After Dongfang Siyi and Xu Ming left, Han Shuai learned about Wang Jing's physical condition and some situations that needed attention from Director Jacky Li and returned to the ward, silently looking at Wang Jing who was lying down and resting with her eyes closed, full of guilt in her heart.

Han Shuai thought about it, then picked up the letter brought by Dongfang Siyi and read it first.

Han Shuai's son-in-law, Wang Jingwu'er:

Until your marriage is truly over in the legal sense, allow me to still call Xiao Han like this.

I don't know if you can read this letter to you together with President Dongfang. However, as your elder, I want to say what I think without reservation, maybe this is the last time I have the opportunity to nag you, you might as well put aside your position for the time being and listen to it, it is also my elder's request to you, I think you still have a minimum of respect for me.

Let me tell you my story first.

Wang Hui and Wang Jing's father and I were married in free love, which was considered open-minded and lucky among our peers of that era. Because we are college classmates, we naturally know each other better, and it is easy to have feelings between men and women.

Putting aside the grievances and grievances between me and him, thinking about it today, objectively speaking, he still has a lot of advantages. In addition to his handsome appearance, his performance in other aspects is also very good. First of all, he is very good at studying, and during college, his grades in all subjects were among the best, and he has always been the best among his classmates. Secondly, he is also very caring about people, and can always give timely help when others need it most, so he has become the most popular person among his classmates.

We graduated together, worked together, and became colleagues from classmates, and his work ability is also very strong. I was in the second middle school where he was, and he was one of the most popular teachers. It is precisely because of this that he was valued by his superiors and was quickly promoted, which was a later thing.

I mentioned that he is also very caring about people, which was the root cause of my time with him, and the root cause of my breakup with him.

You may think this is strange, but it's not. Because he cares too much about people and cares too much about the feelings of others, so that he treats all the people around him indiscriminately, and in the end he has no principles and no bottom line. After being transferred to the county education bureau as the deputy director, in less than half a year, everything that shouldn't have happened happened because he cared too much about a young and beautiful female colleague next to him.

I don't want to go into the details of that past here. This is what I couldn't accept in the first place, and it's the main reason why I can't forgive him. I was still very young and stubborn, and I didn't think about any possible consequences of this incident, so I had a big quarrel with him without any scruples, and I didn't pay attention to the persuasion of the relevant leaders and colleagues in the education system, and resolutely divorced him.

After I divorced him, he was severely punished by the organization for messing with the relationship between men and women, and he also left his leadership position and was assigned to work as a principal in the most remote rural primary school. Later, I learned that he was the only so-called principal and teacher in this elementary school.

Half a year later, I heard that he had left that school. Later, some of my friends, who knew him well and who I knew, told me that he could not accept the hard life of a rural elementary school, and that a distant relative of his, who lived in Japan, helped him go to Japan. After that, I never had any contact with him and never heard from him again.

Many years later, I have seriously reflected on this past. I think that if it wasn't for my own desperateness, there might have been another ending, but the water that was spilled couldn't be recovered. I just want to think that we must be principled in some major matters involving life and on major issues of right and wrong, but we must not be too impulsive and lose our due rationality. There must be a certain tolerance for some things, some mistakes. Sometimes we don't have to rush a decision, maybe time will give us a better answer.

Of course, when I say this now, I am not forgiving the person who betrayed my feelings because of cheating, but I am a rational understanding after reflecting on this matter, and it is a true reflection on my past life experience. Everyone has had their own youthful years, and when they are young, it is easy to lose themselves and make mistakes of one kind or another. The choices we make in our lives cannot always be right, and it is not terrible to make mistakes, but it is terrible to not know our mistakes and not know how to correct them.

The reason why I want to tell you about my past is mainly because I feel that because of this past, it has had some negative and negative effects on the growth of Wang Hui and Wang Jing sisters, which is what I am most sad and blame myself.

At the time when I divorced him, Wang Hui was already old enough to remember, and she would naturally have a certain impression of this incident, which would inevitably cause her psychological trauma, which should not have happened. I didn't really realize this until she was an adult, but apparently I found out a little late.

Wang Hui's loneliness and her celibacy, as well as her indifference to love and family affection, should be related to the trauma of the soul in this regard. As her mother, I naturally felt very guilty, so I flatly refused her repeated requests to move out and live alone. It was absolutely impossible for me to agree to her request, and again and again expressed my resolute opposition to her, and there was no room for negotiation, and she had many awkward quarrels with me because of this, and even refused to pay attention to me for several months, but I still resolutely did not let go, and I would not let go in this matter.

Because, I can't let her lose her last family affection because of this, and I can't let her feel deeper loneliness in her heart. I hope that her concept and attitude towards life will change one day, and I hope that she can get out of that shadow in her psyche, because the emotional entanglement between me and his father left her shadow, and I hope that she can meet a lover who makes her feel warm.

Wang Jing and Wang Hui have different personalities, she has been a very lively child since she was a child, she brought me much more joy than my mother brought her, which also made me save a lot of heart, at the same time, after you met and interacted, it also gave me the idea of letting Xiao Han you join our family.

At this point, I didn't think it through and didn't take into account other aspects carefully, so much so that you felt a lot of embarrassment and discomfort in the process of living with us, and even inadvertently hurt your self-esteem. This is something I didn't think about at the beginning, it was my negligence, and here, I sincerely want to apologize to Xiao Han.

I am not a rigid person, not a person who clings to traditional concepts, and is not a person who is rigid in thinking and guards the old brain and does not know how to change. On the contrary, I always have a positive attitude towards and understand new things and new ideas. Although according to our traditional concept of Chinese, it is a great happiness for several generations to live together and children and grandchildren around their knees. However, the changes of the times, the changes in ideology, the changes in lifestyles, and the objective existence of the generation gap, the contradiction of several generations in the same house may be far greater than the happiness of several generations in the same house.

From the perspective of more aspects of social development, the scope and level of socialized services are becoming more and more developed, and the modern way of life can basically meet the needs of different groups of people. Young people have the life of young people, and the elderly have the life of old people, and by keeping their own space, we may be able to better respect each other and avoid all kinds of conflicts.

Our society is paying more and more attention to the value of the individual, respecting the rights of the individual and the privacy of the individual, which is the progress of society. It's not that I don't agree with the traditional family lifestyle, on the contrary, as an older generation who accept more traditional ideas, I prefer this kind of life. However, I also clearly know that the development of the times will inevitably bring about changes in all aspects of lifestyle, including the traditional family lifestyle. In fact, a family of three or four, in which parents and their children live relatively together, is already the choice of the absolute majority of families.

I once read an article describing the changes in human family and marriage, and this article analyzes the evolution of family lifestyles in ancient and modern China and foreign countries through a large number of examples, which is very well-founded and reasonable. The original way of life of the extended family was actually a way of life that was compatible with the productive forces of the time formed by thousands of years of agricultural society.

With today's society, the individual's ability can be unleashed to the greatest extent possible, and the family's function in other aspects has become weaker and weaker in addition to the need to maintain family affection. Therefore, the lifestyle of several generations is not necessarily suitable for most people, or it does not have much help for the growth and life of young people, perhaps we are just subjectively biased towards that tradition, and ignore the many contradictions and disharmony in this way of life.

Telling you all this is a kind of self-understanding that I have come up with after weighing and comparing the real situation of ideals and reality. I now feel that you should have a small home of your own, and you should have your own living space. My previous demands, which are contrary to the objective situation, have been proven to be not reasonable requirements after some years of contradictions, nor are they a good idea that is suitable for everyone.

Since this lifestyle is not suitable for you, you should make the necessary changes. I know you're actually in love, I can feel that, and when I think about it, I'm more at ease. If my guess is not wrong, Xiao Han, you chose to divorce Wang Jing because you can't adapt to life in a family like ours, but you can't say your true thoughts in front of me, and you can't let yourself live like this for a long time.

I have talked to Judge Dongfang Siyi, and I have learned that there is a certain proportion of cases that go to court for divorce because of conflicts and disputes between the parents of both parties, and I think this is a tragedy that can be avoided.

If my guess is correct, if you have no other contradictions and problems, if you love each other as always, I agree with you to move out and live separately. You can choose to buy a house or you can choose to rent a house, if you have any difficulties, you can tell me, I will try my best to help you, because I am a relative that you can trust and rely on, and you are the same for me. When I really grow old one day and need you, I believe you will not abandon me, you are all good boys.

I know that Xiao Han is a good policeman, a good man, and will definitely be a good husband. Wang Jing is a good daughter that I am proud of, and she is also an excellent teacher, and you each have your own careers that you love. I believe that Wang Jing and you will live happily together, love needs to pay for each other, and it needs to respect each other, only in this way can it last for a long time. If you really love each other, you will have a common future together, and you can only get endless regrets and remorse when you break up.

Breaking up may be easy, but persistence requires courage and responsibility. If you read my letter, if you choose to persevere, I hope you can work together in the future to face the difficulties of the future, and in the future, no matter what kind of ups and downs you encounter, I hope you will be considerate of each other, support each other, and grow old together.

These days, I have also thought about my life, figured out some things, and felt that some of the words of some old classmates and colleagues made sense. Life is a process, and as long as there are no regrets in this process, it should be respected. Be young and have fun. The reason is very simple, if you figure it out, accepting it is the beginning of a new life, and if you can't figure it out, rejecting it is the old day after day.

I decided to join a tour organized by my old classmates and colleagues, and this tour arranged a lot of activities, which may take more than a month or so. This is also enough time for you to make new choices. Perhaps, when I return to this home, you will have a new home of your own, and I will return to my old age. Even if there is some loneliness, it must be free and comfortable.

If you can still stick to the original relationship, you will definitely have a happier life of your own, and you will have your own children. A good life needs to be bred, and you will feel the joy of life in the continuation of the new life of the next generation.

There are many ideals and goals in life, and you can strive to achieve them one by one, and pursue them one by one. As an old man, I certainly want to see my grandchildren come into this world, and the joy of family life is a kind of happiness that no other happiness can replace. I hope that you will allow me to enjoy this joy of life as soon as possible.

If you decide to move out and move in, I hope you will come to see me as an old lady often when you have time. If there is anything I can help with, I must also tell me that I feel that I am still worthwhile, and according to the popular saying now, I also need to have such a sense of existence.

Originally, I only wanted to say a few key points in a few words, but I couldn't control the problem of nagging as soon as I spread out the paper, this problem of loving to write letters and nagging was formed after Wang Hui and Wang Jing went to college, and you two sisters probably hated the problem of an old lady like me.

Okay, let's really stop nagging, just stop there.

I wish you all the best!

Love you old ladies

Han Shuai's eyes moistened after reading the letter, he didn't expect the old man to think about everything so thoughtfully and meticulously, she must have been silently looking at her son-in-law who was very uncomfortable in this family for a long time, but she couldn't find a chance to communicate, she just didn't want to hurt everyone around her, she just put her worries and worries in her heart. This is the mother, a mother who has been worrying about her children all her life.

(Next Notice: Chapter 32: Mother's Tolerance)