In the early morning of midsummer, after a short light rain, the air is filled with the special fragrance of various leaves, and the sudden increase in negative ions makes people feel comfortable and refreshing, and the mood becomes very happy.

A busy week has passed in the blink of an eye. During the five working days of this week, Dongfang Siyi was either busy with the trial or in a hurry to write the verdict. When I got home, I fell asleep on the bed tired, and I was cured of my insomnia unconsciously. Insomnia has been an old problem that has plagued Dongfang Siyi for many years. Dongfang Siyi thinks that this can also be regarded as an additional reward for hard work.

I haven't written for days on end, and I haven't been online. When he got up on Sunday morning, Dongfang Siyi opened all the windows, breathed in the fresh and moist air after the rain, and remembered that he had a plan to go for a morning run, and although he had been abandoned for a long time, he decided to exercise properly.

Dongfang Siyi originally had a plan in his heart, under normal circumstances, he might run once a week, three or four times a month, and it would be difficult to say for a year, because sometimes, it may be difficult to move in a month or two. Therefore, Dongfang Siyi self-deprecatingly called himself an "intermittent athlete".

Before, Aichen had not completely left him as he did now, and sometimes he would come back to live for a while. When she was with Dongfang Siyi, she always laughed at him and said: "You are not an intermittent athlete, but an intermittent hypermental person, and the ugly thing to say is intermittent psychosis." ”

Dongfang Siyi said helplessly: "No matter what it is, when it comes to you, it will definitely be more ugly, there is no humor cell, your habit can also be called humor cell deficiency, this kind of problem has a very typical symptom, you seem to be in line with it." ”

Ai Qin sneered and asked, "You will be annoyed and angry when you say a few words, do you have a sense of humor?" You say I'm a humor deficit, which one do you meet? Dongfang Siyi said bluntly: "The personality is too rigid, the speech is too straight, the hurt is too deep, and there are too many enemies." ”

Ai Qin stopped talking and became silent again, she also knew that she had many personalities that were difficult to change, but she did not admit that it was a character flaw, only a difference in personality. Dongfang Siyi did not object to her statement, but questioned her statement that personality is difficult to change.

Dongfang Siyi put forward his own opinion: "Why do we often propose to strengthen our self-cultivation? I think that the so-called cultivation refers to the knowledge of getting along with people, and the biggest problem with getting along with people is the problem of personality. If a person's personality lacks inclusiveness and the ability to communicate, it will be difficult to get along with others, no matter what kind of personality you are. ”

Although Ai Qin also agrees and affirms the importance of inclusiveness, he refutes his understanding and knowledge of inclusiveness, believing that he is overinterpreting inclusiveness: "Your vision is partial, and the purpose of cultivation is not to communicate with others, but you are treating personal cultivation from a utilitarian perspective." The purpose of self-cultivation is to improve one's overall quality, to enrich one's knowledge, and to become wiser in seeing people and things, rather than to compromise better with others. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled and said: "You are an expert in sociology, doesn't sociology pay more attention to the importance of inclusion and compromise?" In the final analysis, human beings are social animals, so if a person does not pay attention to communication with society, he will become a person who is incompatible with society, and he will become an island-like existence. Is it wrong to say that personal cultivation must improve one's ability to communicate with others and society? ”

Ai Qin shook his head: "If you don't deliberately confuse the concept, you have subjectively fallen into a kind of misunderstanding. When we talk about social inclusiveness, we mean that society as a whole must accept the differences between personalities, and as a society with a high degree of civilization, it is allowed to allow all kinds of different ideas and trends of thought to exist, and as long as it does not violate the laws and morals of society, we should allow the existence of all kinds of differences, whether backward or advanced. This is in the context of society as a whole, not between one person and another, and must be as inclusive as society as a whole treats each member. Otherwise, it is a violation of the rights of one person to another, for example, between the two of us, you must ask me to be tolerant of you, that is, you want me to give up my rights, and you are violating my rights under the pretext of tolerance. ”

Thinking of the dispute with Ai Qin, Dongfang Siyi smiled bitterly, he and Ai Qin always seemed to be unable to find a point that could tolerate each other. Perhaps, because he pays attention to individual cases and focuses on communication and compromise between people, Ai Qin focuses on the overall problems of society and focuses on the construction of social security systems. He felt that although he and Aichen were in the same direction, they were each driving on their own tracks, and although they were parallel to each other, they did not seem to have an intersection.

Dongfang Siyi changed into a sportswear that is rarely worn once, walked out of the door, and started jogging along the healthy trail of the moat as usual. Although there were not many people jogging in the morning, I also met several acquaintances. Everyone found that they hadn't seen each other for a long time, and when they saw that they were still a little excited, they waved their hands and greeted each other: "Long time no see, long time no see." So, they looked at each other and smiled, and they ran away again. It seems that everyone belongs to the same intermittent exercisers as the East thinks.

In the past few years, urban construction has begun to pay more attention to the living needs of citizens, and many sports venues have been built along the moat. These venues attract more and more people to participate in sports and become a new landscape in the city.

In addition to the people who walk and jog, more people seem to be accustomed to the sports organized by someone, they either dance the square dance in the voice of the lead dancer and the music, or under the guidance of the coach, learn Tai Chi or Tai Chi Sword one move at a time, or dance the self-choreographed fan dance in uniform costumes, and some people find a quiet place alone, playing the delicate timbre, mellow and simple, soft and charming gourd silk, and a little farther away, someone plays a deep and calm, soft and sad saxophone, although the timbre is different. The tones are also different, but they don't sound out of harmony, but they make people feel a wonderful realm of never getting tired of listening to each other, and echoes within echoes......

After running along the moat trail for about five kilometers, Dongfang Siyi sweated after running, and returned home to take a hot bath, as if all the capillaries in the whole body were activated, and he felt extremely relaxed. Dongfang Siyi thinks that this is probably the benefit of exercise. Even though it's intermittent exercise, the benefits are numerous.

I simply ate two loaves of bread and drank a glass of milk, which was considered to be breakfast. Dongfang Siyi, as usual, sat down at the computer desk again, and habitually stretched out his left hand, he wanted to touch the iron-shelled cigarette box that had been used for decades next to the computer, but found that the iron-shelled cigarette box was already empty.

In the past, Ai Qin's habit of smoking was the most intolerable, especially smoking at home, every time he would not let him finish smoking, she would not help but come over and take the other half of the cigarette away, at first she threw it away, and later saw that he could not quit, so she left it for him, but set a clear limit for him, he could only smoke half a cigarette at a time, and no more than three cigarettes a day.

Ai Qin refused to admit that he smoked because of physiological needs, and her speech was never unquestionable: "You are psychological dependence, not physical dependence, it is your freedom to quit or not, and it is my freedom not to object." There is no compromise in this matter! Dongfang Siyi looked at her and said helplessly: "Compromise? Do you have this concept? Tell me, on what point did you compromise with me? ”

She was stunned for a moment: "I know that I am not a good wife in your eyes, but I have no way to compromise with you in these aspects." It's not that I don't want to make appropriate compromises with you, it's just that many of your habits are unacceptable to me, so I can't compromise. I can only say sorry to you if you have been troubled by this, because there is no other way to reach an agreement, let alone a compromise that you are talking about. That's not a compromise at all, that's unprincipled, it's a surrender of the wrong way of life. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled bitterly and said: "The question of compromise or not has nothing to do with whether you are a good wife or not. I thought about it and thought it was just a matter of getting used to it. Whatever the problem and whatever the reason, I'm used to insisting, and you're used to being opposed. You are a professor in the Department of Sociology, and your research habits make you strive for a kind of perfection in everything, and you will be critical of everything that is imperfect in your eyes, and you always demand me by your standards and judge me with your ruler, which is unfair. And me? Although I used to be an idealist, I have become accustomed to facing imperfections in life because of my profession, and my profession has also allowed me to deal with imperfect people and things rationally. ”

Ai Qin originally wanted to put the half of the cigarette he had just taken from his hand into the ashtray, but after thinking about it, he handed it to him: "You're right, we always seem to be unable to agree with each other, as long as we are together, we don't feel comfortable with each other." I think it's better to separate from each other in such a state of life, maybe it's a good choice for both of us. ”

Ai Qin used to only come back to live with him for a while after the college holidays, and finally they both found that their habits were becoming more and more incompatible with each other, and the two decided to break up after calmly discussing them. Before leaving, she told him: "Take care of yourself, I am not your wife now, and the care between friends can only be carried out in the form of friendly reminders." He also smiled: "We have voluntarily discharged our legal rights and obligations from each other, and it feels much easier to be friends, and you can take care." ”

When Dongfang Siyi sent Ai Qin back to the provincial capital, he also thought about humorous about his marriage model: "Professor, do you think our breakup model is a bit different from others, can you summarize it and give it a meaningful name?" ”

Ai Qin looked back at him, "Do you want an explanation?" This model only works for the two of us and has no sociological implications. If one day, if you feel inconvenient and want to find another partner, I will accompany you to go through the legal formalities, anyway, I will not go with you now. ”

Dongfang Siyi joked: "It really has no sociological significance, because this is a breakup but not a divorce, and a separation of a family but not a division of property." There is really no way to promote this breakup model, it can only be called 'custom mode', my professor, what do you say? ”

Ai Qin was also amused: "Whatever you want to define, however, I still have to correct your wrong statement in time, I am a professor, but not your professor, I am not your private property, you can't call me that." ”

After leaving Aichen, he began to quit smoking again, but he still gave up halfway. It's just that he feels that his psychological dependence on smoking is significantly less than before. I haven't smoked for a few days, and Dongfang Siyi feels that I have made some progress towards quitting smoking completely. For smokers who have relied on nicotine for a long time to refresh their minds, it is still difficult to quit the habit of many years.

Dongfang Siyi decided to set a few quit days for himself first, and resolutely do not smoke on weekdays, so as to really reduce the number of smoking days. The whole hospital is carrying out smoke-free room activities, which is also a constraint, and it should be regarded as discipline. And then what? Be a little merciful to yourself, an old smoker, and you can smoke a little less on the weekend, but you must make the necessary limit, never more than three in a day, which is not more than the original limit set by Ai Qin for him.

After thinking about it this way, Dongfang Siyi went downstairs to buy cigarettes. There is a big billboard outside the cigarette hotel, with eight big characters written: The past is like smoke, and the aftertaste is endless. Yes, the past is like smoke, and now how many of the past have disappeared. The dreams of youth, the pursuit of youth, and the exploration of middle age are like a string of slides with time, flashing and retreating, gradually moving away, and slowly dimming.

opened the QQ software, and a few new people were added to the marriage and family discussion group, all of whom were added after reading his QQ signature. There is an online name "When I Wake Up", saying that she has been divorced three times, claiming that she neither believes in love nor the law, she only believes in money, and only money can give her a sense of security. There is also a person named "Believe in Yourself", who is a judge who hears marriage and family cases like him, and can be regarded as a real peer. Dongfang Siyi looked at these avatars that were still very unfamiliar, they only came together because of one topic, which made him feel all the wonders brought by the Internet.

Where did the dream return to him send a message privately: "Are you done with the business at hand? I guess you have something to do, I can't see you landing, and I don't talk when I land. How can people discuss some topics with you? It's really embarrassing, I finally met you, and you always seem to don't want to pay attention to people. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at this avatar frame without an avatar, and had an urge to talk to her, how long had he not talked to people casually and honestly, and he really had no impression. Perhaps, for him personally, as a professional judge, he should be serious and unsmiling, and he is indeed such an image in reality. He must not speak at will, especially laughing at will, but must speak in accordance with the requirements of the professional norms of judges, and must speak in French and in French, and he must not express his opinions casually, but must be thoughtful before speaking, and must be logical and rigorous, and must have a corresponding factual and legal basis for what he says.

Thinking of this, Dongfang Siyi couldn't help but ask himself, can you be a little easier? Now that I am outside of work, I have entered the mode of chatting from work mode, and I am just a netizen in the online world, can I chat well? For Dongfang Siyi, chatting has also become a luxury in daily life.

(Next Episode: Chapter 63: The Inertia of Thinking)