There is often such a phenomenon in life, what we don't want will be encountered, and what we want will be far away from us because of impermanence. Happiness is mostly short-lived, and pain is long-lasting, but after suffering does not mean that it lasts forever, after pain will be happy, after happiness will be painful, sometimes in the process of unhappiness and pain, there is a state of unremembered. Therefore, these repeated changes make us deeply feel that it is not easy to live.

It's not easy to live, so make it meaningful. Otherwise, it is not easy to live, so helpless to live, and finally on the death bed is not sure about his future, as if he entered Baoshan empty-handed, and when he almost arrived at the door, it was too late to regret it.

We came to this world, not because we were suddenly lucky, nor because we were reincarnated as human beings for no reason, but because of the blessings accumulated over thousands of years or hundreds of millions of years, little by little, we finally had the opportunity to be reincarnated as human beings. Middle-earth is hard to live, and we are all born; The Dharma smells bad, and we hear it. Good knowledge is rare, and we are fortunate to encounter it; It's hard to get a person, and we get it. None of the four major difficulties mentioned in Buddhism are no longer difficult problems for us, which means that we have enough good fortune and good karma. Now, should we take this accumulation of good karma to the next level? If we understand this hard-won rarity, then we need to work hard while we are alive.

Whenever we encounter a problem, we need to think about the problem that is causing it: Can the problem solve the problem? Of course not, if it can be solved, why be frustrated? It's imperative to work on them, and be happy to have a way to solve them. If it is a problem that cannot be reversed or solved, there is no need to be depressed, the matter is a foregone conclusion, and frustration will not help, it is better to let it go and no longer need to follow it for trouble.

Loving to hurt oneself with memories is the greatest flaw of human beings and is often a source of frustration and annoyance. For example, when someone says something that makes us unhappy, and after the other person leaves, we recall the words, demeanor, atmosphere, etc. when the other person spoke just now, and put ourselves in the unpleasant situation again, and then the anger begins to rise again. When I returned home, I still used memories to let the hurtful thoughts repeat again and again, such as "He just said this and that......" so much that he directed and acted out again, constantly hurting himself, and constantly torturing himself with hatred and hatred, and he was very tired and unwilling.

However, calm down and think about it, is it really because the other party is so lethal? No, most of the time the real culprit is ourselves, because we are desperately reminiscing. It's like someone taking a knife and telling us, "You should cut it on your body," and then making a slight cut on us, and saying, "If you cut it like this, blood will come out," and then he handed the knife to us. Then, as we walked, we slashed ourselves with knives and told ourselves, "This is the man who is hurting me with a knife, not me." "After a while, I gradually forgot about it. But one day, when I suddenly saw this person again, I hurt myself again with what he said at that time. In this way, constantly recalling, repeating the hurt, and we will tell others, complain that he caused all this. This is also the result of the karma that has accumulated since the beginningless time of harming others and ripens today.

This is the pattern that generates annoyance and frustration. Our next thought dances with the emotion of the previous thought, and our thoughts follow each other, grasping and chasing after each other. In fact, no matter how good or bad a thing is, since it has ended, it is not worth following anymore, because it is already a dream. Therefore, learn to forget the moment in the past, know that the moment was like a dream, and then work hard for the future.

When something happens, it's time to let it go. If you can't let go, you have to learn not to deceive yourself and tell yourself, "I'm holding a knife and I'm constantly hurting myself, not someone else is hurting me." Here's how to deal with it: dissect it, understand it, then let it go, look forward, and face a new future.

Afflictions are bodhi. If you don't turn your negative thoughts into positive ones, the troubles will always be the troubles. It's up to us to make this transition. When we smell the fragrance, when we see the flowers, when we see the food, when we see the drinks, everyone is happy, and we rejoice in everything we see, whether it's ugly or positive, like we see flowers, and we rejoice in seeing the shortcomings of others, and we rejoice in seeing the strengths of others—we see the shortcomings of others because we also have shortcomings; Seeing the good in others is because they have good points.

In this way, we will be able to purify the dark side of our minds. In Tibetan, the Buddha is also called Sanjay, and it has the meaning of opening closed eyes and blooming beautiful flowers.

Looking at the world from the perspective of Buddhism, there is no distinction between perfection and imperfection, good and bad, or even good and bad. A lot of the troubles that arise in our minds come from our dualistic minds. Combined with the effect of "self-grasping", then those who follow me will be complete and happy, and those who do not follow me will be unsatisfactory adversity and frustration. That's how we all define it. So, if we use the concept of Buddhism to solve these problems, we must start with our minds, and the best way to turn our troubles into bodhi is to expand our selfishness to the heart of fraternity for the benefit of others.