The sanatorium is at the foot of Guzhu Mountain on the shore of Taihu Lake. Three low-rise buildings, two large bamboo forests, plus a small garden, a total of about 8 acres of land, more than 100 beds.

I've seen my aunt's family. Auntie, uncle, and sister-in-law are all there.

It is said that it is a nursing home, but in fact, it seems more appropriate to call it a farmhouse-type nursing home. Interestingly, almost all of the people here, from the dean to the residents, are Shanghainese.

Shanghai is the first region in China to enter an aging society. Since 2000, Shanghai has become a city with a deep aging population.

In recent years, many "Shanghai back gardens" have been worried about the market of Shanghainese pension.

A survey found that in Shanghai, most people over 50 years old no longer rely on "raising children to prevent old age". The autonomy and independence of the elderly in Shanghai on their own pension issues are very prominent, whether it is home care, community care or group care, they will proceed from reality, rational analysis and action, and the traditional family care concept with child care as the core is being abandoned for more and more elderly people.

In this case, the model of "long-distance pension" has been in full swing in recent years: find a place not far from Shanghai, with mountains and rivers, good air, and affordable prices.

For example, Shuikou Township, where the sanatorium is located, is located in the core of the Yangtze River Delta, "one foot across Jiangsu, Zhejiang, and Anhui provinces", about 150 kilometers away from Shanghai. There are only more than 2,600 villagers in the township, but there are more than 300 "farmhouses", more than 10,000 tourist beds, and the number of tourists can reach 1.8 million a year.

It is in the form of this farmhouse that the local area provides one-stop service for transportation, food, accommodation and travel, and it has become famous in Shanghai many years ago and is called "Shanghai Village". On the buses shuttling through the mountains, the old people of Shanghai occupy the absolute main force. Some of them stayed for 3 or 5 days, and some of them traveled back and forth between Shanghai and Shuikou for more than 10 years, like "migratory birds".

This year is also the fifth year that Bree's aunt and uncle have been recuperating here.

My aunt and uncle used to work in the banking system, and since my aunt retired from the post of vice chairman of the trade union five years ago, she basically has to stay here with her husband for a few days every summer, and gradually from the first few days, slowly to two or three months, and gradually extended to nearly half a year now.

Especially my uncle, he is much older than my aunt, and his health is not very good, and he has undergone two major surgeries, but once he arrives here, he even has fewer small problems such as colds. So now I am stationed here in a nursing home for a long time every summer, and occasionally go back to Shanghai to prescribe medicine, and the medicine is also "prepared but not used".

Bu Li gave her aunt a lot of zongzi to show her gratitude to her cousin for accompanying them to Anji Dazhuhai this time. These zongzi were originally given to her by Wang Youjie's family.

Before leaving, Zhou Ping sent Bu Li and Pi Xiaolu downstairs.

When I was about to get to the parking lot, Pi Xiaolu went to the bathroom.

Zhou Ping pulled Bu Li aside and said, "I can't say anything about the car from Huzhou, in fact, I don't agree with all of Xiaolu's statements. ”

Bouli looked at his cousin, not knowing what he was going to say.

What she said sounded like there was some truth to it. But if you take a closer look, it's not all like what she said. Besides, what kind of person is Xiaolu, you should have counted it yourself?! ”

"And what do you want to say?" Booy smiled.

Zhou Ping thought for a while and said, "From a man's point of view, I want to say a few words for Wang Youjie." ”

Bully stared at his cousin, not moving.

"I have a different view of the door, and the road." Zhou Ping said that what the family looks at is not only the wealth of each other's families, but also the concept of the elderly in the family, the three views between each other, and Wang Youjie himself, what he thinks in his heart. These are some of the reasons why this is important.

So I think that the real family is like what I just said, the three views, cognition, and the way of dealing with problems, and so on.

Bu Li smiled and said, "That's right, everyone's understanding of the right person may be different." ”

"But I think to be honest, it's that the door is not very absolute about this thing, what does that mean? That is to say, it does not mean that there is no family to be unhappy after marriage, this is actually a matter of probability, but most of the families we see now are because they were not a good match when they got married, and there are many families who have a lot of problems in the later period. ”

Zhou Ping thought about it, and then said that some people like to have more communication with each other. Even if the other family's family may be a little poor, but if they work hard enough, are self-motivated, responsible, and good enough for each other, it is harmless.

The cloth is silent.

"I think that with the opening up of the times, the progress of society, the improvement of people's living standards, the wealth and poverty of the family, and the quality of the family conditions, should not constitute the core essence of whether the two are a good match. No one can choose their own origin, but everyone has the right to choose their own lifestyle. ”

Zhou Ping continued, in addition to the concept of opening the door to the door, I think there are two other points that are also very important, one is that the values are similar, two people are in love and life together, if the values are too far apart, they will not be together, and eventually they will part ways. Second, only the personality can tolerate each other in order to maintain a long-term intimate relationship, if two people are competitive, there are endless quarrels every day, no one will back down, after a long time, the relationship will inevitably break.

As they spoke, Pi Xiaolu waved loudly at the two of them around the corner.

Bu Li did not forget to tell his cousin once again that this time he went to Wang Youjie's house, don't tell his aunt about it for the time being, just accompany him to Anji's Dazhuhai, remember to remember.

"I think Wang Youjie, as well as his family, are actually quite good, you can think about it."

In the end, Zhou Ping said softly: "Bu Li, you just listen to others too much. When I was a child, I listened to my parents, and when I grew up, I listened to my teachers at school. After work, I listened to my parents, classmates and friends. But when will you be able to listen to yourself and have your own opinions? ”