Of course, the family that hires a nurse is a rich family, and the nurse, and the nurse all mean the same thing.

The average life expectancy of the ancients in China is relatively short, the medical technology is not developed, and the infant mortality rate is particularly high, so the folk advocate early marriage and early pregnancy, and the husband and wife have several more children at the age suitable for childbearing, and make up for the loss of the death of the baby by increasing the number of babies.

In many dynasties, girls give birth to their first child between the ages of 14 and 19, and many young mothers who are novices on the road are not yet mature in their own bodies, although they can conceive and have children, but they often face the problem of insufficient milk. Most mothers living at the bottom of the social ladder have to take care of household chores and even work in the fields, and their own malnutrition is worse, and their babies are not enough to eat.

In ancient times, when there was no milk powder, some students would propose to feed their babies with fresh milk. In fact, the ancients in China have not been in the habit of drinking milk, one is because the ancients believed that only barbarians would drink the milk of livestock. Second, because China's ancient social economy was based on farming, in order to protect agriculture, cattle were mainly used as farming tools, and cowhides and horns were strategic materials for making weapons and armor, and the government had many restrictions on the consumption of cattle. Third, because of the limited source of milk, most of the cattle born and raised in China are cattle and buffaloes, and no matter which kind of milk production can not be compared with dairy cows. The introduction of dairy cows from Europe is a matter of the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries, that is, in the late Qing Dynasty, after the Opium War, China was reduced to a semi-feudal and semi-colonial country, and a large number of foreigners in order to drink fresh milk, specially transported cows from Europe to breed with China's cattle, which is also the first time that China has dairy cows.

Breast milk is insufficient, ordinary people have no good choice, or feed the baby to eat rice soup that does not have much nutritional value, if there are sheep at home, and it happens to be in the lactation period, you can also express goat milk to the child to drink, of course, this is a last resort for survival, after all, humans and animals are not the same kind. If a good relative, neighbor happens to have a woman with enough milk during lactation, you can let the baby recognize a godmother, of course, the godmother must have her own biological children to feed, so some babies can recognize several godmothers in order to feed.

But it is different for large households, there are material conditions to invite a wet nurse, and it can ensure that the wet nurse eats better than others. Those wealthy businessmen and aristocrats, in order to ensure that the family inheritance is inherited, often have many wives and concubines, and there are wives and concubines who are pregnant at the same time, so that a rich family can raise several wet nurses, and the children of the wife and concubine are fed by their respective wet nurses, which directly separates the feelings of the children and the biological mother, the ancient marriage in our country is a monogamous and polygonal system, in the family, the husband and wife shoulder the responsibility of educating their children at the same time, and the wife who is married by the Ming media exercises maternal authority, whether it is born by themselves or not, The wife is the mother of these children, and the children continue to grow up, and they do not have too deep feelings for their biological mothers, which indirectly consolidates the wife's position in the family. understands a little, and everyone can understand the mother-daughter relationship between Jia Tanchun and Aunt Zhao in "Dream of Red Mansions".

The nurse feeds the baby on behalf of the mother, which greatly liberates the mother, so that their physical and mental state quickly returns to normal from the pregnancy period, which is too important for large families with many wives and concubines, and the wives and concubines can use their bodies and spirits to recover as soon as possible, and go all out to fight for favor.

In addition, lactating women generally do not come to menstruation, breastfeeding inhibits ovulation, in order to conceive the next child as soon as possible, even if the family can only afford to marry one wife, as long as there is money, they will ask others to feed their children, which has also become another driving force to promote the development of the wet nurse's career.

Taking care of a newborn is a very hard job, and you may not be able to sleep a full night a year, so how can those wives and aunts endure this kind of hardship? Poor women, especially those with illegitimate children, sometimes have to temporarily or permanently give up their own biological children, and use their own milk to feed other people's babies, and complete the work of breastfeeding under supervision and guidance. However, they are generally simple-minded and kind-hearted, and some big families with good family style, because the nurse has a lot of affection for the child, and in order to repay the nurse for her hard work, when the child is weaned, she will still leave the nurse to engage in other jobs at home, and the general treatment is relatively generous, and the status is relatively high, and even when the nurse is old, she is allowed to retire and provide for the elderly.

In the court where the struggle for power was fierce, the situation was different. Especially in the Qing Dynasty, the feudal system developed to its peak, in order to prevent the harem from being chaotic and relatives from interfering in politics, it was necessary to alienate the relationship between the prince and the biological mother, and clearly stipulated that the biological mother could not raise her own children. The prince and princess were taken care of by the wet nurse all their lives, and their mother had only one mother, who was the queen of the dynasty. And the wet nurse does not belong to the concubines, she is under the control of the Internal Affairs Office, and she completely listens to the emperor. Honorable princesses, see your children several times a year. In this case, the status and role of the nurse is very important, which nurse feeds the little prince in case he becomes the emperor, the nurse will follow the "chicken dog to heaven".

A monk together [When he arrived at his door, he saw Shiyin holding Yinglian, and the monk cried loudly, and said to Shiyin: "Donor, what are you doing with this fateful thing that affects your father and mother?" ”】

There is a large number of criticisms for this sentence of the leper monk, [Jiazhu Mei Criticism: How many heroes have died in eight words? How many loyal ministers and filial sons have been killed? How many people with lofty ideals have died? How many words are squeezed to death? Now the author has sprinkled this handful of tears in the boudoir, and I see that the skirt hairpin is still suffering from this number, and the men in the world are there? Look at the first woman he wrote and opened the book with these two words to determine her life, then you know the meaning of the words, who is the only one who is interested in the word "love"! The three points of Wuhou, the two emperors of Wumu, the hatred of the two sages, and now they are endless, and the grass is mustard today? There is a difference between the size of the family and the country, and there is no difference in the number of their fortunes. Those who know the luck and know the number will forgive and sigh. 】

The eight words said by the critic said that it means "there is no luck in life, and it affects my father and mother", and the focus is on "life and no luck", and as for "affecting my father and mother", it may be that the leper monk scared Zhen Shiyin.

Fate is simply fate and luck, from the perspective of numerology, there are two meanings, one is life, life is given by parents, it is innate, once given life can not be changed, there is inevitability. The second is luck, luck is given by the environment in which people live, it is acquired, and the environment will change differently at various stages of life, and there will be accidents. Destiny is not lucky, that is, the innate conditions are very good, but unfortunately there is no luck, and there is no suitable time or space to operate the originally good life!

The three-year-old girl Zhen Yinglian used the words "fate but no luck", in the ancient patriarchal society, there were more men with fate and no luck. There are indeed too many emperors and generals, heroes and heroes, loyal ministers and filial sons, people with lofty ideals, and people with lofty ideals, who have ideals and ambitions, but unfortunately have no luck! Therefore, the critic said that "Dream of Red Mansions" is not simply about the love of children and daughters, and also gave two examples, "three points of Wuhou and two emperors of Wu Mu".

"Wuhou" is Zhuge Liang's title, Liu Bei before his death, in the White Emperor City, said to Zhuge Liang, if Liu Chan can be the monarch, please Zhuge Liang continue to assist, if Liu Chan is incompetent, please Zhuge Liang to replace him. Zhuge Liang was loyal and assisted Liu Chan to succeed to the throne, and he was named the Marquis of Wuxiang, and later generations called "Zhuge Wuhou" or "Wuhou". Zhuge Liang did his best, and went on six northern expeditions before and after, and finally died of exhaustion in Wuzhang Plain. Some people say: "Just because the first lord admonished, the stars fell in the autumn wind and the five zhang plain", Wuhou's hatred was that Liu Bei's group was weak and he proposed to divide the world first, and then seek unification, but unfortunately the years are not forgiving, no matter how capable he is, he has no time to complete the great cause of reunification. This is the result of the "transport" being limited by time.

"Wu Mu" is Yue Fei's nickname, at the end of the Northern Song Dynasty, Song Huizong was in power. His father Song Shenzong died early, Song Huizong was not trained as a successor when he was a child, he was a prodigal prince who was lustful and lustful, eating, drinking and having fun, and his successor was his brother Song Zhezong. Song Zhezong died earlier, and when he died, he didn't even have a son, Song Huizong was originally an artist, and suddenly became an emperor. The army of Jin soldiers was pressed, and he was still intoxicated with calligraphy and painting, ignoring national affairs, and simply passed the throne to his son Song Qinzong. In the first year of Jingkang (1126), the Jin soldiers broke through Kaifeng City, and Emperor Huizong and Emperor Qinzong were arrested and taken to the grassland together.

In the following year, Zhao Gou (Gaozong) was proclaimed emperor in Shangqiu, Henan, and the capital was Lin'an (Hangzhou, Zhejiang), which was known as the Southern Song Dynasty. The Southern Song Dynasty produced a famous anti-gold general, Yue Fei, "angry hair rushed to the crown, leaning on the railing, Xiaoxiao rain rest." Raise your eyes, look up to the sky and roar, strong and fierce. Thirty fame, dust and earth, eight thousand miles of clouds and moons. Don't wait, the young man's head is white, empty and sad! Jing Kang is ashamed, and it is still snowing. When the courtiers hate, when will they be destroyed! Drive a long car and step through the lack of Helan Mountain. Zhuang is hungry for Hulu meat, laughing and thirsty for Xiongnu blood. To start from the beginning, clean up the old mountains and rivers, and face the sky. ”

Yue Fei is good at fighting, joined the army at the age of 20, is brave and strategic, he wants to regain the lost territory in the Northern Expedition, avenge the shame, and welcome back the two emperors of Hui and Qin. However, Zhao Gou, Gaozong of the Southern Song Dynasty, didn't think so, won the battle, and brought my father and my brother back, I, the emperor, are the oldest, and the capable main battle faction like Yue Fei is resolutely not used, and it is better to be the champion and the main faction Qin Hui. Besides, fattening an eagle is in danger of being pecked blind, fattening a pigeon can be roasted and eaten at any time, so Zhao Gou uses doves to suppress hawks.

According to folklore, Yue Fei, Yue Yun and others were killed by Qin Hui and his wife at the Fengbo Pavilion of Dali Temple in Hangzhou, -——the highest judicial organ at that time. On the street of Hangzhou, a vendor selling breakfast was very angry when he heard the news, so he kneaded two noodles, twisted them together and fried them in an oil pot, and called them "fried juniper". People rushed to buy it in order to vent their anger. As the number of customers increased, the shop simplified the production process and directly wound the two noodles and fried them, which became today's fritters. The word "juniper" has two pronunciations, "hui" or "gui", and now, there are still some places where the fritters are called fried juniper or fried ghosts.

Yue Fei failed to complete the ideal of welcoming back the Second Emperor and avenging the shame, and finally died in the hands of his own people, which was the result of the limitation of the space environment by "Yun".

Therefore, the appraiser said, "There is a difference between the size of the family and the country, the monarch and the father, and the number of their fortunes is slightly different." Those who know the luck and know the number will forgive and sigh. "Everyone's position, status, responsibility, mission, ideal is different, but numerology, fate, life is not much different, people who understand these truths, even if they regret because they have goals that cannot be completed, they can also comfort and forgive, at most a few sighs of impermanence, creation and manipulation, time also, luck also!

After the Lantern Festival, it is time for the smoke to be extinguished.

"Habitually pampered and laughing at you, Linghua is empty to the snow. After the Lantern Festival, it is time for the smoke to be extinguished. These four sentences are proverbs, and proverbs refer to words that can be fulfilled after they happen, and can also be understood as a prophecy of the future.

"Habitual pampering laughs at you stupidly", [Jiaxu side criticism: crying for the world's parents. Zhen Shiyin is more than half a hundred years old and has an only daughter, and he must be pampered by Zhen Yinglian, and the leper monk laughs at him for being stupid, because Zhen Shiyin does not know the future fate of his daughter, and parents all over the world want their children to live well, if Zhen Shiyin knows that Zhen Yinglian will be a concubine in the future, and she will be killed by Xia Jingui, she will definitely be in pain, the more it hurts her children very much, the more deeply it hurts, and I also cry for the parents of the world.

Linghua is empty to the snow. [Jiaxu side batch: When life is not met. It's not a coincidence. On the surface, this sentence is to write flowers, lotus flowers are seen more, lotus, lotus flowers bloom after lotus seeds, lotus roots grow in the water, water rhombies are seen less, rhodoids are annual herbaceous aquatic plants rhombic flowers, the fruit in the water is called water chestnut, rhodic flowers and lotus flowers are the same as summer flowers, but also as written in "Love Lotus Said" "out of the mud but not stained, clear ripples but not demons", but "rhombic flowers empty to the snow", summer flowering rhombic meets winter snow, is empty talk, nonsense, impossible, if there is really this abnormal phenomenon, Linghua will freeze to death!

Through this sentence, the author secretly wrote that Zhen Yinglian was originally a more noble lotus, but after being abducted and sold by traffickers, she changed her name to Xiangling and became Linghua, and her identity changed from a young lady in a rural eunuch's family to a pariah without a hukou. Xiangling met Feng Yuan, who wanted to treat her wholeheartedly, but the kid named Feng Yuanzhen encountered an unjust thing, and his wife was beaten to death before she got married. Magical things happened then, Linghua really encountered snow, or heavy snow, "good snow in a good year, pearls like earth, gold and iron".

Xiangling was bought into the Xue family by Xue Pan, the dumb overlord, and Ling became Xue's concubine, and her fate was not much better, and she was cold to death and frozen to death sooner or later. This is not the end, Xia Jingui's appearance hastened Xiangling's demise. Rhombus is blooming in summer, to autumn, rhombus almost can't hold on, rhombus failure, osmanthus bloom, just autumn blooming golden cinnamon over rhombus. Jin Gui is an evergreen broad-leaved tree, with a well-developed root system, up to 15 meters high, much more vigorous than the water weeds, and she is also surnamed Xia, Xue Pan married Xia Jingui, no matter how big the snow does not dare and can not compete with Xia, Xia Jingui "Hedong Lion Roar" is spicy and fierce, Xiangling "Little Bird Yiren" is gentle and obedient, the Xue family is a husband and a wife, the wife is extremely strong, the husband can not be cured, the concubine is weak, the husband can not be saved, the weak concubine was abused to death by the strong wife, fate, luck, pain!

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