The rebellious Ankang felt her dependence on herself in Wen Ya's body, her respect for herself in Dao Xiyue's body, their trust in her friends in those friends, and her trust in her wife Nan Yanyu.

Lonely Ankang is actually not lonely.

He was just a temporary break from the hustle. After so many years of hard work and so many years of disturbances, I finally took the initiative to stay away from Ankang and leave a peace for Ankang.

If we had gone back to ten years ago, Ankang might not have been as calm as it is now. Now Ankang is like an old farmer, looking at the ruined farmland after being ravaged by hail and strong winds, but he grinned - life is like this! That's how things should be in the world!

An old farmer would never have encountered hail and strong winds for the first time in his life, because such things happen every few years. Maybe you think that such a thing is an accident, but from a more macro perspective, such a thing is actually inevitable.

As long as the crops are exposed to the fields, they will inevitably be attacked by strong winds and rains. It's like a tenacious little grass growing among the rocks. It is precisely because of the resistance that this grass will have stronger resilience and is not afraid of wind, frost, rain and snow.

Of course, all of this is just a theory, and Ankang is practicing this theory at this time.

There is still a big difference between practice and theory. For the first time, Ankang was in pain. He spent nearly twenty years painstakingly building a character that was not perfect but satisfied with him, and it only took a few months before it collapsed. This kind of thing is unbearable for any person.

Ankang also fully understands why so many people can't bear the evaluation of others and can't bear such pressure. For this reason, An Kang remembered the movie star Ruan Lingyu, who left this world prematurely because she couldn't stand the eyes of the world.

Once, during a meeting on Xinzha Road in Puxi, a client also pointed out to Ankang the site where Ruan Lingyu committed suicide. At that time, Ankang still said to the customer nonchalantly: "If a person is not even afraid of death, then what is there to fear?" ”

Ankang, who was afraid of death, finally realized the pressure on Ruan Lingyu. Although it was only less than one percent of what Ruan Lingyu had endured.

Stress, from a psychological point of view, is a mental illusion. A person's pressure is all he gives to himself. This kind of stress basically comes from all kinds of negative emotions and negative imaginations about the future, or from the fear of the future.

The so-called "scared to death" is actually very vivid. When man's fear reaches an extreme, he would indeed rather die. The so-called long pain is not as good as short pain.

So where does fear come from?

Someone once concluded that the source of this fear is death. Ankang also read a book called this one. The book provides a reasoned case that death is the root cause of your fear, and that fear is the fundamental driver of action.

Here's an example: Why would a person commute two hours from the suburbs to the city center for an eight-hour shift, and then another two hours back to their home? Because of fear, because of fear of death.

Isn't this brain circuit a bit big?

It's kind of a bit. But this logic is not confusing.

In the process of fighting with the heavens, the earth, and the people, human beings are not happy, but full of deep fear and worry. Therefore, even if primitive people have established a miniature self-sufficient society, they will constantly store food in case of natural disasters.

It hasn't happened for decades since people starved to death. But the fear of starvation, inherited from our ancestors, still influences people's behavior.

So the logic is: people are afraid of starving to death one day in the future, so they have to store food now, and food needs money to buy, so they need to store money now. However, human needs are not just to survive, but to live. In the case of ensuring that I don't starve to death, I still want to eat something good, I want to wear something good, until I still want to change to a good car, and I want to change to a big villa.

On the one hand, they are rewarding their hard work with material things, and on the other hand, they are actually building their own moats. Because, no matter how much a villa costs, it will always be worth much more than a 30-storey apartment.

Many people don't understand this truth. But experts who study the property market have long given the answer. No matter how sturdy the building, especially the buildings that are built in large quantities and quickly in China, the service life is much shorter than 70 years. When a building is dilapidated and uninhabitable, how much is your apartment worth?

The better the location, the more prominent this problem is. It is precisely because the location of the apartment you buy is so good and the price is so high that there will be no developer interested in your apartment at all. Because he can't afford it either.

So, this logic, no matter how ridiculous it may seem. But in first-tier cities, most people are driven by houses and house prices, and nothing else.

A house is an asset, and assets can be exchanged for money, and money can be used to buy food, and food can save lives, and lives can be kept away from death threats.

Ankang thinks that there is nothing wrong with this logic, and he has no way of knowing how many genes his distant ancestors left him with the fear of starvation 10,000 years ago, but he does not agree with this very much. Because, he happened to read another book on speeches. There's a joke in the book.

Someone did a social survey to get people to make a ranking of what they thought they were most afraid of, and it turned out that public speaking was the first and death was third. So there is a humorous scene -

Most people would rather lie in the grave and be a dead man than be the priest who stands next to the grave and recites prayers.

So, death is not an absolute driving force, and fear is not a source of stress.

What Ankang feels is that people's ability to withstand stress can actually be trained. It's like practicing equipment at the gym. The gym equipment is used to practice the muscles' ability to withstand stress, while the frustration and pain are practiced to the mental ability to withstand pressure.

So under a lot of intensive pressure, Ankang detached.

Originally, he planned to buy a Wrangler off-road vehicle and drive from Shanghai to Lhasa for a spiritual trip. But because Nanhuayu's company's business happened to be in the peak season, she couldn't leave. So Ankang dismissed this idea and threw himself into studying.

His people are in Lujiazui, but his heart has wandered away from Lujiazui.