Change needs to implement your own ideas, implementation in order to see the effect and change, if you always want to implement seriously, then after the formation of negative feedback you are not willing to continue to use your brain.

Even if reason tells you that it is best to do this, but because you have not been able to complete the tasks you have given yourself well every time, the result is your inner distrust of yourself, and distrust will lead to the separation of cognition and behavior, when a person fully believes in himself, unconditionally trusts himself, he can show the most powerful power, he thinks and does not have a separation, he saves a lot of energy, and does not give birth to infinite troubles in order to make up for a trouble.

A person should know how to reduce trouble for himself, and the only way to reduce trouble is to actively solve the problem at hand, you don't need to think about why others don't act, just like saying that others don't act and you act, you are suffering.

But in fact, you help others think, in fact, you use your brain and others don't, what seems to be trouble is actually a kind of improvement, exercise for yourself.

That's how it grows.

As long as you are in a state of progress, as long as you are trying to break through yourself, it is certain to feel pain and difficulty.

Because the road to ascent is difficult, as long as you get through the most painful time, you will reach your comfort zone, and people must continue to move from their comfort zone to the more difficult area, and train themselves into a strong and reliable person little by little.

How to become a strong attractive person, that is to make yourself a giver, a person who does not ask for anything in return, what I give you is only from myself, I have not thought about any return, nor do I want to possess anything, the only thing I think about is how to do what I like, how to do what I like better, to help more people, or emotional value, this is the source of your happiness.

This value-creating high-level pleasure will not be replaced by any cheap pleasure.

You say that I and you are the same kind of person, yes and no, after all, you don't understand me deeply, and I don't understand you deeply, there is a big cost to get along with people, and you have to accept this.

If you are impatient, both sides will immediately become impatient if one side is impatient.

It's hard to persevere, it's hard to be self-disciplined, it's harder to be yourself, it's easy to be internally frictional, it's easy to flood emotions, and it's even easier to mess up.

Negative emotions are easily contagious, but a stable state requires energy to maintain, and order also needs to be maintained by the outside world, otherwise the ultimate trend of things is to constantly develop towards chaos, just like your computer desktop, like the thoughts in your mind, like your room, like your bookshelf.

Putting some useless things is actually very consuming of your attention and space, as long as you don't have any thoughts to use it, you can throw it away immediately, and it will take up space in vain at home.

Try to minimize the decisions in daily life, such as what clothes to wear when eating, such as whether to wash your hair today, such as how long to take a bath, such as what to buy groceries, such as what programs to choose when watching TV, these are all things that you have to build a complete set of controllable systems for yourself, and if you follow the system every day, you will have a sense of security and order, and this sense of control is very useful for you.

If you do something once, do it a hundred times, do it a thousand times, and you will be able to experience the quantitative to qualitative changes.

Unless you want to be lazy, unless you want to take shortcuts, you have to be solid with every step.

Everyone knows that sincerity is important, but everyone doesn't.

Everyone is afraid of losing money.

This change is about leading by example, and if you don't do it yourself, don't blame others.

In fact, you can't rely on anyone, and you even have to send some energy to this chaotic place to keep it running, and you have to actively react to problems instead of turning a blind eye, if everyone does nothing like you, the result is that the laboratory is in chaos.

Are you right?

You have to be mindful and give everything you do a certain meaning, and this meaning must not be created for you by others, but belongs to you alone.

Everyone has their own talents, and the most difficult thing is that although a person is very talented, she never thinks that she is very powerful, but she just feels that she is a normal person with a high probability of being a normal person, no bad habits, and things she likes, and her life is very peaceful, without too many entanglements and resentments, and she is happy every day.

It's good, it's the norm not to have too many people to accompany you, everyone has their own things to do, so why bother others?

It's good enough to be serious about accumulating your own things and doing your own things seriously.

You don't need too many people to care, and take care of yourself yourself.

The more I grow up, the more I realize that I was inadequate, too incompetent, so I resent the outside world.

The more I cultivate, the more I will feel that I am just an ordinary person, there is nothing to show off, and I will eventually have nothing to show off, and I will not be able to amaze anyone, and no one will be able to finish my life in my place.

So why bother yourself?

Is it bad to have a happy day?

The result is important, but is the result more important than yourself?

If you fail, you fail, it's a big deal, if you don't even have the courage to start over, it's because you're not brave enough.

Why does resistance have to be high-spirited?

The mountain people have their own tricks to convince people.

This is your life problem, whose problem is naturally anxious!

Positive behavior, negative thinking, so that you can greatly alleviate your own pain, I must say what should be said, there should be no less etiquette, because you know that it is what others need, although you don't need it at all.

Now you are still very weak, there are no works to represent, many things you have not been recognized by yourself, you are sometimes very tired and want to give up, but people just have to fight, how do you know if you can, don't do your best, how do you know if you can do it with 100% strength?

As long as there is 1% hope for the goal, no one should give up easily.

Defeat after defeat, mistake after mistake, but there is always a time when you are completely right.

In the process of constantly searching for the truth, 90% of them may be wrong, but are you really willing to dedicate your life to the truth?

Aren't you a layman?

Is it a noble and selfless person?

You're not, don't think too much of yourself.

To be a human being is to be open and open, without any privacy, and you can entrust me with the most important tasks, as long as you are willing to trust me unconditionally.

That's all for today's words, continuing the development of the storyline.

The maid Siyun continued, "Miss, do you have a favorite son?" ”

"Nope." The shy Miss Qin blushed and shook her head, and the maid continued to ask, "Miss, who are you clearly thinking about like this?" I don't know whose son-in-law made the young lady so worried, he didn't think about tea and dinner, and he couldn't keep his soul? ”

"Siyun, do you dare to tease this palace now?" Miss Qin pretended to be annoyed, but she was actually a little shy, after all, it was not honorable to say such a thing, and as her father's only child, she was the master of the Ciyun Palace personally appointed by the emperor, and this marriage was most likely not decided by herself.

But the white-clothed handsome boy flashed in her mind, and her heart couldn't help but move, she really wanted to know who he was?

Do you already have a sweetheart?

That day, remembering that his eyes were always staring at her, she couldn't help but have her heart beating like a drum, and she couldn't hide the smile on the corner of her mouth.

Gu Qingzhou wanted to vomit blood when she saw this, this Liang Yi really understood the girl's ignorant mind, and at this moment, Miss Qin estimated that her mind was full of Liang Yi.

He clutched his head, and his heart ached.

He could already anticipate how Liang Yi would hurt Miss Qin and trample on her true heart after he tricked her.

Thinking of this, he only felt distressed.

The authorities are obsessed with bystanders, why can't anyone see Liang Yi's face clearly?

Maybe Miss Qin is not stupid, but she doesn't want to believe the fact that she was deceived!

"It seems that the slave girl guessed correctly. Which son? Siyun deliberately mentioned it frequently, causing Miss Qin to refrain from saying it, "Bengong didn't know, he sent me back to the house and left, I couldn't fall asleep because of the cold, and I didn't have time to ask him at that time." ”

Thinking of this, Miss Qin couldn't help but let out a long sigh, "At that time, I should have asked him what his surname was." It's just that I was too shy at the time, and I just cared about looking at other people's faces, where did I think of this stubble.

Gu Qingzhou looked angry and funny, Miss Qin was so lively when she liked someone.

Her cuteness is so lovely.

"Don't worry, miss, you can draw it, and the slave can go out and inquire secretly."

"Miss, have you forgotten your superb painting skills?"

Miss Qin was stunned and patted her head, "Siyun is still clever with you, this palace didn't expect to find him like this!" It's probably a serious illness, and my brain is not good! ”

Gu Qingzhou: "......" This guy actually scolded himself?

But it's so cute~

I really want to pinch her baby fat cheeks, it must be very soft, right?

It may feel softer than dough!

I always feel that Miss Qin at this time is the kind of delicate girl who can bully and cry with a fist, this kind of thing he admits that he has no resistance!

The soft girl is so cute.

So Siyun entered the palace and put Miss Qin's painting paper and paint on the stone table, Gu Qingzhou was looking forward to it, although the person she painted was not him, but he was still very happy.

After all, I have a deeper understanding of Miss Qin.

Many times it really takes time to understand a person, and many details of the person involved are not something that they can recall, but gradually recover over time.

The young man crawled on the table and stared at the girl who was painting like a nymphomaniac, staring at the girl's well-defined eyelashes, Gu Qingzhou thought, if he was here, he would definitely be confused, Miss Qin is so good-looking.

Compared with the red clothes, he prefers such a tranquil and pure appearance, like the most dustless camellia in the mountains, which is too beautiful.

[Gu Qingzhou's favorability +5, currently 41]

The little pink rabbit couldn't help but snicker, [Host, he seems to be a nymphomaniac!] 】

Qin Ci was also helpless, [I didn't expect it to be Yan Kong, it seems that I eat the appearance of this face. No wonder this favorability has risen so smoothly. 】

Little Pink Rabbit: [Hahahahaha, he probably doesn't know that we can see him in his dreams. 】

Qin Ci said arrogantly, "That's nature!" ”

But this guy is really cute too.

Looking at the white rice paper, a tall and handsome man gradually appeared, Gu Qingzhou was completely stunned, is this painting skill simply a divine skill?

It's lifelike, it's like it's alive.

After the eyes finally lit up, a handsome man in white jumped on the paper, feeling a little more beautiful than a real person, Miss Qin's heart at the moment.

It's so jealous!

Gu Qingzhou felt uncomfortable for the first time, if only this painting were painted on him!

It's a pity it's that beam liar!

Hey, maybe sometimes fate is like that!

If it weren't for these things, his master would not have been invited down the mountain, and he would not have been able to appear in the imperial capital, and he would not have been able to meet her, let alone go back to the past.

What has happened is irreversible.

Thinking of this, the young man was stunned, the beauty had passed away, but he seemed to be a little irrepressibly curious about her.

Wanting to be close to her, wanting to be close to her.

He's insane!

Shaking his head, Gu Qingzhou hurriedly recited the runes to calm his mind.

How did he forget that this was a dream, and an incredible thought was born in his heart.

Does he want to follow Miss Qin for the rest of his life?!

When the painting was finished, Siyun took the painting to find someone, and Miss Qin was still sitting in the courtyard waiting, at this time her mood seemed to be much better, while looking at the book, while looking at the round arch of the courtyard, looking forward to Siyun's return!

This is simply a wangfu stone, okay!

Gu Qingzhou was bored, he flew onto the peach blossom tree and found the thickest trunk to lie down, if only this day were really so leisurely.

Of course, it would be better if Miss Qin was around.

[Gu Qingzhou's favorability +3, currently 44]

But if Miss Qin really likes Liang Yi, then what is he?

In front of the pagoda that day, Miss Qin still seemed to care about Liang Yi very much, did she love or hate Liang Yi?

Suddenly he had some melancholy, it was reasonable that he should not think about this question, but his mind was uncontrollable.

You shouldn't think so.

When Gu Qingzhou woke up again, Siyun had already returned, standing beside Miss Qin and saying something.

Looking at Miss Qin's unhappy face, she probably couldn't find Liang Yi!

If it's really that easy to find, then it won't be a concern.

It's March now, and the imperial examination is coming soon, so Liang Yi must have gone to read a book.

Of course, he also deliberately did not reveal any information about himself.

After all, if the person who thinks about it is too easy to appear and get it too easily, people often don't cherish it too much.

Probably people are born with this kind of nature, easy to be cheap, and they are obsessed with what they can't get, and they don't cherish what they can easily get.

The more I grow up, the more I will find that there are few normal people in this world, and you say that these are created by the original family and society, but it is not all these factors, there must be internal factors.

Do you feel normal?

To a certain extent, it is normal, but if someone violates your bottom line, you will naturally not forgive, and the behavior may not be normal.

But sometimes I think it's a terrible thing to think too much, for example, there are so many people in this world, so many that they are like stars in the sky, maybe you see a different person every day, you will never see these people in this life, and you can't count the stars in the sky for hundreds of years, and there are many things that are meaningless to you.

There are a lot of people coming out of your life, and that doesn't necessarily make sense, it mainly depends on who you get along with and interact with, and how long you spend time together.

Most people are weird, sometimes even you are weird, as long as people keep a certain distance, everyone is normal, but once you cross the line, it becomes strange and abnormal.

I don't know why.

Life or the absurdity of the world is right, is there a logical relationship between everything that happens?

But if you think about it carefully, it may not be reasonable.

So you're just making your logic look flawless, but it's flawed.

A work will only get better and better if it is repeatedly polished, and you will really find that a thing will only get better and better if it is constantly polished and forged.

For some things, you don't need to worry, you just need to improve and repeat over and over again, and you can benefit a lot, and this amount of accumulation will change qualitatively one day.

For the things you want to do or the books you want to read, they are all your friends, and every word in the book is also your most sincere friends.

The ability to follow the strain.

Respond to change with the same.

No matter how the outside world changes, you yourself are the anchor in your world, changing randomly, always moving towards better opportunities.

You don't have to be afraid, the worst outcome is to lose everything and start over, nothing to fear.

After all, no one in this world cares about you, understanding you, people being able to understand each other is a scarce resource, you just need to be yourself, and many other things have nothing to do with you, you don't need to care too much at all.

Except for yourself, the world is like a large playground, which seems a little unreal, and the only feeling of being alive is yourself.

Sometimes your actions are unpredictable yourself, let alone the actions of others.

You know, no one walks through your world, no one wants to stay for you, and so do you, loneliness is always with you.

The time spent with your parents and friends is short, and this is also a short-lived peace, and one day everyone will leave you and you will disappear.

Suddenly feel that life is short, and whether people can live to that age is an uncertain thing, the only thing people can have is stability and peace at the moment, and the pursuit of too much will eventually exhaust themselves, and in the end it will only be empty of people and money, which has been the case since ancient times.

You ask for very little, so you are not engulfed by desires.

You can enjoy every moment of your life quietly.

As long as you are yourself from now on, and fully respect your will to live every moment, you will be able to live a different attitude.

There are many people in this world, there are many authorities, and there are many dogmas, you don't have to live under other people's frameworks, every time you encounter a new problem, you don't have to follow other people's patterns, you just need to find the most suitable way for yourself.

Why bother thinking about other people's frameworks and finding the best way to dissolve.

Four years later, a lot of things have changed.

For example, after a year, have you become stronger, more confident and braver?

It all depends on each of your next actions and thoughts!

That's true.

If you want to go far away, be sure to cheer yourself up!

A little bit of progress every day, a year later is a huge progress, you have to believe in the power of each day, solve only one problem a day, and you will surpass many people.

Focus on solving the most important problems.

For example, if you don't have any help from home or the outside world when you don't have resources, you can only store energy for yourself, and you don't have to worry about anything when danger comes.

The lack of resources will seriously affect your thinking, your overall situation will be limited, and you will be able to reduce the dimension of others when you stand in a high position, so as long as the strong have the qualifications and choices for kindness.

Freedom is not about doing what you want, but not doing what you want.

Some things I hope you can plan early, and if you cross borders, you have to create cross-border charm. Actively producing, actively creating, and creating a small self is also a kind of spiritual wealth, just like an article.

You have to be interesting to attract interesting people, you have to be rich, you have to attract rich people, you have to be gentle, you have to attract people who are equally gentle, you have to be strong, you have to attract people who are equally strong.

If you want to continue your academic career, you need to open up a higher level of territory, and turn what you have learned into something that can really help others, so that writing can be valuable.

Like cognitive arousal and cognitive drive, you have to believe that you can do it too.

But to export a complete set of value system is not something that can be done overnight, you have to think about meaning and value every day.

What kind of person do you want to be?

There are always a lot of things you want to do, and creativity is undoubtedly the core need, but you always feel that you don't have enough time, why?

You're in a hurry, you want to see the results quickly, you can paint or whatever, everything is a big field, and you can't reach the end in a lifetime.

So your first thing is to pursue wealth, that is, to survive, and when the problem of survival is solved, will you have more time?

Not necessarily.

You're not asking for low-level pleasures, or you're still addicted to something indescribable.

Being a producer is far happier than being a consumer.