No matter how high or low our status is, we will always face the aggressiveness of some colleagues, no matter how we tolerate it, how to dodge it will be to no avail, we have no way out, as a leader, you are always under threat from all sides. Most of these are hidden, difficult for you to perceive, and mostly from your colleagues. Many of your colleagues are very kind to you, laughing and talking, and you even treat them as your closest people, and tell them all about your situation, including joy and sorrow, likes and dislikes, without reservation. However, these people often don't take you seriously. Rather, they know you thoroughly and clearly, and then see your weaknesses and use them as a weapon to defeat you, so as to remove you as a potential danger to them, which is their purpose. Everything is a trap. It is not until you are beaten by them that you have no status, and you will wake up like a dream when you have been immersed in imagination.

Whether in the political or business circles, the phenomenon of openly forming gangs and helping each other, but secretly tearing each other down and stumbling together, has occurred one after another. If you want to be a successful leader, then you need to be able to discern whether others are laughing at you openly and stabbing you secretly. Remember, the world is not always full of warm and pleasant family and friendship, and there are many times and occasions full of hypocrisy and deception. Don't sell your details to others easily, as they will be used as a weapon to defeat you by ill-intentioned people.

There are a lot of people around you who are very kind to you, who are kind to you, and who are willing to work with you to create a new world. Faced with this situation, you may be at a loss because you can't be sure which one is true and which one is false. However, if you actually observe the experience, it is still easy to distinguish the real from the fake:

(1) When the other party listens to you, does the other party respond with sincere sympathy and emotion, or does his eyes flicker and sometimes appear thoughtful? If it is the latter, then the other party is likely to be a person with ill intentions. Of course, this requires you to carefully observe his words and actions and look into his eyes.

(2) Think about it carefully, when you consciously or unconsciously want to end your confession, is it very clever to use some highly hidden questions to reopen your conversation? And what you then say is something that can be easily exploited by others.

(3) If you happen to hear that someone is always inadvertently asking someone close to you for something about you, then you better distance yourself from them.

(4) Some smiles are not very natural, but seem to be squeezed out of the skin. Sometimes you don't think there's anything funny about it, but the other person is able to laugh, and this kind of person needs to be properly careful.

Of course, after knowing who will be bad for you, on the one hand, you can try to avoid them and avoid direct contact. On the other hand, you can also use the methods to govern others in their own way, deal with them, grasp some of their situation, and then try to get rid of them.