The greatest comfort for Ankang comes from Nanhuayu's trust.

"It doesn't matter. People are not afraid of crooked shadows. You don't have to worry about those people slandering you. This kind of thing, I, the lady of the main palace, didn't say anything, what nonsense are those ministers? Chickens and dogs jump, as if you had blessed their wives. After Nanhuayu put the child to sleep, he went to the living room and said to Ankang.

An Kang took Nanhuayu's hand and said, "Thank you!" I'm nothing, I just let you suffer! ”

"I didn't suffer. What do I suffer? ”

"You've been attacked and pressured by some gossip."

"Cut, sister doesn't take it seriously at all. It's okay, it's okay, be happy. Come on, give me a smile. Nanhua Yu held up Ankang's chin.

An Kang smiled.

"That's right. My son had a lot of fun today, and tomorrow he will be even happier on the off-road road. ”

Ankang said, "Yes. All day long, I want to drive an off-road vehicle out of the off-road. Tomorrow will fulfill his wish. It's that he always hopes that our car can be turned into the ditch, and then wait for the big crane to come and lift it, and then use a flatbed trailer to pull it to the 4S shop to repair this kind of thing, it seems that it can't be done. ”

Nan Yanyu laughed: "I'm wondering, why does he always like our car to turn over into a ditch?" ”

Ankang explained, "Because he wanted something different. I'm tired of sitting in the back seat all day watching me drive. Actually, thinking about my son's mentality, I feel a lot more relieved. ”

"Relieved of what?"

"Facing all kinds of things from a different angle and a different mood. Let's say the car rolls over into a ditch. For a person who drives, for a person with a normal mentality, it is something that is unwilling to face. Why, because he always thinks about negative things, who will get hurt, how much car will be damaged, how much money will it cost, how much time and energy will it take, etc. If unpleasant things have already happened, why bother to let people continue with unpleasant feelings. It's better to have a game mentality and experience everything that follows happily. ”

Nanyanyu said: "You seem to be like this when you say this. There are many people who don't want to roll over themselves, but are very interested in someone else's rollover. ”

"yes. It is because many people are interested in other people's overturns, so they will stir up the incident of other people's overturning, and they can't wait to be at the scene of the rollover. Of course, I also have a dark side of my own psychology, and I myself am interested in gossip news such as other people's car rollovers. This rollover can be regarded as a reward for my dark psychology. ”

"Very good! You have a good idea! I just like young people like you who have ideas. Come, follow this line of thought. ”

An Kang smiled: "That's it, if you continue to do it, you will have to overturn the car as fun." However, I now think it's not a bad thing to be in the center of a storm of gossip news. Although this incident has had a huge impact on me now, it cannot destroy my spirit and body. Isn't there a sentence in it that says, 'Struggleisnature'swayofstrengthening', anything that doesn't kill me will make me strong. I don't know how many ups and downs I will have to go through in this life in the future, instead of calling me all at once, it is better to test me again and again, and let me sharpen again and again. Gradual. ”

"Uh-huh. In this way, the skin will become thicker and thicker. Nanhuayu interjected.

"Hahaha. Right, right. It is best not to be invaded by all kinds of poisons. ”

Nan Yanyu originally wanted to say things like her habit of pouring cold water on Ankang: "This incident is so bad that you don't even want to be cheeky?" But thinking that her comfort had already had an effect on Ankang, she just smiled and didn't speak.

Ankang continued: "So, this matter is not completely unhelpful to me. At least I can use it as a case study for a comprehensive analysis. What are the sources of my attacks, how has my career and family been affected, the strength of public opinion and the relationship between time, how should problems be solved, and whether I should take the initiative or wait and see what happens when encountering similar things. Actually, I learned a lot. ”

"What kind of harvest have you gained?" Nanhua Yu was interested in Ankang's perception. Because Nanhua Yu is learning the knowledge of human resources during this time.

Nanhuayu did not want to learn relevant knowledge because she wanted to work in human resources, but because she was exceptionally promoted to the general manager of the company by the company. It gave her a strong desire to learn about the professional knowledge of various functional departments of the company.

The psychology of managers and the corresponding behaviors are naturally of interest to Nanhuayu.

"I have another case study here. Here you go. Ankang unplugged the charging cable on his phone and opened a mind map for Nanhuayu to see.

"You see, this mind map is a summary of my experience about this scandal. Here's the problem analysis, here's the solution brainstorming. THERE IS ALSO A TIMELINE THAT RECORDS THE EVOLUTION OF EVENTS IN EXCEL ON THE COMPUTER. I design a range of solutions by observing the development of events and the various types of influences associated with them.

For example, when a scandal first appears, the solution should be to clarify the truth of the matter as soon as possible. I've done this before. But nothing worked. Of course, I think it's the wrong way to clarify, or the time for clarification is too slow. Later, I analyzed it, and I didn't think it was either. It's because people need sensory stimulation psychologically. A hot news that happens around you, and it is really intolerable to let it cool down before it is hot. So people simply don't accept all the clarifications that I've made. Most people don't really have any ill will towards me, they don't care about me, they care about the entertainment of the thing. It doesn't matter who the protagonist of the incident is. ”

"Uh-huh. That sounds like the way you say it. ”

Ankang continued: "So after that, I no longer took the initiative to clarify anything, but continued to observe. The purpose of observation is actually to wait for a good opportunity to take the initiative. Because people's curiosity must be greatly satisfied, the excitement of this matter has passed, or there is a newer and more exciting hot spot, then it is easier to solve the problem. It's like trying to extinguish a fire, it's not easy to extinguish the fire when it's pouring momentum, and when the firewood is almost burned and the oxygen is almost consumed, it only takes a scoop of water and fire to extinguish it.

Of course, if the fire burns something and waits for it to burn without taking action, it may burn everything. But this fire burns a man and a heart. As long as I don't move, I won't have much to lose. ”

"So that's why you're calmer than before?"

Ankang said, "Yes. This is the wisdom that has been summed up from this. If things are slow, they will be rounded. Actually, now think about the same kind of events that happened to other people, and many of the protagonists of the events adopted this approach. At first, he didn't explain anything and let the events ferment. Wait until people's emotions are almost over, and then come up with a bombshell of evidence to prove their innocence. At this time, if some Internet big Vs add fuel to the fire, things will easily reverse. As a result, public opinion will also have a sympathetic and understanding attitude towards the protagonist of the incident. The protagonist of the event, on the contrary, will benefit from it. ”