Dongfang Siyi thought to himself: "Why can't you take it easy, why can't you have a good chat?" Looking at the avatar frame where the dream was still flickering, he typed out a line of words and sent it: "Hello, Happy Valentine's Day." ”

Where did the dream go and quickly replied with an emotion: "Happy Valentine's Day? Is it Valentine's Day? Oh, by the way, it's really a beggar festival, a unique Valentine's Day for the Chinese, but unfortunately it makes no sense to me, there is neither a cowherd, nor a magpie bridge, this is someone else's festival, how to be happy? There is no joy, only the exhaustion of day after day, and I don't want to lie. However, it is also a pleasure to meet you, not for anything else, just because I feel that you are very good at talking, both humorous and funny, and can always inspire people in ordinary conversations, and chatting with you can always feel a different pleasure. ”

Dongfang Siyi seemed to have regained his long-lost ease: "I'm sorry, because I don't have any flowers to give you." Don't get me wrong, I just think that on special holidays, it is just a ritual for a man to give flowers to a woman, and it doesn't necessarily have to be some kind of fixed relationship. Giving roses to people has a lingering fragrance, which is also suitable for such a festival. I'm just sorry, I'm just talking, but I don't have a rose in my hand. What are you busy these days, what are you busy with? Can you talk about it? ”

Dream Gui sent a smiling expression: "I don't need to send flowers, except for some students and parents who will send me some flowers on Teacher's Day, I don't remember that someone will give me a gift on Valentine's Day." I just want someone to talk to me now, and sometimes even this is a luxury, and any festival where no one can talk to is meaningless. Nothing special these days, as always, day after day, year after year. It's so hard to meet you! ”

He found a dancing butterfly and sent it to her: "Give you a butterfly, let it take you through time and space, out of the lost dream, may you continue to flap your wings like it, to find the ideal garden." ”

She looked at the butterfly and exclaimed, "This butterfly is so beautiful." Thank you, I did that dream again last night, still walking alone in the long passage, there is no end, no light, no one around, I was pushed forward by a shadowless and invisible hand, I didn't know what was waiting for me in front of me, I couldn't help but walk forward with a kind of fear, until I woke up, I found myself covered in cold sweat. ”

Dongfang Siyi looked at the avatar frame without an avatar that was constantly beating in front of him, and fell into deep thought: "You may have had some special experience, this experience has become a knot that you can't untie, and this knot will scab over after being entangled in your heart for a long time." After that, if you touch it intentionally or unintentionally, it becomes a scar that will make you feel pain from time to time. All you have to do is learn to let go, let go of things that you simply can't unravel. In fact, happiness is just a state of mind, and this state of mind needs to be distracted by negative factors. If a person wants to be happy, he must let himself constantly let go of the unpleasant past, let go of the dead knot that cannot be untied, and let himself continue to move forward, do not stay in the place that once put you in trouble, only by constantly moving forward, will you see new scenery, discover new gardens, and find new happiness. ”

"In my heart, there are indeed some things that can't be untied, but it's too difficult and too difficult to let go of those things, and I've tried to let go of them, but I've struggled for a long, long time and have never been able to let go." You're right, those dead knots have scabbed over in my heart, becoming scars one by one, and they will ache faintly from time to time. I don't know if you've ever had similar experiences, they're hard for me to let go of easily, and anyway, I can't have the kind of mindset you say, or the detachment you can't do. ”

Dongfang Siyi continued to say his feelings: "We are all mortals, and everyone will have something that is difficult to let go, and I am the same. But I'm going to clean them up like I clean up the junk on my computer on a regular basis, so that they don't get too entrenched in my heart, and I don't let them control my soul. You need to cultivate such a normal psychology in life: because there are nine out of ten things that are unsatisfactory in life, and there are actually only one or two things that make you wishful, you should usually think more about the one or two that you want, maybe you will change your mentality, if you are lucky, and the wishful things have increased by one or two, then your mentality will become better and better. There are some unsatisfactory things that cannot be reversed and changed by our own strength, whether you want to or not, they are all there. However, whether you want to think or not, it affects your state of mind, and if you don't think about it, its effect on you will weaken until one day it will disappear. And if you always think about it and pay attention to it, it will have more negative effects on you. ”

Where does the dream return: "You can see, you should be an optimistic and cheerful person, what you say is very reasonable, and I know and understand this truth, but it is difficult to get out of the original state of mind." Maybe you haven't met what I've encountered, or maybe you seem to be very open-minded, but I don't know if you are so open-minded in real life, please allow me to be appropriately suspicious of you. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled: "For us, whether you are truly open-minded or not, the most important thing is to learn to be open-minded. Suspicion can be distinguished into reasonable suspicion and unreasonable suspicion, but both reasonable and unreasonable are permissible and very much needed. Doubt is like a guiding lamp, and only with the spirit of doubt can we have a chance to find the truth and the right answer. Suspicion is like a firewall built by computer antivirus software, which can provide us with a security barrier. ”

"Although we have chatted several times, the total length of time will not exceed twenty-four hours, and we are still strangers after all, not so familiar yet, so, please allow me to remain reasonably suspicious of you." ”

Dongfang Siyi felt a soul that was easily injured, she must have been hurt: "There is no such thing as permission and disapproval, suspicion of anyone or anything is your legitimate right, you are exercising your rights, no matter what others allow or not, it cannot hinder you from exercising your rights." However, familiarity and strangeness are relative, even if you meet someone every day, you don't know his side, the so-called familiar stranger refers to this state, I said, reasonable suspicion is very needed, it can set up a security wall for you. ”

After a moment of silence, he said: "To be honest, although I still have a kind of doubt about you that cannot be eliminated for a while, in my heart, I have an indescribable feeling of love at first sight for you. ”

Dongfang Siyi was reluctant to deviate too far: "What you said about love at first sight, can I understand that you believe what I say, although there is still an inexplicable doubt, but still willing to believe what I say." Thank you for this feeling, this is the basic environment of our chat, like a sky with bright sunshine and clouds that appear and disappear from time to time. ”

"Well, yes, that's what it means. No thanks, if you want to say thank you, then I still want to thank you for giving me such a feeling. It's really an indescribable feeling, in layman's terms, it's called a bosom friend, maybe it's my wishful thinking. But that's okay, I'm just happy with myself. Ha ha. "Obviously happy where the dream goes.

Dongfang Siyi took out a cigarette from the iron-shelled cigarette case, lit it and took a deep breath, accidentally choked, coughed a few times, felt as if something was blocked in his throat, and without the calm feeling he had when he smoked before, he couldn't help but think that it was time for him to quit smoking completely, instead of finding any reason to take the so-called gradual quitting smoking. Aichen is right, he smokes more of a psychological need, and the smoke seems to hide his inner vulnerability. Many times, his heart is not open-minded and detached, but fragile and sad.

Dongfang Siyi put down the cigarette he lit in his hand: "Distance will produce an amplifying effect aesthetically, which is the so-called distance produces beauty, and distance produces an attraction." But it's not absolute, for example, because we don't know each other, we naturally have a desire to understand. But because of strangeness, and unwilling to talk about themselves, they can only remain that strangeness, and it will never be possible to become confidants with each other. This is the interaction between ordinary people, maintaining a safe and attractive distance. Like the stars, each has its own gravitational pull, each has its own trajectory. ”

"Then let's talk about distance, are you far away from me?" Where the Dream Returns has shrewdly grasped another topic.

Dongfang Siyi continues to run its own trajectory: "The social attributes of human beings make us hope to gain the understanding and respect of others, and from this point of view, everyone longs to have a confidant, a confidant who can understand, respect and support each other. But not everyone has this kind of luck, so there will be a sigh of rare confidant in life. Because it is impossible to be honest with each other without principles and bottom lines, there will always be a distance between people, who wants to reveal their privacy to a stranger? It is reasonable and normal not to be open, but it is an accident. Therefore, the feeling of strangeness is undoubtedly a normal state in our lives, and it goes hand in hand with familiarity, which is also destined to be met but not sought in our lives. I'm in M City, Province A, and I'm thousands of miles away from you. ”

"I like to be honest with people, especially those who can touch my heart at once. Do you know where I am? I didn't tell you. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled: "You are in J City, H Province." ”

Dream Gui was a little surprised: "Huh? You know, I thought you didn't know anything. We're neighbors, we're distant neighbors. ”

Dongfang Siyi said calmly: "I can find your address." ”

Where to dream of returning seems to be very little on the Internet, and I don't know that it is easy to find out where QQ friends belong: "Ah, it's a little scary, are you a detective?" ”

Dongfang Siyi joked: "From a certain point of view, I can also be regarded as a companion with detectives, because I like to explore other people's hearts." However, I need to make a special statement or explanation for this, this is different from snooping on other people's privacy, there is an essential difference, I have no addiction to voyeurism. ”

Dongfang Siyi didn't want to dwell on this issue anymore, so he diverted the topic: "Has school started?" ”

"It's been school, and I've been in class for two weeks. So, it's still a bit busy, but it's daytime. If there are no special activities, there is still a lot of leisure time in the evening. As soon as I go online, I open QQ and want to find you, and when you are not there, I will turn off QQ. I can't talk to anyone. ”

Dongfang Siyi teased again: "It seems that you really have a soft spot for me." Do you have any understanding of the concept and usage of gardener? ”

"You know, it's rare for me to find someone to talk to on the Internet, perhaps because I'm a middle school teacher and I'm more conservative in my thinking, so I don't have any netizens. When you say the concept and usage of a gardener, I guess I mean that the teacher is called a gardener, and I am a gardener that people often talk about, but I don't like that title very much. ”

Dongfang Siyi said of his opinion: "I think that the word gardener is used to refer to teachers, in fact, it contains a wrong teaching philosophy. ”

Where the dream goes, I also have an understanding: "You seem to have some high opinions, and I also think that this title contains an old and old concept. ”

Dongfang Siyi said bluntly: "The use of gardeners to refer to teachers seems to be intended to praise the hard work of teachers, but in fact it belittles the teaching profession." Because, teachers have to deal with living educated people, and our education always ignores this point in cultivating people, and always seems to treat people as plants to cultivate, always like to prune and shrunk, and always like to cultivate so-called good seedlings according to their own wishes. In addition to achieving the goals we set, education should respect people's individuality, pay attention to the existence of differences, and pay attention to teaching students according to their aptitude. Therefore, treating teachers as gardeners is itself a wrong educational concept. ”

Where did the dream return smile with feeling: "Hehe, you are my teacher." I agree with you, and I hope you can give me more advice, maybe I will write a good paper on educational philosophy. ”

Dongfang Siyi continues to criticize some problems and phenomena that are ignored: "In real life, many clichés have such similar mistakes. For example, your principal may say a word at every turn in his speech, but the majority of teachers, in fact, there may be only a few people listening to him, at most a few dozen. Habitual language means habitual thinking, and habitual thinking means sticking to the old ways, not thinking about reform and innovation, and there is no progress without innovation. You're right? ”

Where did the dream return: "Our principal's favorite sentence is also used by you to talk about things, you seem to have heard his speech, and his favorite sentence is: the majority of teachers...... When he said this, I would also subconsciously look back at the empty conference room, which was neither as vast as he said nor as numerous as he could get close to, only a few digits, and he probably just enjoyed the illusion. Ha ha. ”

(Next Episode: Chapter 64: The Procedure of Love)