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★ During the 125 days with Cangxi, Gong Yi learned to do self-media, and the small essays published in XHS have now been deleted.

★ [36] To love someone who makes you laugh! （2022.8.25）

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Xinhua News Agency Night Reading

Life partners are really important, some people achieve you, some people consume you, really good love does not need to be consumed, but nourish each other, grow each other, fulfill each other, and make each other better people.

A good partner can really make people optimistic, cheerful and positive. From irritable to gentle, careless to delicate, all sensitive emotions can be expressed willfully, without worrying about whether the other party will accept it. Two people are similar and complementary, encouraging each other and making progress together, you can feel that you are healed, and you can feel that you are slowly getting better because you are loved.

A good lover is the best psychiatrist who can heal all the unhappy moments in life. A perfect partner is the one who can help you, soothe all the negative emotions in your heart, and the one who can be each other's psychiatrist.

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Whether two people can get along for a long time, the spontaneous sense of happiness is very important. What is happiness is the same frequency resonance. It's very comfortable to get along with each other, and you don't need to disguise your true side, and you're not afraid that the other party will be disgusted by showing your real side.

A good relationship is one that needs to accompany each other, support each other, and walk hand in hand for each other's future. When faced with life's difficulties, both big and small, be able to respect each other, communicate well, and focus on solving problems rather than creating emo fights. We are in the same boat through thick and thin, sharing weal and woe.

In the face of the dull life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, enjoy the process of companionship with each other, trust each other, and respect each other. The soul fit with each other means that even if you talk awkwardly or silently do your own thing, your heart will be comfortable and peaceful, full of security.

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★ During the 125 days with Cangxi, Gong Yi learned to do self-media, and the small essays published in XHS have now been deleted.

★ [37] Changing the Realm (2022.8.25)

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There is a sentence in "The Four Disciplines of Lifan": "All blessings do not leave the square inch; Find it from the heart, and feel everything". It means that all the merits and blessings in the world are inseparable from our hearts, and if we find the true good thoughts from our hearts, there is nothing that we can't figure out.

1. "Heart" is the cause: it comes from a person's "heart-to-heart thoughts". If you think of good things in your heart, good things will come and go.

2. "Done" is the effect: what is planted is the "cause" and what "effect" is obtained.

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Born from the heart, inseparable from each other, that's the same thing. I've been writing some reading notes about "heart" recently, and for myself, I need to continue to train my strong inner core.

Nine times out of ten, life is not as good as it should be. Treat your life and apply positive energy to everything that happens around you, so that you can live a comfortable and happy life.

Life is a trivial matter except for life and death. A loss may turn out to be a gain. The wrong ones don't go, and the right ones don't come. Life is like a double-edged knife...... And so on and so forth...... How you look at life, life presents you with the good or bad side. Do you want to be good or bad?

Please put everything that happens to you in perspective, if you complain every day, think about how unlucky you are, and complain, then your life will become more and more unlucky.

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If you want Lucky to be lucky, if your wish comes true, you have to face life positively. The fulfillment of wishes is not only a blessing, but also a reality in reality. The external environment will change with your heart, good intentions are good things, and bad intentions are bad things.

When you always have a grateful heart and a heart to help others, then bad things will become good things around you. Seeking inward in everything and seeking oneself is the root of progress.

Born from the heart, the environment changes with the heart, and everything is created by the heart.

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★ During the 125 days with Cangxi, Gong Yi learned to do self-media, and the small essays published in XHS have now been deleted.

★ [38] What is the personality of a girl who is easy to suck scum? （2022.8.26）

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What is the personality of a girl who is easy to suck scum?

1. Lack of love, like to listen to sweet words

2. Our Lady, whoever sells miserably will be warm

3. Have a high sense of morality and don't like to spend men's money

4. Pay hard, no matter the price

5. Hard mouth and soft heart, and ruthless words at every turn

6. The surface is cold and the heart is fragile

7. Lack of wisdom and always make mistakes

8. Lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem

9. Love is what life is all about

10. I can afford to love, but I can't let go

A girl's scum-sucking personality, in the final analysis, just doesn't love herself enough. They regard boys as the whole of their lives, pin their joys, sorrows and sorrows on boys, and hope to win the sweetness of love by constantly touching boys.

Love is naturally not the product of moving, and the love obtained from moving will not last long.

Love is a product of mutual attraction. Like a person, not thinking about how to please in every possible way, how to lick the humility of the dog, but trying to love yourself miserably, improve your own charm, let your small universe continue to shine so as to attract the attention of the other party, and slowly attract the other party to your side.

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If I take care of myself to improve my self-worth and don't keep brushing my sense of existence in front of the boy I like, will the boy forget my existence?

My answer to the above question is:

1. Don't care if the boy you like will forget you, first of all, you must learn to grow up by yourself, fall in love with the ease of being alone, learn to be alone as a companion, and precipitate your own tranquil state of mind.

2. You can empathize, the boy you like, even if he doesn't do anything, you still pay attention to him silently, don't you? In the same way, a guy who likes you will treat you like this, even if you lie flat, he also likes you to pay attention to you.

3. Okay, take a step back and say that the boy who didn't like you suddenly saw you living actively and working hard to improve, and he began to pay attention to you, then congratulations, you have successfully attracted the person you like by loving yourself, as the so-called "a good start is half the success".

4. Well, if the person you like is still "no news", then there is nothing to regret, he doesn't like you at all, why do you want to hit the south wall openly and secretly? Perhaps, there is another boy you don't know has secretly liked you for a long time, you don't know it, you say yes.

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We really need to accept ourselves completely, to be an imperfect self, to love ourselves well. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable, unconfident, sensitive and suspicious, inferior, crying, sad and so on, which is our true self.

However, since you know that you are so negative energy, you must learn to wipe away your tears and work hard to move forward, face all emotions positively, and work hard to live and love yourself, so as to be qualified to accept someone who loves you. You say yes. Encourage you.

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★ During the 125 days with Cangxi, Gong Yi learned to do self-media, and the small essays published in XHS have now been deleted.

★ [39] A true heart for a true heart (2022.8.27)

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Everyone has a dark side, there is nothing strange about it, different attitudes towards different people, communicate if you like it, strangers if you don't like it, don't understand, go your own way.

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Whenever someone says I'm good, I often think that it's not that I'm good, it's that I'm good and sincere, and they will give me the same kindness. Truth or say it's not that my people are good, but that they are all good. Compare your heart to your heart.

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I suddenly thought of what Chen Guo, a professor at Fudan University, said about the education of love.

Professor Chen Guo said:

When you truly love someone, you don't love them as God. When you truly love someone, you love him as if he were a real person. Real people have a lot of vulnerabilities, real people have a lot of shortcomings, and real people can't be perfect.

So when you really love someone, you don't treat him as a perfect person and treat him as a god to think that he is omnipotent, you are actually depriving him of his humanity.

Therefore, to truly love a person is to love him as a real ordinary person, to look at him with a normal heart, to treat him with a normal heart, to love him with a normal heart, to love this ordinary person, and to love this ordinary girl or boy in your heart.

Therefore, true love is not to treat each other as gods, otherwise the other party is under a lot of pressure, who can play a god for a long time! If he can't become a god, he can only be a liar.

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It's really hard to exchange a true heart for a true heart. In terms of love, love must not be the norm; In terms of friendship, there are often criticisms behind it; In terms of family affection, there are some who are not familiar with it.

In order to protect themselves from bad people and bad things, people can choose to hide their sincerity and leave it to make the "dark side" part of their own back road to resist the blow of sincerity that they may suffer. The "dark side" is actually just a way of expressing people's self-protection mechanism.

If you are willing to exchange your heart for your heart, how can I fail you? If you can't, you'll hurt me all over the place, so why don't I let it go?

Well, not absolutely, it's relative.

Things gather people in groups, hello, I'm good.

You respect me a foot, and I pay you back.

You treat me cruelly, don't blame me for being dark to show you.

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When you wonder one day why I have an indescribable weird feeling about you, ask me, "What's wrong with you?" ”

I would reply lightly and politely, "I didn't have much...... I just want to say that when I no longer cling to you, no longer forcing you to accompany me, no longer expecting you to reply to my messages in a timely manner, no longer expecting you to respond to me in a timely manner, no longer forcing you to tell me if you want to love me or not, no longer caring if you have secrets in your phone to hide from me, no longer suffering from gains and losses, no longer caring about what you are doing today, no longer caring who you are with, when you go back, you have already hurt me to the core, I hate you, please leave politely. ”