"The marriage of a child is the concern of the parents; The happiness of our children is also the greatest satisfaction of our parents. "Bu Li's personal affairs are basically clear to my aunt, and I have heard Bu Li's mother say it more than once.

"The house, car, family ,----,background, etc., have all become the criteria for considering sons-in-law by now." She thought for a moment, then said,

To be honest, some of the very "realistic" practices of these mothers reflect a social phenomenon, that is, people pay more and more attention to material conditions and economic interests in marriage issues, which is actually too utilitarian. ”

Buli's mother looked at Gu Zhu Mountain not far away. Don't speak.

"But I think that the man has a matrimonial house is not a necessary condition for marriage." Auntie said again.

Bouli's mother looked up at her sister.

The idiom "starting a family and starting a business" tells us that we should start a family first and then start a business. An important social function of marriage is that the husband and wife work together to continuously improve the economic conditions of the family, and accumulate wealth through the sweat, hard work and mutual assistance of the two of them. ”

If the man does not have a married house, the young couple can rent a house, or take out a loan to buy a house together, and if they can't afford a big house, they can buy a small house, and they don't have to 'do it in one step'. ”

The aunt sat down, smiled, and continued, "If the man and woman must have the house and car prepared by the man's family before they get married, then what sense of accomplishment will the young couple have in their future struggles?" ”

Mother Brie looked at her sister. Motionless.

"I think that as long as the daughter finds her favorite boyfriend, both men and women can work together after marriage to continuously improve the economic strength of the small family, so as to have a superior and fulfilling life for the young couple.

In this process of accumulating family wealth, it is important to maintain the emotional bond between the two parties.

If the husband and wife lack the affection for each other, do not trust each other enough, and lack a common language, then the small family created together will not be so happy, and even the unhappiness of "cheating" will occur. At that time, even if there is a rich material base, I am afraid it will not help. ”

"Sister, what do you mean by me?" The aunt looked at her sister and asked with a smile.

Mother Bryan still didn't ring.

After being silent for a long time, the aunt continued to speak.

"Actually, sister, think about it, in the era when we, the "mothers-in-law" in Shanghai, got married, most people's economic conditions were not "in place" in one step.

But through the common struggle with our lovers, don't we also have a happy life and raise productive children?

Now, at a time when material conditions are being taken into account, should we re-examine these previous practices, or traditions, and examine love and marriage with a more authentic perspective? ”

Mother Brie moved her body, as if she wanted to speak, but she held back.

"In today's society, high-quality boys are somewhat scarce in comparison, so we must grasp them if we see them." The aunt continued to enlighten and said, "In addition, I would like to remind you not to let excessive material requirements become an obstacle to your daughter's marriage and love in the end." To put it mildly, sister, you have now dragged your daughter into a "leftover girl", I guess you regret it a little, right? ”

Brie's mother finally accosted her and said, "-----, I'm also for my daughter's good?" ”

"Good is really good. But we must also be vigilant and keep up with the development of the times. ”

Auntie smiled, "So I want to say a few more words." One is that the values of children are different from ours, and they do not necessarily require the other party to be a house, but must be the right person.

In short, the spouses should adopt the financial plan that best suits them, and the notion that the man must provide housing is wrong. Don't say that Xiang Jia's family has prepared a house for Bu Li, even if there is no house, the young couple can live with their parents, it is not unacceptable.

Second, young people should marry according to their own financial ability and within their means. As long as there is a heart, wealth can be created in the future. ”

The aunt thought for a while and said, "The last one is the most important, we as parents must not interfere too much, sometimes children will be disgusted, this is not good." Do you know how to cut it? ”

After the aunt finished speaking, Buli's mother looked up at Gu Zhushan in front of her, and it was silent for a long time.