Xu Ming's analysis of the divorce case between Han Shuai and Wang Jing is not only very clear, but also can be said to be accurate, Dongfang Siyi looked at his apprentice with some doubts: "Your understanding and experience of this case is beyond my understanding of you." Of course, I don't doubt your ability in all aspects, I know that you have a strong understanding, are willing to learn, and are good at thinking. However, if you can analyze the parties and outsiders in this case so thoroughly, there must be other reasons. ”

Xu Ming smiled and filled Dongfang Siyi's cup with water: "Master, is this going to analyze me?" I found that you are not only an experienced trial expert, but also a psychology expert, who can always capture what is in a person's heart, and what I want to hear most now is to see what the master has to say about me. ”

Dongfang Siyi narrowed his eyes and looked at his apprentice: "You can have such a deep understanding and knowledge of this case, it is definitely not because of life experience and experience, you do not have this advantage, when you get married, become a family, and become a judge for another ten years, and have handled thousands of cases, you can say that you have experience and experience in this area." ”

Dongfang Siyi picked up the teacup on the table, touched it with his hand, felt a little hot, and drank a few sips of tea very carefully, and then began to analyze his apprentice: "You have such a thorough understanding of the facts of this case, and you have analyzed the personalities and ideas of the parties and related outsiders so well, in addition to the fact that you know and are familiar with the process of the two of them divorced twice, the main reason is that there are some things in this case that make you have a kind of resonance in your thoughts." ”

A smile appeared on Xu Ming's face, he knew that the master was about to start revealing the secret of his heart.

Dongfang Siyi looked at him and said: "You, Han Shuai, and Wang Jing are all of the post-80s generation, although the two of them are a few years older than you, this can be ignored, because there is no fundamental generation difference between you." As a young generation, you have your own mature and independent values, although you have not yet entered the door of marriage, but you must have your own view of marriage and love, and you must have a different understanding and choice from our generation. In the process of analyzing this case, you have already expressed some opinions, such as the understanding of the occupation, thoughts, personalities, hobbies and so on of both husband and wife, for example, the understanding of the life pattern of the small family and the extended family, which have actually involved the inner thoughts and choices of your generation, so you will express them very clearly and analyze them thoroughly. ”

Xu Ming had to admire the master's eyesight: "When I was analyzing others, the master had already begun to analyze me. You seem to ask why in everything, and you look at everything with your professional eyes. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled: "It's not as exaggerated as you said, I am talking to you about this issue now, mainly to understand your generation's thoughts on marriage and family, your generation, and your parents' generation." This is also to better take into account the different thoughts and concepts of several generations in the process of handling marriage and family cases, and to better achieve a target. In the process of handling many civil cases, the interests and conflicts of several generations will be involved, and if we do not pay attention to taking care of and balancing all aspects of the conflict of interests, it will certainly be difficult to achieve the unity of legal and social effects that we often say. ”

Xu Ming put the bound case file aside and said with a smile: "The master is not only a master, but also a god, always standing higher and seeing farther than others. In fact, in the process of thinking about this divorce case, I did consider the problem more from the standpoint of our generation, and also found some common problems, your old man often said to see the essence through the phenomenon, and I also used this specific case to interpret some universal social phenomena, which may be easier to help me find the regularity. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at his apprentice appreciatively and said: "People of different ages have different ideas and ways of thinking, this is an objective fact, looking at this case from your point of view, and standing in my perspective from this case, there will definitely be different discoveries, talk about what common social phenomena you have found from this case, I would like to know the real thoughts of your young people." ”

Xu Ming got up again and refilled some hot water into Dongfang Siyi's cup, then sat opposite Dongfang Siyi again, seriously thought about the topic just now and said: "Actually, if you look at it from the perspective of values, outlook on life and worldview, our generation and our parents, that is, your generation, have not changed much, or there is no fundamental change. Because, from the perspective of cultural inheritance, we not only received traditional Chinese cultural education in the process of learning in school, but also received the education of your generation elders in family life and work, and we will naturally be influenced by your generation, which is an undeniable influence. For example, from the perspective of family concept, we have been educated by Confucian culture since childhood, and the strict fathers and mothers in the family require us to abide by the rules, morality and law, and advocate the family style of respecting the old and loving the young, and family harmony. This has always been the cultural tradition of our Chinese, and deviance will be criticized and abandoned by society. However, after all, the times are different, and each era has the characteristics of each era, and the characteristics of the times will imperceptibly affect each generation and mark them with the mark of the times. ”

Xu Ming looked at Dongfang Siyi and smiled and continued: "In the consciousness of our generation, as the generation of our elders, you are a particularly sacrificial generation, diligent and motivated, few people will choose to retreat and avoid when facing heavy work, even regardless of gains and losses. From the perspective of the country and the nation, it is precisely because of the spirit of sacrifice of you and your predecessors, as well as the spirit of selfless dedication that has been inherited and passed down by your generation, that today's prosperous era has become possible. You, along with your predecessors, have completed the inheritance and continuation of this history. And we and your generation are also carrying out similar historical inheritance and continuation, which is the law of nature, the law of society and the law of history. Without this generational transmission, there will be no future for the country and the nation. ”

Dongfang Siyi nodded appreciatively: "You are right, the best relationship between a generation and a generation is actually a relationship of inheritance. ”

Xu Ming looked at Dongfang Siyi and said frankly: "Your generation, if you look at it as a whole, the biggest characteristic is: whether in family life or social life, you are willing to take on more responsibilities and are willing to sacrifice your small self to achieve your big self." The vast majority of people are vicious and hateful, and they can't rub sand in their eyes. Because you have grown up in a great era, a great era that emphasizes the state and the collective, and a great era in which the dynasty has changed and the old is replaced by the new, you have naturally been deeply imprinted with this great era. ”

Dongfang Siyi saw the shadow of his past from Xu Ming's young face, this young man was right, the parents of the post-80s generation did grow up in a big era, obviously with the imprint of the big era, they are fearless of all hardships and hardships, and dare to challenge all unknown fields, and because of this, this generation has created countless miracles in the world together with their big era. But most of them, as individuals, are inevitably ignored by history, lost in the tide of the great era, and become countless unsung heroes.

For the first time, Xu Ming opened his heart in front of Dongfang Siyi to talk about himself and his peers: "We are different, we grew up in a great era of reform and opening up, from the time we opened our eyes, we saw a changing world, more and more abundant materials, more and more active thoughts, various ideas collided with each other, we are a generation that grew up in such a rich and colorful social environment." The times have opened doors for us one after another, giving us one new world after another. In this labyrinthine world, we explore to the fullest, but we will not get lost, because we have the Beidou above our heads, this Beidou is the traditional Chinese culture, and we also have parents who have always taken care of their own growth, and you are the guardians who will never abandon us. Although there will be conflicts of ideas, clashes of thoughts, and differences in actions between us, we are the continuation of your lives, and this conflict and confrontation is the conflict and confrontation between today and tomorrow, and it is a conflict and confrontation in a natural continuation, not a conflict and confrontation of a fundamental nature. Therefore, in my opinion, the so-called generation gap is only a reasonable phenomenon formed by differences in understanding and living habits, it is not a deviance, it will not have an impact on the core values of our entire nation, nor will it affect the inheritance and development of traditional culture by our younger generation, it is just a conflict in inheritance. ”

Xu Ming flipped through the dossier in front of him and continued: "If there are any more obvious characteristics of our generation, I feel it the most, and what I want to say the most is the pursuit of a fair and just environment, and paying more attention to individual rights than your generation, which may be a very important part of it. In social life, we will not emphasize dedication unprincipledly, but require our own contributions, which must be able to get reasonable returns from the society; In family life, we also attach importance to retaining our own personal privacy in a harmonious relationship, and will not give up our privacy because of the intimacy of the relationship. In short, it is to pay attention to the embodiment of one's own personal value and the protection of individual rights in the social environment. Because of the difference in concepts, this characteristic may easily lead to large and small contradictions and conflicts, but I believe that this is a contradiction and conflict that must be present in the progress of the times, and there is no need to exaggerate the negative impact of such contradictions and conflicts, on the contrary, we should face up to such contradictions and conflicts and resolve them in a reasonable way. ”

Dongfang Siyi picked up the few legal books that had just been sent down and flipped a few pages, and said with emotion: "In fact, many of our newly revised laws have set a reasonable bottom line and guardrails for such contradictions and conflicts, and at the same time protect the legitimate rights of individuals, they can resolve conflicts and disputes between personal interests and the interests of others and society to the greatest extent. This is the progress of the law and the progress of society. ”

(Next Notice: Chapter 48: Reasons for Avoidance)