Zhao Ermei recalled her first marriage: "At that time, I didn't have too many wishes, I just hoped that I would have a stable job, support myself, and be my own master, this wish was the most basic wish, I didn't have too many pursuits, and I didn't have unrealistic fantasies." ”

She took another sip of water: "To be honest, Yao Dabao is the same, he is also a pragmatic person, but he and I don't think the same." It was only later that I realized that we had never thought of being together. The main thing is that all he thinks about is making money, and for him the more money he makes, the better, and money is his only goal. And what I want is a kind of equality, and I want to fight for my equal rights. For this equal right, I can work hard, and money is just another result of work, not my only pursuit. This is what makes me and Yao Dabao different, and that's why we broke up in the end. ”

In the last century, the existence of different household registration management systems in urban and rural areas, as well as the differences in real life, made the identities of "rural people" and "urban people" exist in people's real life, creating an invisible barrier.

Historical data show that at that time, a kind of rule was imposed on peasants who went to the city to work, and "they did not leave their hometowns when they left their land, and they did not enter the city when they entered the factories." However, most local governments believe that the population of counties and towns has the potential to develop and that farmers can be allowed to enter the county seats. Therefore, some localities have opened the way for peasants to enter the county seat and move across provinces. In addition to the transfer of peasants to towns and villages, they also move between counties and towns in the province and across regions. Data show that by 1988, the total number of migrant workers was about 120 million. However, these peasants who entered the city to work or do business were not able to become real city people, and they still wore the hat of "peasants".

In the 90s of the last century, more than 10 provinces, including Guangdong, Zhejiang, Shandong, Shanxi, and Hebei, began to experiment with the "blue-print household registration system." Against this background, some localities have provided peasants with indicators for "turning agriculture into non-farming," and peasants can obtain urban hukou as long as they pay money. Through such methods as "blue-print hukou", "boarding hukou" and "development zone hukou", some peasants who are pursuing a new life have entered the cities.

"Why do I want that account? It was definitely needed, it had to be, it was not my fault, I was right. Zhao Ermei looked at Dongfang Siyi and said very firmly. Zhao Ermei talked about her marriage and family story for most of the day, and returned to this topic, and she couldn't avoid this topic that had been around for a long time.

"yes, it's not your fault, you're not." Dongfang Siyi once again gave her an affirmative answer, at that time, this was not only the pain in Zhao Ermei's heart, but also the pain of many women like her who were born in the countryside, he understood her choice back then, just like she said, she needs a fair treatment, a fair identity.

With the continuous demand for labor brought about by the reform and opening up, more and more migrant workers are entering the urban areas. Subsequently, various practical problems began to emerge, such as the wages of migrant workers, medical insurance, children's schooling, etc., all of which will involve a household registration issue in the final analysis. Migrant workers in urban areas participate in urban construction, but it is difficult for them to enjoy the benefits brought by urbanization.

For women born in rural areas, due to the provisions of the household registration system at that time, the children's household registration could only follow the mother's household registration, and if the man had an urban household registration and the woman had a rural household registration, after the two parties got married, the children could only follow their mothers and become rural people. The value of the urban hukou has led to the fact that intermarriage between urban and rural areas has become a real problem, creating a de facto anomaly that has caused some rural women to lose hope of pursuing an urban life.

"You may not understand, and you must not have felt this way, the feeling of being inferior is really uncomfortable, and it is even more uncomfortable to feel bad in your heart, but you have to pretend to be indifferent on your face. People are sometimes weird, the more you can't get something, the more you want it. Zhao Ermei is unwilling to be buried by her rural household registration to bury her youth and dreams, and she wants to change her fate.

Oriental thinking believes that due to the different attributes of the hukou, it objectively restricts and restricts some of people's right to development and freedom of life, and indeed has a wide range of influence on the life and destiny of a considerable group of people.

Zhao Ermei lamented in front of Dongfang Siyi that she had fought against all kinds of difficulties against fate: "I just want an identity that can give me an equal relationship with others, I am not greedy for wealth, nor do I have to choose to live in the city, I just feel that I should also be a member of social equality." I want to fight for my rights. There is no way to get money to apply for a city hukou, because I can't have any other choice. There is only one way to go, to fight for equal rights at work, there is no other way to go, I have to take this road, I can only take this road. Am I wrong? ”

In the impression of Dongfang Siyi, at that time, a certain southern province introduced a rural reform measure, that is, to reform the household registration system, and for industrial and commercial households that have purchased houses and have relatively stable jobs in counties, cities, and towns, after paying a certain amount of urban construction fees, they can be approved to be converted into urban household registration and included in the normal household registration management. Later, some localities extended this reform to migrant workers in the cities, which was a social phenomenon that once appeared at that time to pay for the problem of hukou.

Some people have made in-depth analysis and reflection on these social problems that have existed. Reflection is necessary and it promotes the progress and development of society. But as a social phenomenon, its impact on the lives of ordinary people is so great that only those involved can experience it in their hearts.

Time has entered the 21st century, and these shadows of the past seem to have slowly faded. In fact, it is not, because the imprint of the times will not easily disappear out of thin air, and its historical impact will appear in our lives in a variety of new forms, so that you can inadvertently meet it again.

Zhao Ermei can't forget this experience, for her, this is an important experience that has influenced her choice of marriage, family and lifestyle. However, the progress and development of the times, before you have time to make any thinking and regrets, everything has quietly changed, some changes and even subversive changes. As a vast number of sentient beings, in the face of these changes, you can only go with the flow, you cannot be independent of society, let alone reverse the trend of the times.

Zhao Ermei was lost in this subversive change, and began to doubt her choices and pursuits, because the persistent pursuit she once had was not only meaningless today, but also counterproductive in some ways. Her dreams that used to be seem more like worthless, even ridiculous daydreams, now seem like nothing to mention. When she woke up, she found that she had gained nothing, and that she had lost what she had been.

Every time Dongfang Siyi looks at Zhao Ermei with a melancholy expression, he thinks of a group of people who have the same experience as Zhao Ermei, and they should be regarded as the lucky ones of an era. Because reform and opening up have brought them various opportunities, they have the opportunity to enter the city, get rid of the poor and backward life, and integrate into the social trend of modernization. At the same time, in this process, they also felt the pain of the change of the times, and in their hearts, there were both rhythms that were in tune with the times, and trills that were not in harmony with the times.

After Zhao Ermei said for a long time, her emotions slowly calmed down, and she looked at Dongfang Siyi apologetically: "I'm really sorry to tell you so much about Chen Guzi's rotten sesame seeds again." I don't want to talk about it, it's useless to say too much. It's just that I don't say it in my heart, and I'm very aggrieved. I just want to find someone to talk to, but no one wants to listen, only you will listen to me, and I know you are very busy. But when I came, I wanted to talk to you about these hidden words in my heart, and my heart was happy when I said them. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled and said, "It's okay, just say what you have in your heart." I'm really sorry, though, but now I have to go to a meeting. He glanced at the wall clock on the wall of his office, and it was still five minutes before ten. The weekend work report meeting is a must, regardless of whether the problem can be solved or not, the meeting must be held unswervingly on time, this is a habitual work mode, but also a kind of system regulations, system regulations mean that can not be ignored or violated.

Dongfang Siyi got up with his notebook and was about to go to the conference room, while looking at Zhao Ermei with an apologetic face and said, "How will it be next time?" Next time I hear you say, there is really no way for me to attend this meeting. I know you're not wrong, next time, we'll talk about it again. Good no good? ”

Zhao Ermei was also used to facing this busy president, so she could only nod with a wry smile and said, "I know that you are very busy, and I know that you must think I am annoying, thank you for being willing to listen, and you don't refuse to receive me like others." I can wait as long as you are willing to listen, and when you have time, I will ask you a few more questions related to the case. Although Zhao Ermei was a little disappointed, she didn't pester Dongfang Siyi, she knew that this was the most patient judge she might meet.

Zhao Ermei thought about it, and asked carefully before leaving, "President Dongfang, can I make an appointment with you?" Dongfang Siyi thought for a while and said: "You come next Thursday afternoon, as long as there is no urgent matter, next Thursday afternoon, I will receive you alone, and we will talk about your affairs and your case." ”

Zhao Ermei's face finally showed a smile that resurrected some kind of hope.

(Next Episode: Chapter 15: The Psychology of the Original Family)