I tried to adjust the lighting in the background of the chat, and added a line of text to the top design, making the text look like a café sign. Dongfang Siyi looked at the changed chat background and teased: "Well, it's really like a café, your decoration level is still very good, have you ever opened a decoration company before?" ”

"I found this background software to be very easy to use and fun, which can play music, adjust lighting, and paste some decorative paintings. The person who designed this software must have run a renovation company, and we should all learn from him. In fact, decoration is really a science, successful decoration can make us pleasing to the eye, and unsuccessful decoration will make us crazy when we see it. ”

Dongfang Siyi smiled happily: "Speaking of decoration, it finally comes down to the topic of people and the environment." There is only one purpose of decoration, which is to transform the environment, and the purpose of transforming the environment is only one, which is to make us happy. That's why I say that human beings are animals of the environment, but they are not animals that passively adapt, but animals that take the initiative to transform the environment, which is determined by the natural and social attributes of human beings. ”

Dream Gui asked with some confusion: "What kind of role do you think people are in the environment?" Is it the role of the master? Or is it the role of the guest? Or is it a character who is also part of the environment? ”

Dongfang Siyi thinks this is a meaningful question: "Your question is very deep and interesting. I believe that people in the environment are both hosts and guests, and at the same time they are part of the environment. Why is it said that man is the master of the environment? Because, only people can take the initiative in the environment. The great man famously said, 'We will not only be good at destroying an old world, we will also be good at building a new world.'" This famous saying is the best footnote that man is the master of the environment. Why are people also guests of the environment? Because in the process of transforming the objective world, we cannot violate the laws of nature, we cannot ignore those objective laws, and we must obey the agreement of the host like a guest. Why are people also a part of the environment? Because the relationship between people is an interactive relationship, a relationship of interaction, and this interactive relationship is the subjective factor in the environment, and it is the subjective factor that is deeply integrated with the environment in which we live. ”

"Therefore, a good environment not only refers to the natural environment in which we live, but also to our social environment, and the social environment of course includes our human beings, and each of us is a part of this environment. In order to have a pleasant environment, we must not only transform other environmental factors, but also transform ourselves and improve our own quality. Am I right? ”

"You're absolutely right, and that's how I understand it."

"I wonder what you think of me in your eyes? In your eyes, am I a factor in your environment, what kind of factor? Can this factor affect you? Is this effect good or bad? ”

"You have become a very positive factor in my living environment, and this positive factor has made me feel a pleasure that I have never experienced before. What I want to say here is that the impact of our individuals on the social environment is minimal, but the impact of all members of society together is enormous. Therefore, a good social environment requires the vast majority of members of society to improve their own quality. ”

"Thank you for this comment on me, you have encouraged me."

"In social life, a specific environment is formed between people, and its role cannot be underestimated. For example, if you have a conflict with another person, and you want to resolve the dispute in accordance with the provisions of the law, but the other party is unwilling to go through the legal process, or this person has no sense of law at all, and he may use the simple and crude way that he is used to to achieve his goals, no matter how high your quality is, it will not help. For another example, if your leader has a difference of opinion with you, although your opinion is reasonable and correct, he thinks that he is the leader and he has the right to make his own decisions, and he does not have the gene of equal dialogue in his bones, and he has no concept of dialogue with you in his consciousness, and he can directly ignore your correct opinion. No matter how high your quality is, it can't help you, and you still can't get out of it. It is useless for you to say that no matter how good or perfect your opinion is, because your leader only has power in his eyes, and he only judges right and wrong with power, and only judges right and wrong with power. He doesn't give you room to reason, and even if you are full of talent, you are worthless to him. Therefore, I am not talking about the quality of a specific person, but the quality of the overwhelming majority of members of society. ”

"It seems that there is indeed a big difference between women's thinking and men's thinking, women like to talk about micro things, more figurative thinking, men like to talk about macro things, more abstract thinking."

"It's not a difference between men and women, it's just a difference in thinking, and everyone has a certain inertia in their thinking, so there is also a habit in thinking. I'm probably used to this way of thinking, and you prefer the other way. Perhaps, this is one of the reasons why we can continue the conversation, because this different way of thinking can achieve a complementary effect, and this complementarity is very interesting, you say? ”

"This is indeed an interesting conversation, I want to talk to you about you as a person, about me as a person, but you can always talk about society and life, I want to talk to you about love, you can always talk about philosophy and logic."

"Well, that's what you're talking about, I seem to be going too far. It seems that in the café of these two people, they also ask for the same thing while reserving differences, otherwise, some people will not be satisfied. In order to seek common ground while reserving differences and be able to continue the dialogue, I have decided to listen to you now, and I will talk to you about whatever you want, okay? I suddenly felt like a flying kite, flying far away, and a thread pulled me back, and you are the thread. ”

"I wish I really had such a thread, and I would love to make such a thread so that I could hold you. Haha, although it is not the red line of the old moon, but with this line, there is a fixed connection between us, an inextricable connection. ”

"I like to analyze the speaker's psychological condition and subconscious at that time from other people's words, which is not aimed at a specific person, but has formed a habit of thinking. No way, I talked about habits of mind again. I find from what you just said that you always seem to have an insecurity that seems to haunt you all the time. ”

"You're right, I do have a sense of insecurity that I can't get rid of, when I was a child, because my father was not around, and my mother was always busy with her own farm work, I couldn't get the necessary help for anything. After work, there are always various studies and trainings, which seem to tell me that I will always be a laggard who does not meet the requirements of my superiors, and I have to work hard to prove myself. After getting married, since he filed for divorce to me that time, I found that my insecurity was even more serious, and I felt that no matter how good I did, no matter how good I was, I might not be able to become a good wife in the eyes of others. ”

"I feel that this insecurity of yours has nothing to do with the fact that he once asked you for divorce, but with your way of thinking and character. You are a professional woman with a career you love, you don't need to rely on others to survive, and other people's attitudes towards you do not actually affect your survival status. Your insecurity comes from a strong sense of self-esteem, which makes you pay too much attention to what others say about you. When others make negative comments about you, your self-confidence is shaken, and you cannot ignore these negative comments regardless of whether they are correct, fair, or reasonable. Regardless of whether the negative comments come from students or parents, colleagues or leaders, family members or friends, you will feel uneasy and anxious. ”

"It's as if you've lived with me for many years, and it's as if you're with me every day, looking at me every day. I do have this problem, and whenever I hear people gossip about me, my face feels feverish, and I lose sleep at night, and I think wildly. ”

"It may have something to do with your upbringing, you said that your father had always worked in the field, and you were very dependent on your mother since you were a child. Therefore, in order to find a sense of security from your mother, listen to your mother in particular. So, you've been a good kid since you were a kid. Generally speaking, well-behaved children always care about other people's opinions and other people's eyes, and are always accustomed to affirming themselves from others' affirmative opinions and seeking comfort from others' appreciative eyes. In the face of a different view, in the face of negative eyes, you will doubt yourself. In severe cases, you will slowly lose your self-confidence. Over time, you will lack your own value judgment standards, and you will naturally fall into a feeling of insecurity that is difficult to get rid of. ”

"I now understand why you came into my heart so easily, you peeked through what was hidden inside me, even though I hid it deeply. You are the one who can steal my heart. ”

Dongfang Siyi shook his head: "So, when your husband filed for divorce, a problem that you had never thought about, you were not because you were nostalgic for the marriage relationship, nor did you completely consider your family and children, you began to doubt your own value, doubt whether you were not good enough, doubt whether you were inferior to others, and doubt whether you were inferior in the eyes of the other party." This suspicion leads to more insecurity and resentment, because the question itself seriously hurts you, and is tantamount to denying you everything, rather than the possible outcome of the divorce. You are not afraid of the outcome of the divorce, but of the negative outcome of the divorce. ”

Where did the dream return, he sighed: "I have obeyed you, you are not a nightman in the wasteland, you are a ghost in the wasteland." ”

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