Chapter 110: Inner Longing
Dongfang Siyi once again looked up at the thin figure in the defendant's seat, and he thought of an article he had read not long ago, in which the author used a large number of examples to discuss the modernization of contemporary women related to the process of social reform and opening up, which made people deeply appreciate the author's good intentions.
In the past few decades of reform and opening up, from the awakening of women's self-consciousness, they have realized that as a woman, they should be able to be the masters of their own destiny; From the awakening of the consciousness of female subjectivity, she realized that in social life, she should have the legal right to be a woman; From the awakening of women's group consciousness, we realize that every individual who is a woman is a member of the women's group, and we should do our best for the growth and development of all women, and turn women's awakening into practical actions of self-help and mutual assistance. This is the reasonable choice for Chinese women to move towards modernization and realize the common development of Chinese women in the new era.
However, in this ancient land, the decadent concept of feudal patriarchal superiority and inferiority will not be blown away by a gust of wind like a cloud. Because poverty has not been completely eradicated, there are still many backward ideas and ignorant concepts, women's independence, sometimes still constrained by the individual environment, some of them are undoubtedly still struggling with various restrictions on women's rights, restricting women's development, although it is a very small case, but should still attract the attention of society, should not be ignored.
The thin woman sitting in the defendant's dock in front of her was pushed into a loveless marriage by a group of relatives and friends who are also women, including her mother. They didn't think about it at all, and they didn't want to think about it, which actually pushed her into a trap without love, and eventually destroyed the visions she once had, those beautiful dreams, and her biggest dream was just to live with someone who loved her, form an ordinary family, and live her ordinary life.
However, in the name of the family, they deprived her of her personal freedom and dreams under the pretext of concern, a group kidnapping the fate of the closest individuals, and as a result, a young woman lost her choice, and ultimately led to a tragedy that could have been avoided.
The bright red character "囍" on the window had not yet faded, and the debtors went to the door one after another. She suddenly felt that she had been deceived, deceived by relatives and friends on both sides, and deceived by the matchmaker who could speak well.
Everything in front of me has changed, those colorful whitewashes are just a fictional dream, and the imaginary well-off life has become a bubble. Now, all she has to deal with is a deserted new house, a cold husband, and an unknown amount of debt.
Thinking of the dissatisfied looks of the creditors, looking at her husband's numb expression, a sense of depression and regret that she had never felt before surged up from the bottom of her heart, and she broke a teacup in a trance. Her husband was nodding his head and sending away another person who came to the door to ask for debts, and when he turned around, he roared viciously: "You ruined woman, if someone comes to ask for debts again, you will go back to your mother's house for me to get it, and if you can't get it, don't come back!"
She originally thought that she could change her fate with her youth and her own hands, and she originally thought that she would go out to work with him to earn money to pay off the debts owed due to marriage. The moment he yelled at her, her last hope was dashed.
The husband just used her as a tool to vent, like an object he had bought with his own money. After many verbal abuses and beatings, she has made her husband her destined "nemesis" in her heart, and she begins to blame him for all her misfortunes.
She thought that she could not just succumb to this man who dictated to her, she wanted to get rid of her own misfortune, she did not want to let her youth and life be tied to such a man who had no feelings for her.
"Mom is sick, I'm going back to see it." She made an excuse and went back to her mother's house dozens of miles away.
Seeing that she had come back empty-handed for no reason, the mother asked suspiciously, "Quarrel?" Husband and wife quarrel when they quarrel, don't run to your parents' house as soon as you quarrel, which husband and wife don't quarrel? "Mother has no intimate comfort, no questions about the ups and downs of her life, only merciless blame.
She showed the red and purple bruises on her body and said, "I can't live with him anymore, I want a divorce." Before she could take a closer look at the scars, her mother interrupted her crying. She didn't get her mother's understanding and sympathy, but her mother scolded her headlessly.
Mother is a timid and afraid person: "If you want to divorce him, what will we pay back the 100,000 yuan bride price given by his family?" Half of the 100,000 yuan has been used by your father for medical treatment, and the other half has been saved, which is to be kept for your brother's marriage. Marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog, and you can live in peace, I beg you. ”
She also knew that she could not get what she wanted from her mother, neither material nor spiritual. However, before hearing her mother's involuntary refusal, she still hoped to find her own support, and it was not until her mother explicitly rejected her that she truly understood that she could only save herself by herself.
She was utterly desperate, completely discarding the little hope she had for her mother, and falling into all sorts of fantasies in despair. She thought that she would run away from home alone, that she had hands and feet, and that there would always be a place to earn a bite to eat. She thought about finding another reliable man she liked, who knew cold and hot, and would hold herself in the palm of her hand, take care of herself, care for herself, and warm herself. In the past, there were several boys who were kind to themselves, would they still accept themselves?
After staying at her mother's house for two days, her mother was going to drive her back. After she left her mother's house, she didn't go back immediately, but wandered around the nearby town like a walking corpse for a long time, but she unexpectedly ran into her classmate Hou Bao.
Hou Bao is two years older than her, and after finishing junior high school, she went out to work, and she started to go out to work with him. Hou Bao knew that she hurried home because she had heard that her mother was sick, and now she met her unexpectedly on the street, and when she saw her wandering around like a normal person, he asked her with concern, "Is your mother's illness cured?" ”
She said angrily: "Okay, I've been deceived by my own mother, don't you think it's funny?" She didn't want me to work outside, so she made up a lie and tricked me back. She doesn't look like my own mother, but like a liar. Why did you come back and quit? ”
Hou Bao told her: "Don't do it? Is there another way out? I have now found another factory, this boss is better, and the salary is higher than the previous ones, this time I will come back to rest for a few days, and I am ready to find some people to go over. If you still want to go out to work, you can come with me. I'm going to take advantage of my youth now, work for ten or eight years, accumulate a little money, and then come back to learn to do some business. In short, you can't stay at home. In that case, you will not only waste your youthful time, but also find no way out. How are you? Idle at home? ”
She knew that Hou Bao had always liked herself before, and she also felt that Hou Bao was a very reliable boy, but now that he is married, will he still be good to him? Thinking of this, her heart was sour, she blushed and told Hou Bao: "I, I'm married." No one asked me if I wanted to, the whole family forced me, and my mother told me that if I didn't agree, she wouldn't recognize me as a daughter, and there was no way, I had to agree. ”
Hou Bao was very surprised, looked at her with a little disappointment, was silent for a while, thought about it and asked with great concern, "Is he good to you?" ”
"It's not good, it's either scolding or beating, saying that my family spent his money, and I want to pay off his debts." She couldn't help but cry when she thought of the grievances she had suffered.
Hou Bao's heart softened, and he kindly comforted her: "You haven't reached the legal age for marriage, shouldn't you be able to get a marriage certificate?" You should be illegal. She told Hou Bao truthfully: "Their family found someone and changed my age." Hou Bao asked in surprise: "Can this also be changed?" Isn't it illegal? It's ridiculous. Although I have heard of such a thing, I didn't expect you to be cheated like this by them. ”
She smiled wryly and said: "I don't know what else will happen to me now, I feel that there is no hope in life, it is better to die." I really think it's too much to live like this, and it's not interesting. ”
Hou Bao looked at her steadily: "If you really can't do it, you can get a divorce, there is nothing that you can't get over, don't be too sad, if you want, you can go out to work with me." I will definitely take care of you, you have to control your own destiny, happiness is to be earned by yourself, you are too ignorant to listen to your family for everything. ”
After separating from Hou Bao that day, she returned to her husband's house, and just opened her mouth to tell him that she wanted to go out to work, and was scolded by him endlessly. At night, she didn't care that she was in her menstrual period, and she still had to satisfy his sexual desire. She had insomnia and couldn't close her eyes all night for days on end. Her spirit was on the verge of collapse, and a thought that she had never dared to think of before crept into her desperate and foolish heart.
A loveless marriage is a tragedy in itself, and ignorance must become the catalyst for this tragedy, plunging her originally kind into a deeper disaster. After a joyless Spring Festival in the agony, she took the opportunity of him to go out to gamble and went to find Hou Bao, who returned home for the New Year, and said that she wanted to go out to work with him.
Hou Bao happily agreed: "It's right for you to do this, you can't just be trapped at home like that." We're all still young, don't we want to go out and wait for old now? Although the part-time job is hard, it is also a way out. As long as there is a way to go, we have hope. After listening to Hou Bao's words, she was more determined to go out to work, and she agreed with Hou Bao that after the first month, she would go out to work with him.
(Next Notice: Chapter 111 Gone Astray)