad, and you can remind me properly, but it's the biggest problem to criticize as a way to do good for you.