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★ During the 125 days with Cangxi, Gong Yi learned to do self-media, and the small essays published in XHS have now been deleted.

★ 【33】Mountain Birds and Fish Divergent Paths(2022.8.22)

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Lost love, you came to me to complain, took the oath of his alliance with you, except for the curling love words that Wushan is not a cloud, crying that the fission of love is so huge, your heart is like a torn doom, and there is no light.

You told me how you love him, how he repeatedly lowered his bottom line, it is not enough to stand on tiptoe, you have to put on high heels and continue to tiptoe, and you still can't get back the heart that has gone far. You wonder if you don't deserve it.

I just want to tell you: you really don't deserve this love anymore, because he doesn't deserve to have your pure and immaculate true love. A lot of times it's not because you're not good enough, but because you're not the same kind of person, go with the flow, love is impermanent, and you have to accept that impermanent love is the norm.

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In fact, love has gone its separate ways, not because he has changed, nor because you have changed. None of you have changed, it's just that you don't recognize what kind of love life each other really wants to live.

This may subvert the previous public experience, believing that love is to strive to change for each other, mutual respect, accommodation, tolerance and change, to achieve soul fit, mutual foam, hand in hand.

There is nothing wrong with this popular opinion, but it needs to be based on people with the same attributes, that is, they who resonate at the same frequency, to be effective. Walking together because of mutual attraction, and being willing to work hard for the run-in period because they are together, all of this is natural and cannot be forced.

It used to be attracted to each other, especially during the hot love period, and the hormone secretion pushed love to a high level. Once the love period is over, the run-in period has just begun.

Every couple has a long run-in period, even a lifelong subject. During the run-in period, the emotions of both parties will change differently under the rationality and weighing the pros and cons. Why are boys generally more likely than girls to change their original intentions of love, because they are very sensible.

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I once read a children's book about a rabbit and a bear being good friends. The rabbit invites the bear to dinner, and the bear happily attends the appointment. As a result, the rabbit prepared a lot of fresh carrots, and the bear looked at the pile of carrots and couldn't eat, the bear helplessly watched the rabbit eat happily, and couldn't help but sigh: "Hey, ......" The rabbit ignored the bear's meaning and continued to eat the carrots. In the end, the bear had to go home hungry.

Although this is a children's book about friendship, it is like a bird and a fish that go on different paths, and different types of people can't go together. When used in love, it can also seem to be similar in general.

In the story, let's substitute that if the rabbit and the bear fall in love and their dinner is like that, it will be their run-in event.

The bear should have three ways to deal with the run-in event: 1. Tell the rabbit that he doesn't like carrots; 2. Eat carrots to please rabbits; 3. Go home hungry.

The rabbit should also correspond to three attitudes: 1. Communicate with the bear how to eat dinner next time that everyone likes; 2. I thought that the bear liked carrots very much, and continued to give him more carrots to eat in the future; 3. Break up unhappily.

This is the process of the break-in period. In fact, there are more than the above three. Generally speaking, when one party is unwilling to be open and honest when there is a pimple in the heart, the love is in jeopardy.

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So how does love make itself invincible? Being undefeated does not mean not falling out of love, but it requires a strong and mature mind to respond to the love of love.

The most important point is to know how many pounds and taels you have, know your attribute pairing, don't be narcissistic or self-pity, be yourself, and don't forget to love yourself for anyone.

Someone who loves you will naturally fall in love with the real you. It is the natural fragrance of flowers, and it is the natural growth of love. When the run-in period is broken, what you lose is not the other party's mountain alliance and sea oath, but what you get is the performance of the other party's dislove.

Don't forget, it's always true to be true for true. Even if he is let down, it is actually nothing, it can only show that he is not worthy of this person.

Time will screen out those around you for you. And those who are worthy of it are naturally also worthy of being by your side.

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★ During the 125 days with Cangxi, Gong Yi learned to do self-media, and the small essays published in XHS have now been deleted.

★ [34] The person who favors you is worthy of your love (2022.8.23)

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In fact, all festivals are not born for gifts and red envelopes, but to remind us not to forget to love and be loved, life needs a sense of ritual, and what you need is to care and love.

Please remember:

Those who are accustomed to you are qualified to manage you;

Those who spoil you are qualified to speak of you;

Only those who give you money to spend are qualified to say they love you.

It's not reality, it's life.

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Although we have different preferences for our lovers and how we want them to favor us, we also reflect different patterns of behavior.

But I think that his preference for you, and all the actions he does, will make you feel pampered and warm. You don't have to guess, you don't have to be scared, you don't have to worry about gains and losses, you can be sure that he is going all out to favor you.

favors you, and he only sees you in his eyes; His eyes will light up when he thinks of you. He can't wait to contact you whenever he is free, he will share his best with you, he will tell you everything about his past; He will spoil you to heaven, he will plan for real life, and integrate you into it; He will respect your life while holding your hand and moving forward together.

All his words and actions revolve around you only, and his struggle for real life will become more motivated by your participation; His words will express his deep preference for you, for fear that you will not know, for fear that you will be sensitive and suspicious, he will give you enough security.

He can't wait to give you all the best, he wants you to have a good time, and he wants you to love and spoil him as much as he does.

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Favoring a person has nothing to do with the zodiac sign, nothing to do with the zodiac, no matter what personality, when you prefer a person, you have no personality, and you have basically become a sticky person, a possessive king, and a blame.

Preference will be uncontrollable, and can't help but be true love. There is no composure in front of true love, straight men, Muna guys, etc. No matter how much he doesn't know how to preference, he can do everything he can to favor you and spoil you alone.

The love that both parties prefer each other can be happy and happy. Being born with a soul mate shows the great love of the universe and the blessing of the Buddha.

Unilateral preference for love really can't be regarded as love, or it is the high-level payment of "the sweetness of immersive love"; Either it is to "hit the south wall, cold and warm, self-knowing" low-level pay.

May you find the love that both parties prefer and continue to love each other well for a lifetime.

★ During the 125 days with Cangxi, Gong Yi learned to do self-media, and the small essays published in XHS have now been deleted.

★ [35] Have you heard these love words? （2022.8.24）

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I read these words over and over again in my reading notes, and if I could hear them and tell them to me in the mouth of my lover, I would be happy.

I have excerpted these words:

1. Send me a message if you encounter something unhappy in the future, and I will definitely reply. Tell me what you encounter, and I'll accompany you to discuss the best way to deal with it. Your happiness is important, the world owes you tenderness, and I will definitely give it to you for the rest of my life.

2. You have to learn to open your heart and live as you want, the life you want, instead of living in the shadows, if you don't come out, it's like spending it in a cage, like a dark without light.

3. Everything is the best arrangement. Don't be sad, you have lost anything, there will be a new experience. Everyone you meet is actually cultivating you. You have to thank the people who are in your life, who play the role of the black angel in your life. They are the ones who make you who you are. How can you ascend without suffering?

4. If someone has not passed, I think that loving someone is not only about accepting her good, but also about accepting her bad side. Like you, I'll tell you slowly for the rest of my life. No, I can tell you every day here? You deleted me. I came to you, you're a big fool.

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There is a kind of man who must be here to scold you, scolding you so much that you doubt life. This kind of man's poisonous tongue kung fu can be described as earth-shattering and crying ghosts and gods, as if God has been blackened.

This kind of man your heart with your poisonous tongue, every sentence is sharp, every sentence is ugly, as ugly as it is, and he scolds so ruthlessly that he is not merciless at all, just like the world owes him a punching bag, just when you are here, he spills his anger.

This kind of man has a venomous tongue and extremely high emotional intelligence. He can be compatible with you up and down, you don't need to peep into your heart, he knows it at a glance. He likes to speak badly at you and scold you to the fullest.

This kind of man wakes you up from pain, wakes you up from confusion, then you wake up from crying, even if you delete him, he can still find a place for you to continue scolding, and if you don't wake up, you won't give up!

Deep down in the heart of this kind of man, do you understand? If you read it, you will understand his good intentions. I've spoiled you like a big fool, do you understand?

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This kind of man does not limit your mood, he just wants you to be happy and happy, and meet the reality of life every day with a healthy body and mind. He doesn't ask for anything in return, it's good to you.

"Whether two people are attentive or not, both people can feel it." "A relationship is not wishful thinking, but consensual", "Your liking him doesn't prevent me from liking you." ”

But this kind of poisonous tongue man no longer exists in this world, and even if it exists, it is just a fantasy bubble in the heart, this is a toxic love addiction, love without the basis of reality, and it will fall into hell like a cloud.