Chen Xiang looked forward to the stars and the moon, and finally looked forward to coming back Wang Yan, and wanted Wang Yan to serve him more. But who knew that after Wang Yan returned to the factory, her eyes were full of Rongrong, and she rarely played with Xiaomu, as if she owed Rongrong, she just wanted to accompany Rongrong more.

Rong Rong is going to school, Wang Yan wants to accompany Rong Rong more, and only on the way to pick up Rong Rong to go to school, Rong Rong has homework at noon, Rong Rong is about to go to the sixth grade, and the amount of homework is very large: every day there are Chinese, mathematics, English articles, children also have to write Chinese words and English words. The schoolbag that the child was carrying, she felt heavy when she lifted it.

Wang Yan found that education now is different from the era when they went to school. Now it's time for parents to read with their children: they need to help them write silently, memorize and sign responsibly.

Wang Yan felt that Rong Rong spoke very little, and every time he sat in the back of the battery car, he rarely took the initiative to talk to himself. Wang Yan took the initiative to provoke the topic, and she just asked her: "Is there a lot of homework today?" How do you get along with your classmates?" Rong Rong usually says briefly: "much" or "not much", "it's okay to get along with classmates." After answering these questions, I will not extend the topic outward.

Wang Yan knew that Rong Rong and herself still couldn't be intimate for a while. What she is most worried about is that her child has just transferred to another school, and he is not familiar with other classmates, he is not social, and he will feel lonely. She has read a lot of psychology books, and she thinks that Rongrong is gregarious at this time, and mental health is more important than academic performance.

Chen Xiang didn't think so. He believes that grades are the most important thing. Wang Yan heard from her mother that during the time she went to school, Rong Rong was beaten almost every day. Once Chen Xiang kicked the child with his foot, Wang Yan felt distressed when he heard it. Chen Xiang went out to install, but he was not in the factory, and when Chen Xiang came back, it was not yet time to get off work. Chen Xiang led the workers to the workshop to continue working, but Wang Yan endured it and didn't ask.

In the evening, Wang Yan brought Rong Rong back, and Rong Rong was doing her homework in the hut she shared with his grandmother. After a while, Xiaomu ran in, and Rong Rong teased her.

Chen Xiang entered the house, saw Rong Rong playing, frowned, and shouted at Rong Rong: You owe it again, aren't you? If you don't do your homework well, you drag it out until eleven or twelve o'clock every day, and adults have to accompany you! Look at what the hell you're writing, what the hell you're writing!" As he spoke, he stretched out his hand to Rong Rong's notebook, Rong Rong was startled, and subconsciously raised his arm in front of his head, for fear that her father would beat her again. Wang Yan saw it and knew that during this time, Chen Xiang beat the child a lot, and the child habitually protected himself when he watched his movements. No wonder Rong Rong said so little. Xiaomu called his father: "Dad, stop arguing."

Chen Xiang looked at Xiao Mu with a smile: "Come on, dad won't be noisy." Daddy hugs. When Wang Yan saw it, he was half angry, this Chen Xiang is really a second goods: "You have such an education for your children!" She yelled at Chen Xiang, "What are you doing? Neuropathy! What is there to tell the kids?" Chen Xiang said: "Look at her last test, everyone else's teachers sent text messages, and your daughter is about to count down." There were so many people in the class who scored more than 90 points, and she only scored 65!" Procrastination every day, don't write homework immediately when you come back, and drag it until eleven or twelve o'clock every day, you say it's not angry! You're back, you're educated. Her teacher also called me today and told me to go to school tomorrow. Go ahead, I'm ashamed! ”

Wang Yan knows the saying that "one of the two is educating the child, and the other party can't take care of it". However, she really couldn't tolerate Chen Xiang's attitude towards the child. Wang Yan said: "You are busy, I will check Rongrong's homework." Take Xiaomu away. “

Wang Yan then turned to Rong Rong, touched her head and said, "You write first, and my mother will come over later." I won't ask my mother. The fear in Rong Rong's eyes had not yet dissipated, he glanced at Wang Yan, and said a gentle and obedient "um", then lowered his head and continued to write her homework.

Wang Yan looked down at Rong Rong's homework book, she found that Rong Rong's handwriting was still big and small, not neat, and the whole word looked crooked, so she pointed to the words and said sharply: "These words are not good, they must be rewritten seriously." Afraid of hitting Rong Rong's self-esteem, she followed up and pointed to the above lines with her finger and added gently: "The above lines are okay, just reach such a level." After Wang Yan finished speaking, she walked out, and her mother was about to enter the house, and when she saw Wang Yan coming out, she also followed Wang Yan out.

Wang Yan's mother whispered to Wang Yan: "This Chen Xiang is too partial, you see that he is like Xiaomu and Rongrong and his two fathers, Rongrong failed the test, and he beat the child." Rongrong is also older and sensible. It's better for you to come back, Rong Rong has a stilt, you are not there, Rong Rong will hide when she sees her father. After a pause, the mother said: "You go back and talk to Chen Xiang well, if the child is wrong, you must also point it out to the child." Rong Rong is still young, after all, he is a child. ”

When Wang Yan heard this, her heart was sour, she knew that Chen Xiang also loved Rongrong, but this kind of pain was unbearable for children. She said to her mother: "Rong Rong is not serious about his homework, Chen Xiang is also in a hurry, don't say partiality in front of the child, the child listens, it will affect the child." He also hurts the child, but the method is not right, I told him at night. “

Wang Yan's mother said: "I also know that he is in pain, but Rong Rong is still a child, and he works by himself, so he is indeed tired." But tired and tired, you can't sprinkle your anger on the child. This Rong Rong is also not sensible, he is like this at home, and he doesn't write his homework first when he comes back. She doesn't listen to me, I can't control her. “

Wang Yan felt that there were a lot of problems, and her mood was also heavy, she said to her mother: "Wait until tomorrow when I go to Rongrong School, listen to what Teacher Rongrong has to say, learn about her situation at school, and then communicate with his father when I come back." ”

"Well, you have to talk to Chen Xiang well." After Wang Yan's mother finished speaking, she went to work again.

In the evening, Wang Yan said to Chen Xiang: "You can't be like that to Rongrong, like your stepfather." In front of Rongrong, he hugged Xiaomu kindly. Will the child be comfortable when he sees it?" Chen Xiang said: "Don't talk nonsense, Xiaomu is so small, she is so big." I can still hold her! You also saw that she procrastinated on her homework at night, and it was all a mess! The teacher texts every day, and the homework is not serious, and there are many of your daughters. I'm annoyed. Or you come back to tube! Tomorrow you will see, the head teacher is looking for it, it is definitely not a good thing!"

Wang Yan said: "The child just came, and he didn't adapt to it. You guide slowly, you are so fierce, the child is afraid, there is a psychological problem, I see what you do! Without waiting for Chen Xiang to speak, Wang Yan said to herself: "She will be able to adapt to the class, be gregarious, and be better than anything else." Learn slowly, when she was in the first and second grades, didn't the teacher praise her for being smart!"

Chen Xiang said angrily: "Don't talk about that, tomorrow you listen to what her teacher says, and you want to beat her up after hearing it."

When Wang Yan heard this, he became angry and scolded: "You are a psychopath, too lazy to pay attention to you." In the future, you don't care about the child anymore, if you beat the child again, I won't pull you down. I'll take Rongrong back to my hometown to go to school! “

"Why do you want to go, you educate your daughter first." Chen Xiang muttered and teased Xiaomu with a smile: "Come, play horseback riding with Dad!" ”

Wang Yan was speechless.

This is the first time that Chen Xiang and Wang Yan quarreled over the issue of their children's education after Rong Rong came to them. Chen Xiang collected from his own memory the model that his parents taught him back then, and his concept was: children must be strictly managed, and if they don't fight, they won't succeed.

Wang Yan was also beaten by her parents when she was a child, but it was not because of learning, she believed that learning was 'self-motivated': children psychologically understand the importance of learning, so they will naturally learn, and she is against beating children. She remembered that when she was in middle school, she was also playful, and her grades were not good, and then she repeated a grade, and she was afraid that her grades would be bad and embarrassing, so she studied hard.

Chen Xiang and Wang Yan both come from rural families, and they have a lot of common language, but their original family models are different, and they have their own experiences. The two of them had a disagreement over their children's education.

The next morning, the weather was not very clear, and a few gray clouds slowly moved in the sky. Wang Yan drank a bowl of porridge and soup, and then drove the battery car to Rongrong School, which is located on the west side of the Xizhuang Farmers' Market.

Wang Yan learned from the old man in the communication room that the sixth grade was on the third floor of the white building closest to the gate, and after thanking the uncle in the communication room, Wang Yan hurriedly went up to the second floor and found Rong Rong's homeroom teacher. Rong Rong's homeroom teacher is a middle-aged female teacher, surnamed Shen, who speaks a little stumblingly, dresses plainly, and has a dignified look that makes people awe at first sight.

Teacher Shen saw Wang Yan and said, "This time the math teacher is looking for Chen Rongrong's parents, you go to find the math teacher first, and then come to me later." I have something to tell you too. ”

Wang Yan said, "Okay, please ask where is the math teacher's office?" What do you call it?" Teacher Shen stretched out his hand and pointed back: "From here to the second room, the surname is Gao, Teacher Gao, you will know as soon as you ask." Wang Yan thanked Teacher Shen and went to the office where Teacher Rongrong was located.

Wang Yan knocked on the door and asked, "Is Teacher Gao in Class 51 here?"

"I am." A male teacher in his thirties looked up and replied that he was correcting students' test papers. Wang Yan walked up to Teacher Gao and said, "Hello Teacher Gao, I am Chen Rongrong's mother." Teacher Gao glanced at Wang Yan and said kindly, "Oh, you came out to talk to me, I was looking for you."

Wang Yan walked with Teacher Gao to the office corridor by the window, Teacher Gao looked at Wang Yan and said earnestly: "Chen Rongrong, this child, you have to take care of it." I've already had two tests at the beginning of school, and the first time I scored 55, and I thought that this kid's grades wouldn't be any better. Didn't pay attention to her. She usually keeps her head down in class, you call her, she glaes at you, you don't know what she's thinking. In the second test, I scored 99 points, the first in the class. This time it caught my attention. I shouted to her to answer the question, and stood up slowly, looking so faced, timid. However, I found that this child is actually smart, and there are some questions that many students in the class have not understood. She could answer. It's that the homework is not serious, and the writing is crooked. “

When Wang Yan heard this, her heart was sour again, and she said, "Thank you, Teacher Gao." Chen Rongrong's child was born in his hometown when he went to primary school. When she was asked to come, she was unwilling, saying that none of the classmates here knew her. Didn't want to come. I can't help it, their original primary school teachers are also good, saying that it is good for children to be by their parents' side. She's skinned at home, we're not there, no one can take care of her. She's stuffy. If you study hard, your grades will go up, and if you are greedy for fun, your grades will drop. “

Teacher Gao said: "The child is good by his parents' side, this child seems timid, I said to communicate with the parents, usually you should also communicate with the child." She doesn't communicate much with her classmates in class. I never saw her playing with other classmates after class. Isn't she very introverted?"

Wang Yan said: "Her personality is not introverted, she can talk to acquaintances. Her grandmother hated her for chattering when she was eating. However, when she first arrived, she was not familiar with the environment, and her father was strict at home. There is no time for the child to be relieved. Trouble the teacher to ask her questions in class, praise her appropriately, and slowly let her attract the attention of other students. I'm also afraid that she's out of place. When she said this, Wang Yan's eyes were wet.

Teacher Gao said, "Okay, I know." She can complete her homework, but she doesn't take her words seriously. I thought she should have a good background, otherwise she wouldn't talk to her parents. I'll pay more attention to my class next time. Don't be too strict with the child, I think this child is still a bit introverted. Communicate more. There's nothing else to do, let's go back first. Wang Yan thanked Teacher Gao and went to Teacher Shen, Rongrong's homeroom teacher.

Teacher Shen was sitting in front of the podium when she saw Wang Yan and walked out of the classroom.

Wang Yan asked Teacher Shen, "Teacher Shen, how is Chen Rongrong doing in class?" Teacher Shen said: "The grades are average, that is, when I see her get out of class every day, she lies on her stomach when she has nothing to do." If you don't look at the blackboard in class, you don't know if she's listening or not. “

Wang Yan asked worriedly, "Is Chen Rongrong gregarious in the class?"

Teacher Shen said, "I don't think she communicates much with her classmates. No other classmates were active. After a pause, Teacher Shen continued: "Chen Rongrong's homework is a problem, you say that a girl writes so unneatly. She seemed quiet, not so naughty. “

Wang Yan said: "I also blame her father for not caring about her since she was a child." It turned out that she went to kindergarten in Beijing. We were worried that our child would not be able to take the exam in Beijing in the future, so we sent her back to study. Their teacher was also in charge, and told her grandmother that it was best to take her to Beijing to study, for fear that the child would be too old to educate. In fact, I am most worried that my child will not fit in and be lonely in class. Her grades were okay in her hometown and she won several awards. “

Teacher Shen said, "Then I'll know." I also think she is like an introvert and doesn't talk much. “

Wang Yan is most afraid of others saying that her child is introverted, and she never admits that her child is introverted, she feels that such a label cannot be casually attached to the child. Then he said to Teacher Shen: "When our family is at home, we talk a lot. When I was a child, I was not introverted, and when I was going to school in my hometown, I made some friends in the class. She was reluctant to transfer schools, saying that there were no classmates she knew here. I read articles about left-behind children, and I was worried that the children would be older and would have psychological problems without their parents around. She just arrived, she didn't fit in, and I was in a hurry. It's pitiful to think about the child. Trouble the teacher to call her to answer questions more in the future, so that she can quickly adapt to the new environment. When she said this, Wang Yan felt sad for a while, and tears couldn't help but appear in the corners of her eyes.

When Teacher Shen saw this scene, he understood that Wang Yan was also a parent who really cared about his children, so he didn't say anything more, but said, "This is no problem." Now the focus is on studying, and when she goes home, she should be asked to write her homework carefully, and it will be fine. ”

Wang Yan's expression was solemn, and he said in a soothing tone: "Hey, okay." We are urging. However, I am not in Beijing, her father is busy every day, and he only arrives home at night, and sometimes when he gets home, she has already slept. I can't check her homework. Let's talk to her. In fact, I hope that my children will be able to be social at school and know how to respect their teachers. Originally, we always told her that we were going to call when we saw the teacher. Telling her about the teacher is also hard, so many students have to take care of it. Respect for teachers is what they should be. I don't know if she said hello when she saw the teacher at school i. ”

Teacher Shen crossed his hands and said seriously: "Chen Rongrong, this is okay, I will basically call when you see me." It's okay to respect the teacher. The bell rang, and it was time for class, and Teacher Gao said, "You don't have anything else to do, I'll go to class first." When you go home, you can also communicate with your children. “

"It's okay, you can go and bother you. Thank you, Mr. Shen. Wang Yan smiled and thanked Teacher Shen, and went downstairs out of the campus. On the way back, she thought about how to tell Rong Rong and Chen Xiang about the communication with the teacher.

Wang Yan knew that he couldn't directly paraphrase it as it was, and he had to change it in a suitable way so that both Rong Rong and Chen Xiang could accept it. Wang Yan wants to use this communication with the teacher to achieve an environment conducive to Rongrong's growth, she knows that it is impossible to do it in one step, but she must take advantage of every opportunity to work in this direction. After all, it was she who communicated with the teacher, not Chen Xiang, no matter how she expressed it, as long as the effect was good. How can I make it work well? It does take a bit of brains.

Many times, we seem to be at a loss in other ways, and people usually unconsciously follow the way our parents 'educated' us when it comes to educating our children. Sometimes it is known that it is not desirable, but this seems to be the only profound 'pattern' that exists in the brain. This is the case with Chen Xiang and Wang Yan now.

Chen Xiang and Wang Yan are obviously seriously inexperienced in Rongrong's education, and they both educate their own children by searching for the "shadow of the educated age" in their respective impressions, which shows that parents' words and deeds to their children are really important! However, this method is obviously problematic, and the couples originally come from different families, and the "parental education model" they receive will definitely be different. Two adults have ambiguity in themselves, how can children digest this "contradiction"?

Now they have a disagreement on the education of their children. Wang Yan knows that this difference must be resolved as soon as possible. Otherwise, it will not only affect the children, but also their feelings, and more importantly, the future of the whole family. Isn't it? The future of every family is children, they are seedlings today, and tomorrow they will become big trees, but whether this tree can grow into a towering tree that can grow into a pillar, or a crooked neck tree that can only be used as firewood, depends on the family education environment created by the two of them for their children.

However, how can they resolve their differences about their children's education?