On August 13th, Pei Pei returned to Tianjin, and this morning she saw that her IP territory in Douyin had become Tianjin, indicating that she had returned. Last night, I saw that her IP territory was still Shanghai, which means that she came back overnight.

Last night, I was on duty and talked to my colleague about me, and she was quite worried about me. I'm also quite willing to listen to her opinion, because there are internal and external perspectives for thinking about things. An internal perspective is the view of the world from one's own perspectives, beliefs, and experiences. We are very bad at discovering what we don't know, and we are very bad at judging whether our beliefs are wrong. We are overconfident in what we think we know. Many of the common cognitive biases are, to some extent, a product of the internal perspective. The outside perspective refers to how others perceive your situation outside of your own point of view, or the reality of the world. To compensate for the inner perspective, it is necessary to get rid of the influence of one's own experience and to know as much as possible about other people's perspectives and the world as it is, because they are where the corrective information lies.

Your intuition serves the inner perspective. The same goes for the sixth sense. And both your intuition and your sixth sense will be influenced by your wishes to come true. The outside perspective is the "medicine" to relieve this effect.

The value of knowing someone else's point of view is not only that they know useful information that you don't know and that they can correct inaccuracies in what you know, but also that they may come up with different opinions even if they have exactly the same information. The information is the same, but the conclusions can be very different.

The external perspective can correct the errors and deviations of the internal perspective, so when looking at the problem, it is necessary to start from the external perspective.

Allowing different perspectives to collide with each other and accepting different ways of seeing things in others will bring you closer to the objective facts. The closer you get to the objective facts, the less junk you'll use in your decision-making.

She pointed out that the problem between us was mainly the gap in identity, and the gap between me and other people's goals. She suggested that I find a chance to have a good talk with Pei Pei, and ask what people think, if I really can't meet their requirements, then don't force it, just give up, after all, it's been more than a year, and it's been long enough. Another question is, if two people are really together, what should you do if people are not satisfied with you in the later stage.

I'm still a little hesitant, but I still have some obsessions in my heart, hoping that things will turn around. In case through their own efforts, they can make a better change in their situation, and they may be able to impress others and win their favor. There is also Pei Pei is 37 years old, and her birthday at the end of September is 38, and she will be 40 years old in two years. My colleague said that when people reach the age of 40, they may not look for it, they just live alone, and they are not short of money, so why do they have to find someone. The combination of two people, people always want to do something for you, your wealth can not meet the requirements of others, the standard of living with you is likely to decline, and it is not very comfortable to get along with you, why should I be with you.

It's really sad. I want to be cheerful, first of all, I have to put myself in a better state, and if I live well, I can make the people around me live well, and I can become the person who can be relied on.