Everyone believes that the environment influences people, and the environment will also make people, so many people assert what kind of environment makes what kind of people. Like "those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black", which is a well-known truth; Another example is "Pengsheng hemp, not self-upright; The white sand is in Nirvana, and it is black", many people are also familiar with the famous sayings. Someone even put it more bluntly that people are a product of their environment.

In fact, the environment will not only transform people, but the harsh environment will arouse people's strong desire to transform their destiny. For example, some people live in small streets and alleys, living in rough and difficult circumstances, and experience indifference and cruelty at a young age, but they are unwilling to be poor, bravely break free from the harsh environment, and finally become outstanding people.

Although I am not outstanding, I have also had a strong desire to break free from the harsh environment since I was a child. In this way, it is not necessarily the environment that restricts us, but probably our own attitude. Just like me, although I was in such an unsatisfactory environment, I managed to get out of the predicament through my own efforts.

Have a strong desire to change your fate

Although the definition of "extreme poverty" varies from person to person, according to my personal feelings, my family background when I was a child was close to extreme poverty. So I think it left a deep imprint on me, and I think that this may be the reason for my determination to try to get rid of and change the environment.

In 1974, I was born in a small mountain village in Gongyi City, Zhengzhou, Henan Province, a very poor mountain village. My parents had a total of five children, four girls and one boy, first four girls and the fifth boy. Why give birth to five? Because the patriarchal mentality in our hometown is particularly strong.

My father always wanted a boy, but he couldn't. Just when the family was worried, the fifth came my little brother. When my little brother fell to the ground, my father excitedly said, "Oh my God, you're finally here!" "Since then, our whole family has become an inconspicuous little star, and our little brother has become the moon held by the stars. There is a saying: a poor family raises a petite child. The little brother has been spoiled by the whole family since he was a child, especially his parents, and he is not allowed to do any work at home.

From the moment I can remember, I knew that my parents were the hardest working farmers in the village, and they worked hard from the beginning of the year to the end of the year to provide food and clothing for the whole family. My father was a carpenter and often worked outside the home as a carpenter, which was also an important source of income for the family. Because carpentry jobs were hard to find and there was not much money to be made, my father started a business, selling potatoes and watermelons, and then sheepskins. So, I've been familiar with doing business since I was a kid. My mother was capable and hardworking, and we relied on her hands for food and clothing when we were young. In order to ensure that the children were not ashamed to go out, my mother not only sewed and mended our clothes, but also washed them cleanly. Probably overworked, my mother only lived to be 43 years old and left us forever.

Our family was not rich in the first place, and having a bunch of children made the financial burden even heavier, so we have been in a state of poverty. How poor is it? Whenever we went out to play, my mother always told us not to watch other people's children eat, because they were afraid of arousing our cravings and not being able to satisfy us. If a child watches someone else eat, and when he comes back, his mother beats him, so watching someone else eat becomes one of the reasons why we are beaten.

Because my family was poor, my fourth sister was given away as soon as she was born. The other party's family conditions were not good, and within three months, the fourth sister was sent back. is also because there are many girls in the family, so the fourth sister has not been welcomed.

When the fourth sister grew up to be three years old, the neighbor's aunt next door took her to the village for a meeting, and the grandmother who had separated from the family didn't know her, and asked the neighbor's aunt: "Whose child are you carrying?" ”

The neighbor's aunt said, "This is your own granddaughter!" ”

The scene was dramatic and showed the low status of our family at that time.

I remember that at that time, the family life was very poor, and my grandparents from the next village often came to bring us rice, noodles and other food in the middle of the night. I didn't dare to send it during the day, because I was afraid that others would see the joke.

There is a saying that the children of the poor are in charge of the family early. In fact, you have to work early if you don't take charge early. I am the eldest daughter in the family, and my eldest sister and I are all responsible for the draft water at home. My eldest sister and I are small and short, and we can only pick up half a bucket of water at a time, but we can't do it, so we carry water together. The two children stumbled and it took a long time to get water home.

My parents attach great importance to their children's education, and every day at dinner, they ask us: "You have to study hard, so that you can get ahead in the future." As long as you study, no matter how hard and tired we are parents, we will provide you with school. ”

Unfortunately, at that time, I thought that reading was a very painful thing. I was small, I was often bullied at school, and I didn't dare to tell my mother when I got home, because I would be beaten if I said it, and she would never support me. And because my family didn't have any money, it took a long time to pay the tuition fees every time, so I felt very inferior and autistic as soon as I went to school.

Every New Year's holiday, my mother is the hardest. Because we will make dumplings to celebrate the New Year and festivals in our local area, and making dumplings is my mother's task.

Of course, as children, we are the most willing to celebrate the New Year, because only during the New Year can we wear good clothes and eat good meals. My mother started making dumpling stuffing in the morning, and only started to make dumplings at noon, and then boiled them after wrapping, cooked them and started eating, and they didn't end the meal until 3 o'clock in the afternoon. Due to the large number of children in the family, one person can only hold half a bowl of dumplings for each pot of dumplings. Because I can't usually eat such delicious dumplings, every child will eat a lot during the New Year's holiday. By 3 o'clock in the afternoon, when my father and mother started eating, the children were hungry again, and they had to continue eating, so it took a day to eat dumplings at my house for the New Year. As for whether the father and mother can eat enough, we do not know.

From this little thing, we can also see how difficult our family's days were at that time, and why the children were so looking forward to the stars and the moon waiting for the New Year's holiday.

One year, during the Chinese New Year, I volunteered to cook for my mother. At that time, hot pot was just popular, so I asked my mother how to make hot pot, and my mother told me, "Hot pot is just to put all the dishes and seasonings in it, and it's fine." "I really put all the vegetables, spices, and meat into the pot, and I put in the two big pieces of hawthorn cake that my father had bought. Because the hawthorn cake is particularly sour, the result is that the one-pot dish is particularly unpalatable. When my father picked up the bowl and put a bowl of food to eat, he found that it was too unpalatable to eat. It was on the first day of the Lunar New Year that my father slapped the table and scolded me. I was scolded and cried, and I cried so much.

At that time, I thought, "If only I had left school earlier and become a businessman." "Because you can make money in business, you don't have to worry about life. And because our family has been poor for generations, I have always wanted to change this situation, and this desire is getting stronger and stronger.

Later, I read a story and learned that a strong desire can change fate.

There was a young man who wanted to find out more about the famous Socrates.

On one occasion, Socrates took the young man to the river, and then, hearing a plop, Socrates jumped into the river.

The young man looked confused: Is the master trying to teach me how to swim?

Seeing Socrates waving to him, the young man jumped into the river without thinking.

Unexpectedly, as soon as he jumped down, Socrates immediately pressed his head into the water.

The young man struggled desperately, and as soon as he broke free from the water, Socrates pushed his head into the water with all his might.

The young man threw himself desperately and struggled to get out of the water, and before he could catch his breath, Socrates pushed his head into the water with all his might......

The young man instinctively struggled out again with all his might, and then ran desperately to the shore, and when he had reached the shore, he pointed to Socrates, who was still in the water, and said, "Great, master, what do you want to do?" ”

Unexpectedly, Socrates ignored him, climbed ashore and left as if nothing was wrong.

The young man caught up with Socrates and asked with great reverence: "Master, forgive me for being foolish, can you give me some pointers about what you have just done?" ”

At this time, Socrates seemed to find his son teachable, so he stood down and said to him the famous words: "Young man, if you want to learn from me, you must have a strong desire to learn, just as you have a strong desire to live." ”

In fact, the same is true of not being willing to be mediocre and changing fate. When you have a strong desire to change your fate, you will find that you suddenly become stronger.

Now that I think about it, what did a person like me, who had not studied for a few days, be able to get to where I am today, and even completely turn my life destiny around? In the earliest days, it relied on a strong desire to change fate.

If you don't want to go with the flow, take control of the situation

Because my family was poor, I especially liked the Chinese New Year when I was a child. Because the Chinese New Year can you eat the best food and put on new clothes. Most people of my age or older than me have experienced an era of material scarcity, and they have an unforgettable memory of that era, and they will be full of emotion every time they talk about it.

I remember when I was in the fifth grade of primary school, the big red scarf was very fashionable. As long as you wrap it around the girl's neck, the whole person will be different immediately, no matter what kind of clothes you wear, it will be beautiful. Because it was so difficult to ask my mother for a new dress, I begged her, "I don't need clothes this year, just buy me a big red scarf!" ”

As a result, I waited a whole winter. When my aunt went to the Luoyang wholesale market, my mother asked her to help me buy a big red scarf for me. When my aunt finally brought the scarf back, I couldn't have said how happy I was! When I opened the bag, I saw that it was not the big red scarf I wanted, but a light pink scarf. Not only is the color wrong, but it's also so short that it doesn't cover your clothes at all. At that time, I couldn't have been more disappointed. At that time, I began to think about making money on my own. What I want most is to leave school early to earn money and buy everything I like, including a red scarf.

Now that I think about it, my ability to come out of it probably had something to do with my father's experience. Although his father was a carpenter, he did not have much work to do, so he could not earn enough income to support his family. So, later my father started a business, selling potatoes and watermelons.

It stands to reason that doing business with your father's mind should be a good choice. Maybe it's bad luck, drinking cold water may stuff your teeth. I remember one time, my father pulled a truckload of potatoes and sold them in Dayugou Town. When the potatoes were sold and ready to go home, they put their wallets at their heels, only to have a bag of money stolen by thieves and stolen nothing.

There is a story of Jiang Ziya's bad luck in "Fengshen List". said that after Jiang Ziya learned Taoism for 40 years, he was ordered to go down the mountain at the age of 72 and married a 68-year-old girl, Ma. His wife Ma looked down on Jiang Ziya for only taking books and not making money, so she forced Jiang Ziya to do business. Jiang Ziya had no choice but to bite the bullet and start trading. He has sold fences, flour, cattle and sheep, and restaurants...... The result really fulfilled that sentence: Jiang Ziya did business and lost money in everything. It's really called a bad job, and a loss when you sell.

When Jiang Ziya started selling flour, one day, Jiang Ziya grinded a load of flour and picked it up to Chaoge City to sell. But the four city gates were all over, and he didn't sell a pound. In the end, an old lady who bought flour finally came, but she only needed a penny of noodles, saying that she wanted to use it for paste. Jiang Ziya felt angry and funny, but he had to put down his burden and weigh her. Unexpectedly, at this time, a frightened horse suddenly rushed over, kicked his basket over, and sprinkled white flour on the ground, Jiang Ziya was about to gather up the flour scattered all over the ground, when a gust of wind happened to blow, blowing the flour clean......

With a full belly of eloquence, but repeatedly tricked by fate, Jiang Ziya couldn't help but look up to the sky and sighed: "Oh my God! This is the heavens that will destroy me! Just as Jiang Ziya opened his mouth wide and sighed, it happened that a crow flew over his head, and it happened to pull a bubble of - impartially, all of it fell into his open mouth!

Jiang Ziya was suddenly angry, and he picked up a stone from the ground in annoyance, ready to hit the crow, but he didn't expect that there was a big scorpion hidden under the stone. The moment he picked up the stone, the scorpion stung his hand at once! Jiang Zi screamed with a toothache, endured the severe pain, and threw the stone towards the crow. However, the stone did not hit the crow, but hit a large hornet's nest in the tree, and all the hornets in the nest immediately flew out and chased Jiang Ziya. Seeing this, Jiang Ziya turned his head and ran, but in a hurry, he didn't see a big tree in front of him, so he hit his head on the tree and fainted suddenly.

Jiang Ziya's sad and unlucky luck may be no one in history. In fact, it doesn't take so many unlucky things to defeat an ordinary person, even one of them may make people have a mental breakdown. For example, my father, once the money from the sale of a business was stolen, he couldn't bear the blow, felt shameless, and didn't give any news to his family after he left for half a year.

The Mid-Autumn Festival harvest is coming in August, and we haven't seen my father come back yet. At this time, my grandparents came to our house to help with the harvest. My mother cried tears and snot, my father was gone, and she even thought that there might be no more such people in the world! It was also at this time that I, as the eldest daughter in my family, had to drop out of school at the age of 16 and return home to help my mother support the family. Shortly after I left school, my father heard from me again, and my mother cried again.

After I dropped out of school, I immediately decided to start a business, starting by selling socks and quilts in the markets around us. Later, because I was a girl and liked to wear new clothes, I chose to sell clothes, mainly all kinds of girls' dresses. Because I love to wear skirts, I have a good eye for stocking, and the skirts sell well. One day, I brought 18 dresses to sell, and they were all sold out. Later, I often sold out all my clothes in one day. I even attracted several elders from the bazaar to take the initiative to follow me to learn how to sell clothes.

I've been through so much, but I don't regret my choice, and I'm determined to change my life by going into business. I think that things are done by people, and the key lies in how hard you work and struggle.

Later, I read a story about NBA superstar Michael Jordan, which was very similar to what I had thought when I was a kid. Of course, this is suspected of small fish wearing large skewers, and please understand.

In high school, the coach told Jordan, "Michael Jordan, you're not tall enough, not more than 180 centimeters. So even if you play well, you won't be able to make it to the NBA in the future, and we've decided not to want you as a player. ”

Michael Jordan told his coach: "Coach, I don't play, but I'm willing to help all the players carry their luggage." When they are gone, I am willing to wipe their sweat for them. As long as you let me practice with these players in this team, I'm satisfied. ”

The coach found that Michael Jordan was indeed more motivated than anyone else, so he granted Michael Jordan's request.

One morning at 8 o'clock, the caretaker of the basketball court began to tidy up the court and found a black man lying on the ground sleeping.

He asked, "What's your name?" The black man looked tired and said, "My name is Michael Jordan." It's so tiring! ”

Michael Jordan practices in the morning, at noon, with the players in the afternoon, and in the evening, and he works harder than anyone else.

Later, Michael Jordan's father said that none of Jordan's family members were taller than 180 cm.

It could also be that Michael Jordan's self-motivation to succeed made him grow to 198 centimeters and 20 centimeters taller.

During this period, in addition to practicing every day, Jordan also had to jump up with his feet and grab the door frame before going to bed at night, let his body relax, hang vertically, and lift his feet off the ground, so that his whole body was relaxed and hung for 30 minutes to 1 hour.

This method, the most important thing is to persevere, Jordan and Pippen and others have not stopped, until they grow to be very tall. You see, self-motivation has such a magical power in the journey of life!

So, what is my motivation? It's nothing more than a strong desire not to want to go with the flow. In order to change my fate, I am willing to make all kinds of attempts, and I am willing to pay the price I should pay. No matter what path lies ahead, I am willing to take control of my life direction with hard work and live a different life with an unwilling attitude.

The direction of the tree, which is determined by the wind; The direction of a person should be determined by himself.

It's all about mindsets

To tell the truth, growing up in our small place, the vast majority of people's life choices are to slip away. The so-called slipping away means that there is no hope of going back to the countryside to farm, and then the man will get married and the woman will get married, get married and have children, and the next life will still be the same. Later, some people chose to work in the city, and I didn't have any ideas at that time.

I remember that there was a reporter who interviewed a small story about a sheep herding baby in a remote mountainous area, which made people laugh at the backward thinking of the sheep herding baby. The story goes like this-

A reporter met a sheep herding baby in a mountain village and started a conversation:

"What are you herding sheep for?"

"Sell for money."

"Sell for what?"

"Marry a daughter-in-law."

"What is the purpose of marrying a daughter-in-law?"

"Have a baby."

"What is the purpose of having a baby?"

"Sheep grazing."

Although people think that sheep herding babies are pitiful, if we put ourselves in their shoes, what kind of open-mindedness can you give him? You can't use your ideological consciousness to ask for a closed and backward sheep herding baby!

After dropping out of school, I knew that if I didn't take the initiative to choose to do small business to change my fate, then I would only have the fate of herding sheep.

After a long time, my father finally returned home and our family was reunited. In this way, I seem to have more backbone in my business.

In order to make it easier to trade in the market, I begged my father to buy me a bicycle. My father bought me a sorghum bike, which was the most popular permanent brand at the time. At that time, it was a matter of pride to have a permanent bike. However, this bicycle is obviously ridden by a man, and it is tall and big. Because I'm short and riding on a sorghum bike, it's hard to get up and down. How many times, I almost killed this little girl.

Sometimes, because my hands and feet don't follow each other, I even have to ride my bike to the edge of a ditch, so I can use my body weight to deflect the bike to the ground and make sure I don't ride into the ditch.

I remember one time, on the way back to Zhanggou to catch the market, Zhanggou Mountain Road can be described as eighteen bends, the road is not very wide, originally I can't control the sorghum bicycle, is turning downhill, suddenly a bus came in front. I shouted "stop, stop" to the bus in front of me, but the bus couldn't hear me at all, so it didn't stop. At this time, the bus had already driven in front of me, and I wanted to get off the bicycle but couldn't get off, not to mention how panicked I was. On the right is a deep ditch, and I am afraid that I will not even be able to see a shadow when a person falls. There was no choice left, and it was useless to be afraid. It was too late, but it was too soon, and I subconsciously held the handlebars of the bicycle with my right hand and the bus with my left hand. When I got on the wrong bus, I closed my eyes and screamed, "Ah......hh As a result, the bus passed with a "whoosh". When I opened my eyes, I quickly grabbed the left handlebar of the bicycle with my left hand, and I was already sweating profusely. When I found out that I was still alive, I was scared, not to mention how terrifying it was.

I know that it will be bitter to change my fate, but if I don't change, I will always be so bitter. Later, I learned that a person's hard work alone may not be able to change his fate. The fundamental difference between a successful and a loser is the way of thinking. To change your fate, you must first change your way of thinking.

For most people, their thinking will be limited to what they can reach, and the phenomenon of partial generalization will appear. Successful people, although they have limited space for activities, will think outside the scope of their position, so as to stand in a higher dimension to see things, that is, to have a big picture.

Speaking of which, some people may say: since the most fundamental difference between people is the difference in the way of thinking, so let everyone have a successful way of thinking, wouldn't there be so many failures?

Easier said than done! It's even harder to change the way a person thinks.

In fact, when I first started doing business, I didn't have any awareness of the way of thinking, but I just vaguely felt that doing business was the only way to change my life's destiny. If I don't come out to do business, then I will have to repeat the old routines day after day, just like the people in the village.

No pancake is bigger than the pan in which it is baked

Frankly speaking, whether you are a person or a worker, the most important thing is the pattern. The so-called pattern refers to a person's vision or mind, and a person's pattern determines how much space for his future development is, and even directly affects his success or failure.

There is a proverb that no matter how big a pancake is, it is no bigger than the pan in which it is baked. It means that you can bake a flatbread, but no matter how big the pie is, it must be limited by the pot in which it is baked. The future we hope for is like this big pie, whether or not we can make a satisfactory "big pie" depends entirely on that "pot", which is the so-called pattern. A broad vision and a broad mind are the fundamentals that determine whether we can take every step of the way.

As a girl, although I came from a poor background, I also naturally love beauty. It's better to sell clothes in the spring, but it's hard to get through the summer. The hot sun tanned my skin so much that no matter how much powder I put on my face, it couldn't cover my tanned skin. At that time, I was thinking, is there anything I can do that is not exposed to the sun? Will you go to the city to work without basking in the sun?

It is likely that it is the effect of the law of attraction, and it can really be said that you want to do whatever you want. In 1993, I went to a meeting in the neighboring village of Seongsu and met a girl who had come home from the city, and she looked very beautiful. The place where I sell clothes is at the entrance of the commissary that her family owns. There were two trees at the entrance of the commissary, and I pulled a rope between the two trees, and then hung my clothes on the rope with a clothes hook to sell them. At noon, when there was no one at the market, I ran to her commissary and asked her what she was doing in the city, to which she replied that she did hairdressing. For me at that time, as long as I could go to the city and work in my room, it was a very happy and happy thing, because working in my room would not tan my face.

This girl's name is Hua Rui, a very nice name. As soon as I heard that she was a hairdresser, I asked if I could learn hairdressing with her. When I heard her say yes, I was overjoyed, not to mention how happy.

Blossom entered the city in the afternoon. She had told me her address in the city, and I was so excited that I didn't sleep all night. I can change my way of living, change my job, and I don't want to sell clothes in the market anymore. But I didn't dare to tell my father, because my father didn't want a girl to go out and make a living. It just so happened that my father went to Luoyang for something, so I told my mother, and because I was afraid of being scolded, I begged my mother not to tell my father. As a result, I only brought a few changes of clothes and went into town. When my father found out, he saw that I was very determined, so he didn't say anything, and let me go.

After entering the city, I began to learn hairdressing from Blossom Girl. It's just been three months since she studied, and she hasn't finished yet, so she closes her door because of some things. As a result, I had nowhere to go but to go back to my hometown in the countryside. Because I studied hairdressing for three months, I opened a hairdressing shop in the village, and I only charged 1 yuan and 5 cents for a haircut, and began to practice and practice. That's when I grew the fastest, because it always took a learning process to go from semi-racking to finishing. Although cutting hair may seem simple, it also requires the integration of hands, eyes, heart, and brain to do it well.

There is a custom in our village called "A good woman does not leave the village". It means that a good girl does not go to find her in-laws outside the village, and marrying her own village is the right way. So, my mother asked my aunt to find a boy in the village and introduce him to me. This boy drives a tractor and sells coal, and his house is only 200 meters away from my house. According to our customs there, my husband and I got engaged at the age of 17 and got married and had children at the age of 20.

After I got married, I still opened a hairdresser in the village, and I could earn more than a dozen yuan a day, and my life was happy.

However, my heart has always longed to go to the city to work hard. It used to be me who longed for it alone, but now it's me and my husband who are longing for it together. While we were doing what we were doing, we were thinking about the future, and we were talking to our parents about our dreams of going to the city.

Since I was a child, I have not been willing to be arranged by fate, and I always have dreams and feel that I should live a different life.

Remember a very inspirational little story?

Three workers were building a wall at the construction site, and someone asked what they were doing?

The first person said angrily: Build a wall, don't you see?

The second person smiled: We are building a tall building.

The third person smiled: We are building a new city.

Ten years later, the first man is still building the wall, the second man is an engineer, and the third man is the boss of the first two.

It can be said that carrying a dream is a pattern. Although the pattern cannot be seen or touched, it can really determine how long a person can go and how much energy he can generate. Because all behaviors in life will be restricted by this pattern, Zeng Guofan said: "Those who seek great things are the first pattern." "Actually, let alone making big things, you just want to do something different from others, and it is difficult to succeed without a certain dream or pattern.

If we look at a pomegranate seed, there can be at least three endings: put it in a pot and plant it, which can only grow to half a meter at most; If you plant it in a tank, it can grow up to one meter; When planted in an open space in the courtyard, it can grow to four or five meters. People often evaluate a person's limitations. In fact, the so-called limitation is the size of the game that a person sets for himself.

The height that can be achieved in life is often the height that people choose for themselves psychologically. If a person never wants to reach the top in his heart, then he may never achieve success! If life is compared to a game of chess, then the outcome of life is determined by the pattern of this game of chess. The chess game determines the direction of the chess situation, and if we grasp the big picture, we will also control the big situation.

There is a fable about a few people fishing on the rocks on the shore while a few tourists watch.

I saw an angler raise his rod and catch a big fish, which was about three feet long. The angler unhooks the fish and throws the fish back into the sea. The crowd of onlookers was lamenting that such a big fish could not satisfy him, which showed the great ambition of the angler.

The angler lifted the rod again, and it was a two-foot-long fish, but the angler still released the fish back into the sea.

The third time, I caught a small fish less than a foot long. Onlookers thought the fish would be released back into the sea, but the anglers put it in their baskets.

Some people ask why anglers give up big fish and keep small ones. The angler replied, "Oh, that's because the biggest plate in my house is only a foot long, and the fish that are too big to bring back will not fit ......."

Many times, we dare not set grand ambitions because of our lack of academic qualifications; Because of his low self-esteem and conservatism, he is unwilling to open the door of his heart to receive better and newer information...... In all these things, we are drawing the ground as a prison and being complacent, in fact, we are limiting our own development.

Most of the people who can't stretch out the chapter of their lives and can't achieve great achievements are people who don't have a big picture. For a person, how big the pattern is, how big the stage of life is.

In my personal experience, pattern is a person's positioning of the coordinates of their life. As long as we can adjust our mentality, everyone can build a big picture.

Think outside the box

I have a characteristic that once a will is formed, it must be fulfilled, otherwise it will be difficult to sleep. For example, moving from the countryside to the city, I have been working tirelessly on it since I had this idea. It turned out to be a real thing, and both parents not only agreed to our idea, but also helped my husband get a driver's license and buy a yellow van taxi. From then on, we began to go to the city to beg for a living.

My idea was to open a beauty salon in the city. It just so happened that opposite the People's Hospital on Renmin Road in Gongyi City, there was a beauty salon to be transferred. I was overjoyed, I was so happy. When I got home, I told my husband the news, and he agreed to my idea without saying a word.

The transferred shop is called Blue Sky Beauty Salon, and the transfer fee is 28,000 yuan. paid the rent and bought the product, spending a total of 58,000 yuan. The decoration of the store was very dilapidated, and my husband and I renovated it again. After that, we were under a lot of pressure because most of the money was borrowed.

Because I'm not very knowledgeable, it's very difficult to do business. As a result, beauty is not profitable, and hairdressing is not profitable, so they sell sets, and the profit is not enough to pay the beautician's salary. The store loses at least 100 yuan a day, because the pressure is so great that I can't even eat. In less than two months, I lost seventeen or eighteen pounds, so thin that I was skinny.

I barely managed to squeeze out a smile when I went to work during the day, and when I came home, I couldn't stop crying. In order to comfort me, my husband bought watermelon for me to eat one morning. I couldn't eat the watermelon with watermelon, and said to my husband: "The store is losing money every day, and I have hurt you in this life!" With so much money, when will I be able to afford it? ”

I was crying as I spoke, and my husband came up with an idea: "Let's go find the original owner and return the store to him!" ”

The two of us discussed, bought fruit drinks in the evening, and went to the original owner. As a result, the boss said: "Now I don't want you to come back in vain, I have already opened enough stores!" ”

We didn't know how to get back, and we were all in a heavy mood all night.

The next morning, on the right side of my shop was a Shuanghui store, and the owner of the Shuanghui store said, "It turns out that this store can't be transferred out for a year, so you little girl is too stupid to pick up his shop." ”

On the left of my shop is a Beijing cloth shoe store, and the owner of the cloth shoe shop said, "You said earlier that you would take over the store, and I will remove the shoes from my shoe store, and you don't have to pay the transfer fee, you can run it directly with some rent." ”

Someone else said: "There are six beauty salons in this blockbuster, aren't you looking for death when you come to do it now?" ”

After hearing this, I felt like I had been hit by five thunderbolts, not to mention how heavy my heart was.

My husband saw that my shop was struggling to sustain itself, so he said to me, "Don't be afraid, isn't it just a year's rent?" The money I make by driving a taxi pays you rent. ”

When there is no way out, only by frowning and meditating can people find a way to overcome difficulties. There is a saying that the way of thinking determines the way out, and sometimes old habits may lead you to a dead end. Thinking outside the box may be different.

There was a very special experiment: six bees and the same number of flies were put into a glass bottle, and the bottle was laid flat with the bottom of the bottle facing the window. Guess what the result will be?

The bees kept trying to find an outlet in the bottom of the bottle until they collapsed from exhaustion or starved to death; In less than two minutes, the flies escaped through the bottleneck at the other end.

The bee apparently set the direction of the exit based on the mindset that the exit is in the light, and kept repeating this most logical action. It can be said that it is precisely because of this mindset that they have not been able to escape from their cells. The flies, on the other hand, paid no attention to the so-called logic, and did not have a fixed mindset for the light, but flew around, and finally escaped from the cell by mistake.

On the surface, the simple-minded man is saved in the place where the wise man dies, but in fact there is a deep inevitability in the accident.

So, how do we think outside the box?

We started printing leaflets, and then we went to the traffic lights at the intersection on the street to hand out leaflets. Because there are red lights at intersections, drivers will stop. Since they are driving, they should obviously be rich people, so you can send them leaflets.

One man said to me, "The little girl is so beautiful, how dangerous it is to hand out leaflets at the intersection!" ”

I advertised to him and said, "You can bring your wife to our store for beauty!" We can also do hairdressing in our shop, and we do it well and cheaply. ”

Of course, we also go to beauty schools, banks, hospitals, and wherever we think there are customers.

Actually, I didn't do a good job of hairdressing, and I wasn't as skilled as my hairdresser at the time. Once, I cut off a customer's ear and bleed, so I had to take the customer to the hospital for treatment, and finally paid 600 yuan to the person. From that moment on, I worked the technology, determined to break through the difficulties and strive for excellence. I am also really grateful to the customers for all kinds of pickiness about me, and I have practiced my craft very well. Slowly, there were more and more customers.

In fact, the only thing that can restrain people is the people themselves. The space of human thought is infinite, and like a paper clip, there are at least billions of possible variations. Maybe we're stuck in a seemingly desperate situation, or maybe we're caught between a dilemma, and it's important to understand that this situation is only the result of our stereotyped thinking. If you have the courage to reconsider, you will be able to find more than one way out of the predicament.

Success doesn't depend on something we don't have

One of the things that is bad about doing hairdressing is that there is no regularity. Having children, taking care of children, and taking care of customers, I can't do it, and I often can't eat or sleep well.

Sometimes, customers go to work or do business during the day, and only come to the shop after 9 p.m. to do perm and dye their hair. Ordinary perm and dyeing takes at least three hours or more, which makes me very entangled, and I don't know whether to take this job. A customer can charge 300 yuan, and it is a pity to give up. If you do, you have to stay up until midnight. In fact, many times we don't have business during the day, and customers come in the evening. In order to make a living, I had to bite the bullet and get on with the work.

Once, I did perm and dye my hair until 2 a.m. As a result, my 9-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son came to the store to look for me. The child had to walk 3 kilometers to get to my shop, and I was distressed and guilty.

The daughter said, "We all slept and couldn't see you, so we came to the store to look for you." ”

At that time, I was asking myself: What kind of business am I doing?

Although business has improved, SARS occurred again in 2003. There are very few people on the streets, and even when they go out, they have to wear masks. But the store can't be closed, and the salaries of the hairdressers and beauticians in the store still have to be paid. Also, you have to pay rent. Forced to be helpless, I once again took the beautician hairdresser out to hand out flyers. It used to cost 300 yuan for one perm and one dye, but it dropped to 99 yuan during the "SARS" period. The result is not bad, the emperor has lived up to his hard work, and we not only did not lose money during the SARS period, but also made a little money.

From this time on, I began to delve into making money. Whatever is popular in the market, I will sell. At 12 o'clock in the evening, I saw that the TV shopping stall was selling magic underwear, priced at 298 yuan a piece, which was selling very hot. Early the next morning, I went to the Zhengzhou Nanxia Street Wholesale Market to see, and found that the wholesale price of Magic Ting underwear was only 45 yuan, so I casually wholesaled a box of 30 pieces. When I came back and used the TV shopping advertisement, I started to make a small profit at the door of our store, 158 yuan a piece, and within two days, 30 pieces were sold out. Later, I wholesaled two more boxes of 60 pieces, and they were sold out in two days after I came back.

We also use TV shopping advertisements to engage in sales, and we can operate whatever we see to make money, and sell whatever we make money. As a result, you can earn more than 50,000 yuan in a year. In addition to the rent of 25,000 yuan, he can still have a profit of nearly 30,000 yuan.

Some people like to say that their current situation is caused by others, and the environment determines their position in life. But I believe that our situation is not caused by our surroundings. At the end of the day, it's up to us to decide how we look at life. One of the survivors of the Nazi concentration camps, Viktor Frankl, said: "In any given environment, people have the last freedom to choose their own attitude." ”

Indeed, the key to a person's success depends on his attitude. The difference between successful people and losers is that successful people tend to dominate and control their lives with the most positive thinking, the most optimistic spirit and the most brilliant experience. Losers, on the other hand, tend to be guided and governed by past failures and doubts.

One connoisseur says that one of the most common and costly mistakes is to think that success depends on some kind of genius, some kind of magic, or something we don't have. But the ingredients for success are actually in our own hands, and success is the result of correct thinking. How high a person can fly is not determined by other factors, but by his own attitude.

You've probably seen a little story. There was an old woman who had two sons, one selling cloth and the other umbrella. On rainy days, she worries that her son, who sells cloth, will not have a good business; On a sunny day, she worries that her son, who sells umbrellas, will not have a good business. So she was depressed all day, and one day a man said to her: "On a rainy day, you want to sell umbrellas, and on a sunny day, you want to sell cloth for your son, and on a sunny day, your son wants to sell cloth, so the old lady is very happy every day."

The story tells us that the perspective from which we see a problem influences our attitude, and the attitude from which we see a problem affects our actions. In other words, positive thinking will certainly improve a person's daily life, but it does not guarantee that he will be able to do everything he wants. However, the opposite attitude will undoubtedly fail, and the more negative the thinking, the more unfortunate the result.