Dongfang Siyi said: "You are indeed lucky to have a working environment that you are satisfied with. Most of our lives are related to the work environment, and as a result, it has the greatest impact on us. ”

Where the dream goes, the music is turned on: "The café can't do without music, let's listen and talk." Did you like this song? Yes, I am indeed lucky in this respect, and I have a pleasant day at work. I felt as if I was looking at my youth, as if I was repeating my youth. But sometimes I can't help but wonder if this is a spiritual victory method of my own, whether I am deliberately anesthetizing myself. ”

"I like it very much, I often listen to this song, there is a kind of desolation, but not desolation. No two leaves in the world are exactly the same. Although the time of youth is similar, it is completely different, and the shadow you see in them is a shadow similar to your past, but it is not your shadow, and your shadow has disappeared in the past. There is no doubt that there is a psychological comfort in the shadow of your past that you see in them. Of course, you can think of it as a method of spiritual victory. However, the Spiritual Victory Method is not all negative, and it has its merits. The method of spiritual victory, which is used within a reasonable range, is sometimes a very important positive consolation for us. So, we don't need to reject it, on the contrary, we need this spiritual comfort. ”

"In fact, each of us has such a mentality, that is, dissatisfaction with life, this dissatisfaction makes us hope that we can find a satisfaction to replace, so we will place some psychological expectations on certain people or certain things at some time, and this spiritual sustenance can also be regarded as a spiritual victory."

"Life is imperfect, there are always too many flaws. Your presence is perhaps the best consolation to my regretful life, and our conversations often make me feel a kind of tranquility that I have never felt before. ”

"Life can't be perfect, but we always demand it with a perfect vision. Under our unrealistically high standards, reality will always be dwarfed, just like when we stand behind the peacock on the screen, what we see is not the beautiful feathers, but its bare legs. And so, we began to be disappointed, and then, we became dissatisfied, and then, we began to fantasize, and that is why you had some hallucinations about me as a stranger. ”

"This hallucination gives you an inexplicable feeling, or rather a good feeling, for me. You don't know, in reality, I am also a very fragile man sometimes, and sometimes I fall into extreme irritability and restlessness, and I also need to use various ways to self-regulate. However, the only thing that I have not changed is that I am extremely serious about my work and life, and to put it simply, derailment and cheating are not my options. ”

"I don't just have a good feeling for you, but I feel something else. Favorability doesn't last that long, and there are very few people who can give me this feeling, both online and in reality. You are unique, so I was attracted to you. Maybe I don't meet your requirements, but unfortunately, you meet my requirements, and I'm pretty sure you're the person I'm looking for, so the affection is even deeper. I didn't ask you not to work and live seriously, I am also a serious person who works and lives, works and lives decently, and I have never thought of doing anything out of the ordinary, hahaha, let alone cheating. ”

"My sentence has no other meaning, it just shows that I am a very serious person in real life, and the seriousness emphasized in this place specifically refers to a kind of responsibility, being responsible for work, being responsible for life, and being responsible for all the roles I undertake."

"I understand what you mean, I just want to say what is in my heart. If you really want to say it, you have to say it, otherwise it will be very uncomfortable and very uneasy, and it will make me lose sleep for no reason. I think that if I have to maintain a so-called reserve in the face of the Internet, then I feel that life is too tiring and boring. ”

"You're right, I didn't say that a person who is very serious about work and life can't make friends, including friends of the opposite sex or confidantes, even in real life, you can have normal or beyond some range of interactions, why not? Why do you have to dance in a demarcated circle? As long as you're in a good mood, why not change your dance style and make yourself more free and free? There is no free soul without a free spirit, and there is no sound personality without a free soul. ”

"Fortunately, your unconventional words didn't scare me, I almost thought you were an antique. You're an interesting soul, but you're not a soul capable of transcending reality infinitely, am I right? If what I say is correct, then tell me bluntly, what do you mean by normal interaction and interaction beyond some boundaries? ”

"Seriousness and rigidity cannot be equated, seriousness is a principled attitude towards practical problems, and rigidity is a kind of spiritual imprisonment that cannot be changed. Inflexibility can lead to a series of problems and consequences, and the result of inflexibility can be to hit a wall at every turn. If you like antiques, I might as well disguise myself as an antique, but probably the least valuable antique. Because it can only be a fake, an impostor. What I mean by normal interactions and interactions that go beyond some scope is just a statement, without defining specific things, or that I myself have no clear answers. Therefore, I can't explain to you bluntly that this is the size that everyone who takes work and life seriously should be able to grasp in their hearts. ”

Can I understand what you mean by this, that you are preventing what will go beyond you and me? But not sure what will go beyond that? What can be surpassed? I just said that you are the person I am looking for, because I am sure that you will not surpass anything, and at the same time, you are a person who can be a very good friend, that is, a real confidante of the blue face, a rare confidante of the blue face. ”

"So, I'm sure I'm going to haunt you for the rest of my life. When you're away, I always want to leave you a message, but I don't know what to say. Although I have a lot of things I want to say, I don't have any reason, and I am afraid that saying something suddenly will make you feel ridiculous, so I control myself. I've been holding back what I want to say for a long time, and since there is a café for two people, you should let me say what I want to say, otherwise, this café will have no meaning. ”

"I also want to hear you say what you want to say the most, the most true words, this is a kind of mutual trust between us, a kind of true feelings, and a tacit fate."

"I want to ask you, have you bowed your head to others? For example, family members, such as colleagues, such as leaders. I clearly know in my heart that I am right, but I can't hold on to it. It's not that I don't want to persevere, but I don't dare to insist, because persistence will bring a consequence that I can't bear. But afterwards, I felt that I was very useless and unlucky. ”

"Whether it's in work or in life, it's a common occurrence to be compromised. Sometimes it is indeed a relatively reasonable and reasonable method, or a relatively low-cost method, or it can be said that it is a method that has no choice. ”

"Who wants to compromise on everything? If not for a little bigger goals? Not for the greater good? Not to make it a little less unnecessary? If you have any other way, you will certainly not compromise yourself and seek perfection over others. As a way to compromise and seek perfection, if it is completely against my heart, if it completely violates my own principles of being a person and doing things, I will not use it, that is to say, I would rather choose silence than choose to bow my head. This is a principled position that I will not give up. ”

"I can't do it, maybe I'm too weak, I often be indecisive in some things, and I suffer from gains and losses, and it's not easy to do what you said."

"As a small person, if we can't live with our own principles, we will fall into the survival mode of following the crowd and going with the flow. That would make you lose all your individuality, and you will be lost in the crowd, and you will not even be able to find yourself. Although we are all just small people, we must also have our own independent personality, independent thinking, and independent spirit. ”

"No matter what stage of society human beings are in, the majority of society is still made up of small people like you and me. Countless such little people will constitute a dynamic society, and this relative independence is the soul of civilian society. Human society has gone through primitive society, slave society, feudal society, and in modern times, the social phenomenon of the coexistence of capitalism and socialism has emerged. In my eyes, the ultimate trend of the development of human society must be the commoner, and I think the biggest feature of the populace is that there are two indispensable characteristics: first, the conditions for individual survival are guaranteed by socialization and institutionalization, and second, there is no privileged class, everyone is equal, and there is no distinction between high and low. People can live in harmony, respect each other, and treat each other as equals, which is the ideal social environment that I aspire to. ”

"The kind of social environment you mentioned is far from being reached, and it will take many years of hard work, perhaps through the efforts of several generations, so for us now, it is just an unattainable luxury."

"You're right, in order to achieve such a social living environment, we have to go through a long historical period. On the other hand, from the perspective of reality, first, the material conditions of society are not yet in place, and the basic needs of all members of society cannot be satisfied; second, the social security system is not yet perfect, some social security systems have not yet been established and perfected, and there are still great deficiencies in social security capacity; and third, there are still considerable differences in the quality of individuals as members of society. ”

The existence of these objective factors will inevitably restrict the way of life and survival mode of each of us, and will inevitably make us suffer from gains and losses in real life, and we are far from being able to give up the living conditions that we must obtain for the sake of freedom. Only after the material conditions of society are greatly enriched, and after the vast majority of members of society have developed good personal cultivation, good civilized habits, a good sense of self-discipline, and a good sense of law, will a beautiful environment for civil society appear. ”

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